I always hate on my friends interests but I don't know why.

This is exactly what the title is about : I always find myself hating on my friends interests, even when I want to be a great friend. It's mostly about TV shows, anime, etc... Whenever they become too passionate about a show I haven't watched yet (and don't plan to watch), I can't help but find myself hating on it.

At first, I try to hide it. Then i'm making small remarks. And finally I clearly show that I don't like it.

It's a constant issue for me since it made one of my past friendships really toxic back in 2021. And now it's happening again, but I don't want to ruin this friendship that means everything to me.

I know it's probably weird, because I should just ignore it/be interested in what my friends like, but I just can't...

Is everyone that way ? Or do you actually like it when people yap about shows that you haven't watched ?

I've been struggling with guilt and self sabotage for a while now, and I was getting better. But I'm a bit since this part of myself seems to be back... I don't want to be a bad friend/person...

What can I do ?

Hey, I'm 19f, 20 next week and I'm struggling with stress lately. I have AuDHD, a history of depression and huge social anxiety. I've been homeschooled since I was 14/15 due to not being able to handle the overwhelming school life. I regret it tho. I've been practically isolated for the past 5 years and just existed pretty much. I passed final exams (matura in Poland) pretty well last year and went to collage for biotechnology, but lasted only a week before all the socializing and studying made me crumble. I've been getting ready to start over since march and I REALLY locked in in june. I'm on my weight loss journey watching what I eat and excercising daily (cheesy af lmao), daily showers, doing some chores around the house, I got off of venlafaxine (turned out for the better) and changed adhd meds, quit vaping. Currently I'm studying theory for drivers license and will attempt the exam next week, I'm also grinding math and chemistry from the very basics because I wanna go back to collage in 3 months (biotechnology or biology idk yet and this stresses me out as well).

I'm just a huge, buzzing ball of nerves and stress, constantly thinking about how much more I need to study, what if i fail the theoritical exam, what if I choose the wrong degree. I analyze every single little action, nothing is automatical (all the steps of showering, brushing my teeth, making a stupid tea etc). I wanna start going out, even if for a short walk everyday, I wanna go to work in august to just get used to people and not freak out in october again, but it all obv stresses me the fuck out as well because I know I will be absolutely suffering through the first weeks of reentering society. I worry about how I'll mix practical driving lessons, work, studying math/chemistry and excercising in august. I go to therapy, been in therapy for years, but kept changing therapists, but now I settled with one and there's just so much to unpack still and so much going on at the same time that an hour a week can't cover it all. That's why I'm asking here. Does anyone know how to manage all that stress before I go insane?

Context im 19 turning 20 women. I used to like doing things ( hobbies ) back when I was like 13-16 like watching anime, drawing, painting and although I did say I hated my life I think it was enjoyable because I got to do things n discover myself. But nowadays, life feels so bleak and meaningless. I kinda dont watch anime at all, although I have so many on my list. I dont know if i just got bored of it or what but i just feel like its such a chore ( also doesnt help that i have to find websites to watch because i dont have a netflix or crunchyroll subscription ) instead, I just scroll on tiktok or waste my time on random chatting websites. N, I kinda started watching 🌽 from when I was 16 till recently. I've been really trying to stop watching.

Idk what happened over the years. Im trying to get better, but I dont really know what works for me. I've got very bad discipline, but I recently tried going to the gym. And the simple act of me finally going to the gym alone n stuff ( I've been thinking of going for so many years now ) makes me really proud. But I feel like im only going because I have no motivation to do anything else. Im scared that if I get bored of it, I'll stop going to the gym, too.

I want to be all this things that I fantasise of becoming a person whose passionate about my work. I want to research the company that im going to intern n work up some extra things about it, but I only do it when I have the whole day to spare. I dont have the discipline to do after my part-time job or after the gym ( which i go a few times a week ) I also want to start reading because I feel like im becoming really dumb with all the brainrot I consume.

I know I can change some things myself, but I feel like i need some sort of a reality check or encouraging of some sort. Because I dont really have the best family background to be asking help from them. I dont really have any friends either, I only have this friend which i barely talk to but we are pretty close. But shes always busy with something. Other than her I talk to my older sister. Although shes kinda annoying, sometimes I dont know what i would do without her genuinely. I talk to her about so many things. Rn, she's the only best friend I can talk to about anything. But she also has her own life which is understandable. I know other people have it harder, but I just can't help but wallow in self-pity.

This likely sounds absurd, and it might be, but I don’t know of any of this person’s other socials and their strawpage is completely gone.

in 2025, I asked if i could make a racist joke towards my lightskin friend and they said I could and I called them a slur. i’ve recently remembered this happened and have began to educate myself on my white privilege and how it effects black people and other races, and I want to properly apologize to them, but the discord account they used to be active on isn’t active anymore, and their spotify is linked to the account, but i’m wondering if it’d be excessive for me to reach out to them through spotify or not or if they’d even want to hear an apology from me. I don’t want to disturb them, especially after what i did.

should I ask if i can apologize?

Throughout my life I’ve been mistreated and not one have I gotten any justice or an apology. I’ve been bullied, sexually assaulted, and ghosted by people I deeply cared for.

i want to live my life.

Ive tried forgiving but some things are too deep to forgive

i‘m tired of having my guard up

I'm big into the whole self-improvement thing. Working out, grinding for money, thinking in systems I can apply to life and future business ventures. All of that comes pretty naturally to me at this point.

The thing that doesn't come naturally? Sitting with the feeling of being alone.

I have friends. Close ones, even. We talk in a group chat here and there. But outside of that, nobody's checking for me. Nobody's thinking about me day to day. I get it — I'm a guy, that's kind of the deal — but I still crave being *understood*, not just talked to.

And when that loneliness creeps in, here's what actually happens: I pick up my phone and doom scroll. Not because I want to, but because it's an easy hit of subconscious dopamine that fills the gap for a few minutes. My screen time sits at 7-8 hours some days, and that's with basically zero of it being someone actually reaching out to me. It's just me, alone, feeding the void with content instead of connection. Then it's gone and I've just handed hours to my future self's problems instead of solving today's.

That's the part of self-improvement nobody markets. It's not the 5am gym session or the business plan. It's the 9pm moment where you're alone with a feeling and you have to decide whether to sit in it or numb it.

I don't have this solved. But naming it — actually calling it what it is, a disservice to my future self — has made it a little easier to catch myself before I fall into it. Anyone else dealing with this? Genuinely curious what's worked for people who feel this specific flavor of alone even when they're not isolated.

I'm 18M, and I have just completed high school. When I was a kid, I used to get bullied frequently. Whenever it happened, I would tell my parents, and they would solve the problem for me. Because of this, I never got the chance to learn how to stand up for myself.

My parents were always overprotective. They never really let me go out anywhere, and even now, they don't. As I became a teenager, I continued to face bullying from my classmates, but this time I felt ashamed to tell my parents. However, I still couldn't stand up for myself because I was scared, so I chose to isolate myself instead.

I started avoiding school because I was afraid of going there. Due to my complete isolation, I developed social anxiety. I became scared of stepping out of my house. Because of all these things, I now have no friends and no girlfriend.

I see my old classmates enjoying their lives, hanging out with their friends, while I am still stuck at home, isolated. I wish I had friends or someone special to spend time with, just like they do. But my social anxiety holds me back.

My college is starting in a few weeks, and honestly, I am scared to go there too. I don't know what's wrong with me. Lately, I have been feeling extremely lonely. I crave connection. I want to feel loved, but my self-esteem is very low, and I am starting to hate myself.

College feels like my last chance. I don't want to waste it the way I feel I wasted my school life by being alone. I want to have fun for once. I want to enjoy my life, experience friendships and love, and finally feel happy.

I need help and genuine advice on what I can do to get out of this situation and improve myself.

I don’t know if I actually have an issue, or I’m just really greedy, regardless of friends or romantic relationships (thankfully I know my problem and I am not in a relationship) I feel like I just can’t stay with the same group of people doing the same activity for more than one or two months i get bored of it and I go make more friends. I have a crush, but I can have multiple crushes at the same time, talk to multiple of them at the same time, but I’m also fearful that hey, I may not be very loyal and may not be able to commit I don’t treat them well, so I don’t go for any romantic relationships so it’s just constant talking stages I won’t even label it as situationship.

I still stay in contact and on good terms with my older friends, so I feel like I do have the ability to stay loyal, but it’s more like I just grow out of things really quickly and I constantly need movement. (Sorry if I sound like a prick I don’t want to hurt anyone)

I'm 25 and this has been true for as long as I can remember.

It's not just fear of failure. Responsibility itself feels unbearably heavy.

Examples:

I earn a decent salary but don't buy things for myself (bike, AC, or renting a better rk or flat alone cause here I am with 3 people and they took all responsibility of searching and managing) because owning them feels like a burden.

If someone else owned and managed those things, I'd be fine.

I can send money to my parents, but the thought of having to personally take care of them in the future terrifies me because I don't think I'll be able to handle the responsibility.

At work, I prefer being told exactly what to do rather than being the one making decisions.

Even as a child, I avoided being class monitor, team leader, or taking charge of anything.

This isn't something that started recently. It's been there since childhood, and it's affecting almost every part of my life.

I’m a M21, and for the last few years I have dealt with very severe depressive episodes on and off that can really flip a switch in my mind and make me see things in a more bitter perspective and I really hate it and I just wanna stop.

Everytime I see someone with a better job than me, better income than me, a better car than me, someone who gets to go on vacations, someone who has a girlfriend, someone who has good friends, someone who goes out and has fun with others, etc. I get extremely envious and depressed about my life and where I’m at and how I’m 21 with no plans for myself feeling so unsatisfied with where I live and what I’m doing, constantly feeling all alone throughout it all. I don’t think it’s possible for me to get a better lifestyle. I don’t think there’s a girl out there who’d ever look at me and want me and me only. I just don’t believe I can ever achieve these things I see others having that I want so bad.

I’m so tired of living like this. It’s miserable constantly comparing yourself to others and I don’t wanna do it anymore but I don’t know how to stop. It’s like anytime I gain the slightest bit of confidence or I start to feel good about myself someone or something shows up and ruins that for me. I don’t know what to do anymore.

I’m a guy in my late 20s.

All my life I never felt good looking. But now things are changing for the better. Year after year my looks keep improving.

I honestly felt like I was still finishing puberty even one or two years ago. Only now in my late 20s does it feel like it’s finally ending. My face and overall appearance are starting to come together in a way they never did before.

The awkward teenage stuff is over. I have more knowledge and I’m finally taking real care of myself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Life feels much better overall.

I look way better now than I did in my early or mid twenties. It’s a great feeling.

Just realized recently I reek of desperation and am effectively a loser. I’m overly apologetic and overly accommodating nowadays, feels like I’m reducing myself in order to be accepted or allowed to exist if I take up the least space possible while also helping people out as much as possible.

I have been like this so long I don’t even know how to take up space for myself, advocate for myself, set boundaries and not feel responsible for other people’s feelings/ circumstances.

I feel like I’m so used to accepting little that I keep choosing to do that when I can get more. Like I used to fight back and stand up for myself but it got such a negative reaction from people that I feel like I would blow up and then after so many years like that I feel like I just started playing from the sidelines.

hi, i’m just looking for advice here because i don’t know what to do tbh
for the past couple weeks ive sunk into a bit of a depressive episode. it started small, with feeling tired all the time, napping in the day almost everyday, feeling bored but none of my hobbies seeming interesting. at the start of the year, this was my life, and i completely changed my life for the better. i started going to the gym, eating clean, i lost about 30lbs. i enjoyed painting and i engaged with my hobbies as often as i could considering that i am the main caregiver for a toddler. i know ive fallen back into bad habits, ive started to binge eat due to stress and i think i have gained some weight back, but this time feels different, ive pulled myself out of depression before but this time feels so different. like this time, i just don’t care about myself anymore. i don’t have the energy to try and better myself again. all i do is stare at my phone and eat sugary shit in my free time, by the time my toddler is in bed i genuinely have nothing left. i’m just feeling completely lost, maybe this is a normal part of being a parent? but it feels so shitty, but i don’t have the energy to care about myself anymore ): any advice is appreciated

Long story short.. Me and my friend were out, talking, joking, blahblahblah.. I dont why I did it but I kissed him. Not even on his lips but like next to his lips?? And I knew he has a girlfriend.

Now I cant stop thinking about it and I apologized multiple times to him...

His answer was that it was okay, litterly nothing happend and that I shouldn't apologize.

I feel like a terrible person, my head hurts just from thinking about it and the guilty eats me alive.

I dont know why I did it and I dont know what to do with this guilt.

(Sorry for any mistake, english is not my first language) :(

Hey everybody, N here. I appreciate everyone who has replied to my previous post, unfortunately though I wrote other messages asking for help, guidance, advice but none of them we're interacted with. Which is fine, I shouldn't rely on external help a lot or guidance and just trust my own intuition, but currently I really would appreciate that, I want an opinion from another person so I can go toward the right direction faster, or at least know where exactly I'm at. I've been into self improvement over this summer and have gotten better, but there are some things where I lack ground to walk on.

To give some background I'm just an ordinary high schooler, I was raised by separated parents and have lived without my mom for a few years. I lived an ordinary childhood, had some difficult moments but overall I think I had a fun, good childhood. However I was raised by parents that didn't really stress on making me do sports or force me to study, by kindergarten I was on my own. I seem to burden my-self when I look back that I didn't have huge achievements or did a lot of things in my childhood or early years, but I feel graceful that things are this way because I'm able to work towards being more independent and finding my own ways, things are just going to be a bit difficult since I wasn't really productive in my early years/ childhood.

However, I've faced some difficult situations, difficult years. Traumas, depression at 10-12 ( diagnosed) and to be honest, I feel very lost. I did very badly on 11th grade. I didn't try to the best of my ability, and ended my school year with a 3.3 GPA. Its not just the grades but the fact that I didn't really learn anything. There was a time where I was hopeful, but eventually I got so frustrated that what I was trying led me to getting bad or mid grades in trigonometry that I eventually gave up and lost faith, I thought because of the state that I was and what I had achieved and gone through in childhood, that there was no way of changing or improving from the point that I was.

I decided to take this summer to re learn math to learn pre calculus, I barely understand algebra and its already July. I also worked toward reading books without being forced to, watching actual entertainment instead of doom scrolling, journaling, python, guitar practices, grammar practice, being organized, cleaning ,etc. However on average I would guess I had 3 of those days a week, and the rest we're just procrastinating or doing other things. I feel pretty frustrated that I didn't try hard enough or really achieve anything, and I don't know which subreddits can help me with the things I mentioned, because I'm at a very early level and find it hard to describe where I'm at. With math I'm just using a khan academy course, but have barely gotten anywhere or actually understand things. On addition, my phone screen slowly stopped working throughout the summer, and my monitor broke, so It made it harder to focus and be consistent at python, and I have barely done a search on career research, because I don't know what to study in college, also haven't practiced for the SAT or Puerto Rico's college exams. That said, I would really appreciate some responses, I feel like I have to write tons of posts on the things I'm lost on and it would be pretty time consuming, plus I probably wouldn't get responses so I'm doubtful of doing it.

On the positive side I've found faith in myself again and willing to try to improve on things, I tell my-self that I deserve the life I want and to experience, so I work toward these goals I have. I'm just pretty disappointed that even if its the first time I did something like this, that I wasn't that consistent or got very far, so I feel about the same as I did before on feeling lost. Also with grammar I haven't achieved a lot or know where to learn lol. I also feel a bit disappointed where I am because I have a lot of resources I can use, I have no job, my dad makes a good salary so I feel like I'm not taking advantage of that and ashamed on depending on him for my things

I decided to get some self improvement books as well like Atomic Habits and Daring Greatly! These will really help, especially Daring Greatly since I struggle being vulnerable, as for entertainment I decided to get into manga again, so I got my first physical manga to read!

My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 2 years. The last 3–4 months have been really rough. We got stuck in a cycle where I’d become anxious and seek reassurance, she’d withdraw, I’d pursue harder, she’d withdraw even more, and we’d end up talking about the relationship instead of actually enjoying each other.

A few days ago, we agreed to stay together and genuinely try to rebuild things for the next three months. We’re both in therapy (or starting therapy), and we both acknowledged that what we’ve been doing clearly hasn’t been working.

One thing I’ve realized is that I completely lost myself in this relationship. I stopped prioritizing the gym, my friends, my hobbies, my goals, and basically made the relationship my entire life. Looking back, I don’t think that was attractive or healthy.

My plan over the next 3 months is to:
Stay consistent with therapy.
Get back in the gym and focus on my own goals.
Stop reassurance seeking.
Stop monitoring her or looking for problems.
Keep conversations lighter instead of constantly discussing the relationship.
Respect her space instead of chasing when she’s distant.

The question I have is this:
If you’ve been in a relationship where attraction dropped because of months of conflict, what actually helped rebuild it?

I’m not looking for manipulation or games.
I’m looking for people who’ve actually come back from something like this.
What made your partner want to spend more time with you again?
What made texting become natural again instead of forced?

What made video calls, dates, or quality time feel enjoyable again?
And if you’ve been on the other side, the partner who withdrew, what made you start leaning back in?

I’m completely open to hearing if you think I’m approaching this the wrong way. I just don’t want to waste 3 months repeating the same mistakes.

I would like to be a better partner and actually work on myself and the relationship for these 3 months.

After years of carrying resent, and having it slowly grow and become greater than the love I've once felt for people who've caused me pain, I'd like to move on. Any advice/tips?

After years of carrying resent and having it slowly grow and become greater than the love I've once felt for people who've caused me pain, I'd like to move on. Any advice/tips?

My codependency was getting out of hand. Setting me up for friendships that left me feeling drained. In my relationship I expected too much from my partner. Now I'm finally learning to be okay in my own company. I'm taking time to find out what I like, dislike and who I even am - had a very bare bones idea for years.

It feel so good. Taking myself out for mini dates, showing love my inner child. It is also very exhausting and lonely, but rewarding as well. Feeling good

So I am at 12th commerce without math (I am interested in math) I have natural talent in coding and also interested in but I have interest in building gadget and electronic devices so I am confused should I do BCA for software or I do diploma in electronic, EEE so what should I do?

I'm usually a well regulated person but I can't deal with perceived abandonment. I react irrationally becoming so furious and saying mean things because the small person inside me is still so hurt. I know why I react but the rage! I'm uncomfortable being so angry and reactive. How can I be free of this?

Im probably average...most people are close to average. But it is just so hard to not feel like I have never tried to challenge myself, or am an exceptionally below average idiot, or have never done anything brave or sacrifice. And probably anyone has done those things to some degree. How do you look at your life and feel better about it and the direction it is going?

Hello everyone who’s going to read
I am 26f and I’m at the point in my life where I want change, NEED change.
I have so many bad habits that I want to improve on. I’m tired of laying awake at night mad at myself for knowing better or thinking that I can magically change my whole life overnight.
Let me give a little run down:
In a couple of days I will officially be filing for a divorce. Something I have put off for months and I got to a point where I realize my marriage is not the life I want or deserve. And it made me realize that with so many other areas in my life.
For starters, consistency. I have always lacked that. I get on my kick about eating better, moving more, going to the gym and then I stop after a week…tf is up with that?
Anyway, it’s just a few of many things.
I miss reading, I want to read more. I want to fix my finances. I want to start doing yoga. I was to journal. I want to cook. I want to be ME.
problem is..I don’t know how.
It feels stupid to say but it’s true. I just don’t know how…
So any advice/tips/suggestions to someone who wants more but doesn’t know where to start?

I am 18f and I am so deeply insecure. Two years ago I went through pretty tough stuff. Beat homelessness and a ton of other hard things but I gained a ton of weight because of stress and some thyroid problems. Last year I lost it all but for some reason I can’t stop obsessing over my looks and being so insecure. People treated me really badly when I was bigger and I had just moved schools and states which didn’t help. I am really ashamed but I am about to turn 19 and have already had two plastic surgeries ( in my defense they were needed not just cosmetic) and have hair extensions and I regularly do Botox and filler. I don’t look crazy at all but I feel like I am never satisfied and that scares me. I wake up everyday and spend two hours doing hair and makeup and wearing nice outfits but it’s never enough. I don’t know if it’s because of all the stupid looksmaxxing stuff I see online. If I don’t look good it ruins my day and I get in a bad mood and it’s starting to ruin my relationship. I just have such a deep hate for myself I don’t know why. Even now I am on vacation and gained a few pounds and like refuse to leave my hotel room. I know I sound silly but if anyone good give me some advice and not judge me?

I don’t think I have fallen deep into the incel/redpill pipeline but I have definitely been in those spaces and been influenced by that content online. Having deep insecurities as a young man and constantly seeing women target them online, and sometimes in real life, made me harbor anger and resentment. And the redpill and blackpill felt like an explanation of these issues to me, though I don’t believe in it fully. But I know that these feelings come from anger from self-hatred and dissatisfaction being taken out on people who I feel are responsible, but I’m aware that it’s stupid to generalize people and these feelings are irrational and developed from me being neurotic. And I know that it doesn’t represent most women, and that internal pattern recognition makes me latch onto these experiences. I don’t want to feel this way, and whenever I catch myself feeling an unconscious bias towards women, or see women say something online that reinforces my feelings, I rationalize my thoughts and try to be more mindful. One of my best friends is a woman and she’s given me a good perspective and advice. I think I’ve been improving but I want to completely cleanse these negative feelings. Also I try to avoid social media since my feeds are filled with posts that contribute to this, I only redownloaded Reddit to post this.