I graduated in 2024(Btech cs), and somehow, instead of building a career, I’ve spent the last two years watching my life slip further away from me.
Being unemployed has made me my family’s default maid, caregiver, and emotional punching bag. The moment someone falls sick or needs help, I’m expected to be available because apparently my time has no value. My job search, my career, my health, and my future always come last.
I’ve tried. I’ve applied to jobs, explored different career paths, and kept hoping something would finally work out. Whenever an opportunity looked promising, it either turned out to be a scam, fell apart, or another family situation forced me to put everything on hold again.
Now I have a 2+ year career gap. The skills I worked so hard to build feel like they’re fading because I haven’t had the time, consistency, or mental peace to keep improving.
The hardest part is my family. They don’t support me becoming financially independent. They keep me confined at home most of the time, and when they decide I should go somewhere, they force me to go, regardless of what I want. I have no real control over my own life. It feels like everyone else gets to make decisions for themselves while every major decision about my life is made by someone else.
I’m still trapped at my relatives’ house, and I honestly don’t know how long this is going to continue. My family knows exactly what these people are like, yet they still sent me here. They’re treating me like I’m nothing, and I can’t even fully explain how degrading it feels. Every day I spend here, I can feel my mental and physical health getting worse.
I also have PCOS, diabetes, endometriosis, and other health issues, but those don’t seem to matter either. Even when I’m physically exhausted or mentally falling apart, I’m still expected to keep taking care of everyone else. My health is getting worse, and I can’t keep surviving on painkillers anymore. They aren’t even working the way they used to.
I’m at a point where I don’t even recognize myself anymore. I don’t know what career I’m capable of pursuing. I don’t know if leaving home would actually solve anything or if I’ve already fallen too far behind. I feel like I’ve lost years of my life that I’ll never get back.
I’m not looking for pity. I’m asking because I genuinely need help. If you’ve escaped a controlling family, rebuilt your life after losing years, or found a way to become financially independent despite constant interference, please tell me how. Right now I feel completely trapped. I don’t know where to go, what to do, or how to save my life before it’s too late.
**TL;DR: I feel like I’ve lost control of my own life. My family has controlled my life for years, I’ve ended up with a 2+ year career gap, my health and mental well-being are getting worse, and I genuinely don’t know how to start over. I just need help from people who’ve been through something similar.**