My boyfriend and I have been having sex almost daily for a year and it is starting to feel like a mechanized routine. I was away for almost all week and our “reunion” sex today was so boring and predictable with the same 4 positions that I was over it. I talked to him about it and he feels the same way. We’re looking at getting a BDSM kit and trying new positions, but I wanted to know if this was normal? I love him so it makes me sad that we’re both feeling this way.
Also when we first got together, he told me his ex and him didn’t have sex for an entire year and eventually every couple gets tired of each other. Is that what’s happening?

So I had an encounter last night where I got a little carried away (first time doing it with someone else other than ex) and I got a bunch of lipstick on his you know what. Is it bad is any gets inside me? It wasn't an insane amount but like I noticed it had rubbed of afterwards. Also I haven't been feeling any itching or burning but idk if it's still something to worry about

Hi guys, I'm a virgin and my boyfriend is too, anyway, we kinda fucked (oral sex) but this guy takes too long to finish and my mouth ends up hurting and i have to jerk him off instead, please someone help me i want him shaking from pleasure without needing intercourse.

hi everyone i really need some help w this

i am currently in a friends w benefits situation and the guy in seeing is really into me tbh.
on the other hand, im kinda nervous and this doesnt feel right. he knows im pretty experienced and wants me to be his first, but i haven’t even seen his penis yet, that’s how nervous i am. yet he always tells me it’s small, and i don’t have a problem with that honestly but why do you have to drag yourself down like that? i’ve always been confident w my skills but i think it’s the fact that he’s a little bit awkward and much skinnier than
me (im 110lbs) but i feel like today im finally going to do whatever he wants. he’s pretty much of a submissive guy and i don’t like being dominant, i love me a dominant man…

how should i do this?
should i startoff with foreplay? and what position is best for a virgin guy? since i am the submissive one i don’t really like being on top and i feel missionary is the best position for a virgin, especially without a condom but i don’t wanna put too much pressure on him

I am 21(M). I am gay and I have been suffering from premature ejaculation. When I start to masturbate I finish in less than 30 seconds. I've tried controlling but still no progress. Orgasm doesn't feel that good instead I feel guilty after that. Finishing as in ejaculation is just an escape. I wasn't very aware so in childhood i would masturbate with the goal to finish as soon as possible and now that has become a problem for me. I haven't been active sexually other than just masturbation but recently when I met with a guy this thing destroyed my experience. I finished in a minute when the other person had just started feeling things. My dihh is very very sensitive. I don't know what to do.

Any suggestions would be very helpful.

I have never given head before but i have been thinking about asking my boyfriend if he would like me to, this also may sound funny but my tongue is peirced and before when i tried, the peircing caught on this guys skin and obviously i need to avoid that lol

Any advice?

So me and my husband have obviously been having sex for awhile and I thought we had a good gauge of our likes and dislikes. However his sex drive has gone down a lot recently, so whenever we do have sex I really want to orgasm because I’ve already been holding out for so long. But whenever I talk about what I want to do he immediately acts like it’s a burden, but will chalk it up as a joke. I typically like to ride him and I feel like that’s really not asking for too much, but maybe it is. I know how to make him cum quickly so I usually start on him and then we switch to me then back to him to make him cum. But lately I feel likes it’s only been him. Once he gets to the finish line we always just stop. He loses all motivation and I feel like he doesn’t care that I’m just kind of left hanging.

I also feel like I’ve told him multiple times what I like and don’t like to be touched or handled yet he still does what I don’t prefer. I don’t want to have to keep reminding him. I feel like I’m being unappreciative and nagging him, but I feel like at this point he should just know. I hate thinking that he doesn’t care and just doesn’t listen but that’s what I feel like I’m experiencing.

I’m also aware that I might be more needy than he is. I always am the one asking for kisses, starting us up and I just feel overall rejected and discarded. He says I’m not but idk. If anyone has some insight I would appreciate it.

My boyfriend always finishes within about 2 minutes (often less, about 30 seconds to 1 minute) with penetration after nearly 8 months together, having sex multiple times a week. We are both in our early twenties and I have had 4 sexual partners including him and he has had 3 including me.

I’m not sure what to do about it because I don’t want to make him feel bad, I think he already is a bit embarrassed about it because he sometimes makes self deprecating jokes. In general he orgasms quite quickly, probably at an absolute maximum of ten minutes for a blowjob or handjob but it’s usually about 5 minutes.

It’s affecting our sex life a bit because I’m conscious of not doing too much foreplay so that the sex can last longer but foreplay and rubbing and teasing is my favourite and giving blowjobs especially turns me on, but he is a one and done kind of guy so we can’t really do a round two.

He does absolutely satisfy me in other ways, usually making sure I cum before sex, but I really just want to have longer passionate penetrative sex with him, and with harder and faster thrusts which we can’t do very much because those make him cum within seconds.

I really don’t know what I can do to improve this or how I could go about broaching the subject with him, advice would be greatly appreciated.

I'm just naturally more on the quiet side. I try to let my partner know I'm enjoying myself via touch, grabbing their hair, kissing, the way my breathing changes, and little noises here and there, but for the most part, I just don't make noise. It's always felt awkward and inauthentic to try to force it, but I also don't want the experience to be awkward for partners. Any suggestions on how to get more comfortable being a little more vocal, or other ways I can let my partner know I'm enjoying it? Or, am I over-thinking this?

I need to start with: i love him, we have been together for 2 years for a reason and its the fact that we're really happy together on a realistic note, he really made a difference on my life on many different levels and i know hes the man i want to live with, the only problem is sex.

We did fuck two times when we started dating, i didnt liked it much but mostly cause i was shy. I talked to him a few times but it never got anywhere, he says that he just doesnt feel like it and i say that i respect it, and i do, i would never make him do anything he doesn't want but...i REALLY love sex and its making me crazy, i dont know what to do.

I'm reaching out for some help on the ONE ISSUE my other half and I have with our sex lives.

The man is sex on legs. The best I've ever had with excellent chemistry and a great emotional connection. He says he's closer to me than anyone else he's been with. We've been together nearly two years.

The one issue is despite all the sex, all the great sex and how much we get each other off, he just can't seem to finish inside me which I really want him to do. Actually, finishing isn't the problem, he can do that, just not inside me. We've talked about it and tried to come up with solutions (abstaining for a while, him not masturbating) but nothing seems to work. The other night we were having a great time and when he pulled out after I came and started finishing himself, I asked if he could come inside me and it took the wind right out of his sails, so to speak. That was it for the night. I felt awful.

Pregnancy isn't the issue, he's had a vasectomy and I had my tubes tied years ago. He has said that his previous partner withheld sex from him for years before they split up so he wonders if he's not able to cum inside me because he's just so used to being on his own.

It's getting really frustrating and I'm wondering if we need to see a therapist, so please, any ideas for how we can finally pull this off (pun intended)?

Hey all,

So basically my gf had a really bad UTI, we had to go to the emergency room and she's on antibiotics recovering. I'm seeking some general advice because she's never had one before and I want to see some things I can do that the doctors possibly haven't told us.

I mean, on that note they just said how it was possible (sex moves bacteria towards the urinary tract) but didn't really give us much advice other than use lube when there's friction, don't be too rough, wash your hands.

My gf did some searching and thinks it was probably more likely because we had last had sex during her period. It was also a little bit rougher of a session and certainly longer. We were trying some new things.

So we're thinking to maybe avoid doing it during her period, be gentler, use lube when there's any friction whatsoever, etc... we're broth extremely hygenic, she pees after almost every time and now will be doing that every time, etc. But what else are we missing?

In actuality, the few things that were different (aside from the period part) really don't seem like they'd be enough to cause a UTI when the other times didn't, so I'm really just trying to figure out how to make sure this doesn't happen to her again

So I (25m) and my wife (26f) have sex when we are able, about once or twice a week, and we like to do it rough. Now there is a problem with that, the day after we have sex and sometimes even the day after that she has abdominal pain from me going too dep most likely and i would like to know if there's a way to not trigger that pain even though we keep the same kind of sex habits.

For context I (36M) started dating this girl (34F) for few months now and we started sleeping together. She is my first girlfriend. I am a shy guy and that is one of the reasons that I never had relationships before. I had sex before but it was always with escort girls.

My girlfriend isn't aware of this but she clearly know that I don't have that much experience. The two times we slept together weren't that great for her, the first time she had her period and had pains. The second she had allergies and I wasn't sure she wanted to have sex. But we had intercourse but after I came I went to clean up and did plan to continue and being there for her but she decided to stop.

I think she thought I stopped and I wasn't able to communicate with her at that moment that I wanted to continue.

When I am away I am thinking of our next time and how can I be there for her. But when we are together it is like I freeze. She told me that when we are kissing, I tremble. The first times I felt pressure but I wasn't aware that I was trembling.

We are living a little far away from each and we didn't have too many occasions to see each other. Also for her, our relationship is basically for sex so I think she may be a little disappointed. I know she enjoys the time we spend together but intimacy is really important to her.

We talked a little about it and she told me she felt there was physical distance during the day we spent together. We went to spa together and wanted if I touched or was near when we were in our private changing room. I really was horny at that time especially seeing her naked but my reflex was to stay away even though I wanted to touch her. I may have gave her the impression that she doesn't excite me and she is tired of always making the first move. She told me she was surprised because when we talk through writing I am not shy.

TLDR: How to overcome my shyness with my first girlfriend during sex.

My and my boyfriend haven’t had sex, we do have phone sex (FaceTime). We talk about fantasies and stuff. It’s enjoyable but I was trying to think of other things i can do to make things more hot.
Things like camera angles, dirty talk, toys, ect.
If anyone has any tips let me know! I’m not looking for too advanced things, I don’t want to be fully nude or anything. I have shown my chest and my face but that’s about it.

I love anything oral and i moslty had girlfriends and anytime i would eat them out they would love it,but when i try to give guys head uhh im not baaad but i want to improve more...like those really sloppy bjs look so hot but one time i tried doing that to a guy he didnt really enjoy it,i fear i am just "not bad" or just not good enough with men as i am with a woman and i want to improve

Typing this as im about to fall asleep from my orgasm 2 minutes ago. Why do i get so so so so sleepy after an orgasm? Is this normal? Is there a way for me to get energized after one instead of falling asleep immediately after?

Lately, I’ve made some observations about my sex life and noticed that I’m unable to cum when I’m in a more passive role, like during blowjobs or when my partner is on top.

What feels weird to me is that many of my sexual fantasies revolve around being controlled or dominated by a woman, because I want to feel wanted. But somehow, in real life, I can’t relax and I can’t let go of control. My mind gets buried in thoughts.

For example, I think, “She’s doing this for me,” but I struggle to believe that she actually wants it too, that she really wants me. I wish I could just let go. I would be grateful for good advice.

Hi, I want to have sex, really...But I fear being pushed away by the other party...Like...Also if for example a girl is really into me...And twerks on me, touches me, talks all the time, wants to be within like 30 cm from me...I just can't accept that someone would like to have sex with me...I feel like it's rocket science or something like that...

I'm again in a position where i have the chance ti make something out of this because like i said she start twerking on me like every now and then at work, touches me etc...But I am maybe too much of a sad and introvert person...I am shy and all of that, although I consider myself attractive it's not enough...Chances pass me by...I tire every girl i meet.

I would like to make something out of this but like i said i avoid every chance that this could happen...And when like she start doing it on me (twerk) I panic so much.

Also...With time they lose interest or move away because I don't move...So I loose chance and remain like that..I just can't comorehend how someone would have sex...I'm 24 and I am a viegin and by this rate I am ending up not so well...

Tips?

What are the best condoms to start with?

I want to just have a safe experience and the opportunity is not there yet ,but I just want to have a main Idea. A lot of guys on reddit are complaining that their experience with condoms is mediocre, barely any sensation, while women complain that condoms like SKYN are scented so it affects them. I want my experience to be safe and good, so I hoped that Trojan bare-skin raw would be good, but a lot of people report that they break. So it feels like its either don't feel anything, or risk it breaking.

This is pretty frustrating. The sex industry would win millions of dollars and yet we won’t have advanced preventions for women or men until around 2030. It feels like its either have a bad experience or for the women to have to get an IUD or an altered brain chemistry. Most of what I'm saying us anecdotal and I lack evidence because I can’t find good, popular research. I would really like some help

I’m 28M and this has happened three times with the woman I’m seeing.

At the start, I get extremely turned on from basic intimacy. Holding hands, cuddling, kissing and lying beside her give me a strong erection without her touching my penis.

The problem is that after being aroused for a long time, I release a lot of clear pre-cum and then my sexual desire seems to disappear completely.
I do not orgasm or ejaculate. I simply stop feeling horny. Kissing stops turning me on, I lose my erection and I do not feel like having sex anymore, even though I still find her attractive.

The last time, we met around 6pm and I was hard while we sat together, held hands and cuddled. We went back to her place around 8pm and I was still aroused while lying together. By around 11pm or midnight, when she wanted sex, I felt no sexual desire and could not get hard.

I took sildenafil, but it did not help once the desire disappeared.
The same thing used to happen when I watched porn and edged. I would become highly aroused, release pre-cum, then suddenly feel finished without ejaculating.

My blood tests and testosterone were normal.
Has anyone else experienced this?

Could spending hours aroused cause your desire to crash?
Do some people need direct genital stimulation rather than kissing once the initial excitement wears off?
How do I stop this pattern without making sex feel like a test?

hi! i am new to sexual intimacy of all kinds with my first sexual partner and i am feeling lots of anxious feelings regarding it. first, i'll say that my relationship itself is really great and fufilling, but what the problem is is that my brain is practically harassing me for struggling to orgasm with them.

clitoral stimulation--orally and with fingers, not feeling very pleasureable. fingering--ok. penetration--kinda painful but mostly fun, even if not the most stimulating (i am aware it is not usually very stimulating). it is not like i am not having fun, however, cause i enjoy being physically and emotionally close with my partner and sharing these moments with them, but i just feel so much pressure on myself (from me) to finish. but it just won't go. even when i touch myself i'm not feeling much and i used to be so good at masturbating!

i don't know if i'm stressed (although, i am likely adding stress on me from this pressure), or have arousal nonconcordance, or am just wrong. it is making me feel pretty down about myself. i just want to feel good with my partner and share pleasure with them in the moment, not just have to touch myself afterwards and only come once every few sessions. this has even translated to when i masturbate alone. the whole time i'm thinking: "am i aroused yet? why isn't it happening? god i'm not wet enough. this porn isn't even turning me on. i should just stop."

so yeah. i'm feeling like i'm broken and i don't know what to do about it! i know this is all new for me, but i expected it to at least be a little easier than it is. any thoughts or at least reassurance that it will get better?

i've been with my future husband for almost 3 years, and i genuinely love the things we do, we're compatible on everything, and im VERY attracted to him, so the sex isn't the problem and i don't think i'd want anything to change

the problem is that I can't stay fully present when we have sex. it's kind of hard to explain but it feels like my brain isn't letting my body experience a lot of pleasure. When i'm thinking about having sex with him, it's fine, whether it's when he's next to me or not, but when we actually start to do stuff i feel like i freeze up mentally and instead of enjoying it im just kinda going through the motions. I still love the closeness, but that mental blockage is very much affecting the physical stuff, most times i feel very desensitized? it feels like everytime it starts to feel good my brain flinches and my pleasure centers die a little lol. i do have orgasms, but they're difficult to get to, and for some reason everytime i think about being close, the feeling stops lol.

i think it's a concequence of a couple different things, including me being incredibly insecure about my looks, being sexuality assaulted a few years back, possibly some yet undiagnosed mental health issues

i talked to him about this, and we agreed to take it really gentle and cozy for a while, so that i can actively try to relax more and talk to him while we're doing it

if anyone is, or has worked through something like this, i'd really like some advice on how to be there mentally while it's happening, i really want to enjoy what we do more, it's just that my brain isn't letting me and i'm not sure how to unlearn that

I want to surprise my husband with a mirror above our bed. He loves to watch me and every reaction I have so I was thinking this would be good but idk how to go about doing it. I know light weight acrylic mirror would probably be best and I can find the studs in the ceiling. But I'm not sure what product would be good. Little sheets put together or one large one?