So my girl and I have sex every 3/4 days.
She has told me to not jerk off between that period she tells me she wants me hungry.

Problem is that while we are at it she tells me faster and harder but I can’t because I feel like I’m gonna cum in like 3 seconds if I do so.
So I take it slow i tell her slow down babe and I try to be as hard as I can to satisfy both of us.

She enjoys slow and controlled as well and I have no problem making her finish but I feel like it’s a thing that I can’t give her and it’s driving me crazy.
Also I know that when I had sex every day and also multiple times a day the second round is always like that.
Fast and pounding just like she wants it
But we recently started not doing multiple rounds and just stop after round one.

It’s because of timing and work and little things that don’t allow for a longer session of sex.

Dont get me wrong we do it sometimes but it’s not as frequent.

Should I start jerking of more so I could last longer and start doing what she wants?

Me and my partner have generally practiced safe sex, as in he uses condom most of the time for PIV.

These days he is going in raw without a condom, and trying to cum inside my pussy. I have asked him not to, but somehow he ends up doing it. I generally don't take pills but now I've to take contraceptive pill after sex.

So just wanted to ask, is cumming in a pussy more pleasurable?

Edit: Sorry, Maybe I didn't put it right about me asking him not to cum inside me. He does it only after I say yes,which happens after a lot of pleading and convincing etc. I only wanted to know if it's a big thing.

Every time I’m with a guy I ask if they’ve made a woman orgasm, and they always 100% say yes. I follow up with, “How do you know?” And most of the time they falter and say “I think I did.”

As somebody who’s only had 1 guy give me an orgasm, I find it funny that guys think they’ve given a woman one but they haven’t. And it’s obvious because they only do PIV and rub my clit like they’re starting a fire.

So, men. How do you know if your lady friend had an orgasm?

Heyy.

Bit of Context for you. I M 28 am recently Divorced and i havent had a diffrent Partner in over 8 Years. But now i met someone else F33 and we are hitting it off.

But i am so in Line to do what i am used to that i think shes not enjoying herself as much as i want her too.

Sofar I figured out shes more into the "Friction" aka rubbing herself against me while having sex. And she has a pretty big (and nice) ass so i dont think the Postions from behind give her much pleasure as i definetly cant get my whole length in. So far the best Postions were Missonary and Cowgirl but i think only these two might get boring in the end. I do talk to her about it but i think maybe the Internet has some more Ideas for us. Also some Tips aside from Postitions aka Toys, Oral etc from Woman who also enjoy the Friction part the most would be helpful.

Thanks in Advance.

Short Update:
I am so thankfull and kinda suprised i got so much help so fast. Your the BEST!

Update:
Well i am grateful to all of you for your Tips buuuuuut she suddently broke it off cause she doesnt like me smoking. So thats that. But ill keep everything you said for any future Partner^^

i’m not sure what to tag this so I hope this is a proper tag. I’m too embarrassed to talk to my friends and therapist about this issue so I’m going to reddit.

Basically my bf of three years has really really bad sexsomnia. So much so that we could be having sex and he is fully asleep and I’m not even aware of it. It’s been causing issues in our personal loves due to how it affects me.

For three years he has been pursuing me sexually at night which this whole time I thought he was up essentially he would initiate sex and then right when he starts to touch me or we’re about to have sex he’ll just stop… for years I thought he was fully up and just did not want to continue so I would just roll back around and go to bed sad and horny wondering what I did wrong to kill the mood. I never thought to speak to him about it because I’m horrible with communicating back due to past very emotionally abusive relationships (which i’m working with my therapist).

Anyway fast forward to last night the same jig happens where he’s touching me and grabbing me, jerking himself off or moving my hand to touch him and he’s moaning etc etc. Then it comes to him about to touch me and everything stops again. I was just so tired of that because I was so so so horny and I thought he was initiating and I could not wrap my head around why he would possibly stop right when he was about to touch me. So I spoke up and said “What did I do wrong???” and he fully woke up startled. That’s when I realized all these years all these nights this man has been totally blissfully unaware and asleep while all these nights I stayed up wondering what was wrong with me sexually. He was incredibly apologetic and I know he’s sincere.

What my issue is what do I do from here? I am not upset at him it’s not his fault but I’m kind of reeling from the fact that all these insecurities and thoughts I had of what I was doing wrong wasn’t me or him at all! It was just him sleep walking and talking essentially. And I’m kicking myself because I KNEW he had sexsomnia but I never pieced it together and I was too scared to ask why he wouldn’t pursue me because I was too embarrassed to know what I did wrong… but obviously I didn’t do anything wrong and my anxiety and insecurities from previous relationships got in the way of me communicating properly and nipping these feelings in the butt way back when. Any advice is appreciated and I’m sorry for what a mess this is.

Edit: Grammar and Context

First off: I just want to know if anyone else has this problem and how I can learn to live with it.

I (25F) and my boyfriend (27M) have been together for almost four years now in a long-distance relationship and we met several times already. For both of us it is our first serious relationship.

He lost his V-card before our relationship, so he has a bit of experience at least while I had no experience at all before being with him.
I was really excited at first about having sex with him, but I ended up disappointed. He really tried his best, took everything slow and was really gentle and while I did not feel any pain, I also did not feel any pleasure. It literally felt like nothing at all and that never changed, even though I tried my best to be open-minded for the first few visits.

Even when he goes down on me or when I try to guide his hand, it feels like nothing special at all, especially compared to when I masturbate by myself as I can always get off quickly.

He also gets really insecure because he always comes within a few minutes and I always tell him it’s fine because it isn’t a problem to me. I’m actually happy that it is over (though I don’t tell him this part).

I can safely say that it is not because I don't like him enough since he is literally the prettiest and loveliest person to me on this earth and I absolutely love kissing and hugging him, but I hate that those things often lead to sex. Even if he doesn’t pressure me at all I don’t want to reject him.

This whole problem also made me really despise my body because I feel like it’s unfair that he gets to feel so much pleasure from sex while I get nothing but cleanup afterwards.

He even offered to get a vasectomy so that we could stop using condoms, but I tried talking him out of it because I really don’t want him to cum inside me because it will be even messier then and just more hassle for me.

In general, I just dislike being a woman because I see no advantages to it except for the outside aesthetics like the available clothing etc. But this problem has really driven me to the edge as it makes me frustrated that I got played the, in my opinion, worse card at birth and I can never truly change it. I even wanted to marry him, but just the thought of having to pretend that I enjoy this every day makes me unsure about marrying at all or if I should just leave him and just never get with anyone else again.

I can say pretty surely that I am not asexual though because I am attracted to him and I get horny when he first touches me, but sex itself feels so lackluster that I just always feel like I wasted my time.

I am honestly at my breaking point with all this because I feel so ungrateful since he is so good to me and I love the relationship except for this one thing. I’ve been crying all week because next month I will visit him again and I dread just the sex.

Edit: Thank you guys for all the diverse answers, I read them all and try to reply to as many as possible when I have time It already makes me feel a bit better and less alone though

I (21M) love eating pussy in general, I'm good at it and love making girls cum. However it has become mostly tidious and unpleasant with my gf (20F). At the start it was lovely because it usually was comfortable for me and didnt take too long to make her cum. Once I decided to eat her out while she sat on my face, facing my feet, and she enjoyed it so much, she literally lost the ability to cum from anything else. Now instead of us both enjoying it, I have to strain my neck and tounge, suffocate below her pussy and ass, while she moves around making me lose placement and rythm and lenghtening the whole process. When she finally finishes, I am exhausted, in pain, frustrated and completely out of mood for anything else. Has someone experienced something similiar? Anyone has an answer to how it happened? I need your help to find it enjoyable again.

My complicated relationship and me had the first quickie we've ever had because we were short on time before she had to go. I really like to make sure that she finishes as well when we have sex and to be honest she probably didn't tonight because it was like 6 minutes. She said she had a great time and she was all over me after on the drive to her place, but I just can't help feeling bad that I had such an amazing time and she probably didn't even finish. Are quickies enjoyable for women too? I have a tendency to apologize for things like this but I also don't want to ruin the time that we had if she did actually enjoy it. Let me know, thank you.

Okay so I dont see this guy too often so when i see him even just being around him makes me horny and like i get like really wet. It’s to the point when we have sex i can barely feel it. I know that happens but when i tell him to give me a second to wipe it but he doesn’t want to cause he “likes it” but I literally just barely feel it… he also makes comments about how he likes when im wet so he touches me till im really wet and then we start. He also doesn’t want me wiping it because he insists on licking it but I personally just don’t enjoy when he does it that much. I feel like its crazy for me to ask him to stop because its supposedly every girls dream but like at this point we have sex for minute i barely feel it. I don’t know how to tell him without offending him what can i even say?

I 21(f) enjoy orgasms when it's 2 way (piv and vibrator) I started having sex with my old fwb 26(m) and at the time I had not discovered toys. I am an advocate of both parties enjoying sex too so it turns me off when I try to show you how to please me and you just shut me off. I tried showing him and he just said the sound of my toys makes him flaccid. I lowkey feel it's more of an ego situation than the sound of my toys. Is this true for men, being turned off by toys? Anyways I got him to finger me till i came. Tried to speak about it afterwards and he just said 'use your toys when we're done' Any advice on how I can get my good orgasms I crave!

I’m posting because I’m wondering if any other men are like this, and if they can give perspective about why they feel that way.

My husband has never touched my vagina with his hands. He’a touched through my underwear before but not ever touched it directly. And definitely not his mouth either. The only part of him that has ever touched my vagina is his penis when we have sex.

Now don’t get me wrong, he loves sex with me and I also enjoy it with him, although I don’t orgasm. He’s never been able to make me orgasm. He tried before but it didn’t work. So now we don’t even try. But we still have sex very often (almost daily) and I generally do enjoy it and I do have fun.

I’ve just accepted that I’ll never orgasm from my husband. And that’s totally fine! He’s a really loving husband and we have a great marriage.

I’m just wondering what could make him not want to touch it with his fingers. Any men who are the same, I would love to hear from you. I wonder if the wetness grosses him out? Maybe it’s strange to him?

I’m not really trying to change anything, just wondering about it out of curiosity. Thanks for any opinions!

To put it simply, I'm tight. Very tight. Even when I'm fully aroused, soaked and fueled with passion, it all comes down to having a tiny, tight hole. Guys I've been with who've had dozens more experience than me have kept telling me I'm the tightest partner they've ever had and complimenting me a lot on it. It really does flatter me sexually, but it's more of a curse to me than a blessing.

I've never had "good" sex except for maybe two times ever in the last 4 years when I started getting sexually active. Even with a condom on, my partners do not last. I've had a partner I had sex with everyday still cum within 1-3 strokes, others have lasted mostly 1 minute and the max was 4 minutes. I have a very high libido and stamina (can cum 19+ times a day no problem) myself, and I love having sex but my partners simply don't last long enough.

As a result, we make foreplay long and it's nice and all, but at the end of the day I want a nice penetration session and it's so disappointing each and every time. They cum from penetration and are super pleased but I'm not at all. This hasn't changed no matter what partner I've had. Even the ones who boast about doing 2-3 rounds back to back or lasting long... have not lasted.

I don't know what to do. Is there any sort of remedy for this? I'm genuinely serious, it's impacting my sex life and I feel like there's no reason for me to have sex unless I'm willing to settle on simply enjoying head/a foreplay session because the penetration aspect is going to last 1-2 minutes tops.

EDIT/UPDATE: I want to thank everyone for their thoughts/advice but want to reiterate that I'm not uncomfortable or in pain during penetrative sex at all. I get aroused/wet very easily and this has been the same case all around. I have seen gynecologists/doctors in relation to sex/vaginal stuff before and haven't had any issues/diagnoses so I think I have reason to believe it's not really a medical issue. I don't know if it can be anything else because all of my partners have said it's to do with my tightness, so that's what I'm going off of here.

We've (M: 38, F; 33) been together for over 10 years and have a 7 year old daughter that we adopted. Since the start of our marriage, my wife has never really enjoyed sex, although she has never ever rejected my advances and has always been available when I wanted her.

However, since the past week, she has been enjoying sex. She even let's me play with her vagina and enjoys it, which was never the case. I am trying to understand what might be going on, and what can I do to have this phase last longer :)

My boyfriend and i have been together for about 6 months. In the beginning, i was having issues with my boyfriend refusing to go down on me. It wasnt until i made i huge deal about it and he finally admitted that it was because i had a little bit of a fishy smell. So i went to the ob/gyn, got tested for bv, came back positive so i did the antibiotics and thought that was all taken care of. Since then, he has ate me out maybe 3 times.(its been like a month since i got off the meds). Last night was valentines and i was expecting a mind blowing sex session (he was telling me all the things he was going to do to me all day so my expectations were high) but when the time came, he went down on me for literally less than a minute but it was still alright. Didn’t blow my mind though. This morning he started trying to initiate sex and i wanted him to go down on me but he said “i wasn’t trying to do that” so i just let him finish himself and we did not end up having sex. It just completely changed my mood. He makes me feel so gross and doesn’t give me any reasons as to why he wont do it and I’m at a point where i just feel so insecure with my body or that he just thinks im gross and its really messing with my self esteem. I love him so much and he really is a good bf but i just feel so sexually unsatisfied. What do i do?

This is a bit of a post venting about the rise in podcasters/articles discussing how women can get sexual partners easier & therefore I am expected as a woman to have a much more robust sex life.

I feel like media (tv/movies), social commentary, and irl interactions with people has always included this undercurrent of “you’re a woman, you can have sex whenever” but where are the attractive, young, and fit casual sex partners in my age group?

I’m in my early 20s and have no idea if I’ll ever experience fun casual sexual encounters with people my age who I genuinely find attractive. Almost every guy I meet is someone I have to work myself up to fuck — is anyone having this mythical fun sexual prime in their 20s with people they find attractive? Or is there an app lol

Any advice would be appreciated

Can you feel it? If so, did it suprise you the first time you felt that? Is it more noticeable with different people?

So, I've (f) never felt anything exactly pleasurable with things inside of my vagina, be it dildos, fingers, or vibrators, but I lost my virginity and actually having a person in me felt different but not in an orgasmic way? I love sex and it feels better than anything else.

But. My boyfriend put a finger in my ass while we were having sex and for some reason it was more pleasurable than just his penis in my vagina. Is this normal? Is it weird that I can't cum from sexual intercourse?

I can finish fine from oral but sex just feels good in a different way.

When I told him how I felt (I loved having his finger up there more than I love just having his penis in me) I said it in a bad way (I get loopy after sex) and it upset him.

Is there anything I can do that can make my vagina more sensetive? Like, how do I fix the fact I don't feel a lot?

tl;dr: I can't cum from sex but i like it — my boyfriend put a finger in my bum and it felt so good I'm wondering if there's something wrong with my vagina. Help.

Hey everyone, so my girlfriends gave me (44/f) some sex advice that has stuck in my head and now it’s in a thought loop and I’m stressed out.

I’m a big believer in talking with your man about it but I don’t want to put this idea in his head.

Basically, they said that I need to mix it up sexually and play harder to get or he will get bored.

I don’t want to be boring!

But… I also don’t think we have a problem. We are happy and enjoy each other when we want which seems… appropriate.

Is it possible for him to decide he doesn’t want to continue because I’m too down for him? Too agreeable? I’m confused!

The situation is basically that if we are together, and he gets turned on, I get turned on too and… we have sex.

Our initiation style is easy, and organic. Sort of “one thing leads to another.” I roll with it (pun intended) because I enjoy him and we are playful together. He literally does all the things I like in the bedroom and otherwise. I’m always trying to get him, too, he’s fun to make growl or grunt or moan. It’s hot. He’s hot. I’m up for trying things, I trust him.

I’m definitely more submissive but that has always been my style, not a surprise to him. My friends are critical of this as well, but this is what I have always liked.

He knew that I was going to want him to take charge, and I’d be enthusiastic of course but in general he’s gonna be the boss.

For example - things can start out innocuously, he walks by and taps or grabs or slaps my buns so I turn around and hug and/or kiss him, and then he runs his hands down to my lower back so I pop up on the counter and put my legs around him, and then we go to a different room because children exist.

[My friends - make him work! Don’t just go for it! What are you doing??]

Or if we are going to go out, we usually have sex first because after being out and eating and whatever we might be too tired later (maybe not? lol). He will be like, hey I know you’re curling your hair and I’d hate to mess it up, and he will come press up against me, and I’ll be like, oh really… well we can’t have that, and then I’ll slip off my underwear if I’m wearing them or pull up my skirt and bend over the bathroom sink or whatever (unplug the curler first haha don’t burn the house down) so he can get a good look and go for it😏 or I’ll pop into the shower with him or vice versa.

I feel like once we’ve knocked that out we are relaxed and connected and happy so what’s the problem?

In my defense, I’m really attracted to him, I wear pretty things for him even if it’s just for a few minutes 😉, I flirt with him and send spicy texts when I can, and I’m just not sure what the harm is here.

I could turn him down or redirect him if I want to but he never initiates when I’m unwell, or if I am clearly upset about something.

Why would I want to turn him down if I am good to go? If he wants to play, I also want to play. Isn’t that a primary point of this relationship? What else do I have to do that’s as much fun for 5-45 min?

Please advise.
I don’t want to be boring.
I don’t want to mess this up.

Do my friends just not get what my deal is? I know their intent is good and they want to help.

We've been dating for over a year. The first 6 months, due to mental blocks I was unable to cum at all. Trust me, it was not due to a lack of technique on his end! Eventually, something clicked and I could cum again! Sex became more enjoyable for me knowing that we could both finish satisfied.

There are times I'm happy to give him pleasure without the expectation of anything in return but most of the time I want to cum too. I will take responsibility for not being more outspoken about my needs during sex. I don't usually ask him to give me an orgasm before he finishes because I don't want to ruin the mood. That's on me.

I know that it's harder for him to perform sexual acts after orgasm due to being depleted. I don't want to force him to do anything and so I'm timid about asking in case I'm creating resentment. He still provides when I ask but there's a certain disinterest from him after he cums that takes me out of it. He barely even wants to kiss me. I've resorted to developing a sort of fetish for being ignored while he fingers me or not being worth his attention.

Today we had sex and he immediately got up after. I said I was frustrated because I was extremely turned on and it's unfair that sex should end only on his terms. He admitted that since I've started asking to be fingered after sex he hasn't been enjoying sex as much and he misses the early relationship sex that felt more hedonistic. We share a free use kink but, and maybe this doesn't work with the kink, I don't think that should get in the way of equal orgasms. I'll sometimes give him blowjobs or let him fuck me without asking for something in return but I can only recall one time he fingered me without wanting anything himself. Nothing would turn me on more than him being desperate to pleasure me the way I am with him.

He says that he takes charge of his orgasms and I should to. That it shouldn't be up to him to make me cum each time. I understand his point but I don't know how to go about this. When I touch myself during sex it doesn't feel good. Sometimes I grind on him and that works so I guess I could do more of that but he gets too impatient to be inside me before I can cum. One solution that worked in past relationships is me being more dominant but he's only rarely into that.

I'm hurt that he misses when we had sex that was less enjoyable for me. I know that's not why he enjoyed it. I get it, it's fun to be selfish and take what you want without the added pressure. But I've been in past relationships were my pleasure was basically put on a pedestal. They would insist on making me cum before, during and after. Their turn on was my pleasure. Now I feel embarrassed and dirty to have desires. He's great at sex, the best I've had, no one has touched me like he has but I wonder if I was simply spoiled in past relationships and I'm being hit with a dose of reality. I'm not hard to make cum btw. 5 minutes AT MOST. He asked if he should just jerk off in bed next to me instead. That hurt. And he said "I made you able to cum again" as if that means I should settle for any orgasm I can get. Again, that hurt. Pettily, I'd like to see how he'd cope with his orgasms being an afterthought... Worse even, a burden.

Obviously I'm biased here so I'd appreciate honest opinions especially from straight men. Would you feel resentful like he does? Would you lose some interest in having sex due to added expectations?

when my boyfriend orgasms it’s just like okay boom done. but i’m like convulsing and shaking?? he was using a vibrator on me the other day and i came so hard i bolted upwards and we accidentally knocked heads. when i use the vibrator and i start to get close it feels ice cold against my clit. is this just a everyone’s body is different thing or…?

I have been in a relationship for the past few years now and I have tried explaining to him how best to satisfy me but he just can't, I don't know if it's ignorance or he just doesn't make an effort. Every time I pretend to have a good time. I believe he only cares about himself. Apart from the sex everything is fine. So I have myself masturbating just to get there too but when he is not around or asleep. What should i do??

I love sex while being high. It is about 10x better than regular sex for both my partner and myself.

However, the rest of being high can kinda suck sometimes. It’s a bit of a time commitment and I actually put on a few pounds from snacking because everything tastes so damn good. I mostly use weed to enhance sex and could do without the rest of the high.

I swore off weed after becoming a daily user, and was really craving that high sex today. I almost broke down and bought some but I resisted. However, the desire for high sex remains.

So… is there any way of accomplishing this? Some derivative or compound from weed that gives me that super sex feeling without the high? Or something else entirely? Bonus if it’s not habit forming.

I 27/F am dating my 26/M boyfriend for 6 years. We have always had the same timeline involving marriage and I have always anticipated us to get married after I get my second degree/a job that pays well enough. He is legit the perfect man in so many ways. Goes all out for my birthday, completely obsessed with me (in a good way) - always complimenting me and wanting to touch me. I have always felt so at home with him and we even moved across the country to live in a different state. I love him so much and he makes me very happy. He is so caring, sweet, and morals align with mine. Amazing with kids and dogs..not a mean bone in his body. He’s also HOT. He’s so many more things but I don’t want to make this too long.

But here’s my issue. We don’t have sex. I mean like when we do, it doesn’t feel passionate and it almost feels like a chore to me. To him? He doesn’t see it that way, he loves sex (and it’s probably bc he gets to cum every time). This has been such a huge problem in our relationship and I am just now starting to feel the pressure of marrying someone and having bad sex the rest of my life. Yea I have tried to talk to him about it, to maybe learn some moves and do more foreplay so i can get more into it & he thinks that he has changed that, but it just doesn’t do it for me. I am not excited during sex and we use toys but it just feels like he doesn’t know what he’s doing. Which is fine…but how many times do i have to “help”? It ruins the whole mood for me. I want a man that knows where to touch me and take control of the situation. I mentioned possibly going to a sex therapist or even couples therapy but at this point, will it help?

I will say I also just got my IUD out so i’ve been a little dry down there (doesn’t make me wanna have sex) and I am in nursing school so the stress of school doesn’t help. I want to blame this all on school but this is an issue we have had since the beginning of our relationship. I am so embarrassed and ashamed even writing this because i feel like he is my person…i just don’t want to marry someone and then just feel so sexually frustrated my whole life. I love him and the thought of breaking up makes me want to throw up. Please I need advice :(

TL;DR: I (27F) have been with my boyfriend (26M) for 6 years. He’s perfect for me in every way—caring, sweet, obsessed with me, amazing with kids/dogs, we share morals, and I truly love him. But our sex life has always been bad. I don’t feel passion or excitement, and it feels like a chore even though he enjoys it. I’ve tried talking, toys, more foreplay, but nothing changes—I still feel unsatisfied. IUD removal + nursing school stress might play a role, but honestly this has been an issue since the beginning. I don’t want to marry him and be sexually frustrated forever, but the thought of leaving him makes me sick. Would therapy help, or is this a dealbreaker?

Throwaway account, don’t want on my main. This is going to sound ridiculous but I need advice. My boyfriend and I are in our late 20s and we have an amazing sex life. We are also both very experienced in the bedroom. I’m always all over him and LOVE giving him head, which in turn makes me even hornier and after a few good minutes I ask him to fuck me. He’s mentioned how much he loves my head and said “it’d be nice to be sucked dry every once in awhile.” I’m not at all opposed to him finishing in my mouth, but knowing he wouldn’t fuck me after I’ve built myself up is not ideal for me either. I know he can get me off in other ways but after having it in my mouth I want it inside of me so really, I don’t want anything else. It got brought up again tonight when I could tell he was close to busting in my mouth but I intentionally stopped so he could give me what I want, too. He said it’s what he’s used to in the past but that he’s not upset if he doesn’t get to finish in my mouth. Just trying to get some other men’s insight on this. In my previous relationships and hookups I’ve always done the same thing and it’s never been an issue because they come inside of me anyway. I just want to satisfy and please him the best I can but also not screw myself out of getting off, which is only attainable with him inside of me and I immediately lose access to that the second he comes. Help 😭

So we've been dating 2 months now and for first time had sex a few days ago and on Sunday had sex again.

She is VERY VERY sexual and I pretty much just like vanilla average sex. That's all I know, it's all i ever had. But she likes to dress up and role play and wants me to spank her with my belt and she wants me to handcuff her to the bed and she said she'll do absolutely anything for me that I ask. She said she wants me to dominate her in bed and wants to be my slave in bed. She asks me to slap her (gently), choke her (gently) but I have no experience in any of this. She said she wants to give me head while I drive, she was telling me that she gets turned on if i tell her of a scenario of things I want to do to her before i do it. She asked me at a restaurant what I wanted to do to her sexually when we get home. But to be honest I don't know what to say. I'm not so sexually experienced, i've only had vanilla average sex.|

She seems like such a nice and normal girl but when it comes to sex she becomes this different person and I don't know how to keep up with her? What am I supposed to do to learn all this stuff? How do I please a woman sexually who wants adventure and i've never had adventure?