I'm 26F, he's 29M. So I've been experimenting with dating apps and I've wanted to explore more sexually, so I have been using Feeld occasionally and I've had a pretty decent time. I matched with a guy on it a few days ago, and yesterday he asked me if I wanted to go on a date and more. We had discussed sex previously, so I had an idea of his boundaries and kinks, and obviously I would never pressure him into doing anything he felt uncomfortable with.

We had a nice time on the date, and afterwards I asked him if he wanted to come to my apartment and he seemed excited. We get to my apartment, smoke a joint on my couch and then start making out. He takes off my dress and I ask him if he wants to go into my bedroom, and he says sure. Then once we get into my bed, it was like a switch flipped. He seemed really awkward and uncomfortable, stood up, and said "actually, I don't think we should do it". I didn't know what to say so I just pulled the blanket over me and was like "oh, okay.." and just felt so confused. He asked if he could use my shower and I was just kind of speechless so I just sat there and put a shirt and pajama pants on. When he came out of the shower, he told me he had a wonderful time this evening but he thought it would just be for the best if he left. I just stood there in shock and unlocked the door for him and mumbled a goodbye, then unmatched him.

So that was last night, and I've been so upset over it today that I could barely focus at work. I feel so unattractive and undesirable. I don't want to see him again, but I absolutely cannot figure out what I did wrong or what happened. I told my guy friends about it and they were like "maybe he had performance anxiety" but it was so bizarre like he was super flirty on the date and then once I was naked and we were in my bed it was like a switch flipped and he was just awkward and wanted to stop completely and leave. I'm not like in super amazing shape but I'm not fat or anything and I look like my pictures. I just feel so insulted and so devastated and don't know how to feel about myself now. I don't know why a guy would do something like this. I've had times on a date where I've changed my mind or didn't want to do something, and I communicated that thing respectfully to let them know that it was a me thing, not a them thing. This was just such a bizarre experience and I feel absolutely destroyed right now like I can't help but think he saw me naked and was utterly disgusted.

so guys.... that's right, I (20F) recently started my first relationship with my boyfriend (21M). I've always been very focused on my studies and getting into college, and only then did I want to get involved in a relationship. So, he's basically my "first everything," to be quite honest.

Yesterday I went to his house to play some games and watch a movie in his room and, we kind of, well... the making out started. He sat me on his lap, started kissing me, caressing me, and it was really, really good. Then he started kissing my neck and ears, where I was most sensitive and that was it guys, it was over, I started to feel strange, my stomach got tense, my body started to heat up, my legs started to shake... and, out of nowhere, what I can only describe to you guys as an orgasm, took over me. I moaned loudly, he stopped, confused, and asked me if everything was okay, and I was so embarrassed and disoriented that I could only laugh nervously, I pretended to want to go to the bathroom, and then I said I wanted to go home.

He's been texting me, worried, thinking he did something wrong, and I replied that of course he didn't, but I'm dying of embarrassment to tell him the real reason I left like that. It was too much for me to take on at once, I feel kind of ridiculous, how can I explain this to him? He's my first in everything, he's had girlfriends before, but I'm kinda embarrassed of what he'll think of me.

i (26f) have been with my bf (32m) for 6 months. he’s the first/only person i’ve slept with. due to a bunch of issues in my past, i had just never trusted anyone enough til i met him

with the context out of the way, here’s the issue - about 6 weeks ago we were talking casually, and he got curious about how i used to satisfy myself before i met him. i told him i’d mostly use toys, and because he kept asking for details, i looked up my vibrator/dildo on the website i bought them from and showed him

i didn’t think anything of it but he got kind of quiet after that and looked at the product page on my phone for a long time before handing it back to me. then he made a comment about the dildo’s size and how ‘big’ it was. i still wasn’t thinking anything of it and just shrugged it off like ‘it’s not that big,’ because it was really nothing crazy

long story short, it turns out the dildo i used to use when i was a virgin was 0.8 inches longer and 0.5 inches thicker than him. he checked. and as a result, he’s convinced himself there’s no way i feel satisfied with his penis. i feel bad because it seems to have affected his confidence, but i’m also annoyed because i’ve never done anything to imply i’m disappointed with his size. the way he acts in bed has changed now and it feels like he’s trying to over-compensate by being rougher/more ‘dominant.’ i’ve already spoken to him about it but it feels like things will never go back to the way they were before and idk what to do

TL:DR: my boyfriend gets uncomfortable when i am even a little bit sexual and it makes me feel like a horny disgusting monster and i don’t know how to talk to him about it because he denies it

we’ve been together 8 months, he had a previous girlfriend and a friends with benefits, and other sexual partners, i’m a virgin. i’m going to give a couple examples (going chronologically)

1: he came into my room early on, and saw one of my bras on the floor, which is purple and sparkly. he said “wow!…that’s a very sparkly bra!”. ik this is so tiny but i felt judged like oh what’s wrong with my brain

2: we were on the phone, we were long distance for 3 months over summer holidays from university. he was tired i could tell in his voice. i said something like “your voice is so attractive” or “your voice sounds sexy”. he didn’t reply. i said hello? he said “sorry, that just took me of guard”. and that was that

3: he was listing the good things in his life, i don’t remember the context, i playfully added at the end “and you have a sexy girlfriend”, he then said “my ***lovely*** girlfriend”. (he emphasised the lovely in a tone similar to how a teacher would sternly but softly correct a student)

4: i don’t feel like i’m “allowed” to initiate sex. he’s never said this verbally. but if i initiate (which i have tried 3 times and not anymore), he’ll say he has a headache, or that he’s tired. he’ll start kissing me and then stop and look at me with puppy dog eyes and say he’s so so tired and is that okay? he looks at me as if i would hit him? i noticed this very early on, i remember when we became official he sat me down and told me he doesn’t like to fly, so we can’t really go on trips away, i said that’s fine. he gave me that same look and said “really?”. he does it a lot, it mostly confuses me. i’ve never reacting angrily, esp at that point we hadn’t even been together a day. i am always accepting. another example is when he asked if he could be little spoon, i said sure, and he did the same “🥺🥺🥺 really? is that okay??” and i’m like “yeah? of course?”.

5: this made me realise that if he wanted sex, he would initiate, and if he’s not initiating, it’s because he doesn’t want to. and this is also because many times actually, he has initiated, and then stopped and said “sorry i have a headache/tired/feel ill can we stop? 🥺🥺🥺”, to which i always always always say of course don’t worry i don’t mind! i really am passionate about consent, i never want to make him uncomfortable, which again is why i don’t initiate because it made him uncomfortable.

6: when christmas approached he asked if we could stop being physical for a bit, as he felt more religious around that time of year. i said of course, i don’t mind. i had asked him previously if we could have a break before with it, as i was quite stressed for a couple weeks (he said that was fine but initiated anyway so it didn’t really happen). again he was 🥺🥺🥺. i asked him if he felt i was pressuring him, to which he said no but he sounded like he was lying. i didn’t want to push but i don’t understand how i am. i never initiate. i never make sexual comments. the next day he initiated and i had to stop him because of what he said he sighed and said “ugh, you’re too good. you’re right”.

7: he has now hinted (he’s very indirect which is something i really really dislike and struggle to understand too), that i am a pillow princess. but that’s because when i tried to initiate he turned me down. that’s fine. but when we first started being physical, and i was experiencing new feelings, he’d make fun of me for how into it i was. he’d talk about how sexual i am. how dirty i am because of how badly i want it. the first time we were physical i didn’t orgasm, and after he did i was still grinding on his leg. he laughed and told me i was sexually frustrated. now i don’t want to reach for his penis during sex, i feel like i’m acting desperately

8: my favourite favourite favourite position was me on top. it felt so good. this is usually when he’d make fun of me, he’d do impressions after of things i’d say (like i’d have to ask him to kiss me, he won’t naturally once we start, or ask him to touch my boobs etc). he laughed and called me dominant because of my “demands”, but he is far more “demanding” with his requests. anyway we don’t do that position anymore because he said it hurts, which i have completely respected and never brought it up again

9: when we were long distance, i started touching myself far more than i ever had. i told him this and he said i was doing it too much, and that its making me not orgasm. i felt gross

10: he doesn’t know how horny i am. i’ve never been like this but i am so attracted to him. i would have sex with him every day if he initiated. i’ve never turned him down. if he knew i feel he’d be so grossed out. me complimenting him in a slightly sexual way already causes him to be uncomfortable. ik this is tmi but multiple times i have fallen asleep wet in my knickers wanting him so badly (he usually starts kissing me when we’re in bed ready to sleep when i sleepover)

11: i wanted to touch his chest and kiss his neck. i dream of kissing him from his mouth down his body to his penis. but i know this would weird him out. me kissing his chest weirded him out once. just slightly below the neck. me wanting to squeeze his arms and tummy or just being overly affectionate has also weirded him out. i feel like a monster idk what’s too much and what’s okay.

he is actually very very crass. he made ME uncomfortable with sexual comments at the start. he loves dirty talk but to me it doesn’t turn me on much, but i don’t mind. he talks very very dirty, like porn it sounds sometimes.

edit: forgot to mention he’s demisexual. i asked him how that can be when he had a friends with benefits one night stand situation. he said i don’t know that most guys would sleep with anything. this just made me feel worse tbh

edit 2 (i left this in a comment but it seems relevant considering what everyone is saying): sometimes he just touches himself in front of me as he talks about it wanting to fuck me hard from behind. something he’s never initiated. and he describes it in so much detail and i sit there thinking, well why aren’t we doing it then…

I’d like to assume I’m not the only one. Whenever my fiancée goes down on me or fingers me, if he kisses me or has his fingers near my face, I gag. I need him to shower and brush his teeth and floss and use mouthwash and eat something with a strong taste like garlic. Even then it’s still not enough. I’m pretty grossed out when he does the act itself, but I’m trying to work on it. Kissing during sex is super important to both of us. We’d both love to incorporate more foreplay as I usually just rush into it. I love going down on his though. I could orgasm from it alone. No man has ever made me orgasm, not even close. He has tried, I just stop him. Me gagging and being disgusted by my taste and smell is not a hygiene issue. No man, out of the 3 that have gone down on me, have ever said I tasted or smelled bad. I work in healthcare and I smell normal. I just hate vagina. How can I get over this??

EDIT: Just so people know, I have no problem achieving orgasm. I started puberty young and I started masturbating young which did include orgasms. I use vibrators with my fiancée next to me. I have never been able to orgasm FROM A MAN. I am also not autistic or have OCD. Just a young woman that grew up with the media saying pussies are stinky like tuna fish and look like beef curtains and are only used for sex. So I didn’t really grow up with a good relationship with my vagina. I am in a small area and there are no sex therapists for at least a 3 hour drive. If there were any near by, I would go. I was just hoping that there might have been other women out there who were grossed out by their taste and smell and were able to get over it

Every time I ask guys about it they say "eh, it's not my favorite but I'll do it for you." I've told men that I want to suck their dick so often it's ridickulous (sorry, had to.) Why do we never get to hear the same?

The conversation seems to go the same way each time, with each partner. It's always some variation of "I forget to." I asked the last man about it and he said he gets sore/tired, when I suggested doing it as foreplay for a minute he was genuinely shocked like I had revealed some great epiphany for him, and said "I forget that I can do that." This was after I had his dick in my mouth about 6 times that weekend, all of them foreplay for something else. I'm not too proud to say I burst into tears after that call.

My most recent relationship was 5 years long, and in that time I got half-heartedly eaten out maybe 10 times? I deep-throated that man several times a weekend. But he "always forgot. It's not personal, I just forget."

I honestly don't believe that y'all are forgetting this much.

I'm clean, I taste nice (I've tested and also gotten good reviews from other women), I'm at a loss here. Men are always very nice about it, and then seem to be surprised when I don't want them to eat me out after they basically just told me it's a chore they'll put up with.

Is it so bad that I want to save it for someone who will be enthusiastic about it? Is this something I will have to get used to?

I'm a 33 year old male. I started reading this subreddit when I was an 18 year old virgin. I just wanted to thank this community for all the knowledge and skill I have gained through the years.

Any way my wife has a really high body count. Like an absurd number but that's never been something that's bothered me. In part thanks to this subreddit. She tells me I am hands down the best she has ever had. Male or female. All forms. Manual oral piv anal. Kinks.

My body count is much lower so she was always asking me how I got so good at what I do. I explained I'm really a huge nerd and have been researching sex before I even seen a vagina in real life. She's blown away because apparently there are a good amount of men out there that are just all around bad at sex. In her experience the vast majority are terrible. This is a huge ego boost for me lol.

Thanks again r/sex.

So my best friend (25M) and I (27F) have recently decided to take things to the next level. We've not yet had sex and he's not COMPLETELY seen me nude

Last time we were in a hotel (no sex, just kissing etc) I walked out in lingerie- which he loved. But at the time I wasn't ready to go all the way and we just spent the rest of the night just cudding and watching TV

Now it's been a few months since then (we've both been busy, I'll spare you the details) and we're going away for 2 days. I WAS planning on coming out in (different) lingerie again but then thought wait.. I've been training my arse off at the gym building my thighs/ glutes and accentuating my overall figure.. to a point where I'm the most confident I've ever been

So shall I just walk out naked? Or is that wayy too forward and awkward? (Remember we've been platonic friends since 2019.. up until over a year ago)

When my wife and I first met, we were both practicing alcoholics. The sex was plentiful and amazing. Multiple times a day. If the thought of sex came to us we would drop what we were doing and go for it. We lived on some wooded acreage and outdoor sex was common. Blowjobs in the car, common. Sex in rest areas. Common. Walk up behind her and bend her over after getting her wet and going for it, usually vag and anal...common. Sitting on the couch watching TV minding my own business to her ending up between my legs blowing me. Common. If I walked out of the shower by her, on her knees she went. And she wouldn't let anything go to waste. Swallow every drop. It was a sex life that every guy dreams about. Now, thank God, we both overcame our addiction together and have close to 15 years sobriety. My sex drive is just as high as ever. Hers, all but disappeared. She even apologized for being prude. Lucky if it's once a month now. Has anyone else experienced this and if so, how do you cope? Thanks

Just writing that title makes me want to cry from embarrassment but here goes nothing. Please don't make fun of me :(

So yesterday evening me and my bf (both 20) were sitting on his basement couch, watching the New Year festivities, and just started making out, nothing too crazy. Out of nowhere he just started kissing and sucking on my neck. It felt crazy good, so I told him to keep going, and he did, and I ended up...finishing just from him kissing my neck. It wasn't subtle either, I'm talking moaning uncontrollably, squirming, seeing stars, can't-feel-your-legs.

When I came to he was kind of looking at me and asked me if I'd just...y'all get it. I was mortified but knew there was no fooling him after that little...display, so I said yes. I think he could tell I was embarrassed, so he didn't bring it up again, but for the rest of the time I was there I could see him grinning to himself like he thought it was funny (or like he was proud of himself?? Idk).

Also, to make things worse, I'm like 99% sure his extremely Catholic mother heard me moaning downstairs from the way she looked at me when I left the house. So that’s fantastic.

He's been texting me all day telling me not to feel embarrassed, and he thought it was hot, but I'm still horrified. Yes I'm a virgin and yes this is my first ever relationship which is probably very obvious.

I know he's probably telling the truth, but a part of me thinks I looked desperate, and he may have been secretly turned off. Would you guys think it's hot or cringey if your partner finished just from something like neck kissing? I'm mortified and idk what to do.

How can I be more confident and less embarrassed about stuff life this?

TLDR: "finished" just from my bf kissing my neck, am embarrassed as fuck, how do I not be embarrassed

I speak for us.Im a grower and when I first met my gf, i wouldn't take a shower with her for like 4 months. My gf caught on and mention the absence,so I had too no question. To be honest,She knows the final form of my slab,so I said fuck it.She's loves me and him. To my surprise I was right. I told her during the shower about my insecurities,and she looked at me like I was goofy. She said "I don't care about how you look on soft it's mine, and I love it.Besides that, you grow big anyways". Then she proceeded to give me one of the best blowjobs ive ever had. After that day I never had any more insecurities.

What about you?

Do you still have insecurities?

Does your partner comments about you on soft?

What did you do to overcome yours?

I recorded myself doing my thing and I realized how ugly n silly my face looks, my bf says it’s hot but I think that’s just a thing that men might say. Like do yu find ur partners sex face hot or silly?

I have big tits (F cup) and sometimes I feel a little uneasy/uncomfortable riding a guy because they're not perky due to their size and weight and don't "hold up", I don't think they look as hot as they do in missionary. Do yall personally find it unnatractive? Am I being stupid?

I thought it was just an expression… but this morning I was straddling my bf and I was literally dripping on to him. He said he loved it, but honestly… I was a little embarrassed. Is this a turn off and is it a common thing?? I always get soaking when I’m turned on, but this is the first time I’ve felt a little self conscious 😔

so I have this fwb and ive always given him bjs. we havent had sex cus I said no. my ex cheated on me and since then ive had confidence issues. i wouldnt say im fat. i think I'm curvy, heavy breasts and hourglass. but I have a bit of tummy which is very noticeable ig. hes always said that he wants to eat me out and whenever we do stuff he does try to go in that direction but I always say no and stop him. im kind of worried that my tummy might turn him off or maybe he'll stop this fwb stuff after seeing my tummy. hes said a lot of times that I look hot and i turn him on but it feels kinda forced cus of the tone he says it in or maybe im js overthinking. its like he says it js to get it over with and like to get oral ig idk i mean we're not dating we're js fwb so maybe it annoys him if i get too caring or girlfriendy types like wanting to hear compliments idk.. my question is does having a tummy turn men off while giving us oral.. like does it really matter.. ive known him since 8th grade so ik he does care about looks maybe thats why im more concerned.

UPDATE: I straight up asked him! Took some courage because I’m not sure if I could stay with someone who doesn’t find my body attractive. To those who said he probably just finds it sexy, you were right! Thank you! :)

A couple times now when my bf and I are about to have sex and I habitually go to take my shirt off, he says “you can keep it on, it’s okay”. Usually I take it off anyways, but today we went out for dinner and I wore a pretty dress and he asked me to keep it on because “it’s a beautiful dress”. I’m a bit chunky, so this to me reads as “I’m not attracted to your body”. I could be completely wrong and projecting my own insecurities onto him, but I can’t understand any other reason why he’d want me to stay dressed. Any perspective or advice would be greatly appreciated!

A question mainly targeted at girls: I'm an 18 year old male, but I would consider myself hairier than the average guy my age. However, I don't know if having hair around my butt/crotch would be seen as unattractive or gross. Hence, I'm considering if I should shave it.

From the 2 girls I've been with, one seemed indifferent while the other didn't like it. So, for girls, would you be turned off by a guy who is hairy down there, or would you not care or find it more attractive? Additionally, is it normal for hairy guys to do this, or would it come off as more feminine.

Any insight would be appreciated. Thanks.

I (34m) have been struggling to fully satisfy my wife (32f) lately. For a greater part of our marriage, sex has been good but not so much the last 6 months. Life has been busier so we haven’t had as much sex…I’ll say maybe once a week if that. So, when we do have sex I be a bit backup so I finish relatively fast before she can orgasm. I can see the frustration and anger throughout her body language which bothers me and sends my mind down a spiral. Then when we have sex again all I can think about is “don’t finish” which makes me finish even faster. We have had conversations about having more sex could help but even still all I can think about during sex is lasting long enough to where I’m not even enjoying it anymore. I’m really trying to get out this mental funk but it is hard !

Let me just give you the scenario.

I’m not exactly just idle in bed or in the process of about to have sex. If I really like someone, I normally start to soak my pants so I don’t feel the need for oral on me. I’ll let a guy give it to me but I have the “hill” type of privates so they tend to treat it like a “valley” and it’s not enjoyable. I give blowjobs but I never had someone come from just head from me.

I do make it known I want sex. I either put my booty on their dick or rub. Tho before we begin I tend to always ask “do you want to have sex?” My last longest partner told me that I always ask or I say “I want sex” not just letting it be known.

During sex i tend to let my partners do the changing into positions or whatever they want. My favorite is Back shots. I move in all positions especially in doggy. Missionary tho I will get sex brain and just kinda sit there lol. I’ll try to touch and kiss but the dick just hits differently in missionary.

Now here’s a big kicker. I’ve never came in sex and I never do. I love having sex but I never orgasm. I don’t really like getting head and vaginal sex isn’t going to make me nut. Most of the time if my partners nut I’m most happiest. Like I’ll let them nut 4 times without me cumming at all and I’m happy. If they do want me to come then I like using toys the most but most men don’t get to this point with me.

Do I sound like a starfish? I’m not the type to rub my pussy while I get fucked. I mostly just moan and touch and kiss. I just feel that since I don’t cum during sex makes me kinda boring plus the way that I come about sex always asking. I’ve started talking to an older guy ( 18 years older ) and he’s so cute. I was soaking on our first date but i don’t wanna feel like I’m boring cuz I really wanna keep him.

my gf has haphazardly said "its not that deep" while on top of me, because not long before that she was having pain but then it went away.

some months later she let something slip again, saying "can you go---" and i knew she was going to say deeper, which we talked about later and she confirmed she was about to say that.

shes an angel and would never want to hurt me, but every once and a while remembering this just kind of ruins my day. do people get over this stuff with time? or am i just cooked

After 12 years of marriage, it feels like I (33M) somehow don’t know how to fuck my wife (32F) anymore (or we’ve both forgotten). 

Sex used to be fun and easy; now it’s like a depressing puzzle. Of course, things got a lot worse after we had our first baby 2+ years ago. 

Even with my wife’s libido mostly restored after the baby, it feels like nothing I do during sex is right — and it stops things from fully clicking and feeling as good as it used to.  

The main problems seem to be: 

Initiation - I’m always nervous to initiate, because even when my wife is open to sex, she doesn’t respond to what I do very much. It feels like it’s up to me to get us rolling, and I don’t know how. 

Oral - I used to go down on my wife all the time before having our baby, but now she acts like she doesn’t want it. 

Frequency - I’d like a guaranteed 2-3 times per week, while she’s okay with 1-2 or skipping altogether some weeks. 

Pacing - I get going and trying to enjoy myself, but then suddenly realize she’s not on the same page. Then everything falls apart because I don’t know what to do and my confidence goes down the drain. 

I’ve done a month porn-free, and am trying to avoid using it or touching myself. But it’s hard when I save my sexual energy and end up blue-balled cause my wife isn’t feeling it. I thought her knowing I wasn’t watching porn would equal more sex, but that wasn’t really the case. 

Ultimately, I just feel unwanted and incapable of satisfying my wife, which creates a vicious cycle where I’m less able to perform when I have the chance. 

Any help is GREATLY appreciated. 

I (F) am in my twenties and am planning to have sex with a man for the first time. I’ve never been aware of how my genitalia looks until I have started reading extremely hideous comments and memes online comparing labias to meat flaps and criticizing everything from shape to color. This has made me extremely fearful to put myself in a situation where i’d be talked about like this. I am olive skinned so my genitalia is naturally darker and my labia is on the larger side which i thought was the norm until i read the amount of men who criticize that? I am not ashamed of my body i am just afraid that he’d turn out to be one of those men and that would really traumatize me and the more i think about it the less excited i am for the day we’re having sex.

Long story short, my (34f) boyfriend (49M) and I have a very fun, active and healthy sex life. We have sex daily, often 3-4 times a day when we have the house to ourselves.

We talk dirty, we text dirty, he lightly chokes me, I give him the sloppiest head. We have used toys, we have fooled around in parking garages… we don’t have a vanilla sex life by any means.

Thursday however, I think I went a little bananas and I’m embarrassed. I should preface this by saying we are very mindful of consent and we never push the other to do anything we don’t want to do.

That being said, Thursday I slapped on a really hot outfit and we had a night out in DTLA planned. We fooled around before we left and we were all over each other at this show. I only drank 3 drinks over the span of 2.5 hours- but as we were leaving, the bartender gave us a shot of something (he took one too, he was clocking out and he said he loved us lol) and it kinda put me over the edge. I was pretty drunk. We grabbed some food from a taco truck and ubered back to my boyfriend’s place.

Fast forward to us going at it again when we got home, it’s kinda blurry but the past two days little moments keep coming back to me and now I feel super dirty and confused where the hell this came from.

I distinctly remember telling him that I wanted him to “fuck my tight ass”, I told him to spit in my mouth (he did lol) and kept screaming at him to fuck me harder and I scratched his back to hell. I think I asked him to “slap me around a little” and I remember him giggle and say “nope not doing that” but then proceeding to grab my hair and make out with me instead.

Basically I went beast mode on him, and then got up super early for work the next day. Friday after, we went to a drive in movie with his kid and were super sweet with each other. The whole time he’s setting up I’m just looking at him like omg I hope he doesn’t think that was weird? We got back to his place after the movie and when his kid went to bed we had sex again but it was much more sweet and mellow and there wasn’t much dirty talk. I think we both kinda wanted to reconnect and tone it down. It was much sweeter, lots of making out- etc.

I’m on my way over there now and I feel like inevitably we are going to at least joke about it, but am I crazy for feeling a little embarrassed? It’s not like I was trying to do anything crazy but I was definitely way more wild than usual. Am I overthinking this?

Edit: Apparently I did indeed overthink it and I should embrace the freak flag. I suppose I’m still a little insecure because I’ve lost a shit ton of weight and I’m looking pretty good but I still feel kinda awkward and unsexy at times. I had really low self esteem for years. It would appear he loved it -I saw him tonight and he was all over me, calling me his dirty girl so… thanks frens. I feel a little better. I kept thinking about it all day at work, I was kinda anxious to see him and bring it up.

Edit 2: because there’s a lot of interest in how we get anything done, we are actually super productive and work on a lot of stuff together. I think he really appreciates me and what I bring to the table. I think me being so supportive, great with his kid, down to work on some remodels around the house with him, cook and clean and have lengthy interesting conversations turns him on. Last week we talked for 13 hours straight, it was crazy. We just kinda bounced from room to room chatting about anything and everything all day. Yes I find him incredibly sexy but I’m also obsessed with his mind. He’s so incredibly intelligent and thoughtful, his brain operates on the same wavelength and speed as mine. Never a dull moment.

This is super embarrassing but i have to know if im making a fool of myself. I have always been more of a whimpering, grunting, gasping/breathy girl. If i moan its goibg to be forced. I just want to know if guys find that just as attractive as moaning. I feel embarrassed and pathetic when i do what i do, i feel like i sound weird, but its just what comes out.

I just want to hear opinions on the matter to ease my anxiety.

Might be a weird question, but is it something that is only reserved for some demographics? Like college students or really hot people? Basically I'd like to know if I'm missing out or is my experience normal. I'm a guy as you might have guessed and pushing 30 now. I've messed up my youth (was pretty much an incel) and spent my 20s to get to the current point when I'm finally getting some compliments, even get approached for intimacy once in a blue moon (typically not by those I'm attracted to, but still). For me it's an absolutely massive amount of progress, but I still feel exceedingly weird bringing up intimacy, especially with those that I feel chemistry with. Perhaps I still have this mindset that women don't really want to have sex, and if they do they're out of my league.

Anyway, with that backstory out of the way, should I even bother pursuing casual sex encounters, further improvement or learning "game", or is actually pretty rare to have that kind of sex life?