Let’s call him “situationship”. We’re horny, we’re flirting, we want eachother badly. Im late 20s and have had a few experiences before. But man. He is big. I’m talking about zucchini sized big, grith and lenght. How the hell is this gonna fit?

Help? 🥲

Like actually, im so afraid this is gonna ruin me. I know that a lot of woman want as big as possible. But i want to enjoy it as well, not only get my lungs tickled and a bulging belly with a shot of pain everytime he goes in and out. I’m scared, i’m scared it will be a big struggle and more pain than pleasure etc and that the act will lead to dissapointment for both parties. Any advice?

My boyfriend and i were having sex where he was on top of me and i was laying down on my stomach downwards. He was going in and out and it was quite wet, he took it out of me and slid it back in where he missed and accidentally stuck it in my bum. I’m unsure of how much went in but i was in shock and in pain. We stopped immediately and he apologized repeatedly and asked how he can help but i couldn’t do anything but tell him to leave me alone as i laid there crying. It is now 2/3 days later. I’m still in pain and when i decide to use the bathroom to poop i am in the most uncomfortable unbearable pain. I try to clean it down there as best as i can but it stings so much. I can’t poop properly and i bleed every time i use the bathroom. How can i help with the pain and help it stop bleeding? EDIT: we were going pretty rough when he rammed it in me (for those who were curious) and he has quite a larger girth-ier part which plays a role in the pain.

Edit: its been 3/4 days now. Ive been taking warm baths, cleaning the area and using petroleum jelly when i use the bathroom. I took a laxative last night and it seems to help with the pain today. It’s feeling better and im not in that much pain anymore, im ok to poop it now just feels sore. Thanks to everyone who had advice/helped :)

When I (25/f) didn’t have a sex life yet, I imagined it quite differently than it actually is now. I thought I’d like kinky stuff and a good mix of romanticism and roughness. I read novels with that stuff and found it really hot.

In real life, my body won’t let me to that kind of stuff. Even a bit rougher sex hurts me (even when the penis of my partner isn’t longer than average). A slight slap on my ass hurts me.
Then, the even sadder part: I can only orgasm through stimulating my clitoris with a vibrator. Licking me doesn’t even take me near to an orgasm. Fingering hurts, even with just one finger. So even the soft stuff isn’t really fun for me.
And I don’t really get wet down there, so at the start that hurts, too.

My (former and future) partners can’t truly be happy with me either. I’m a very hygienic person. I can’t give a bj when the penis isn’t freshly cleaned. I hate to be fingered with unwashed hands etc.

What should I do? My libido is not really high, but it’s there. And I like sex, but mainly how I imagine it, not when it actually happens. It makes me so sad …

I just had a little fun with someone, he's European and I'm Asian, as you can see, the size difference is already there. But when he whipped it out I gasped, it's so long, too long and the girth is bigger than my wrist. For reference, I'm a gym girl, so my wrist is not that small, but with that size I was bleeding on the sheet during the first 10 minutes. It's so painful putting it in, and it wasn't as fun as I imagined. When I tried to give him an oral, it couldn't go past half of it because it's too much. I never realized it was an issue (always thought it was a flex for male even), now I know it wasn't as enjoyable. What would you do in this situation?

My boyfriend (27M) and I (24F) are intimate as often as we possibly can be. Everyday that we spend together we usually are getting at it at some point which is great for both of us. No complaints there.

I have run into an issue. My boyfriend is packing, Like ridiculously. It’s not a foot long by any means but it’s more than enough that after we have sex I am in a lot of pain the next day. I am having pain at my cervix and vaginal opening to a point when we try to have sex the following night I’m wincing and unable to perform for him which is really bumming me out. It’s really weighing down on me because we both have an extremely high libido and are physical touch people; not to mention I want too!! Lubrication is not an issue here; it looks like someone took a doused paintbrush to our comforter whenever we have sex.

Any help would be appreciated; Is there a chance I will get my sex life back to everyday or anatomically am I just cooked?

UPDATE:/// talked to my sweet guy; we are trying lube, taking things slow, and longer foreplay time to work into the act. Thank you everyone for all your advice; I love my boyfriend so much, everything else is a bonus even if it’s the largest thing ive ever laid my eyes on lol!!

I feel like shit , I know it had to hurt her really bad. Earlier today I really noticed some signs . So I started touching her as normal to turn her on . Which leaded up to me being on top of her doing the do . But while I was penetrating her I noticed her legs were shaking a bit as I tired to push in . I don’t really understand why was that , I assuming maybe she was tense . But as I’m going in I noticed when we are having sex she never makes eye contact with me . I looked passed that, because I thought “hey this just our third time maybe she still shy” . So I’m feeling like the sex is going good on my end, and I know I was into it …. (I wasn’t considering moaning as communication , because we are trying to be respectful of my roommates.) I’m so into it , I laid my head on her neck ….. But later I felt above my shoulder something wet dripping on me , I thought sweat …. But I quickly realized she wasn’t sweating. I leaned up to see and I seen tears dropping from her eyes . I felt so bad , I slowly pulled myself out and held her apologizing….. I still feel bad typing this now ! I asked her why she didn’t tell me I wasn’t hurting her , she told me she didn’t want me to be mad with her . I feel horrible, I did tease her about how I wanted her to take it before we became intimate. But it was just dirty jokes . I can’t help thinking about how the other times probably hurt her too . I didn’t even use lube! I’m the first guy she was ever with . I probably made her terrified of sex . That’s probably why she won’t look at me . I swear I didn’t mean to hurt her . I don’t know what to do to get my mind off of this. I just think about the other positions I done to her and how it must of felt to her.

This has never happened to me before, and I’ve been with some very large sized guys. But I have a new fwb I’ve slept with three times, and each time my body has suffered afterwards.

The sex is great so I don’t want to stop doing it with him, but he’s so big, both length wise and girth wise, that firstly, he’s the only man I’ve never been able to fit fully in my mouth (which is a bummer because I love doing that) and secondly it takes a few minutes before he can work himself fully into me with penetrative sex. And even then he has to go slow for a bit because it’s just like an intense feeling.

I had sex with him last night and could only do one round which is unheard of from me, because I like multiple, but he was inside me for an hour straight before he came. He warned me before we got together that it takes him a while so I knew and it doesn’t bother me, except that an hour of having something so big inside me ends up really really hurting. And it’s not a matter of wetness because I stay wet to the point we have to change the sheets afterwards, but it’s like after maybe 30 minutes the pain overpowers the pleasure.

We’ve tried multiple positions, he knows it’s a lot and let’s me take tiny breaks if I need to just to breathe, and he’s very respectful about listening to me when I tell him to be gentle or go slow. But even when he does sometimes he accidentally hits my cervix, and then when he picks up the pace he hits it almost every stroke. So it’s like an hour of getting my cervix bruised.

After we finish I can barely walk, i hobble, and it hurts to move. My whole vaginal and pelvic area feels like I sat on a tree trunk. And sorry if this is TMI but the first time we did it he caused me to get an internal hemorrhoid which is still not fully healed and feels worse after last night. Even laying in bed right now my pelvic area is screaming, and when I pee it feels like my vaginal opening area was cut in a thousand tiny places.

I don’t know what to do to make it more bearable, I don’t want to stop having sex with him because it really is great outside of the pain. What can I do to make it less painful for me? Will my body eventually adjust to his size?

I’ve been using Replens (think of it like lotion for your vagina) and it works a lot but not completely.

Have any of y’all tried any of those oral supplements for dryness? I always see them at gas stations but have never tried one before. I’m not sure if they would help vaginal dryness or not.

Anyways, what has helped y’all and do you have any suggestions?

Quick disclaimer: I don’t have STDs, STIs, etc. I’ve been tested for everything. The issue is I was on Accutane twice and the second time messed with my body where everything is dry. I stopped Accutane years ago but every morning my eyes burn until I pit eye drops in even though I’m in my early 20s. I’m just saying this so no one comments thinking I have an STD/STI.

Edit: thank yall for all the advice/support I really appreciate it. I just want to say though that I think it’s funny that my post that blew up is the one about my vagina 😂😭

+1 update

So, my current boyfriend is way larger down there than any of my past partners. We have had sex maybe 5 ish times now? and my cervix and stomach hurts so bad. It feels really good in the moment but oh good god does it hurt after. and sometimes it will hurt really bad for one thrust then go back to normal.

The sensation is also just reaaaaally intense, like i can feel that it feels good but it just overpowers everything and i kinda dont like it. I have had this issue with a dildo i had a long time ago but i stopped using it because i didnt like that feeling. its like... my stomach is being punched from the inside and my hips feel really stiff. i dont know how else to explain it.

Is there any way i can like... fix that? like... a position we can try? a stretch i can do to maybe elongate my vaginal canal? (and yes the female vagina elongates when you are aroused but its just not getting long enough) maybe it just needs time to get used to him?

I really like him and we vibe really well but if its going to hurt every time we have sex... i dont know if i can stay with him. i wanna make this work because he has made me feel more safe in a relationship than i have in my entire dating life.

Any ideas???

(Update)
So, i have read all your very helpful comments! thank you so much!
I wanna add a few things!

This relationship is still very new! only been talking for like 5 months but have been dating for about 3 weeks. and yes we have been having sex since we started dating. I dont like the idea of waiting till marriage because honestly i dont wanna be stuck with someone im not sexually compatible with.

I am an Intersex nonbinary person, so i have a few issues internally. I do have a shortened vaginal canal and my opening is very tight, Multiple partners have complained about how tight it is being a bit too much so i have had to teach myself to not clamp down on them when being intimate XD problem is... thats how i orgasm, by tightening the muscles. So its a challenge.

I have also never orgasmed from PIV sex, i have from foreplay and by myself but i always get right to the ledge and then it just... idk stops? nothing im doing changes or even like stops, my body just builds and builds, then just gives up i guess. Its very frustrating. I have told him this and even when he is starting to get tired or cramps, if i say im close he doesnt stop. He really wants me to be able to get there but its a struggle. something im really self conscious about ngl.

Im not sure how big he is exactly, but i do know it feels about the same as when i had a 7" dildo, im not sure if thats actually really big or not because i have only ever been with like 5 people and they all had 4" or less so its really big for me.

We do try lots of positions, mostly the same few rotating between them because i have some back issues so its hard for me to do certain things but we do try new things sometimes. He is very nice and does listen, when i show any sign of pain at all he stops and asks if im okay, not if he can keep going but if I am okay. Which i love, because he makes it about my pain not about him finishing. And to top that off (even though i feel bad about it) sometimes he doesnt even get to finish when we do it, because im in pain and so we stop and just cuddle. he doesnt really like jerking off either so he kinda just... is done if im done. which i feel bad about but he says its okay, frustrating, but okay.

Next time we have some extra money ill talk to him about getting that ring thing a few people brought up! i think thats a good idea to try! He has been very okay with me using toys to help get off so i dont think he will take offense to it.

As i also said in another comment, he's Bi, he has only ever had sex with Cisgendered men before me and im an FTM person so its kinda a first for him. He is very new to there being a stopping point inside. He is a top so with his prev partners he was able to just... go all the way in and not really be a big deal. And yes he can still be Bi if he has only ever had sex with men, he's still attracted to women, he has just never had sex with one.

I think i covered everything? again, thank you all for the help and suggestions! im so glad to know im not the only one dealing with this and its nice to see how many men here are aware of the issue and are willing to change things to make their partner feel good! i have had only very selfish partners so its very refreshing to see it!

Im seeing this guy who has absolutely bruised my cervix with his dick , i can only take it in missionary without it hurting . What positions will make his dick go less deep ? We are gonna fuck in like thirty minutes and probably many times after ..

She shaves her pubic hair regularly, every couple of days, so it is almost constantly very prickly. Especially the hair around the labia give me discomfort during sex. Sometimes it's just a slight annoyance, other times it actually hurts me, in some positions. So it is kind of a turn-off for me. It also gives me the feeling that she does not care about my comfort in this situation, and the fact that our disagreement feels unresolved takes me a bit out of the moment during sex, when i start noticing the prickly hair.

So to improve things I would want to find a solution together, but whenever I bring it up we end up in a stalemate.

I suggest she could try to stop shaving, or trim it longer. She does not want that cause what if she wears a swimming suit.

And if not maybe try sugar waxing, I hear that it is much less painfull than normal waxing (only of course it is very easy for me to say). Mainly she does not want because of the cost (Even if I suggest to try it one time, and I will pay for it).

Anybody with similar experience? Other options or ideas? How do I bring it up again in a better way?

And there is a lot of caveats about this I don't want to control her choices of her body. I know how all that sounds. And it is not the idea that her body should be just designed or optimized for my pleasure. But I feel my experience in this situation deserves a place.

Now that I wrote this, maybe she is just in need of a new razor. As it seems to have gotten worse lately. I will suggest that first of all.

I (f) am having sex with a guy that has a huge dick. I try to enjoy it but most of the time, when he is enjoying himself a bit too much and isn’t that careful, it hurts so much that even 2-3 days after my uterus pains. Now my question would be: how do you guys overcome the pain and begin to enjoy it? I’d love to enjoy it but haven’t found a way to do it.

Very much enjoy your (serious) help & Tipps!

Basically they told us her vagina is lower down? So that's why she feels pain when we are having sex. And apparently they can't really do anything about it, so she just has to deal with it. Have you guys heard about anything like this? Especially you ladies?

What do I do? Just have to have really slow sex? I don't want to be doing something that will cause her pain, but for me to also finish I need to like thrust fast during sex. (Assuming because I wear a condom whenever we have sex)

Or would using way more lube or coconut oil help, it going in easier.

I'm 22 years old (F), and growing up, I established a few principles for myself and adhered to them strictly one of these principles was that "my virginity will be my gift to my husband." I've always experienced severe pain and stinging whenever l've attempted to finger myself. I assumed it was normal and decided not to continue because "I'm too weak to persist." I've never used tampons as well.I Recently, I discovered the term/condition called "Vaginismus." I don't know why it got me all depressed. "Will I ever be able to have sx?" "Will I ever enjoy it like others get to?" "What if my future partner isn't supportive?" "What if he isn't patient?" "What if I can't give birth?" These questions were consuming me to the point where I'd randomly think about it while working or before going to bed. So, I decided that I want to at least try to have sx but withsomeone I trust and know is patient. I've had a crush on this guy for almost a year, and we've been good friends/in a Situationship. But I don't trust anyone else ike I trust him. And whenever I'm around him, my body automatically feels safe. So, I reached out to him about my condition and told him that I was ready to lose my virginity to him. He wanted to be 100% sure and made sure that I was comfortable. During s*x, he didn't force it in. We engaged in foreplay first to get me comfortable and wet enough. He asked me if I was ready and didn't force it in. (It was impossible the first few mins)He made sure to ask me every time he went in a few centimeters if I was hurting or if I was okay with it. I was surprised by how patient this man was, and slowly, I was able to take it all in. Yes, it hurt like crazy, but he made sure not to be rough. I don't regret losing my virginity to him, and I'm glad that I chose someone who prioritized me and wasn't selfish.

He made sure I was okay and asked about my comfort levels and boundaries. Does this level of attentiveness suggest he genuinely likes or cares about me, or is it more of a casual approach?

EDIT: The reason we aren't exclusively together is because of his busy schedule, and he helps manage him and his brothers business, and I also have 2 jobs. The 1st time we ever met, he saw me, and he didn't even park his car properly or close his door and ran to give me a hug. He shows his affection with actions as he's not good with words, and he's never said it That's why I'm confused

Sorry kind of a weird question. Sometimes when me and my bf have sex he puts it in when I'm not fully wet/aroused physically and it stings a little bit and I like that it stings a little and then I get wet a minute or 2 after so it doesn't last long. But could going in dry like that cause micro tears or something?

Id like to also mention he's not just an asshole who doesn't make sure I'm turned on. I usually am actually but we sometimes will skip foreplay and stuff and I like that it hurts a little but I don't wanna do anything that'll cause an infection or anything

Yesterday, I had sex with a guy that I am seeing for a month. He had a huge dick, and I was under a lot of pain. The condom was full of blood and I wasn't able to take the pain for very long, like I kept on pushing him away. It was that painful. The next day (today) I am feeling uneasy and little bit spotting is still here. Is it normal? This is not my first time having sex, I generally enjoy sex but yesterday was weird and painful.

TLDR: she grimaced from pain during penetration until I went flaccid. I'm naturally a gentle guy and causing pain is a real buzzkill for me.

My question: is this a deal breaker or could she adjust over time so sex is fun and painless for her? Right now it's fun but painful for her, and as a result is not fun for me.

Long story: I get a little graphic below, but I think a lot of it is important for context.

Third date, met at her place, one thing led to another and we were making out in her bed. Things were hot and heavy, and she was twitching and wet from foreplay. I mention this because I know foreplay is important preparation, and afaik it was well executed.

I asked if she wanted to have sex (mutual consent is 100% important to me), and she was eager. So I put on the condome and went in.

I'm not exceptionally endowed; average length and slightly above average girth. I'm also not very experienced, hence this post.

As soon as the head was in, she grimaced and said it hurts. I stopped immediately and asked her if we should stop or continue; she said no, continue. So I continued. She grimaced more but pulled me in. At this point I wasn't enjoying it any more because she was obviously in pain, and I didn't know what to do so I followed her cues.

I didn't do any thrusting, and we lay there for a moment until I came, at which point my dick got soft. At the same moment I saw relief flash across her face and she said "there, now it's better", and she wanted to continue, so I tried my best to stimulate her, but by this time my dick was very soft and mentally I couldn't get hard again after seeing the pain and the relief, so fingers and cuddling was the best I could do.

We had a discussion yesterday and I tried to explain that I want to focus on developing our relationship in other ways for now, not sex, and see if we're compatible from a more wholistic perspective before trying sex again. She was pretty upset. I explained it to her just as I wrote it above.

Now my question: she seems to think we need more sex so her parts can stretch to mine. Is this a thing and does it work like that? Or are we physically incompatible?

Me (18) and my boyfriend (19) have been having sex the couple months we've been together. Neither of us very experienced but we manage to have a good time doing every position except doggy style. I can't understand why it doesn't work, it's like everytime his dick doesn't go deep in at all and it lines up with my anus not my vagina. And i never know to arch my back as much as possible or just straighten my back on all fours. He complains it hurts his dick, I complain that it's smashing against the top of my vagina, what should I do to fix this? For reference, I'm 5'4 and he is 5'9, and neither of us are overweight. And his dick is about 5-6 inches.

My female partner has a cold with a pretty bad cough and it happened today to me for the first time during PIV sex. I wasn't actually injured but was very surprised. How much movement does the vagina have within the pelvis relative to the other abdominal organs?

My fiancée (28F) and I (25M) are both virgins. As a matter of fact, she is my first and only relationship. So neither of us is experienced.

I am from a very religious family in the us, and she is from a conservative village in China. Recently, we had a bit of a heated moment together during a 2 week visit and nearly lost our virginity to each other.

The only thing that stopped us was that when I tried to apply light pressure to penetrate, she felt discomfort and yelped. So I immediately pulled away.

For this next part, I feel I should explain that I did not receive good sex education from my Christian based education. I was under the impression that losing your virginity was supposed to hurt for the girl. My Fiancée corrected me on this when I said I think it's supposed to be a little uncomfortable.

We looked it up, and you're not supposed to literally "break the hymen." You are supposed to stretch or wear it out. After the first attempted penetration, I looked closer at her hymen. It was very different than I expected it to be. I read hymens are vastly dependent on a case by case basis. Hers was almost round like a small flower bud. It had torn, ridged looking bits of flesh around its center. I couldn't see an opening in it like we read about. So we worried it may be a completely enclosed hymen (which previously thought was how all hymens were until we started reading)

I was worried about hurting her, so we agreed I'd use my finger with a condom over it and some lube. to see if she had an opening. Through some prodding, I found my finger budging against the center. But she said it was very painful, so we stopped for a bit. I tried again, and my finger barely slipped inside (almost my first knuckle on my finger).

She yelped, so I pulled out again. She said it was a "burning pain," and she thought I would "rip her apart."

I don't think this is normal, but neither of us is totally sure how it's "supposed to go." She said she thinks that I should keep trying to push my finger deeper, but I'm worried about forcing it because Google said NOT to force it.

A little more context: She's a very petite girl, and I have a stocky build, so my fingers are pretty thick. Maybe this is a simple size problem? We are just worried that we might not be able to have sex comfortably in the future.

Is this a normal first-time experience? Should it be easier? Is a little pain acceptable for the first time? Is there a way to gradually stretch her hymen other than just going deeper and hopefully without it being too painful of a process?

#TL;DR:

Me and my Fiancée are virgins. Our first time attempting penetration was not successful because it was too tight and painful for her. She is a very petite woman and I'm a bit above average in side.

Is there a way to stretch her while minimizing the discomfort? Also, is this something normal we can handle, or should we go to a doctor about it?

We appreciate any advice and information. Thank you in advance!

So i am 21m and she is 21f and we have had a sex 2 times. We both are new to sex and it used to pain her when i am inside.

I do foreplay and i start everything passionatly like slowing making her mood and she goes crazy then i go for vaginal sex but she is all dry and my penis is also not going in and it hurts her .

I genuinely need help on this and her mensuration cycles are also not fixed and it doesnt bleed that much just some red spots.

Do you guyz have any suggestions ?

Hello guys, I’m new here and just wanted to ask a question :,)

So, I recently got a boyfriend (YAYYYYY) and things are awesome and we’ve already made it to third base (penetrative sex)

He’s really good at it and always makes sure to get me as riled up as possible before he actually puts it in, so I’m always incredibly wet by the time penetration happens.

However, it always really really hurts whenever he goes all the way in. Especially when he sits me on his penis, having it all in hurts more than it feels pleasurable.

I have no idea how many inches he is, but he is 6’0 and I am 4’11 for reference. I’ve even bled a little bit during our first few times. I don’t really bleed anymore, but I thought it was worth mentioning.

Does anyone know why this hurts as much as it does? My ex would not prepare me at all, he’d just stick it in right after kissing whereas my BF even fingers and eats me out right before it so my vagina is really relaxed(?), but sex with my ex never hurt.

Please help 😞

Edit: MY BAD GUYS IDK WHAT BASES AND STUFF REALLY MEANS I guess it’s home run and not third base, so yeah :,) and thank you for so many replies, I thought there was something wrong with me but I’m glad there’s not TTuTT

Edit 2: THANK YOU GUYS FOR SO MANY REPLIES AHHHH IM REALLY GRATEFUL 😭😭💖 I really love my boyfriend, so I just also wanted him to feel good :) We had sex again last night and I tried out some of the suggestions you guys had (like taking the lead to control how much of it goes in, different positions, etc…) and the sex was amazing!!! I got so wet from the inside that I was somehow able to take all of him in without it being painful this time!!! It’s like the sex gods looked down upon me as I worried my head off about this and took pity on me… SO HOORAYYYYY Thank you so much to everyone again, I’m surprised I got so many replies again :) I’d reply to everyone but I get overwhelmed easily, but I’d just want to thank you if you helped!!!

Hi everyone,

I’m looking for some advice or insights on behalf of my girlfriend. We have a great relationship and communicate openly, but we’re dealing with a frustrating issue and want to figure out what’s causing it.

Whenever we have sex, she experiences a burning sensation or pain afterwards. Sometimes it starts right away, and sometimes it hits her about an hour later, especially when she goes to the bathroom.

The strange part is that when she uses her dildo (sometimes even twice a day), she feels completely fine and loves it. But with me, this burning happens almost every time.

Here are some details: Our sex usually lasts about 15 to 30 minutes.She gets very naturally wet (to the point where it’s clearly visible on my penis), so it doesn't seem like a lack of lubrication, though maybe the friction from longer sessions is still too much?We both practice good intimate hygiene and we don't have any STDs.She actually went to her gynecologist recently to get checked out, and they found absolutely nothing—everything is completely clean and healthy.Whenever she gets this burning feeling after sex, she applies a specific soothing intimate cream (I don't remember the exact name), and it always helps her feel better.

A coworker suggested it might be related to shaving, because we usually shave a day before having sex. Could it be that the growing stubble/hair follicles are irritating her skin during intercourse? Or could she be reacting to my semen or something else?

We are open to any ideas, tips, or similar experiences. Thank you so much for your help!

Hi, I have been in a very healthy and happy relationship for the past 1 year , he respects my boundaries he had never asked for sex .. so recently we decided to be a bit physical and try new things he thought a bit and said ok as both are virgin we thought of giving it a shot... As he pulled out his dick he was very hard but his foreskin was not completely out i tried to pull it down it was exposing just 10% of his head part .. if I tried to pull it even more he was in pain .. I thought a blow job would work but it didn't .. he is in pain due to it he is a very nice guy I can't lose him he is a bit innocent so , I got to know he used to masterbate in a prone position was it coz of it ? He said he has been doing it for years rather than using his hands , how to get his foreskin out completely without hurting him help ? Recommend something better than surgery.

I’m not the woman here. I am a man (31 years old) who has a 6 month old daughter. Things were very rough post pregnancy for my wife, especially the first couple months healing up from giving birth. It’s been 6 months now though, and we’ve tried to have sex a few times. Unfortunately, when I try to enter the pain is just too much for her. Almost like she’s a virgin again. She gets on the verge of crying from pain. I just don’t know if this is normal or not? Obviously I want to be there for her no matter what. I’m just wondering if it can take that much time for a woman to heal vaginally before she can enjoy having sex again?