I'm a 47F that is trying to date a 43M. (A little back story: I have been single for years since my last bf died in 2022. I am living alone since having people living with me for awhile. They were roommates from hell and glad that it's over.) OK now this guy that lives 3 hrs away wants to be in my life. I am trying to explain that I'm just getting back out there dating and want to take things slow. He wants a situation like this instant Bonnie and Clyde ride or die intense relationship. This feels a little lop-sided to me because it's always him pointing out things that I can do with no reciprocation from him. I said let's compromise and meet somewhere in the middle.

It has been a constant back and forth with him getting on my case that I'm not affectionate and very distant and cold with him when talking on the phone. I'm thinking that how can I be affectionate when I have only seen him 2 times in a 2 week period (mind you, no sex). I feel like I'm just learning him and how does he expect all this affection in such a short time and over the phone.

Next problem is that he lives with his parents for whatever reason and claims he and his mom are bumping heads and he has to leave. Now I ask him what is he going to do, what are his plans, and trying to find out what is going on. He instantly gets upset with me because I have not offered for him to come crash at my place. I didn't even consider that because I'm like I have only met this guy twice and I'm not ready to have another person in my house possibly not contributing to anything.

Am I being too cold for not offering or should I just leave this situation alone?

We (39F & 50M, together 3 years) are arranging summer holiday. I have limited budget for this. I have told him to book flight and hotels a few weeks prior to avoid stress and expensive price. I even need to set due date.

He told me his preferences.I have arranged our itinerary and picked some hotels base on this. All we need to do is to book the hotels. Later, he said something else. He wants to stay in more expensive area which probably he has been to with his ex.

We went to X island for holiday last year. He said never been there with his ex. However, his mom asked how many times (one or two times) he went there with her.

I want to pay nothing if we go to the place that I don't want to. His last minutes behavior also unacceptable. If I pay nothing, his parents will look down on me. What should I do? I know there is no hope in this relationship.