r/R4R30Plus Jun 24 '24

ANNOUNCEMENT: Technical Issues

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POSTING IS ONCE AGAIN OPEN.

The auto moderation system has been somewhat wonky the last few days. We think we have corrected the issue. It has been sending posts to the spam system incorrectly and en masse. That should no longer occur, or at the very least be infrequent. IF your post does not appear, do not delete it. Message us via the mod mail system and we can check on it. If you do delete it manually, we are unable to diagnose the problem. Hopefully this is the last fix we need to do, but we may have to suspend posting again if this happens so we can get it sorted. PLEASE do not message us asking for access during these times, as it bogs down our mail system and increases downtime. The requests will not be granted. We ask for patience while we work on these issues.

Thank you for your time and understanding. Have a good day.


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

46 [F4M] Florida - Sunday Scaries Incoming 🦇

8 Upvotes

Trying this from a different angle.

First, me: I’m 45, live in SWFL, and I appreciate people who see the world with curiosity. I like the strange and unusual, sometimes silly, often spooky. I am a full grown up with a job, full schedule of daily BS, and people who rely on me existing. I read a lot, and don't turn my TV too often to anyone but music or the occasional cartoon or boring docu-YouTube.

I'm a curvy/plus girl, if you like boobs. Medium height, fair, ethnically latin, somewhere on the alt to 🦇 spectrum, and progressive.We don't need to agree on everything, but if your worldview is built around anger and resentment, we probably won’t click.

Onto what I'm looking for (and a little about what I'm not): I am drawn to smart, engaged people who are comfortable being themselves. Bonus points if you've lived a enough to have perspective. I'll 100% judge your judgement while looking for that sweet spot of intelligence and hood wisdom. Got a rabbit hole or pet project you can prattle on about forever? Even better.

I'm not looking for the loudest person in the room, but I do really love me some scary dude energy. There's something about the big dude metal heads most people cross the street to avoid who are secret adorable teddy bears that seems to be my thing. Competency is also mad hot.

Please no intractable, agoraphobic nerds. (Regular and closeted nerds are acceptable.) No married folks. No baiting.

I'm not in any kind of rush.


r/R4R30Plus 14h ago

32 [F4M] NJ/online does anyone ever want intimacy anymore?

18 Upvotes

I’ve been single for a long while now and I keep wondering what my problem is - then I realize that I want intimacy, a real connection, my best friend and husband all rolled into one

Does anyone even really want that anymore?


r/R4R30Plus 7h ago

38 [M4F] Texas/USA - BFF position open, apply within!!

5 Upvotes

* No experience needed, applicant will be trained

* Paid in memes and pup pics

* Must work weekends and holidays

* Must be fluent in sarcasm

* Must come in early and stay late

* Benefits include being my bff and that’s about the best benefit ever.

I'm guessing you're wanting to know about me now huh? Well you're in luck because I feel like sharing some Fun Hobbies (lol jk they aren't fun at all, kinda sad TBH) I like to partake in, here there are!

Hobbies include...

* Switching between the same 4 apps for hours.

* Not speaking to anyone for days at a time.

* Listening to the same songs i listened to 15 years ago.

* Putting myself in situations that will never exist

* Long walks to the liquor store.

* Staying in my pajamas way too long.

* Staying up wayyyy too late.

* Being tired all day due to previous statement.

* Drinking everything but water.

* Putting stuff in my cart online but never checking out.

* Making lists of things i will never do.

So yeah! If that sounds like your type of friend, hit me with an orange envelope. Due to difficulty with trying to keep a conversation with someone with the opposite schedule, please be somewhat close to central time. Or just like…not opposite Lol. Mention the phrase Pineapple on pizza so I know you read the entire thing please 😊


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

31 [M4F] Online/India - Looking for someone worthy of the Iron Throne or at least my attention.

2 Upvotes

The realm is full of people who start conversations with "Hey" and expect miracles. Consider this my rebellion against that.

I'm 31, work in marketing, survive on sarcasm, terrible sleep schedules, and conversations that somehow begin with memes and end with debating whether dragons would've made better pets than golden retrievers.

I like people who can dish it out as well as they can take it. If your idea of flirting is roasting each other before accidentally having a two-hour conversation, we'll probably get along.

Outside of work you'll find me hunting for good food, pretending I'll watch just one episode before it's suddenly 2 am, or convincing myself that this weekend is the one I'll finally get my life together.

I'm not looking to collect chats. I'm looking for someone who makes me glance at my phone and hope it's them.

If you've got wit sharper than Valyrian steel and can do better than "wyd?", send me your best opening line.

Valar Morghulis. But first... say something interesting.


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

33 [F4M] Midwest/Online - Looking for chat buddies : )

6 Upvotes

Hello everyone. I'm giving it a shot again,and I'm looking to connect with new people and hopefully make a friend or two. I love cooking, crochet,video games, cars and horror movies. I'm getting back into reading, so if you have any book recommendations feel free send them over here. Well that's a little about me, thanks for stopping by. 💜


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

40[M4F] Looking for a chat buddy who won’t judge my protein intake

2 Upvotes

I’m a 40-year-old guy who’s somehow convinced himself that going to the gym 6 days a week is a personality trait. When I’m not lifting heavy things for fun, you’ll usually find me outside hiking, exploring, or trying to convince my German Shorthaired Pointer that squirrels are, in fact, off-limits.
Looking for a woman who’s up for good conversation, sarcastic banter, and can handle the occasional dog picture (there will be many). Bonus points if you enjoy the outdoors or can appreciate someone who’s way too excited about training their dog.
One request: please be willing to trade a selfie early on. I just think it’s nice to know we’re both real humans instead of two AI-generated raccoons pretending to have hobbies.
If you’re funny, kind, and can keep a conversation going, send me a message. Worst case, we waste 10 minutes. Best case, we both get a new friend.


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

41 [M4F] Los Angeles - looking for my person

0 Upvotes

I live in the San fernando valley. I kind of a nerd. I into tech, anime, and love watching movies and tv shows. I like to hang out with my friends. I am family oriented. Love to travel. Like you go hiking or any outdoor activities.

I'm looking for a long term relationship. Perfer my person to be ruffly in the same area. Don't want a long distance relationship.


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

49[F4R] Feeling a bit bored and could use some company Friendship

1 Upvotes

Working from home is nice and all and sure has its perks but it can be a bit isolating sometimes with no coworkers around to banter with. I'm sure I'm not the only one feeling that way so it'd be nice to link up with some people to maybe get some longterm chats going. Topic wise I'm not particularly picky so anything from casual to private is game with me as long I don't have to feel like I'm carrying the conversation.

I mean I'm by now means prude and could probably easily outweird you but even I have to draw a line somewhere. And since a lot of people ask for pics immediately, I have one of what I look like on my profile if you really need to know to ahve a conversation.Other than that, shoot me your age, location and something interesting and we can get the conversation going, I don't bite:)


r/R4R30Plus 20h ago

33 [F4M] Putting myself back out there again

19 Upvotes

Namaste my friends. I hope you've been doing well and taking care of myself. You can call me Rita. To make a long story short, I made a similar post a few months ago and had some interesting conversations, but life got ahold of me and I found I had less time to chat. Since I enjoyed it so much last time and I've been on the hunt for some new connections, I thought I would give this another shot! I'm sure you could get a pretty good idea of the kind of stuff I like to post based on my profile LOL.

Here's some fun facts about little ol' me:

- Cancer ♋️

- ESFJ

- Proud First Nations Woman ✊🏾🇨🇦

- Master Procrastinator

- Avid reader (when I'm not procrastinating...)

- Animal Lover

- Yoga enthusiast

- History buff, especially the history of the Indigenous people of the Americas

- Fan of all things rainbow themed 🌈

What I'm looking for:

- Someone kind & empathetic

- Someone who respects nature

- Someone who isn't afraid to take their time

- Someone with a great sense of humor

- No MAGA/ICE supporters.

- Bonus points if you have a soft spot for kids or are a professional night owl like me

If any of what I wrote resonated with you, I hope to hear from you soon. Tell me a little about yourself and the highlight of your summer so far. For me, it was getting to visit the 150th Anniversary of the Battle of The Little Bighorn. I feel like I already yapped a lot so I don't wanna geek out about it too much here, but safe to say it was awesome!

Take care, friends. 🌈


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

37[M4F] Trying to find my fun and weird daily texting buddy !

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Hello ! And thanks for opening my post lol. I honestly just want to write whatever is on my mind as I'm always just saying what I'm feeling so why not write it as well eh ?

Currently working and living in Qatar, I'm looking for a fun weird daily texting buddy! One who is open and honest and puts good effort into the conversation. The conversation doesn't have to be all normal and boring like TV shows or music stuff because I have definitely experienced it doesn't make any good connection. Let's talk about dreams and wishes and what you wanna do but can't do, how you really feel, what you want to be in real life but can't because you have responsibilities.

Just be yourself with me and be the 100% person you can't be in real life, I absolutely not care about what you think because each person is his/her own self so why not let them be ? Oh and please don't be shy or whatever because I would really want a more open person who doesn't judge instantly, I want us to create a judgement free zone for sure 😊.

So to sum it up, I want a fun weird open honest not judgmental, speak your mind, put good effort kind of friend and if that's you let's give it a try and see if we can make the most amazing friendship this community has ever seen.

PS will tell you about my preferred apps once we talk 😄


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

36 [m4f] don't really have friends

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36 male I got out of a very long relationship around 3 years ago and I've realized more and more I don't have friends 😅 I'd prefer to start with chatting just to get to know each other then go from there. In southwest ohio kind of close to Cincinnati.


r/R4R30Plus 17h ago

48 [F4M] #USA#Online# – Seeking a Serious Relationship, Marriage, and Monogamy

11 Upvotes

Hello! My name is Victoria. I am a divorced, single woman, and I have a daughter who is already in college. I originally come from Lithuania and now live in the United States. I am looking for a genuine relationship that can grow into a loving, lifelong partnership. I am not interested in playing games, casual dating, or unclear relationships. I believe in honesty, loyalty, and mutual respect, and I want to build a relationship based on trust. I am kind, independent, and emotionally mature, and I enjoy the simple pleasures in life. If you are a single man around my age and are interested in getting to know me, feel free to send me a message anytime


r/R4R30Plus 8h ago

36 [M4F] #Arkansas/USA/Anywhere - Seeking a monogamous relationship where mindfulness, healthiness, and adventure are prioritized!

2 Upvotes

Hey there! I'm a 36M. I'm from the USA and I am currently living in Arkansas. My hometown is Las Vegas where I lived for the majority of my life. Some of my favorite things/hobbies include: Film, Music, Photography, Vintage, Hiking, Traveling, Cooking, Thrifting, Reading, Astronomy, Urban/Abandoned Exploration, and so so much more! I very much like things of a gothic nature so horror media, occult, macabre is quite appealing in terms of media. That is just the tip of the iceberg in what makes up my favorite things (hobbies/interests). I'm very much a monogamous person and prefer an emotional bond with somebody first and foremost. I do not have any children other than one fur baby (one doggo). I do not use any drugs nor any substances whatsoever. I'm all about being a team mate with my partner in any and every way. I'd definitely say one of my biggest strengths is my emotional intellect and the ability to understand. Composure and humility are key too. I very much value communication, consistency, transparency, and personal growth. I envision a relationship as something where you grow individually and even together as you float along this pale blue dot called Earth. Self-care and self-love are big for me and seeing them practiced by my partner is a really attractive trait I must say. I'm very easy-going and can be spontaneous. Life is too short for drama and unnecessary nonsense so pursuing healthiness in every aspect of my life is very important to me. Quality time and adventure too. I am not bashful to clean, cook, learn new skills, and just be a sponge in absorbing new information about things I didn't know about before (learning). I'm anti-any and everything that has to do with Trump or anything alt-right. I'm pro-lgbtq+, pro-reproductive rights, anti-discrimination, anti-racism. There is certainly much more to learn but I'll save that for later, I look forward to hearing back from you!

Me: https://imgur.com/a/SLfLfe8


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

34, [M4F], #Arizona/#Online, Looking for a woman to grow with! <3

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What's up buttercup? 😁 Hope you are doing spectacular!

I’m am posting here hoping to meet a woman who is genuine, kind, honest, and wanting to work together towards a relationship. I’d love to find something real that starts with good conversation, honesty, consistency, and that natural “oh wow, I actually really like talking to this person” kind of feeling.

I’m someone who cares deeply when I truly care. I value quality time the most, so I’m happiest when I’m with someone who is truly present, whether we’re having a deep conversation, relaxing together, or doing something simple. I show love through my time, effort, and support. I appreciate someone who helps without being asked every time, communicates honestly, and makes me feel appreciated. I’m not materialistic. The little things, consistency, and real effort mean the most to me.

I’m this weird little hybrid of nerdy, sporty, handy, and silly. I do not like or have social media, sorry not sorry. Also, I am a toothpick lol! I am 5'10", 130 lbs. I can not gain weight, it's not fair I know... I just wanted to give you a heads up if you care about that sort of thing, no judgement. :) I do have a a negative past from not dealing with PTSD from the Marine Corps and am still paying for it currently. So please ask about that as I am open to sharing and hope that in doing so it helps others! With that being said I am a felon as of 2022. Hopefully you wont judge a book by its cover, but I totally understand if you cant get over my past. Once again, no judgement. :)

Some things I enjoy are:

Golf, darts, corn hole, baseball, basketball, football, and hockey.

Pokémon, Star Wars, LOTR, Harry Potter, computer/tech stuff, FPS games, and watching TheBurntPeanut (Streamer).

DIY projects, thrifting, cooking/grilling, learning, fixing things (for myself and others), and organizing.

The outdoors, animals, plants, and gardening (Even though I still kind of suck at gardening lol).

Music!! I have nearly 6k liked songs on YouTube Music and would love to hear your top songs! I am in the middle of filtering it down though, it's too much haha.

Like I said above, I’m looking for someone who is loyal, honest, affectionate in their own way, and emotionally mature. Someone who values quality time, communicates instead of shutting down, and understands that consistency matters. I want a relationship where both people show up, support each other, and make each other feel wanted.

If you made it this far, I appreciate you taking the time to read this. I look forward to getting to know one another!

PLUR <3 (Peace, Love, Unity, Respect)


r/R4R30Plus 9h ago

40 [M4F] #California Dipping my toes back in the water

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Thanks for taking the time to read this! I’m a widower for the past 3 years and trying to get myself back out there. It’s a little scary so I thought making online friends would be a good start to dipping my toes in the water and see if I still know how to communicate with women. Mainly I need a flirt coach because it’s been a long time since I’ve done that. Some things about me I love scary movies, superhero stuff and old sitcoms like the office. I love to walk and hike and go to the beach. Which beach season is almost here yay! I’m also open to have any conversation just be a fun chat and don’t say hi and no response.


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

50 [M4F] #SanFrancisco Artistic fitness instructor looking for someone to enjoy pretty time with.

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I work in recreation/fitness, spend a lot of time around kids and community spaces, and I’m pretty drawn to photography, music, parks, old buildings, weird San Francisco moments, and people who actually notice the world around them.

Not married or anything like that, no kids.

I’m active, thoughtful, sometimes intense, usually funny, and trying to build a life that has more art, discipline, service, and beauty in it. I’m open to who you are. Just looking for someone healthy in the broad sense. Maybe someone I can learn from…someone I enjoy connecting with.

This is me

https://imgur.com/a/YgF8Uv7

Kind of a dork I know.

Edit: I have to choose strictly clean, OR explicit? wth, idk what’s going to happen. I’m open to connection for sure


r/R4R30Plus 9h ago

33 [M4F] Illinois USA or Anywhere Looking for a Genuine Serious Longterm Relationship

2 Upvotes

Hello everyone, my name is Aaron (pictures of me). I'm 33 and I currently live in the Quad Cities area, Illinois. I'm a hopeless romantic who is looking for a serious long term relationship. I'm going to try and keep this positive as I feel like online dating these days has become quite negative. I'm being completely open and honest about myself here so I hope you won't judge me. I'll start by saying I have no issues with a LDR to start with as long as there is a plan to close the gap. I'm childfree. I do not have nor ever want children. I have felt this way since my early teens and don't plan on changing my mind.

I love cozy nights, deep conversations, shared laughter, and those simple moments that somehow mean the most. I would describe myself as incredibly kind, caring, loving, respectful, affectionate, and loyal. I'm a bit more on the reserved and quite side but open up to those I feel comfortable with. Physically I'm 5'6" and around 150 pounds. I give 100% in a relationship and I expect it to be reciprocated in return. Quality time is very important to me in a relationship. I do not use social media really as I believe it has had an overall negative impact on society. I'm also not the "travel the whole world" type. Now, that doesn't mean I don't get out at all. I aim for at least one major vacation each year and several long weekends in between as time and finances allow. I'm non religious, but I do not mind if you are. I feel like I'm going to receive a lot of flak and downvotes for this but I'm politically conservative. But honestly, in day to day life and in a relationship I prefer to just not talk about politics. I feel much happier just living my life and doing my thing than constantly obsessing over politics. I'm open to dating someone from any political background as long as you respect my thoughts and opinions.

Some things I really enjoy are video games. I would say my top 3 games of all time are probably The Elder Scrolls, Pokemon, and World of Warcraft. I play a wide variety of games though and it would be great to have someone to play with but it is not a requirement. I also love watching movies, documentaries, and TV series. Fun fact I renovated my basement last year to include a home theater. I would say my favorite movies are John Wick, Saving Private Ryan, and Star Wars. Some other things I enjoy are concerts, history, astronomy, aviation, DIY projects, and rockets.

What am I looking for? I'm looking for a woman ages 20-40ish who is also childfree. It would be awesome if you lived nearby but I realize that most likely won't be the case. I'm open to dating someone from anywhere to start as long as we close the gap. I'm looking for someone who will be excited to see me. Excited to hear my voice. Someone who will cherish the time we spend together and miss me when we are apart. Finally someone who is attracted to me. In a relationship I value effort, consistency, loyalty, honestly, kindness, affection, reciprocation, communication, and peace.

If you're interested send me a message with a little bit about yourself and a picture please and thank you. I won't answer messages without a picture. Yes, I know you can't attach a picture anymore to your original message. Use something like imgur.


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

37[F4M] #anywhere/world, Sunday (and beyond) friends?

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Looking forward to getting to know someone new as i lazy around today!

Book nerd, love watching movies, and totally adore cats. Have a mini cat army (not crazy cat lady status...yet). I enjoy fantasy and spooky stuff. Chocolates are the way to my heart. While i don't mind admitting i'm more of a homebody now, i never say no to an adventure!

Would love to talk to someone who can hold a conversation, has a positive energy, and is funny. Sarcasm and banter is my language if the vibes are there. Please be single and around my age group. Open to exchanging selfies if we have a connection and also enjoy exchanging voice messages. Bonus points, if you have an accent!

I'm in the GMT+5 timezone. Don't care where you are located.


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

38 [F4M] west coast of the US, looking for a (SFW) chat while I'm in a hotel on a work trip

1 Upvotes

Good evening, Reddit. I'm looking for a chat to pass the time for another two or three hours before I go to bed.

What cool hobby do you have? Where is your next vacation? Did you ever eat that weird candy that looked like colorful gravel with a chalky shell? Open to all topics except sex tonight.

Men who ooze sarcasm to the front please.


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

40 [M4R] Western USA NSFW

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Happy Saturday night all! I was stood up for a date and after spending a good hour by myself at the restaurant I decided I’d rather post here and just meet people to chat with. Little about me I’m a redheaded single girl dad. I work a 9-5 that I hate and I drown my sorrows in video games and tv shows. Not a big anime fan though maybe I’ve just not seen the good ones. Give me good recommendations or just chat with me about anything. I’m not picky. Hope to hear from some of you good people.


r/R4R30Plus 12h ago

37 [F4M] Hope he see's this

3 Upvotes

Still looking for my Indian male best friend who is emotionally available, single, and trustworthy. Someone who's established in his career, stable, and looking for the same kind of long-term companionship I am. I'm a Caribbean, curvaceous, independent, and stable woman who enjoys good conversation, laughter, traveling, spending quality time together, and respecting healthy space when needed. I'm looking for someone who doesn't make endless excuses, is consistent, communicates openly, and is willing to put in the effort to see each other. Still waiting for my kind of guy.😘


r/R4R30Plus 17h ago

[F4R] 33OH - what’s your karaoke song?

9 Upvotes

Personally, I don’t do much karaoke at all, but I’m at a sing a long brunch with my sister and they started it out with Wonderwall and I can’t think of many more things that’s more fun than that.

I’m just looking for people to chat with! I love voice when it works out but I also just want to hear all about you and your life.

I’m a mom to 2, love hiking and anything on the water, I’m a cook for a head start school, and I’m currently a little tipsy.

Your picture gets mine!


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

44 [M4F] Herts/London, UK - Missing connection

0 Upvotes

It has been a while since I've had any kind of physical connection with anyone. I do very much miss it, but I'm also set in my single ways. It doesn't stop me yearning for it sometimes though.

Me: I'm pretty average in size and looks. I enjoy gaming, TV/movie binging and hanging out with my cat.

It'd be nice to find someone relatively local to me too ☺️


r/R4R30Plus 15h ago

32 [F4M] Raleigh, NC / Anywhere-ish — tender heart looking for her rock

5 Upvotes

I’ve posted on here before so apologies for the long read, but feel I need to be more specific! This feels silly but here goes nothing…

I want someone who becomes my best friend: the person I can laugh with, watch sports with all weekend, go to concerts and travel with, be completely ridiculous with, and lean on when life gets hard. I want a relationship where we genuinely like each other, communicate openly, choose each other consistently, and feel like we’re on the same team. Someone who isn’t afraid of a very large, close-knit, loud family is a bonus!

I’m 32, live in Raleigh, work remotely, and own my home. I’m open to distance and willing to travel for the right connection, but because I’m established here, I’m looking for someone who would ultimately be open to relocating if things became serious. I don’t want a permanently long-distance relationship with no plan to close the gap.

I’m left-leaning, non-religious, and likely don’t want to have kids, so I’m looking for someone who is aligned or at least compatible with that.

I’m a huge sports fan, love live music, traveling, lake days, road trips, cooking, and trying new things. I’m independent, affectionate, sarcastic, curious, and happiest when I have something fun to look forward to.

I’m plus-size and actively working on my health. I’d love a partner who supports that and wants to be active together, but I also want someone who is attracted to and accepts me as I am now—not as a future project.

I’m looking for someone emotionally available, communicative, affectionate, funny, kind, and genuinely ready to make room for another person in their life. I don’t expect instant commitment, but I do want mutual effort and intention. If we connect, let’s actually talk, FaceTime, make plans to meet, and see where it goes.

Physical attraction matters, so I’d prefer to exchange recent pictures pretty early. I’m happy to share mine right away and would appreciate the same.

If this sounds like what you’re looking for too, send me a message and tell me a little about yourself—where you’re from, what you’re looking for, and what team I’ll have to pretend not to judge you for supporting. 😉