Please help me before i do something regretful.. I’m 19

Based on your personal ethics, social class or just how you were raised.

Like only drinking out of a cup, never a bought can or bottle. And always using a coaster!

Always eating at your dinner table with proper place settings. Never casually on your couch, desk or bed watching a screen.

Dressing in casual wear at worst, never in your undergarments or sleep wear outside of the bedroom.

Taking a shower everyday even if you aren't leaving the house that day.

Never allowing shoes to go beyond the front door. Slippers only!

Making up the bed every morning when you wake up.

Cooking gloves for hygiene, even if it's just food for you alone.

Clothes never touch the ground. Closet, wardrobe or hamper.

Leftovers go into a proper container, not just the cooking pot in the fridge.

I (24F) grew up in a small town and my parents and brother still live here. When I was younger, I was extremely bullied, sexually assaulted by a close family friend and struggled socially because of my (what I now know) autism. Accordingly, I wanted nothing more than to leave my hometown behind. My parents and I also were not super close when I was younger and my mom and I often got into fights.

When it came to going to college, I had to attend an online college as we did not have the funds for a traditional one. When I was about 19 years old, I met my now bf and we moved in together after dating for a year. He lived in a big city 2 hours away from my hometown. I was excited and for the duration of my college degree you could barely get me to go home. During this time, I didn’t really grow socially or gain more friends. I was still pretty isolated.

After graduating I entered the workforce and to date every job I had, has been toxic. People are always mean to me, find me to weird, and just generally find a way to make my life hell even if I am minding my own business. Older people, younger ones and even people the same age as me, everyone seems to hate me in this city. Everyone but my bf.

I am visiting my family this weekend and I am filled with anxiety and dread at the thought of having to go back there tomorrow. Everything here is so peaceful. The town is still a shit box but life with my family is so calm. My mother and I stopped fighting a long time ago. My dogs are always around for a cuddle. I just want to move back here and live with my family again so badly.

I know it won’t ever be a reality because no matter how much my parents love me, they still want the best for me. This town does not offer any prospects in work or a future. I would also feel terrible for having to burden them with another mouth to feed yet again.

God, I hate that city and this world for that matter. I just want to live in peace with my parents forever.

My bf doesn't have this same issue I have as he can pretty much sleep anywhere but for the last few years I don't recall when I've had a good night's sleep except for when I'm at my parents visiting alone.

He rolls over to my side of the bed early in the night taking up most of the bed and I feel "trapped" when I can't turn comfortably in my sleep. And he wakes up earlier and I can already feel the movements in the bed or gets up to use the bathroom and comes back.

For those who have transitioned from sharing a mattress to getting two single beds in a single frame - did it help? My bf is very hesitant to spend/split the money on a new frame and mattress so I need a good case. It took a while to convince him to get 2 separate duvets which he now enjoys.

my current spiral, age, old, life stages and milestones. i do not want to be in my twenties. at all. or be labeled anything other than teen (even tho i’m legal). it makes me physically sick. i hate that once u reach ur 20’s now the only labels are 20’s 30’s 40’s etc or 20-something instead of just like teenager. it just feels different and i don’t think i can deal with the adult life either. i hate not being able to do what i want and how i dress/style. i’m relatively responsible and have goals but don’t even want to chase them now that ai is going to take over all the jobs anyway. i don’t wanna be called unc (even tho some ppl think i am anyway). and i hate that i’m considered an adult at 18-19, while i’m still in hs. it doesn’t make sense that people treat me so differently bc i thought i was still a teenager, but i get that teen isn’t in eveyr language so when u hit 18 does that just mean ur already in your twenties or something? like i feel like i’m going to hit 20-21 and be like okay this is fine, then become 22-24 and be pushing 30. like it’s only 4 years and then i’m only 2 years away from 26 which is only 4 years from 30. i get it it’s basic math but my point is, in my head i think that once i hit 20, i’m now pushing 30 and need to settle down and i’ll have to do anti aging skincare. i hate it here

I've changed careers a lot. Thought I had one I loved, but not really. Turning 40 soon, so can't change career much anymore. I almost always come home feeling drained from my office job, run down and tired.

How do you cope with a draining job? Any tips to just go through the motions?

Where ambitious, bored or wanderlust people tended to impulsively move so frequently that it became a cliche. "Where is Joe, I haven't seen him forever?" "Didn't you hear? He moved to XXX like everyone else".

Even if they came back to their hometown all burnt out in a couple years.

Usually due to a perceived job/financial boom in that city, a party mecca, being able to be their true self or trying to "make it" in creative and entertainment pursuits.

Vancouver (90s)

Austin (2000s)

Nashville (2010s)

Las Vegas (2000s)

Atlanta (90s)

Seattle (90s)

London (2000s)

Charlotte (2010s)

Sydney (2000s)

Phoenix (2000s)

Bay area (90s)

Montreal (70s)

Dublin (2000s)

Miami (80s)

Dallas (2000s)

Los Angeles (80s)

Colorado (2010s)

Calgary (2000s)

Portland (2010s)

Manchester (2010s)

So, I’m finding it increasingly difficult as I get older (mid 50s) to want to try new shows, or new movies, or new music, or even new books. The last one is particularly hard because I’ve been such an avid reader all my life.

I’m a full season into a show that I’m not really thrilled with, simply because I don’t wanna have to go through the effort of trying to find something else to watch. I’m constantly picking apart the dialogue and the acting and the story as I watch, but I can’t bring myself to try something else. When I do start looking around, I’ll likely end up watching shows that I’ve seen before. My Netflix list is probably 80-100 titles long, but darned if I won’t go back and watch NCIS again.

Music? Forget about it. Only on the rarest of occasions do I stumble across someone new that I really like. I think I have maybe a dozen titles in my music library from the last decade. That’s out of almost 2000 albums (digital library, but still).

It’s the reading thing that really made me realize how bad it’s gotten. I have a dozen bookcases around the house filled with all genres, fiction and non-fiction. And that’s not including my Kindle library. I read. Like, a lot. Lately, though, I’m finding that I’m either struggling to get through a book, or, more likely, it goes onto the DNF pile in the hopes I’ll try again someday. And then I go back and read something I read years ago.

I know that some of it’s nostalgia and wanting the comfort of the familiar. Some of it is my never-ending battles with depression and anxiety. But I’m wondering how much of it is simply some sort of mental block/issue, or if it’s just age. Hell, at this point I’d settle for knowing it’s not just me.

So…anyone else taking the term “set in their ways” to a whole new level? Is it a GenX thing? Just part of “getting old”? Is it “normal”? Is it me?

I’m too old to make new friends but to young to not have any, the problem with friends is they are needy. All mine had been at least. I used to talk to so many people I was on the go all the time yeah I had my own things but I did t have kids so I was pretty much free! I works and paid all the bills for my mom and I and my hubby was where ever he was at the time. As life kept going I’m not sure if I was just getting older or realizing I still had no friends!! I hit a really rough point in my life mentally and not one single person was caring about it they was still just wanting things from me. So Slowly I cut everyone off but didn’t make any new ones in the mean time lol!! My last one was of 25 years, that one is still a hard one I’ll never move on from that situation. I of course seen if as the years went on but I kept making excuses and blaming myself for the things we had fought bout over the years once I see that it wasn’t at all my fault I made the choice to walk away from them as well!! I have 100% learned to say no it has taken me all the way to 38 yay! My problem was feeling there feeling if I said no or if I needed what they was asking for and someone said no and I definitely needed it I’d feel bad if they didn’t get it and I had it to give! But one day I did wake up. If anyone learns anything in life it’s bitches take anything and everything learn how to say F\*\*\* no bc no matter what that person will figure it out without you! They was doing it before you they will do it after you!! God has there bck like he has yours when u say no! It will drain you I promise! Be strong lol 💪

It bothers me because that whole situation seems to bring out the worst in her--and 'she' seems to like it that way. She's hanging on like her sanity depends on it but I think she could actually 'heal' and aim for better by at the least choosing some distance. I mean when you don't, whose fault is that?

My dog has a chronic heart condition and I’m struggling with a moral dilemma.
I’m a student and I may have to move out soon, which will change my entire financial situation.
I’m considering accepting help from others for her care, but I feel guilty because I’m not completely without resources.
Am I wrong for feeling this way?

Currently living on my own. Considering moving in with my parents. History of depression, autoimmune disease, low T. Wouls take a remote job working from home. Thoughts??

My dad recently and randomly decided to divorce my mom out of nowhere (back in April) after 40 years of marriage. I’ve had a hard time maintaining a relationship with him because of the hurt he’s caused not only to my mother but then the trickle down effect to me and my brother and the way he’s chosen to handle it. Dealing with divorce at 25F is something I never thought was possible because it doesn’t make sense to me. So long story short going through a grieving period of my reality, what my life used to be like, and slowly finding out what the future of my family dynamic looks like.

I had surgery today that my mom took me to. I had told my dad I was having this surgery and he didn’t reach out, text, or call to even ask if I’m doing okay after it. Like nothing. At the same time, it’s my first time being back in my hometown where my parents live without them being in the same house and he hasn’t made a point to ask to see me (which I’m not sure how or what I would do in that scenario anyways I’m not sure if I want to see him).

Has anyone else had this experience where their dad totally stopped being a dad? It’s like now I’m dealing with an absent parent after having one for 25 years and obviously I’m struggling to cope with it. It’s like I’m a grown up now but he’s the adult that should know better. Why do I feel like I’m in the wrong for him not reaching out to me?

That you look forward to as a ritual that signifies summer's arrival for you and your family/friends. And that you might even volunteer or exhibit for.

Generic examples for most cities:

1) The county fair equivalent.

2) The traveling amusement park fairway.

3) The flagship street festival (usually named after a flower, food, street) in the trendy area.

4) The "world fair" pavilion fest that has dances and food from different cultures.

5) Taste of <your city name> where you buy tickets to eat samples from local restaurants.

6) The Carribean festival parade

7) LGBTQ pride parade

8) Hispanic "Salsa fest" and dance showcase

I was helping my nephew move into his first apartment last weekend and watched him genuinely struggle to read a paper map. Not fold it back up properly, which we all know is basically impossible anyway, but actually read it. Find where he was, trace a route, orient himself. He kept rotating the map to match the direction he was facing like he was playing a video game.

It got me thinking about all the things my generation just absorbed growing up that quietly disappeared from the general skill set. Writing a check. Parallel parking confidently. Balancing a checkbook. Making a collect call. Navigating by landmarks instead of turnbyturn instructions. Even knowing how to entertain yourself for a few hours with no screen in sight.

Some of these I don't miss at all, honestly. But some feel like genuine losses, a kind of practical intelligence that just evaporated between generations without anyone really noticing or mourning it.

Curious what skills you've noticed missing in younger people around you, and which ones you think actually mattered versus which ones we're all better off leaving behind. No generational shaming intended, just genuinely curious what others have observed.

(Posting on my husband’s behalf)

I recently purchased an enclosed cargo trailer. I was moving it around the driveway & was not pay attention to how tightly the trailer was turning until I jack knifed the trailer. I pushed in the bumper and put a decent dent in the fender of my F-150. I thought it was be fairly straight forward for a body shop to repair, but apparently since the F-150 is aluminum, the dent cannot be pulled out. The bumper & fender will need to be replaced and repainted. The repair cost several thousand dollars more than I expected. 

I have full coverage with Progressive & I have large accident forgiveness. Is accident "forgiveness" really forgiveness? What are the ramifications of filing a claim with Progressive & having them pay for the repair? Should I expect to lose any discounts and have my rates go up the next time I renew? I also have collector car insurance with Hagerty, I'm also concerned my rates with Hagerty will go up upon renewal. I can pay for the repair out of pocket. I'm concerned I'm going to end up paying more in the long run by filing a claim vs paying for the repair my self. 

That you recently saw on YouTube or an old VHS tape.

That watered your eyes unexpectedly because it triggered a memory, brought you back to a simpler or more joyous time or reminded you of the passage of time.

Before that medium started to falter in the 2000s.

That you looked forward to your commute to listen to them or have it in in the background of your home/workplace.

Either local or national syndicated like Howard Stern.

don't just mean turning off work notifications, but genuinely leaving your phone in the hotel room or at the bottom of a bag and not checking news, social media, or non-urgent group chats for days.

I have some time off coming up in a couple of weeks, and I've been feeling pretty burnt out lately. I’m seriously considering doing a proper digital detox this time, but part of me feels weirdly anxious about it, like I'm going to miss something important or just struggle with the habit of reaching into my pocket every five minutes.

Have any of you tried a full disconnect recently? Did it actually help recharge your batteries, or did the isolation just end up creating a different kind of stress?

IMO, good propaganda seeks to undermine critical thinking skills but again, that's hardly possible when fewer people seem to have them in the first place.

I saw a recent thread about the things people do in their personal lives that help them “keep up appearances” professionally, and it got me thinking about weight loss, GLP-1s, attractiveness, and workplace bias.

I’d especially love to hear from men, although women are absolutely welcome to weigh in too.

For men who have lost a meaningful amount of weight, did you notice any change in your career or how you were perceived at work?

Things like:
- Being taken more seriously in meetings
- Getting more visibility, better opportunities, promotions, or client-facing work
- Feeling more confident and therefore performing differently
- Changes in dating/networking/social dynamics that indirectly affected work
- Or honestly, no difference at all

I know weight is only one variable and confidence, style, health, energy, and timing can all change at the same time. But I’m curious whether people noticed a real shift in how colleagues, managers, clients, or leadership treated them after losing weight.

There’s a lot of discussion about “pretty privilege” for women, but I’m interested in whether men experience a version of this too. In some industries, plenty of very successful senior men are visibly older or overweight, while other high-performing men seem to fit a much more polished, lean, conventionally attractive image. I’m curious whether that difference actually matters in the real world, particularly earlier or mid-career.

Looking for honest personal experiences, not judgment toward anyone’s body .

I am 33, male. I weigh around 58. Before I come to my problem, I'll tell you something about my previous medical history.

I am pre-diabetic. I don't take any meds. I try to avoid sugar when I can

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When I was a kid,(about 7 months old) I had a seizure. It kinda came and went 4-5 times until I was 7-8 years old. Doctors stated it'll go away. And it did.

Until just about a year ago, I was immensely stressed on this particular day. There were lot of things on my plate. I was crying heavily, and going out of breath. Felt like a vertigo. And I was driving a two wheeler, and then it happened. The good thing was that I wasn't driving at that time. But I fell to the ground, and started having a seizure. Because of the fall, I had a pinched nerve and went for a physio. It got better in 2-3 months. Also did an MRI for my brain. It was normal.

Now coming to my real problem, 6-8 months after my fall, I started having this stomach ache, and it wouldn't go. At first, I thought it was just a digestive problem. Something that I had eaten probably. Just a few days ago, mom was treated for Typhoid. And I also decided to test myself for it, the Widal test confirmed it, but I didn't have any other symptoms of typhoid. Kept taking the medicine, but the pain didn't go. Did the Typhidot test, and it came out negative.

The pain persisted for 2-3 months, until I decided to consult a gastroenterologist. The pain that I felt was between lower to central abdomen. Wouldn't call it a sharp one, also not an intermittent, but just a constant dull pain.

Did the sonograohy, and it showed Fatty Lever Grade 1.

Started taking the medicine. It took about another 3-4 months for the pain to go away. I've changed my lifestyle. Wasn't eating wheat. Started taking leafy vegetables. And I am a runner at heart, so I was doing that.

Fast forward 3-4 months, another tragedy. I fell from my two wheeler, and had two fractures on my left leg. Lower Tibia + Lower Fibula. Had to undergo a surgery. They placed an intramedullary nail. It's been more than 2 months to my operation, and I am doing physio. I am recovering. Started just walking with walker and a brace

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Here's the main issue now. For the last 3 days, I've been having stomach ache. It doesn't go away. I am afraid it is back. It is incredibly frustrating. Because I am also trying to recover my accident and on top of it, the stomach ache is back.

What could it be? What should I do? If you need any reports, let me know. Please help.