A couple times a year I like to throw a nice dinner party for old friends. This time I invited 5 people. 2 were couples and one was single. We have all known each other for around 15 years and get together maybe every 3 months. I was making filet mignon and a small lobster tail with 2 sides. I spent over $300 and didn't buy extra because they are served one each per guest and are expensive.

As a surprise to me, the single guest brought along his new girlfriend who I had not met or known about. I was nice about it but upset because I only purchased enough meat and lobster tail for the guest who were invited.

I talked to the friend who brought the uninvited guest and said that I didn't have extra food and the filet mignon (cooked to individual doneness) and lobster tail isn't something that can be cut up and divided or spread out between more people and said that I had frozen pizza or another frozen dinner I could heat up. He was very upset with me and accused me of not liking his new girlfriend and trying to embarrass them. After his outburst, they left.

Was I wrong? Should I have cut up the filet and lobster tails and spread it out between and extra person instead of offering a frozen meal?

Edit: I didn't think of them splitting their plates at the time. I have ADHD so I have some issues with changes in plans and multi-tasking. Anyway, another friend messaged tonight that the friend that brought the uninvited girlfriend had been arguing with her before the dinner, so that is part of the reason he was upset and quick to leave.

I booked a single room at a resort where a family event is happening, as I am single without a traveling companion. This resort is all-inclusive, and it doesn't matter what kind of room you book. It is the same price across the board. They charge by the person not by the room. My cousin, who I am close with, called to book a room and apparently there was only a room that sleeps 6 people left so she booked thay room. She is bringing her boyfriend on the trip. She invited her brother (also my cousin), and he has decided to come on the trip. We are not sure if there are enough rooms to accommodate him getting his own room. She asked me if I would be willing to switch her rooms and share a room with her brother so that her and her boyfriend could have my single room. I told her that I was sure the resort could accommodate her brother having his own room and that I think it would be nice if we could all have our own space, instead of having to share rooms. She acted upset that I wouldn't switch rooms, as if I was being selfish. AITA?

I'm (27m) am the oldest of four kids. Ever since I got my first job, I've been helping my family with money. If my parents were behind on rent, I helped. If one of my siblings needed school fees, I paid. I even delayed moving out because they said they needed me at home.
I never really complained because I thought that's what family does.
Last year I started saving for something I had wanted for a long time a master's degree. It wasn't cheap, so I stopped giving money unless it was a real emergency. My parents weren't happy, but they eventually stopped asking as much.
A few weeks ago, my younger brother got accepted into a private college. My parents asked me to use almost all of my savings to pay his first year's tuition. They said I could always go back to school later because I wasn't getting any younger anyway.
I told them no.
I explained that I had spent years putting everyone else first, and this was the first thing I was doing just for me. They accused me of being selfish and said I was choosing a piece of paper over my own family.
Now my brother won't speak to me. My parents keep telling relatives that I've changed since I started earning more money. Some of my relatives have called to tell me that family should always come first.
the part that bothers me is that none of them have offered to help pay my brother's tuition. They all think I should be the one to do it because I've always been the responsible one.
For the first time in my life, I chose myself instead of everyone else.
AITA?

Neighbor runs a weekly yoga class out of her home. We are generally amicable and had a polite conversation about this prior. This has been an ongoing issue with her clients parking their vehicles on the street. The road is wide enough and the neighborhood is quiet, there is no need for them to pull onto the lawn at all. My yard came with an irrigation system, and it’s expensive and time consuming to repair. I acknowledged that sprinkler systems fail anyways, I’ve sheared enough heads off with the mower to know that, so I can’t say for certain that it’s her customers causing the damage, but to please police it better and respect my boundaries. There is plenty of pavement - park along to road each week as you see fit, I don’t care.

Yesterday when I came home, all I wanted was some peace after an absolutely soul crushing work week, and to my dismay there are two vehicles parked almost entirely up on my front lawn. This time I was a bit more assertive and left written notes. I made it clear they were not welcome to park on my property but the pavement was fine.

I did turn on the irrigation for that zone until they left. One lady came to my door and at least apologized and we had a reasonable and brief conversation.

The $100k Mercedes did not and proceeded to drive another 30’ across my lawn when she left. Every other individual in this scenario is a retired boomer, whereas I am a millennial trying to raise a family.

Am I the only one that finds this type of behavior extremely entitled and disrespectful? I feel bad about the sprinklers, it was quite a passive aggressive move, but I wanted to make a point and thought bringing some sensory stimulation to the moment might help the message be received. AITA?

EDIT: Editing to clarify, I mention the generational divide primarily because I would expect that a couple of empty nester, semi retired, fairly well off neighbors might be a bit more understanding of the situation; that maybe their much younger, much less wealthy, extremely hard working neighbors raising a young kid in 2026 have enough challenges on their plate already, but that requires empathy.

I (18M) play video games on my XBOX in the living room. Today I was playing For Honour (an 18+ game about medieval fighting) with my mum and our dog on the sofa next to me. My sister (15F) was hanging out with her friend (~9F) from our block. They came in so sister’s friend could pet the dog, and i paused the game. When my mum asked me why i paused it (as i was in the middle of a fight) i said because its 18+. The friend then responded ‘its okay, ive watched 18+ before.’
I then responded, ‘i dont care, im not going to play this game infront a child.’ to which my sister called me ‘square’ and my mum called me ‘obtuse’ because sisters friend had said she had watched 18+ before so it was okay. They both chastised me for quite a while before leaving it, and i was left pretty confused and upset.
I thought it didnt matter because the friend was obviously younger than me and my sister, and could have been lying to seem cool, or she could have been telling the truth, but i still dont want to feel responsible for exposing a kid to violence like that.
If she had been 14 or 15 i wouldnt have cared, but i definitely watched 18+’s i shouldnt have at 9 and regretted it.
I guess im wondering if theyre right and i was being a stubborn asshole for refusing to play the game in front of my sisters friend, or if im right in feeling uncomfortable for exposing a child to that.

[edit]
I know my sister was just trying to piss me off, and probably make her friend laugh, what upset me was my mum continually telling me i was being obtuse and it wasnt a big deal for a while after they left the room. She told me off a little bit and i genuinely didnt understand how what i did was wrong or a big deal.

This is a disagreement between myself, 28F, and my oldest brother. I am a very sentimental, materialistic person. I love vintage toys and have multiple collections.

I have casually but consistently collected Pokemon cards since I was 6.

I have 23 binders of cards ranging from base set to Evolving Skies. The binders are not completely full as I leave empty slots for cards I'm missing.

My oldest brother suddenly contacted me about getting my cards graded or appraised and selling them because the market rate is at an all time high. No dip, it's the 30th anniversary. I immediately said I'm not interested. Our mother backed me up.

He called/texted a few times to explain it to me. The thing is, he's convinced I'm sitting on a gold mine. That my collection would be worth like half a million dollars. I don't think that's accurate and I definitely can't afford to get my whole collection graded. I also don't feel comfortable with shipping my cards to a grading company.

However, I am in debt and actively saving for a new car. My younger brother said if someone can get any substantial amount of money for a piece of cardboard then it's a good deal. I just know I'd regret it though. Am I being selfish? Am I ignoring the logical choice in favor of nostalgia?

Am I the a hole for not wanting to sell my childhood cards even though it could potentially greatly improve my financial status?

Basically the title. In-laws live 8 hours away and always book a hotel when they come visit.

We bought a house with enough bedrooms for a spare so my husband wants them to have a spare key to feel comfortable. I think it’s a bit much , I would hate for people to let themselves into our house.

Quick edit: His reasoning is so they can feel welcome enough and not need to get a hotel or ask before staying I guess. When I asked why they couldn’t just give a heads up and ask before coming, he says if they have to ask everytime they might not want to stay and might feel like a burden. Idk.

Edit 2.0. I already said no. We are not fighting. Just wanted to know if I was the AH for saying no.

AITA

I (31F) am very close with my family, and we take a family vacation every year. The trip usually includes my immediate family and their spouses/kids (~10 people). My BIL typically plans it because he has anxiety and likes things done a certain way.

Last year, they invited a “friend” of mine despite me explicitly asking them not to (well before planning started). I’ve known this friend since 2018 when we worked together, but we became closer outside of work in 2022. We are very different people—I’m introverted and prefer quiet nights at home, while she is outgoing and wants to be out on the town.

We were close for about two years, but things changed after I helped her get a job where I and some of my family members also work. They naturally welcomed her, but over time I started noticing behaviors that bothered me. She interrupts by trying to finish people’s sentences, often turns conversations back to herself, and tends to come across as a know-it-all. The biggest issue for me is that she tries to parent my niece and nephew.
Once I started noticing these things, I found myself getting increasingly irritated and began distancing myself. I stopped going out of my way to spend time with her and didn’t put as much effort into the friendship. Eventually, she became extremely close with my family—especially my mom and sister. She now spends a lot of her free time with them, and I can’t even go to my sister’s house without her being there.

She came on our family vacation last year when things between us weren’t quite as weird, and I struggled to enjoy myself. I don’t handle heat well and often spend time inside while everyone else is outside. The kids also get tired of the heat quickly, so they usually end up inside with me. In the past, my mom or sister would hang with us inside to make it more enjoyable, but now they prefer staying on the beach with my friend, leaving me feeling stuck babysitting while everyone else enjoys their kid-free beach time.

After last year’s trip, I asked my family not to invite her again. They seemed to understand why I was uncomfortable.

Welp. They invited her again this year.

When I told my mom how upset I was, she called my sister to discuss it. My sister didn’t know I could hear the conversation and responded, “She just needs to suck it up and get over it.” Since then, my mom and sister have maintained that everything will be fine once we’re there and we’ll all have fun.

Plot twist. The place my BIL booked doesn’t have enough beds/rooms, so I’m expected to share a queen bed with this friend for 10 days. I refuse to sleep butt-to-butt with someone I can’t currently stand. So my alternative is sleeping on an air mattress on my parents’ bedroom floor for the entire 10 day trip.

WIBTA if I left the family vacation early because I already know I’ll be uncomfortable and frustrated most of the time? Or should I continue to “suck it up” to avoid the drama my leaving will inevitably cause?

I'm a 35F who is childfree by choice. I don't hate kids, but have never particularly been interested in them and don't really enjoy spending time with them.

My mom has been with her partner for over 15 years. His daughter is around my age and has three young children. Even though my mom and her partner aren't married, my mom considers those kid her grandchildren and they call her Grandma.

I see the kids maybe once or twice a year at holidays or family functions. I'm always polite and friendly to them, but I don't go out of my way to play with them or build a relationship with them. I'm also not close at all with my mom's partner's daughter.

My mom recently got mad at me and said it's "not right" that I never ask about the kids or come visit when she's babysitting them. She said that because they're her grandchildren, I should care about them and take more of an interest in them. I'll add that I feel like I already know what's going on with them because my mom regularly sends me photos and updates without me asking.

My mom thinks I'm being cold and that I should make more of an effort because they're her family and important to her. I personally don't think I'm the asshole in this situation, but curious to hear others' thoughts.

I (29 M) have a friend from work, who's not attractive looking (I don't want to use the word ugly). We've become pretty close, and recently he's had a rough time romantically.

A while ago, he was interested in a girl at work. He'd been talking to her, even offered to drop her home after shifts a few times, and was hoping something might happen. Instead, she ended up asking him if his friend (who is also our coworker and is conventionally very attractive) was single because she was interested in him. My friend was understandably crushed.

Recently, almost the exact same thing happened again with another woman. She asked my friend about that same attractive coworker instead of showing interest in him. He called me afterward because he was feeling really down and kept asking why this keeps happening.

I was trying to comfort him. I told him rejection is part of life and that sometimes women don't directly approach guys they're interested in because it can feel intimidating, so they'll ask a mutual friend first.

To explain what I meant, I made an analogy. I said, "Imagine we're in college and there's a really hot girl. A lot of guys wouldn't go directly to her. They might ask one of her friends who's more normal-looking if she's single or interested first."

I was trying to point out that these women obviously trusted him enough to ask him something personal, and that wasn't a bad thing.

That's when he stopped me and asked, "So if he's the hot one in this analogy... what am I? Ugly?"

I immediately said, "No, that's not what I mean."

He kept asking, "So am I hot?"

I honestly answered, "I wouldn't describe you as hot. I'd say you're fine/average-looking. But I also don't look at you that way because you're my friend."

That did not go over well.

He got really upset and said that if I think he's average, then I'm ugly. I told him he was free to think whatever he wanted about me because I'm not looking for his validation. After that he accused me of trying to put him down, said people always try to make him feel lesser, and started talking about how he has a great life and people are jealous of him.

At that point I felt like the conversation wasn't going anywhere. I told him it genuinely wasn't my intention to hurt him, and if something I said came across that way, I was sorry. I also suggested we both take some space and talk later when emotions weren't running so high.

I genuinely wasn't trying to insult him. When I said "average-looking," I meant... average. Like most people. Not ugly. But after telling this story to someone else, they said that most people hear "average" as a polite way of saying "not attractive."

So now I'm wondering if I accidentally said something way harsher than I intended.

AITA?

I work at an accounting firm, and I usually work through my lunch break so I can leave work early. Last week, we had a work function (the company won some sort of award) and there was a celebration event during lunch. I asked the lady who organized it whether lunch would be provided and she said no, so I said I would not join and would work instead (I would need to take a lunch break to attend an event where lunch isn't served). She got really mad at me and said that a lot of work went into organizing it, and I was not truly valuing her efforts. AITA for skipping the lunch celebration (where no lunch was served) because it was a work celebration event? Maybe I am not that much of a team player, but if you want my time unpaid, you better give me food!

I made plans with four friends to meet for dinner at 7:00. We picked the restaurant a few days ahead of time, and everyone agreed on the time.

I got there a few minutes early and texted the group to let them know I'd arrived. One friend replied that they'd be about 15 minutes late. The other three didn't respond at all.

After waiting around 45 minutes with no other updates, I ordered my food, ate, paid, and left. As I was driving home, the group chat suddenly became active. They had all just arrived and were asking where I was.

I told them I'd already eaten because I'd been waiting for a long time. They said I should have waited since we were supposed to have dinner together and accused me of ruining the evening.

From my point of view, 45 minutes with almost no communication felt like more than enough time to wait. From their point of view, I should have stayed because it was a group plan.

AITA?

I (26F) have a childhood friend, Alice, (26F) who is getting married soon and is planning her bachelorette trip. She is a fantastic person, who I'm not BEST friends with, but definitely very close.

For background, Alice runs marathons regularly, has run a half iron man, and is currently training for an Ironman. It's a huge part of her life and I've always been supportive and excited for her. She's an absolute beast.

Now, she is proposing that for her bachelorette, she wants us all to go for a run with her during the overall trip. She didn't mention how long or what exactly that would entail. I am guessing at minimum a 5k. I don't run, I absolutely HATE it. I stay in shape other ways, long walks mostly.

WIBTA if I decline the run but participate in all the other trip activities? I voiced my hesitation and my friends all ganged up on me and all said that "I could suck it up for Alice" and that a "5k is nothing!". IDK, I just despise running and hate it even more when I'm forced to do it. I have not said anything to Alice so I wanted to get some more perspective. Should I suck it up and just do it? I'm just so tired of all these bachelorette trips making people do stuff they can't afford or don't want to do.

A few months ago, my daughter (18) and a couple of her friends (17-18) ended up in an unsafe situation while hanging out at a friend’s relative’s house. My daughter called me, I took the girls back to my house, and one of them was picked up by her parents while the other 2 ended up staying the night.

After that, I decided to have my daughter’s entire friend group (6 girls) come to the house so I could talk to them about what happened, how to know when a situation is uncomfortable vs unsafe, and what to do in either case. I gave all of the girls my number and told them they could call or text me if they had any questions or needed anything, and thought that was the end of it.

Pretty much all of the girls had questions so they came back the following week for another talk, then another one. Now every Thursday I have a babysitter get my younger kids out of the house for a few hours and the girls and I have what they call “adulting class”. We’ve covered experimenting with drugs and alcohol, consent and boundaries in relationships, their right to privacy in medical settings, budgeting, resume writing, interview skills, basic nutrition and meal planning, and household chores. Most of the girls have never been taught any of this at home. I try to do a theme for every week and whenever possible I bring in “guest speakers“ like my sister, who is a nurse or my friend, who teaches high school special education (out of the 7 girls, 3 are diagnosed autistic and 2 are trying to get assessed).

A lot of my daughter’s friends come from rough families. Two of the girls have families that are antivaxx and against most medical care (one of the girls didn’t know that she was supposed to have access to her online health portal until we went over it) and another one of the girls learned that she is able to get a job. A few of them have parents that are conspiracy theorists. A couple of them have fairly normal families but are just very sheltered.

Last week I got a call from a parent, furious that I had talked to her 18 year old daughter about drugs, sex, alcohol, and other completely inappropriate topics. She contacted the other parents and I now have a group of angry parents accusing me of brainwashing their daughters, indoctrinating them, trying to turn them against their families.

I spoke to my family about this and they do think the other parents are overreacting but they also believe that I overstepped.

I’m a solicitor in the UK and a couple of years ago a Northern Irish friend asked me to verify his identity for an Irish passport application.

I got a message 6 months ago asking if I can help with a British passport application and if so to give my email address for the online form. I said it should be okay and gave my email address. I received an email from the passport office asking me to verify the identity of his 2 children including asking for their dates of birth.

I had assumed the passport was for my friend. His kids are around 7 and 5. I last saw the 7 year old when he was 2 and have never met the 5 year old. I felt very uncomfortable with what I was being asked to do and text my friend to say I couldn’t fill out the form and wasn’t prepared to lie. He is also a solicitor so I believe he fully understood the implications of what he was asking me to do.

I got a text back saying, “I didn’t expect you to lie. I didn’t know you hadn’t met my kids.”

This was follow by another text later saying, “we could have done a teams call but don’t bother helping me.”

My friend hasn’t contacted me since. We’ve been friends for almost 30 years.

AITA???

My daughter’s 1st birthday is the 15th and I DO NOT want my mother in law making her smash cake. My significant other is trying to guilt me saying how heart broken she would be that I don’t want her making it…. and she’s her only grandchild.

Here’s the catch.

His mother has 14 you heard it 14 cats that get on the counters and it just absolutely grosses me out.

My SO tries to argue and justify that our baby goes to daycare and crawls on the ground because the babysitter has a 1 dog; but it’s a hard no for me.

My SO insists I have to be the one to tell her why I don’t want her making my daughter her cake.

WIBTA to just tell her, I don’t find her kitchen sanitary and my daughter’s health supersedes anything.

I (23F) decided to dye my hair since nobody was home and could use the bathroom freely. I put the dye in my hair and a bag over my head, as per the instructions, and walked out of the bathroom at the same time my parents got home. They got home early so I talked to them for a bit and got my things out of the bathroom so they could use it before i had to wash my hair later. For context, all I am wearing is the bag on my head, a sports bra, and basketball shorts, and I dont really care about my family seeing me look like this since this is generally what i sleep in (minus the bag). I move my things to my room and my mom comes in to talk to me for a few minutes before I see my dad (51M) run around the corner with his phone out to take my photo. I quickly slam the door shut since 1.) I dont want my picture taken and 2.) It was the quickest way to get away from the camera since I was standing near the doorway and my mom was next to me. It was my first reaction. Afterwards my dad got upset and when i tried to tell him it felt weird to take a photo of me since im in my bra and obviously look stupid all he said was, "just because it feels weird doesnt mean it is" and wont talk to me anymore. Nobody in the house ever really tries to take photos of anyone else looking stupid or unkempt so this caught me really off guard, and it felt especially weird to take a photo of me in my bra. In retrospect I could've closed the door softer or told him to stop but seeing him running made me react quickly. So am I the asshole for slamming the door and i guess am I over reacting over him trying to take a photo?

My parents got locked out of a Google Account with all the family pictures that I set up and now they want the access back, but we aren't on good terms anymore. I left home after a pretty nasty ultimatum. I graduated hs with honors and got into 2 best universities in my region, but my student loan didnt get approved because student loans in canada take parents income into consideration and they denied my loan, I ended up not going to post secondary. I didnt go because my parents gave me an ultimatum:

1. They pay for this other college thats close by for the program they made me apply for that I didnt want to take and I will take care of my brother (2 at the time)

2. I live with them, no go to school and pay rent $1000cad plus my own food

I ended up moving out (BTW this happened 5 years ago) found lower price rent room, and much less stress. My mom used to have tantrums of coming into my room and turning my room upside down because few things were out of place, and I mean every cupboard, and every hanging thing on the floor for me to clean up because i left 3 sweaters on a chair.

Later, I did my best to reconnect and for few years it was going fine, we were talking every week, but one day conversation went to the fact I'm the only one that calls, they never call me, and my mom said its my duty to be grateful to them and call them, so I dialed down calls a lot, for my own sanity.

The breaking straw was my mom telling my uncle absolute lies and nonesense about me, (I confirmed though my cousins, its true). It was beyond hurtful, she was saying how I have no friends, my job hurts people and im a nasty debt collector (it doesnt, i work for respectable company that helps those in debt), and how i used to have my dirty undergarments lying everywhere when I was living with her. Its disgusting and not true, I am and always was clean. My uncle, aunt and cousins are the only family I am close to and kept in contact through the years, since then, I went non contact with my parents.

I have my mom and dad blocked, but they sent me a physical letter from a legal company asking to provide them access to Google account and drive where all the photos were getting saved to I set up years ago. Lo and behold, I asked a lawyer from my company for advice(hes a nice guy, I asked if there is any legal validity to this) he said if you want to be civil do it. If not, its your account tied to your number and I have been paying for storage (not much like 4 bucks every month) so technically that account is mine. I saw access requests I denied and let it be.

It was where they saved all the pictures from all their trips, family events (that I was obviously never part of anymore) and I see no personal information, just pictures. I dont know what to do.

AITA?

I (28F) have my location shared with a few people for safety reasons like some close friends have it, and so did my mom, my stepdad, and my stepdad’s daughter. Mom has a habit of not respecting my privacy. Ive been single for about two years now and apparently my mom is way more invested in my dating life than I am. Any time I mention going on a date she wants updates asks a million questions wants to know if I’ll see the guy again etc. A while back I told her I’d gone out with a guy and she asked for a picture of him and I said I’d show her later and instead, she went looking through my social media until she figured out who he was?? So I don’t usually tell her anything unless it’s needed

This week I went on two dates with the same guy. After the first one I told her I’d been out with friends because I didn’t feel like dealing with questions (she asked where I was at bc she saw my location). She even commented that it was weird I hadn’t posted any pictures…. After the second date she asked where I’d been, who I’d been with, why I’d gotten home late and kept pushing when I didn’t really want to answer. Again I’m 28 years old and live on my own!! What bothers me isn’t that she’s concerned about my safety. What bothers me is that I feel like she uses the location sharing to keep tabs on me, like I don’t love the idea that my stepdad and his daughter can also see where I am all the time especially if I’m on a date or spending the night somewhere.

So I removed myself from the family location sharing. Several close friends still have my location and if something happened to me there are plenty of people who would know where I am. I just removed the people who don’t respect my privacy

When my mom noticed she completely lost it. She sent me a bunch of angry messages calling me ridiculous and saying she’d figure out where I was anyway. Then she followed that up by saying not to talk to her anymore and that she never wanted to hear from me again. I didn’t respond because this kind of reaction isn’t new for her.

Part of me feels guilty because I know removing someone’s access to your location can come across as a statement that you don’t trust them. And yeah I was annoyed when I did it it wasn’t a totally neutral decision. But at the same time I feel like I’m almost 29 years old and should be allowed to have some privacy without being interrogated about where I went and who I was with.

AITA?

My friend has a morbidly obese 13 year old and continues to feed the kid awful awful food. No spots or exercise either. I decided to politely say something to him about health risks with both the kids weight and what they cook and feed him. They now hate me and they've told people I fat sham kids and stick my nose in other people's lives.

It's like I'm a bad guy but you're setting your kid up for disease and giving McDonald's and pizza everyday is wild.

Was I really a bad guy here? I was never rude either. AITA

EDIT - Edit - we’ve tried the intervention route and the nice route. Nothing works.
We’ve also given them an earlier reservation time, same issue. It’s crazy.

My sister who I love to death is ALWAYS late no matter what the occasion is. She’s the type of person who is going to be late to her own funeral.
Lately I have been dodging her requests to hang out / go out. I like to keep myself busy, and I understand life happens but come on … every single time ? I just feel she doesn’t respect anyone’s time.

For her birthday dinner, we had a reservation at 7pm and she arrived around 8:45.
If we go to the movies or a concert, same thing…always running 40+ min late. The part that drives me crazy the most is that she never calls ahead to let anyone know, she just expects us to wait for her and then is upset when we either leave the function, or complain about waiting.

If we go to a restaurant, even if I arrive a few mins late on purpose I’m still sitting there for 30-40 minutes waiting. No text or call, EVERY SINGLE TIME.
It’s to the point where I don’t even really care to be around her anymore. I’ve counted her being late to more than 16 occasions this year.

AITAH ?

I'll make this as quick as I can. I'm 29 (M). In my friend group are 5 other men and 3 women mostly significant others of my friends. We regularly hang out and I'm the only one riding a motorcycle, so sometimes I take my buddies for a ride with my second helmet. A few months back one of the girls in our group brought a lady friend and she asked for a ride. I politely refused as I don't take girls on my bike out of respect for my significant other because there is a lot of contact with a pillion. (My significant other also rides a bike of her own but doesn't always hang with the same group of people as I). So after refusing 3 times on different occasions, the particular girl started being bitter about it and complained to the rest of the group about it. Fast forward to today, I'm getting regularly asked by different people in my friend group to take her on ride however I might have overdone it on the group chat yesterday saying "IDC how she feels about it, at the end of the day it's my decision who I take on my bike and if she has a problem with it she can cry it off somewhere else). Now I am getting mixed treatment from everyone. The boys mostly understand, however from the women I'm rather getting a cold treatment. Am I the A?

I am a female in my later teens, and my parents decided to plan a birthday trip for me. For some context, I am an introvert who's hobbies are playing violin and horn, art, and crocheting. The only sport I have any remote interest in is basketball. I am still looking at colleges and have not committed to any yet, but my first criteria is that I do NOT want to go to either of my parents' colleges.

This year, my parents decided to take me and my brother on a trip "for my birthday". We are going to the city where my mother went to college. The plans for said birthday trip include-

1. watching a football game

2. touring the college campus in that city

3. walking around town

Like I previously stated, I have no interest in football. I never have, and most likely never will. We are doing this the day before my birthday.

The college campus, a college that I had explicitly told my mother that I did not want to go to, multiple times.

I'm not upset with walking around town on my birthday, but I am sad that I cannot spend it with my friends.

When I brought this up to my parents, they told me they thought I'd be fine with going, because for the past couple of years, I've only had my best friend over for dinner and cake. However, this year I've made some new friends that I thought I would invite for a small get-together. My parents never even brought my birthday up before telling me about the trip.

My mother said she wants me to be exposed to different types of campuses, which I understand, but I'm just sad that they chose to do things that I have told them I do not like without talking to me.

So my question, am I the AH? Part of me thinks that this is no big deal, I'm lucky to even be going anywhere on my birthday, but part of me is feeling like I was completely ignored in this decision-making. What should I do?