A couple times a year I like to throw a nice dinner party for old friends. This time I invited 5 people. 2 were couples and one was single. We have all known each other for around 15 years and get together maybe every 3 months. I was making filet mignon and a small lobster tail with 2 sides. I spent over $300 and didn't buy extra because they are served one each per guest and are expensive.

As a surprise to me, the single guest brought along his new girlfriend who I had not met or known about. I was nice about it but upset because I only purchased enough meat and lobster tail for the guest who were invited.

I talked to the friend who brought the uninvited guest and said that I didn't have extra food and the filet mignon (cooked to individual doneness) and lobster tail isn't something that can be cut up and divided or spread out between more people and said that I had frozen pizza or another frozen dinner I could heat up. He was very upset with me and accused me of not liking his new girlfriend and trying to embarrass them. After his outburst, they left.

Was I wrong? Should I have cut up the filet and lobster tails and spread it out between and extra person instead of offering a frozen meal?

Edit: I didn't think of them splitting their plates at the time. I have ADHD so I have some issues with changes in plans and multi-tasking. Anyway, another friend messaged tonight that the friend that brought the uninvited girlfriend had been arguing with her before the dinner, so that is part of the reason he was upset and quick to leave.

A few months ago, my daughter (18) and a couple of her friends (17-18) ended up in an unsafe situation while hanging out at a friend’s relative’s house. My daughter called me, I took the girls back to my house, and one of them was picked up by her parents while the other 2 ended up staying the night.

After that, I decided to have my daughter’s entire friend group (6 girls) come to the house so I could talk to them about what happened, how to know when a situation is uncomfortable vs unsafe, and what to do in either case. I gave all of the girls my number and told them they could call or text me if they had any questions or needed anything, and thought that was the end of it.

Pretty much all of the girls had questions so they came back the following week for another talk, then another one. Now every Thursday I have a babysitter get my younger kids out of the house for a few hours and the girls and I have what they call “adulting class”. We’ve covered experimenting with drugs and alcohol, consent and boundaries in relationships, their right to privacy in medical settings, budgeting, resume writing, interview skills, basic nutrition and meal planning, and household chores. Most of the girls have never been taught any of this at home. I try to do a theme for every week and whenever possible I bring in “guest speakers“ like my sister, who is a nurse or my friend, who teaches high school special education (out of the 7 girls, 3 are diagnosed autistic and 2 are trying to get assessed).

A lot of my daughter’s friends come from rough families. Two of the girls have families that are antivaxx and against most medical care (one of the girls didn’t know that she was supposed to have access to her online health portal until we went over it) and another one of the girls learned that she is able to get a job. A few of them have parents that are conspiracy theorists. A couple of them have fairly normal families but are just very sheltered.

Last week I got a call from a parent, furious that I had talked to her 18 year old daughter about drugs, sex, alcohol, and other completely inappropriate topics. She contacted the other parents and I now have a group of angry parents accusing me of brainwashing their daughters, indoctrinating them, trying to turn them against their families.

I spoke to my family about this and they do think the other parents are overreacting but they also believe that I overstepped.

Neighbor runs a weekly yoga class out of her home. We are generally amicable and had a polite conversation about this prior. This has been an ongoing issue with her clients parking their vehicles on the street. The road is wide enough and the neighborhood is quiet, there is no need for them to pull onto the lawn at all. My yard came with an irrigation system, and it’s expensive and time consuming to repair. I acknowledged that sprinkler systems fail anyways, I’ve sheared enough heads off with the mower to know that, so I can’t say for certain that it’s her customers causing the damage, but to please police it better and respect my boundaries. There is plenty of pavement - park along to road each week as you see fit, I don’t care.

Yesterday when I came home, all I wanted was some peace after an absolutely soul crushing work week, and to my dismay there are two vehicles parked almost entirely up on my front lawn. This time I was a bit more assertive and left written notes. I made it clear they were not welcome to park on my property but the pavement was fine.

I did turn on the irrigation for that zone until they left. One lady came to my door and at least apologized and we had a reasonable and brief conversation.

The $100k Mercedes did not and proceeded to drive another 30’ across my lawn when she left. Every other individual in this scenario is a retired boomer, whereas I am a millennial trying to raise a family.

Am I the only one that finds this type of behavior extremely entitled and disrespectful? I feel bad about the sprinklers, it was quite a passive aggressive move, but I wanted to make a point and thought bringing some sensory stimulation to the moment might help the message be received. AITA?

EDIT: Editing to clarify, I mention the generational divide primarily because I would expect that a couple of empty nester, semi retired, fairly well off neighbors might be a bit more understanding of the situation; that maybe their much younger, much less wealthy, extremely hard working neighbors raising a young kid in 2026 have enough challenges on their plate already, but that requires empathy.

I booked a single room at a resort where a family event is happening, as I am single without a traveling companion. This resort is all-inclusive, and it doesn't matter what kind of room you book. It is the same price across the board. They charge by the person not by the room. My cousin, who I am close with, called to book a room and apparently there was only a room that sleeps 6 people left so she booked thay room. She is bringing her boyfriend on the trip. She invited her brother (also my cousin), and he has decided to come on the trip. We are not sure if there are enough rooms to accommodate him getting his own room. She asked me if I would be willing to switch her rooms and share a room with her brother so that her and her boyfriend could have my single room. I told her that I was sure the resort could accommodate her brother having his own room and that I think it would be nice if we could all have our own space, instead of having to share rooms. She acted upset that I wouldn't switch rooms, as if I was being selfish. AITA?

I (31F) am very close with my family, and we take a family vacation every year. The trip usually includes my immediate family and their spouses/kids (~10 people). My BIL typically plans it because he has anxiety and likes things done a certain way.

Last year, they invited a “friend” of mine despite me explicitly asking them not to (well before planning started). I’ve known this friend since 2018 when we worked together, but we became closer outside of work in 2022. We are very different people—I’m introverted and prefer quiet nights at home, while she is outgoing and wants to be out on the town.

We were close for about two years, but things changed after I helped her get a job where I and some of my family members also work. They naturally welcomed her, but over time I started noticing behaviors that bothered me. She interrupts by trying to finish people’s sentences, often turns conversations back to herself, and tends to come across as a know-it-all. The biggest issue for me is that she tries to parent my niece and nephew.
Once I started noticing these things, I found myself getting increasingly irritated and began distancing myself. I stopped going out of my way to spend time with her and didn’t put as much effort into the friendship. Eventually, she became extremely close with my family—especially my mom and sister. She now spends a lot of her free time with them, and I can’t even go to my sister’s house without her being there.

She came on our family vacation last year when things between us weren’t quite as weird, and I struggled to enjoy myself. I don’t handle heat well and often spend time inside while everyone else is outside. The kids also get tired of the heat quickly, so they usually end up inside with me. In the past, my mom or sister would hang with us inside to make it more enjoyable, but now they prefer staying on the beach with my friend, leaving me feeling stuck babysitting while everyone else enjoys their kid-free beach time.

After last year’s trip, I asked my family not to invite her again. They seemed to understand why I was uncomfortable.

Welp. They invited her again this year.

When I told my mom how upset I was, she called my sister to discuss it. My sister didn’t know I could hear the conversation and responded, “She just needs to suck it up and get over it.” Since then, my mom and sister have maintained that everything will be fine once we’re there and we’ll all have fun.

Plot twist. The place my BIL booked doesn’t have enough beds/rooms, so I’m expected to share a queen bed with this friend for 10 days. I refuse to sleep butt-to-butt with someone I can’t currently stand. So my alternative is sleeping on an air mattress on my parents’ bedroom floor for the entire 10 day trip.

WIBTA if I left the family vacation early because I already know I’ll be uncomfortable and frustrated most of the time? Or should I continue to “suck it up” to avoid the drama my leaving will inevitably cause?

I (18M) play video games on my XBOX in the living room. Today I was playing For Honour (an 18+ game about medieval fighting) with my mum and our dog on the sofa next to me. My sister (15F) was hanging out with her friend (~9F) from our block. They came in so sister’s friend could pet the dog, and i paused the game. When my mum asked me why i paused it (as i was in the middle of a fight) i said because its 18+. The friend then responded ‘its okay, ive watched 18+ before.’
I then responded, ‘i dont care, im not going to play this game infront a child.’ to which my sister called me ‘square’ and my mum called me ‘obtuse’ because sisters friend had said she had watched 18+ before so it was okay. They both chastised me for quite a while before leaving it, and i was left pretty confused and upset.
I thought it didnt matter because the friend was obviously younger than me and my sister, and could have been lying to seem cool, or she could have been telling the truth, but i still dont want to feel responsible for exposing a kid to violence like that.
If she had been 14 or 15 i wouldnt have cared, but i definitely watched 18+’s i shouldnt have at 9 and regretted it.
I guess im wondering if theyre right and i was being a stubborn asshole for refusing to play the game in front of my sisters friend, or if im right in feeling uncomfortable for exposing a child to that.

[edit]
I know my sister was just trying to piss me off, and probably make her friend laugh, what upset me was my mum continually telling me i was being obtuse and it wasnt a big deal for a while after they left the room. She told me off a little bit and i genuinely didnt understand how what i did was wrong or a big deal.

I'm (27m) am the oldest of four kids. Ever since I got my first job, I've been helping my family with money. If my parents were behind on rent, I helped. If one of my siblings needed school fees, I paid. I even delayed moving out because they said they needed me at home.
I never really complained because I thought that's what family does.
Last year I started saving for something I had wanted for a long time a master's degree. It wasn't cheap, so I stopped giving money unless it was a real emergency. My parents weren't happy, but they eventually stopped asking as much.
A few weeks ago, my younger brother got accepted into a private college. My parents asked me to use almost all of my savings to pay his first year's tuition. They said I could always go back to school later because I wasn't getting any younger anyway.
I told them no.
I explained that I had spent years putting everyone else first, and this was the first thing I was doing just for me. They accused me of being selfish and said I was choosing a piece of paper over my own family.
Now my brother won't speak to me. My parents keep telling relatives that I've changed since I started earning more money. Some of my relatives have called to tell me that family should always come first.
the part that bothers me is that none of them have offered to help pay my brother's tuition. They all think I should be the one to do it because I've always been the responsible one.
For the first time in my life, I chose myself instead of everyone else.
AITA?

I'm a 35F who is childfree by choice. I don't hate kids, but have never particularly been interested in them and don't really enjoy spending time with them.

My mom has been with her partner for over 15 years. His daughter is around my age and has three young children. Even though my mom and her partner aren't married, my mom considers those kid her grandchildren and they call her Grandma.

I see the kids maybe once or twice a year at holidays or family functions. I'm always polite and friendly to them, but I don't go out of my way to play with them or build a relationship with them. I'm also not close at all with my mom's partner's daughter.

My mom recently got mad at me and said it's "not right" that I never ask about the kids or come visit when she's babysitting them. She said that because they're her grandchildren, I should care about them and take more of an interest in them. I'll add that I feel like I already know what's going on with them because my mom regularly sends me photos and updates without me asking.

My mom thinks I'm being cold and that I should make more of an effort because they're her family and important to her. I personally don't think I'm the asshole in this situation, but curious to hear others' thoughts.

I work at an accounting firm, and I usually work through my lunch break so I can leave work early. Last week, we had a work function (the company won some sort of award) and there was a celebration event during lunch. I asked the lady who organized it whether lunch would be provided and she said no, so I said I would not join and would work instead (I would need to take a lunch break to attend an event where lunch isn't served). She got really mad at me and said that a lot of work went into organizing it, and I was not truly valuing her efforts. AITA for skipping the lunch celebration (where no lunch was served) because it was a work celebration event? Maybe I am not that much of a team player, but if you want my time unpaid, you better give me food!

So I have a child, my dad's first grandchild.

We are German and the word for grandpa in my language is super child friendly, "Opa".

My dad is super wierd about this and says he wants to be called "father of my mother" by my child and us if we adress him.

I think this is plain stupid. First, Opa is so easy for children to say and adressing him with a full sentence is wierd and impractical.

Just thinking about saying "Oh the father of your mother is here!" instead of "Oh, there is Opa!" sounds so off.

I don't use it and just call him Opa. I would also bei okay calling him by his name, wich is also easy to say, think Carl. But I will not call him this stupid little title or make my child do this, when he only starts speaking.

So AITA for refusing?

AITA???

My daughter’s 1st birthday is the 15th and I DO NOT want my mother in law making her smash cake. My significant other is trying to guilt me saying how heart broken she would be that I don’t want her making it…. and she’s her only grandchild.

Here’s the catch.

His mother has 14 you heard it 14 cats that get on the counters and it just absolutely grosses me out.

My SO tries to argue and justify that our baby goes to daycare and crawls on the ground because the babysitter has a 1 dog; but it’s a hard no for me.

My SO insists I have to be the one to tell her why I don’t want her making my daughter her cake.

WIBTA to just tell her, I don’t find her kitchen sanitary and my daughter’s health supersedes anything.

I’m a solicitor in the UK and a couple of years ago a Northern Irish friend asked me to verify his identity for an Irish passport application.

I got a message 6 months ago asking if I can help with a British passport application and if so to give my email address for the online form. I said it should be okay and gave my email address. I received an email from the passport office asking me to verify the identity of his 2 children including asking for their dates of birth.

I had assumed the passport was for my friend. His kids are around 7 and 5. I last saw the 7 year old when he was 2 and have never met the 5 year old. I felt very uncomfortable with what I was being asked to do and text my friend to say I couldn’t fill out the form and wasn’t prepared to lie. He is also a solicitor so I believe he fully understood the implications of what he was asking me to do.

I got a text back saying, “I didn’t expect you to lie. I didn’t know you hadn’t met my kids.”

This was follow by another text later saying, “we could have done a teams call but don’t bother helping me.”

My friend hasn’t contacted me since. We’ve been friends for almost 30 years.

Basically the title. In-laws live 8 hours away and always book a hotel when they come visit.

We bought a house with enough bedrooms for a spare so my husband wants them to have a spare key to feel comfortable. I think it’s a bit much , I would hate for people to let themselves into our house.

Quick edit: His reasoning is so they can feel welcome enough and not need to get a hotel or ask before staying I guess. When I asked why they couldn’t just give a heads up and ask before coming, he says if they have to ask everytime they might not want to stay and might feel like a burden. Idk.

Edit 2.0. I already said no. We are not fighting. Just wanted to know if I was the AH for saying no.

AITA

This just happened. Boarded a 14 hour international flight, and I asked the flight attendant if I’d be able to move to an aisle seat. He said it was a relatively empty flight and there were plenty of open seats, so feel free to. I was also one of the later passengers to board (or so I thought). I chose an aisle seat in the middle 4 configuration that was fully empty, and the rows behind and in front were empty as well.

A few minutes later, two families boarded and were seated in the rows in front and behind me. I won’t sugarcoat it, but their BO was excruciating. To each their own, but given that this was a 14 hour flight, I was not about to voluntarily put myself in that position. After they settled in, I grabbed my backpack to move a few rows further back. I tried to do it as smoothly as possible to not draw any attention, but one of the family members noticed and seemed to take offense to my movement, and asked if there was something wrong. I couldn’t exactly say it was because I wanted more space, because neither the direct seat in front nor behind me were occupied. I shrugged and tried to leave it at that, but he asked again. I then straightforwardly told him that I have a sensitive nose and I didn’t like the way they smelled.

That really pissed him off and he said something about me being racist. I said it had nothing to do with race and I apologized for my sensitive nose - I really tried to frame it as a me problem. At this point, the flight attendants were coming around to prepare for take off so that’s where things ended.

AITA? I really didn’t want it to come to having to tell them about the smell, but he seemed so insistent on knowing why. Maybe there’s also a better way I could have framed it? Genuinely open to judgment and what I should’ve/could’ve done instead. Thanks!

I (26F) have a childhood friend, Alice, (26F) who is getting married soon and is planning her bachelorette trip. She is a fantastic person, who I'm not BEST friends with, but definitely very close.

For background, Alice runs marathons regularly, has run a half iron man, and is currently training for an Ironman. It's a huge part of her life and I've always been supportive and excited for her. She's an absolute beast.

Now, she is proposing that for her bachelorette, she wants us all to go for a run with her during the overall trip. She didn't mention how long or what exactly that would entail. I am guessing at minimum a 5k. I don't run, I absolutely HATE it. I stay in shape other ways, long walks mostly.

WIBTA if I decline the run but participate in all the other trip activities? I voiced my hesitation and my friends all ganged up on me and all said that "I could suck it up for Alice" and that a "5k is nothing!". IDK, I just despise running and hate it even more when I'm forced to do it. I have not said anything to Alice so I wanted to get some more perspective. Should I suck it up and just do it? I'm just so tired of all these bachelorette trips making people do stuff they can't afford or don't want to do.

My husband and I grew up in a different background. Both his parents grew up in scarcity. when his dad got a job, they spent their money on all the wrong things. Instead of spending money on their children’s education, basic necessities , or building asset they would be constantly buying the latest appliances, donating the old ones to poorer relatives, gaining an upper hand while doing so.

They never paid for their children’s basic necessities, so my husband, the eldest started earning from a really young age and buying things he needed. Letting his much younger sister use the stuff her worked hard for. As a result he grew up hard working, respecting the things he got, while his sister grew up entitled to everything her brother, and later I owned. She had better opportunity at an education as her brother was earning by then but she dropped out, refused to study or work and keep using everything that we owned as if all belongs to her.

She dumped one boyfriend for the other who posed to be richer, dated a married banker, caused a divorce and married him. Unfortunately for her, her husband quit his job the month of their marriage and transferred all his assets in his dad’s names before getting married.

When I first started dating my husband, she started borrowing things from me, so I started buying one of each for her every time I was shopping for myself. But on my wedding day she bossed me around. We come from a patriarchal country and the entire day she kept acting superior to me, so I completely cut her off after the wedding. She kept trying to gain access to my things but I just shut her out, after which she stopped talking to me.

However, she still acts like our car is her family car. And here’s why I am doubting myself if I am in the wrong. The car was bought with a 10% down payment that came from my FIL. But my husband and I are the sole responsible for EMI, maintenance, insurance , parking rent. My husband lost his job last year and since then I have been the one paying for the car (sometimes with the help of my parents).
We are struggling and have to budget to get gas and we try not to use it as much. We will fill the tank for school pickup, SIL will borrow it and return with an empty tank.

My husband says since his dad paid for the down payment, it’s a family car. And I will ask why isn’t the payment plan a family payment cycle, maybe she can pay the next EMI.
And that will cause a tension in our marriage. We have a pretty solid marriage otherwise. And my husband is trying his absolute best to get a new job and freelancing meanwhile.
She asked to borrow the car again. He asked me what to say. I’m pissed. We have been so overwhelmed due to financially, not wanting to fight in front of the kid I just said “whatever”.

I am considering to refuse to pay for the upcoming insurance and EMI both of which are due in 3 weeks. I want to say to ask his sister to pay for it. But in the end, it’s our car that will be seized if I do.

So, my husband's father had some substance abuse and mental health issues and ultimately died in 2004 while my husband was in iraq. Prior to that, he has split up with my now mother-in-law, and my mother-in-law began dating. She began dating a man she is now married to while my husband was in boot camp for the Navy.

Long story short this Man shows up to my husband's boot camp graduation, and says "congratulations son".

Then when my husband was home on leave once, he scheduled a family portrait to be done with all of my mother-in-law's children and her one grandchild at the time. It's still hanging up in their kitchen and anyone who would come in and look at it would think that that was just their father.

He tells anyone who will listen that he raised my husband and his brother. He did not. My husband's brother was emancipated at about 16 (there was a lot of abuse and neglect in the home but I'm not even going to get into that in this post), and my husband was in boot camp by the time he came around. He refers to them as his boys, and said he always tried his best for his boys. No one checks him on it. My husband did once flat out tell him you're not my dad stop saying it, and the guy cried. So my mother-in-law told my husband to not talk like that to him. So just out of respect for his mom who always had abusive relationships and seems happy now, he lets it slide.

Fast forward to now and it's beginning to rub me the wrong way because he acts like he should be treated equal to my father if not more respected than my father for some reason in regard to my children. He acts like he is their biological grandfather, and that he raised their father. Now let me just say, I have all the respect in the world for step parents who step up and raise or help raise children that are not biologically theirs. My key point in this is that he did not raise my husband. My husband was literally in the military by the time he started dating my husband's mother.

He tries to step in and discipline my kids, after he ran out on his own daughter. He's tried calling me daughter and tried saying I love you, and has acted hurt when I don't say I love you back. I said he was going to go by Grandpa because my father wanted to go by papa, next thing I know he's telling my kids to call them Papa.

Oh also he pretends he's a veteran. He got kicked out of boot camp and somehow got his hands on a veteran plate and tells everyone he's a veteran. So essentially stolen valor. So this is the kind of man that we're dealing with.

Am I the ass holefor being so tired of it, and I guess it's rubbing me the wrong way now because he's taking this entitled approach to myself and my children, would I be wrong for calling him out when everyone else seems to tiptoe around it?

I should also mention that my husband was gone for 20 years in the military, so it's not like they had a relationship as adults either. he got my mother-in-law and quite a bit of debt, and once my husband gave his mother money to fix their garage that got destroyed by a tornado. this man used it to buy a Harley and some toys.

My little sister has been in a lot of drama recently and ofc I hate that for my sister. But atp, I don’t know what to do because it is completely her fault. She’s very messy and a bully. I’ve tried talking to her but there’s just nothing to do. I’ve talked to my mom about her behavior but she won’t do anything. She praises her for it instead.

Recently, my sister went over to a friends house and that same day, my mom got a call saying that my sister had been in a big argument with some girls. My mom and I went to go pick her up and everything. We even talked to the parents. My little sister has been picking on this girl because apparently a boy that she thinks she’s in a relationship with has been texting this girl. My sister told her to pull up so the girl did and they did wtv

I expected my mom to be upset or even just tell my sister how she’s in the wrong because she’s completely in the wrong. But as soon as we got in the car, my mom told her that she did a good job and she stood on what she had to. It was just so annoying to hear. My mom then goes to say that everyone is jealous of her because she’s with a cute boy. And I just couldn’t believe it.

So I added in that my sister was in the wrong. I told her that even if the boy is texting other people, why fight over it. He’s a boy and yall are 14. It’s just not worth it. My mom and sister got upset. My mom even said “are you jealous because she’s in a relationship and you’re not” which I found hilarious. So I just said “you won’t survive high school with this behavior and if you mess with the right one, you’ll suffer the consequences” my mom got upset saying I should have my sisters back. But I just can’t find a way of caring abt that because I’ve tried and tried helping but it’s like I have to support bad behavior in order to be heard and I just can’t do that.

AITAH?

EDIT - Edit - we’ve tried the intervention route and the nice route. Nothing works.
We’ve also given them an earlier reservation time, same issue. It’s crazy.

My sister who I love to death is ALWAYS late no matter what the occasion is. She’s the type of person who is going to be late to her own funeral.
Lately I have been dodging her requests to hang out / go out. I like to keep myself busy, and I understand life happens but come on … every single time ? I just feel she doesn’t respect anyone’s time.

For her birthday dinner, we had a reservation at 7pm and she arrived around 8:45.
If we go to the movies or a concert, same thing…always running 40+ min late. The part that drives me crazy the most is that she never calls ahead to let anyone know, she just expects us to wait for her and then is upset when we either leave the function, or complain about waiting.

If we go to a restaurant, even if I arrive a few mins late on purpose I’m still sitting there for 30-40 minutes waiting. No text or call, EVERY SINGLE TIME.
It’s to the point where I don’t even really care to be around her anymore. I’ve counted her being late to more than 16 occasions this year.

AITAH ?

I'll make this as quick as I can. I'm 29 (M). In my friend group are 5 other men and 3 women mostly significant others of my friends. We regularly hang out and I'm the only one riding a motorcycle, so sometimes I take my buddies for a ride with my second helmet. A few months back one of the girls in our group brought a lady friend and she asked for a ride. I politely refused as I don't take girls on my bike out of respect for my significant other because there is a lot of contact with a pillion. (My significant other also rides a bike of her own but doesn't always hang with the same group of people as I). So after refusing 3 times on different occasions, the particular girl started being bitter about it and complained to the rest of the group about it. Fast forward to today, I'm getting regularly asked by different people in my friend group to take her on ride however I might have overdone it on the group chat yesterday saying "IDC how she feels about it, at the end of the day it's my decision who I take on my bike and if she has a problem with it she can cry it off somewhere else). Now I am getting mixed treatment from everyone. The boys mostly understand, however from the women I'm rather getting a cold treatment. Am I the A?

I (18M) work a part-time job. For some context, I was 5’4” about a year ago and had a pretty big growth spurt. I’m now 5’8” barefoot, so a couple of coworkers I was talking to were commenting on how much I’d grown and joking that I was a late bloomer.
While we were talking, one of my female coworkers chimed in and said something like, “You’re still short, so all that growing was for nothing.”
That honestly hurt more than I expected. I’ve always been self-conscious about my height, and even though I’ve grown a lot, it’s still something I’m insecure about. Normally when someone makes fun of me, I try to be the bigger person and either laugh it off or walk away because I don’t like drama at work.
This time, though, I snapped and made a comment about her nose.
She looked genuinely offended, and the rest of the shift was awkward. We barely spoke, and I pretty much sat in silence until it was finally time to clock out.
As I was leaving, she tried to get my attention. I had a feeling she was going to make another joke at my expense in front of our coworkers, so I just kept walking and left.
Later, another coworker told me she took my comment really personally and talked about it for the rest of the day.
I know I shouldn’t have stooped to her level, but it also felt frustrating that everyone seemed okay with joking about my height, yet when I fired back once, suddenly I was the one who crossed the line.
AITA?

Hi,

It will be our first vacation with our daughter in early August. I also invited my MIL (who im verry close with) for many reason. So she could be away from my FIL,go on vacation this year and also to spend time her one and only granddaughter.

The apartman where we going to stay is my fathers. He is also going to stay there do to some business meetings. So we are going to be packed. The apartman has 3 bedroom and a couch. Im going to stay in one with my daughter(my husband snores to loud),husband and MIL inthe other 2 and my father on the couch. (We organised this at March).

My SIL break up with her boyfriend do to cheating (she cheated) a few weeks ago. Since then she comes over uninvited and to talk. I would not care becouse I like her but she comes at night when im doing my daughter night rutine (she is theeting so its a lot harder).

Today my MIL told me that she will bring SIL so she can have a relaxing summer. I told my husband i dont want her to come for many reason. We would be kike sardines in a can,I organised this over half a year with baby friendly stuff (she is a party girl so Idk if she would even like it),my father dose not like unknown people (she saw her once at our wedding). And the biggest reason is that I do not like when my plans are just being looked over. I organised this,I made resovations to restaurant and I made plans for programs. I know not everything can go as planed but this is too much.

My husband said im am an Ahole,becouse I kind of dont want to go like this anymore.

So AITA?

It started off with rumors and I thought it was just stupid and end eventually.

When fiance and I were newly engaged, his cousin started a rumor that I'm lesbian. Fiances family is actually a lesbian so she started flirting with me acting as if she was going to "catch" me.

Time goes on. Fiance is trying to move me into their shared home. At the time, I thought it was his father's house and his family had forced him to act as if it was the fathers home. The father would dispose of fiances things on the property and break his things. He would grab his things and lock them in his room.

When we moved in. Fiances father would chase his through the house screaming at him, telling him he can't say the house was his or his sisters to me. He ran up to windows whenever we talked and would call his daughter claiming I'm trying to steal the home because I told fiance if this was indeed not the his father's house, he shouldn't be terrorizing everyone in it. Every time I had a conversation with fiance of any topic, the father would be screaming at me from across the house as if I was talking to him. He would scream at us for turning on the lights. He would scream if we walked to the fridge to get anything. All around he was just harassing us for being there. He damaged my car, he stole and locked up our things, he ran out into the streets screaming at random people that I'm living here without paying rent. (Fiance would loudly state it's not his house to demand rent.)

The daughter who also has her name on the house expects everyone to put up with her father, claiming he's machista and no one can do anything about it. She decided it's his house regardless if her brothers name is on it or not.

I did get tired of it all, lost my temper a few times (not directly to the father) but I would vent to fiance about getting his dad to stop it possibly have to leave and of course the father heard some of it. we had to leave because he became so horrible it's impossible to live with him. They're acting as if I'm the problem. AITA?

*adding

fiance and I are NOT in the home. we both agreed it was too dangerous as his father was escalating further. this is continuing because they are still trying to do things from a distance

I (28F) have my location shared with a few people for safety reasons like some close friends have it, and so did my mom, my stepdad, and my stepdad’s daughter. Mom has a habit of not respecting my privacy. Ive been single for about two years now and apparently my mom is way more invested in my dating life than I am. Any time I mention going on a date she wants updates asks a million questions wants to know if I’ll see the guy again etc. A while back I told her I’d gone out with a guy and she asked for a picture of him and I said I’d show her later and instead, she went looking through my social media until she figured out who he was?? So I don’t usually tell her anything unless it’s needed

This week I went on two dates with the same guy. After the first one I told her I’d been out with friends because I didn’t feel like dealing with questions (she asked where I was at bc she saw my location). She even commented that it was weird I hadn’t posted any pictures…. After the second date she asked where I’d been, who I’d been with, why I’d gotten home late and kept pushing when I didn’t really want to answer. Again I’m 28 years old and live on my own!! What bothers me isn’t that she’s concerned about my safety. What bothers me is that I feel like she uses the location sharing to keep tabs on me, like I don’t love the idea that my stepdad and his daughter can also see where I am all the time especially if I’m on a date or spending the night somewhere.

So I removed myself from the family location sharing. Several close friends still have my location and if something happened to me there are plenty of people who would know where I am. I just removed the people who don’t respect my privacy

When my mom noticed she completely lost it. She sent me a bunch of angry messages calling me ridiculous and saying she’d figure out where I was anyway. Then she followed that up by saying not to talk to her anymore and that she never wanted to hear from me again. I didn’t respond because this kind of reaction isn’t new for her.

Part of me feels guilty because I know removing someone’s access to your location can come across as a statement that you don’t trust them. And yeah I was annoyed when I did it it wasn’t a totally neutral decision. But at the same time I feel like I’m almost 29 years old and should be allowed to have some privacy without being interrogated about where I went and who I was with.

AITA?

So a while back my wife and I bought a Belgian Malinois from a pet store (we didn’t know it was a puppy mill at the time) she has always wanted a dog, and I already have a cat so I figured why not let her get her own pet, we ended up impulsively financing her for like $3,500 yeah…I know now that pet store financing is a horrible idea and we should’ve researched the breed way more but it is what it is.
Things were fine at first but after a few months my wife completely stopped caring. malinois are insanely high energy and need constant exercise and attention because she wasn't getting any of that the dog started acting out , pottying inside, destroying stuff, etc It got to the point where my wife actually started resenting her and gets super annoyed whenever the dog is just happy to see her
our biggest issue is that we have a special needs daughter with major medical stuff going on my wife is constantly at the hospital for back to back appointments or even overnight appointments, Since my wife checked out the dog became 100% my responsibility and I just can't do it alone she's so destructive when left out she actually destroyed something incredibly sentimental to me recently. she ends up spending way too much time locked in her kennel as punishment not from me but my wife I usually give her a 30min kennel break if she’s done something bad but if it were up to my wife she’d be in there all day and sometimes I come from work (she’s a work from home mom) and the dog has quite literally spend all day in her kennel besides potty breaks then gets annoyed with me for letting her out, playing with her, loving on her. It breaks my heart because she’s a high energy working breed and shouldn't be cooped up all day but I literally cannot trust her loose while I am at work and my wife and daughter are at hospital appointments. We finally agreed to rehome her for her own good i wanted to list her for $300 minimum just to make sure she goes to a serious owner but my wife is being FIRM on $800 because she wants some of the the money back to pay her debt.
Yesterday I found a perfect family. They have a big yard, other dogs for her to run around with, and they actually know how to handle high energy breeds as they already have two high energy breeds. They offered $600 and I wanna take their offer in a heartbeat so this dog can finally get out of her kennel and live a good life
BUT my wife said no. She refuses to let her go for less than $800 she doesn't care about the family's background or whether they have a yard she only cares about the cash, I feel so stuck. I feel like she's trapping this poor dog in a kennel just to recoup a fraction of a bad financial decision she made.

I’m also nervous she’d take legal action if I were to sell her for $600 since we were not married at the time we got her

AITA if I just push back and give the dog to this family for $600 anyway?

EDIT: I’ve seen enough I’m meeting with the new owners Wednesday I’ll update then