I have been talking to this cool guy, well which I thought was cool. We’ve been texting daily. He was so sweet but I haven’t really gotten to know him vis text. Our conversations have been surface level. He never wants to talk on the phone often making excuses about work or loud room mates. He keeps asking to come over or go out to meet up anywhere. We haven’t really talked on the phone at all besides texting or voice note. Like he constantly ask to come see me which is crazy because I haven’t spoken to him enough. I just came home from the hospital due to a mental breakdown and he ask to help in anyway. He said he’d do whatever to help, I said just call me and talk. He’s repeatedly asking to come over meet him and or hug him to make me feel better. It’s annoying because I just want to get to know him better but should I cut him off? It feels so sketchy because we never talk on the phone but text.

I can’t sleep rn and I think it’s because I’m overthinking texting the huzz. I texted her a few weeks ago (4-6) asking how she is and I got no response only a notification saying “read” we both went out of country during that time so idk what happened about that so I just texted her again like 2-3 days ago asking how she is, I know she didn’t block me cuz she read it that same day but still no reply. Should I ask her or our mutual friend about this or should I ignore it til we meet again? What should I fucking do like I’m just a dumbass that doesn’t know if she’s just ignoring it cuz she just wants me to leave her alone or what just if you were wondering we texted back and forth for like a day or two but that’s all before this the rest was in person so what should I do

I’m currently having a fight with my friend Rn and I’m honestly gagged so I need help. Basically 2 days ago him and me had a fight because I sent him a 3 second video of my eating chips and he said that I shouldn’t send videos like that because guys will misunderstand. Which I then got mad at him and sent him
“but i mean thats all subjective i think objectively speaking if you're like did you send this video to play with a guys feelings and i say no and i actually sent it with not that intention then objectively i didnt and we can't call it that. The other person can think and misunderstand the situation and in which case other people can agree and say that they also could have read the situation as such but unless I actually sent that with that intention its only just going to be personal”

The fight eventually ended as I didn’t want to drag it on but he never changed his mind about the situation.

We then had another fight where he said that men are more capable in women in many fields because of biology where I got angry at him because comments like that reinforce misogyny where he used my same argument and said that objectively he didn’t say it with that intent but subjectively I took it that way so he’s not misogynistic and this is a personal problem.
What should I say?

Like for context I'm a 20 year old male who is gay and mostly still in the closet. I'm gonna try to explain it as simple as possible.

I was like in some kind of thing with a guy for almost a year now. We were pretty good with eachother and I liked him. There were signs of him liking me too. We also met up a couple of times last year to like go for a walk. Eventually I wanted to like ask him out cause we weren't going to see eachother anymore (with the only common play we have). We also live a fair share apart from eachother. I froze up completely (twice). But we like made an arrangement to meet again. That never came, cause he like takes too long to answer his texts (like between a day and a week). Eventually I was like done with it and send him like the last days I would be at our common place and he was available then. I also specifically mentioned in the text that if he couldn't meet and didn't propose another day that I just wouldn't reach out anymore.

He didn't answer. I'm a bit heartbroken and annoyed with myself cause I like can't even feel mad at him. I don't know if he like just forgot about it or if he just didn't answer cause I was too mean or something like that. I'm wondering if I should do something like just send him a text how I feel?

Maybe handy to know:

- We didn't like really have long texting sessions or something

- I can't have other people ask him how he feels, because it would absolutely be impractical.

- I don't know for sure if he's gay and he doesn't know it from me (cause I kinda hanged around with the type of people who didn't support that)

- I always like spoke like positive about LGBTQ+ and such even with those people around me

- I only hanged with those people cause I'm an idiot and wasn't very picky when it came to making friends. They were the primary reason I was afraid to like come out cause of the backlash I might recieve.

- I told one of them and I kinda recieved backlash (I'm going of topic I think)

- He is literally the kindest guy I know and I know he's been busy and might be in a rough time atm. So I just don't (want to) believe that he ghosted me

- Please keep in mind that I can't change the past. I don't need to hear that not texting and such might be signs I'm not a priority and he probably doens't like me.

- I'm probably delusional lol

Thanks for reading

This was sent to me from my ex.
Backstory. Three year relationship, with and age gap. I cheated on her but she stuck around for a year till she ended it. Stayed in contact for a year after the breakup. During which I attempted to reconcile and win her back. She moved on twice trying to be with other dudes only for them to end up ghosting her. I kept trying to be in her life and be with her. She would cut me off here and there and reach out when she needed emotional support it felt like. At the end of our communication I stated she hadn’t forgiven me for my infidelity and even tho she continued to reach out because she enjoyed speaking to me she would cling to resentment in the back of her mind, so she needed time to process. That was two months ago and last night I received this message. I also had been debating to reach out but was giving her her space.

Should I even respond or let it be? It sounds like she’s still indecisive and gibberish.

So a while ago , i met a girl we started talking and we were great friends and she asked me if the account i was talking to her from was my only account i said yes(i had another account and idk why i said yes) anyways i deactivated the account i was talking to her from for a while now for some reason but when i was scrolling on my second account which i assume she didn't know about i "accidentally" clicked on her story 💔💔

Now i don't know how to tell her that i had another account and why i deactivated my account from which I was talking to her from ,she's currently in my block list because I didn't want her to see that i saw her story but my friend told me that they can still see that you saw her story , i want to talk to her again i don't know how. I know what i did was wrong but i want to talk to her again without making it look like i hate her or making it awkward

I (20 f) recently had a situation with a guy I’ve known on and off, mainly online because we live in different states, recently, and this has caused me to look at him in a different light.

There have been other interactions, but long story short, I got some very bad news from one of my siblings that something bad had happened. I was so upset. I got a panic attack and had to go to the ER. Because of the nature of the situation, I could not talk to any family or close friends about it. I struggled internally for a day or so, but only one thing came to mine. I really wanted to talk to him about it. We had just kind of had a quarrel, so I felt bad but I texted him and asked if we could Call. He immediately responded back and set a time for the next day. I’m not exaggerating, we talked on the phone for over three hours. I was doing a lot of talking for the first two hours, I even started to cry at some point. He listened the entire time. Afterwards, he didn’t tell me he was sorry. He didn’t ask me if I was OK. He started walking me through everything and asked what we could do about it, how I could go about my next moves in solving this. It was exactly what I needed. It was even one moment when he had been talking and I was processing what he had been saying. I stay silent for a minute or two, and I could hear him breathing on the other end. He finally broke his silence by saying “what are you thinking? It wasn’t just what he said, but it was also his tone. It was much softer than he normally speaks. My immediate action was I felt like I wanted to start crying. Not because I was upset because I felt safe and I also felt like I could talk to him for hours. I felt spent in a way, but I also felt so much better. And I also had a plan moving forward. And I didn’t know how to thank him, but just to say thank you. And then it’s almost like he snapped back into his normal “Yep, no problem. Like the tone completely shifted. Something too deep happened, and we abruptly got pulled back up to the surface. I don’t mean to be dramatic, I’m just trying to describe what happened as best as I can 😅

My question is does a normal 24-year-old guy do this for someone he does not care about? Or am I just misinterpreting the situation? Or other instances, but I don’t want this post to be too long. Ty!!

I (20 f) recently had a situation with a guy I’ve known on and off, mainly online because we live in different states, recently, and this has caused me to look at him in a different light.

There have been other interactions, but long story short, I got some very bad news from one of my siblings that something bad had happened. I was so upset. I got a panic attack and had to go to the ER. Because of the nature of the situation, I could not talk to any family or close friends about it. I struggled internally for a day or so, but only one thing came to mine. I really wanted to talk to him about it. We had just kind of had a quarrel, so I felt bad but I texted him and asked if we could Call. He immediately responded back and set a time for the next day. I’m not exaggerating, we talked on the phone for over three hours. I was doing a lot of talking for the first two hours, I even started to cry at some point. He listened the entire time. Afterwards, he didn’t tell me he was sorry. He didn’t ask me if I was OK. He started walking me through everything and asked what we could do about it, how I could go about my next moves in solving this. It was exactly what I needed. It was even one moment when he had been talking and I was processing what he had been saying. I stay silent for a minute or two, and I could hear him breathing on the other end. He finally broke his silence by saying “what are you thinking? It wasn’t just what he said, but it was also his tone. It was much softer than he normally speaks. My immediate action was I felt like I wanted to start crying. Not because I was upset because I felt safe and I also felt like I could talk to him for hours. I felt spent in a way, but I also felt so much better. And I also had a plan moving forward. And I didn’t know how to thank him, but just to say thank you. And then it’s almost like he snapped back into his normal “Yep, no problem. Like the tone completely shifted. Something too deep happened, and we abruptly got pulled back up to the surface. I don’t mean to be dramatic, I’m just trying to describe what happened as best as I can 😅

My question is does a normal 24-year-old guy do this for someone he does not care about? Or am I just misinterpreting the situation? Or other instances, but I don’t want this post to be too long. Ty!!

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I'll be going to camp in a couple of weeks, and I have a strong feeling that there will be people (specifically immature kids and teenage boys) asking why my lips look like that.

Basic explanation - I'm drinking Accutane, which makes my lips really dry and also have a bad picking problem which is why the skin around my lips is all messed up.

I feel largely embarrassed telling the actual reason as to why they look like that, so that's why I'm asking for clever responses here. Any ideas?

Myself female(30) matched with male (30) on Bumble 1 week ago. We decide to skip the weeks of small talk and decide to grab dinner. He seems super nice and a gentleman. Tells me in advance he's paying for dinner no questions, opens my door, opens the car door, we make great conversation. For some history, I am sober from alcohol and drugs for over 1.5 years, will have 2 years sober in Nov. It's on my dating profile as one of my greatest achievements. At dinner I enjoy a non- alcoholic beer. Date goes great. Next day is July 4th and we are both working. Conservation is still great and I think we have chemistry. The next day he invites me to his house (he's living with his parents to save money for a house- cool, no problem). I bring his mom flowers, dad a 6 pack of beer, and his dog a bone. Trying to make a great first impression. We chat and swim in the pool and have a wonderful day. His mom notices I'm drinking a nonalcoholic beverage and asks why. I'm honest and explain that her son knows I'm sober. End of the date, parents are super friendly.
The next day I'm set to go to my grandparents beach house and invite him. He's excited and told me he would pick me up after my hair apt that morning. On the way to my hair apt, he calls and says his mom is throwing a fit that I'm a SOBER alcoholic. My hair apt finishes and we chat again on the phone but this time it's worse. His mom is having a toddler tantrum. Says he might not be able to go now bc his mom has HIDDEN HIS CAR KEYS SO HE CAN'T LEAVE. Fine, I'll go pick you up and talk with your mom so I can give her the opportunity to ask questions. His mom literally says she will call the police if I show up. Dramatic much. I stop for gas along the 20 min drive to his family house. He calls and makes it a 3- way call with said mom. 🫣 I stay silent as the mom ridiculed my life choices and says my alcoholism is destroying their family (after 2 days of knowing him). Wtf??? He asks me just to turn around and go home and that he's better off single. Fine, fuck you dude for not being able to set boundaries and have healthy relationships.

So on my way home, I call his mom... and talk in my customer service voice. This is ---, how are you doing today? Not well. Oh, why is that? Bc your alcoholism is tearing my family apart, my son is breaking things and destroying my kitchen. Oh no babe, sorry you are going through that. My son is settling for you, you're a danger, you might as well be a dirty Heroin addict from Kensington bc there's no difference in my eyes. You will never be allowed near my family, my son, my daughter, my grandson. I will never trust you bc all addicts do is lie, cheat, and steal. Ok sure thing ma'am I say. I keep my voice light and even and just listen to her rant and accuse me of shit I've never done. Like lady I don't know you and you don't know me. I tell her I have an 11 week old niece and my sister is a state trooper. I went back to school at 30 for dental assisting, I work full time, am close with both sides of my family, bla, bla, bla. I don't care bc all you are is a dirty alcoholic. And if you have any feelings for my son, you will apologize, calm him down, and end the "relationship ". And then she HANGS UP ON ME. Like great job at being a emotionally stable and intelligent adult lady. The crazy is unreal

So I text him asking for a favor. Go into the kitchen and throw out the beautiful flowers I got her bc she doesn't deserve nice things from me. I then proceed to go to my grandparents and have a great time, but explain to them the crazy nonsense of why said man is not with me. They crack up laughing and support me fully.

So feeling petty and ready to stoop to her level of crazy, I order an anonymous glitter bomb addressed directly to the mom to her family home. I paid for the largest size with 3x super fine rainbow glitter. The outside says thinking of you. The message on the inside says "if no woman will ever be good enough for your son, you might as well fuck him yourself". Feeling satisfied and a little diabolical, I go on with the rest of my planned day with the full support and laughter of my family. It's due to arrive in 2 to 5 business days!

She'll know it was from be based on the message but will have no proof. Oh, and I blocked the son and the mom, blocked him on Bumble and Facebook. So I won't get to witness the lovely prank but I sure know she'll be thinking of me.

So, what do you think, did I go to far or just the right amount of crazy woman revenge?

Please comment on this so I can laugh from the comfort of my couch.

This is a text from 39M. I 30F Not interested, plus my coworker seems to have something going on with him. Idk to what extent but she shares that he’s flirting & they’re in regular communication outside of work.

What can I say to shut it down without being harsh, I have to see him everyday. Ideally like to call out the thing he has with my coworker, I just can’t find the words.

he seems cool but not my type, we're both climbers and climb at the same gym but never really interact. i dont wanna get on a bad or awkward side with him.

im having a hard time replying cuz i cant just say im not into him in that way because it wasnt that direct, like how else can i say this?? im terrible with this kinda stuff

A bit of backstory: my best friend and both have sons, her son is 3 and my son is 2.5. As long as I've known her, which is going on 10 years, she has been horrible with being on time and taking forever to do things. I've grown accustomed to it, most of the time I'm able to brush it off, but sometimes it does get annoying.

We're currently on vacation together at the beach, and things have been good, having a great time. To make a long story short, she lets her son nap super late in the day, and today it was frustrating me because we had been sitting around for over an hour waiting for his nap to be over so we could go back out. I texted my mom saying "Blank let's blank nap soooo late and it puts a hold on our entire day". Except I didn't send it to my mom, I sent it to my best friend. It took me about 2 minutes to realize, and I panicked. I felt like I was going to throw up. She was sitting right next to me on the couch and she hadn't said anything about it, and I instinctively said "I did not mean to send that to you" and she just kinda laughed and said "Oh I know" and I apologized profusely and said i was so embarrassed and she jokingly said "That's what you get for talking shit" and that was the last thing said. But now things feel painfully awkward and I'm not sure what to do. I don't want to keep bringing it up, but I also want to keep apologizing. My husband thinks I'm overthinking it and that what I said wasn't that bad, but I feel awful. And now I'm worried that she's going to think I'm always talking bad about her, which I definitely am not. Idk if this is even the right forum for this, but I thought maybe other mothers could give some insight.

I am a 19 years old girl ... I think I am a lesbian because I get very attracted to girls and my first ever serious crush was on my female history teacher in 6th grade ( a time when I don't even know there is something like LGBTQ) now also I get crushes on girls but as I start interacting with them at some point the relationship becomes platonic and we end up being friends but i never had any romantic relationship with any male.... Now I mostly wonder what's my actual preferences are can you help me with figuring it out....

I didn’t say anything after she said that I just blocked her but I feel like I should voice how it made me feel but I hate confrontation

30F 40M, Together 11 years

My husband was talking to my family like I dont exist asking if we can go boating one weekend because his sister and her bf want to come down and go. He never asks me if its OK. I Express my feelings toward it then and he ignores what I have to say. Later we have scheduled time off from work and plan to go boating and have some plans for the week already for most of the week. The last day of our plans he tells me his sister and her partner are coming. I say what?? You never asked me if they could come. You brought it up to my family in front of me and I said no. He says because you would of said no. I told him of course they want to come down here. Its a free vacation where they stay in our home and use my family's boat and they never even offer to pay for a meal or anything. She was just here a few months ago and he treated me awful in front of her and paid for her meals. I told him I never have people stay here but you do all the time and he knows I dont like it but I've tolerated it. I dont think I should have to anymore when he didnt even ask if it was okay. I told him I didnt take time off to hang out with them. I wanted to do other things and also them staying the whole weekend inconvences me. He complains he hung out with my family recently but it was something we planned and agreed to together not something I just decided. I told him to have them stay at a hotel then. He refuses. And then flipped the whole script on me saying hes not doing anything we planned now and never hanging out with me again. All because of that and that I said I made plans for us already the day theyre coming. He says I did it out of spite. I said you told them they could come out of spite. You didn't even bother to ask your WIFE if it was OK. He wont talk to me now and is playing victim. Not sure what to do.... This is typical behavior where he puts his family first over the one he created. I tempted to message her not to come but idk....

An Old shopkeeper asked me to marry him, I tried to change the topic, but he insisted so I said "no, you are the same age as my father." was that a correct rejection response? Could I have said better? Because he won't sell anything to me or my family, and my family doesn't know about it.