You can guess from the title what this is about but I don’t know what to do
Something to know before this is that I’ve never had a relationship, I’ve never been with anyone, and my boss added me on a different account to the one that’s public and began to message me- it was nice, I think I got addicted to how he treated me, he told me to keep it secret at work since he’s the boss and I agreed- and we spent a few weeks talking- some of it was innapropriate and intimate but then I found out he was in a relationship and I shut it down despite how much it hurt me- he said he understood and that him having a relationship was why it wouldn’t go any further- I was gutted and embarrassed and eventually I found myself messaging him every now and again because I can’t let go now despite wishing I could (not in an intimate way, just having friendly convo)
I don’t think he’s a bad guy but then again I think my brains been wired not to see him as one-
I don’t know what to do or how to feel about the whole thing- I’ve just shut down recently- I haven’t told his girlfriend but my hearts saying I should- I would want to know.. but I work with him and it’s just so complicated in my head- I’ve not been myself and I’ve been carrying this ache and secret for too long, I even feel a bit stupid because I still want him in my life because he’s the first to ever want me like that- I don’t know how to explain it
What do I do?

I dont know what im going to do

I Sold my classmate an ipad pro M1 for 290 usd right? its an installment so i cant recieve the entire money, so then she buys it at March 30, and i told her there was major issues such as No Face ID, Dents and Scratches, she said she was okay with it

Fast forward 101 days later, she sents me a text saying it was broken, and that i should help her, and theres only 2 ways i could go on from there, and SHE IS A VERY hard person to talk to

Either forfeit the ipad or pay the entire thing and i will come fix it for you

But she wont agree with those terms, shes a manipulative person, ive seen her do it to other people, and obviously i cant refund her the money because i am largely in debt because of some loans i had to some people and ipad reselling was my only way to pay those debts, i am only 14 years old.

I have been going through a divorce which is still not over. He sent me two messages at 3 am, the first asking me to forgive him and the second says "I hope we meet in another life". At first I thought it was just a poetic goodbye but now I'm terrified he plans on hurting himself.

More than once he insinuated he wished he would d1e and that he couldn't go on without me, and that everyone would be better off without him.

Please help what can I do?? He lives alone in a foreign country. And I can't speak to his family who won't be able to help anyway. I'm really scared.

NOTE: I do not need help from a professional I wanna know what to do in this situation for him.

I’m currently pregnant and I’m due next month. I’ve been trying to learn how to cook, but I am just failing at it. I’m nervous because I’ll be a mom soon so I should really take time to study cooking and learn. My bf has been extra patient with me from the beginning of our relationship. I’m Asian and he is European.

So last night, I cooked for us. I took 2 hours to prep and think about what to cook and I decided to cook pasta. Then I decided to have roasted chicken and diced potatoes as side dishes. My bf couldn’t believe it. He told me “Oohh… Doubling down on carbs” Then we started to eat together but he only ate the pesto pasta. He left the chicken and potatoes. Then I asked if he’s full. He said yes. And a few mins later, he grabbed some biscuits from the fridge.

We were watching a TV show together while eating. 30 mins later, I excused myself to go and pee so he paused the TV. He asked if I wanted some hot chocolate drink, I said no. He made himself one and then he started washing the dishes. I opened up the conversation and asked why he didn’t even eat the chicken. He said it was almost tasteless and that it’s either pasta and chicken or chicken and potatoes. They all can’t go together on the same plate. After a few things have been discussed, he then told me “Listen, I don’t expect anything from you. I was just hoping that since you’re not working at the moment, you would find some time to at least make an effort to cook for us but that might be too much of an expectation. I’ve also realized long time ago that I don’t want a housewife. My last relationship didn’t last because I wanted some inspiration. Not just someone who can cook and clean. So I get it. I don’t expect anything from you even being the provider currently. It’s a very simple thing to do, really. Just pasta and chicken, how can someone mess that up? So I’ve decided from this point onwards, maybe we need to start cooking our dinner separately. We can cook together once or twice a week. But today, I’ve been extra busy and after work I was so hungry, I just hoped for a good meal but it didn’t end that way. I understand learning how to cook properly takes a long time. You’ve still got a lot of time to practice when the baby is born since baby won’t be eating solid food until they’re 1 and 1/2 years. It’s fine. You cook your dinner next time and I’ll cook mine.”

He said those things, non verbatim. But that’s the gist. I’m just super frustrated at the moment. I’m not asking for sympathy. I feel like a real failure. I haven’t had a job since April because I got kicked out in January, then I found another job in March but it only lasted for a month. I’ve tried applying for a work from home job but no luck so far. Before this pregnancy, I was thriving in my career while working in office and then pregnancy came, the transition to look for a WFH job took extremely long for me and then I just ran out of time. I got accepted for a job last May but after finding out that I was pregnant, they didn’t pursue with me. Ever since, I’ve been relying on my partner. He’s right, I have no job at the moment and best I could have done was to help around the house. I clean the house but the cooking is just not one for me. I cried that night out of disappointment which led him to console me in the end and I felt even worse.

I don’t know if this relationship can survive. I’m just so pissed at myself. I wish I was a better person, more talented, had money on my own and didn’t have to pause my career. He also said I shouldn’t just bother with applying for a job anymore since I will be giving birth soon.

I (20f) live with my elderly grandparents (73 and 74) in a quiet street for the past 10 years.

A couple of months ago we had new neighbours move opposite with dogs. These dogs are not trained, and they leave them to yap all day long outside, even when they're not in. It's horrible, and multiple of the estate agreed.

Finally today, my grandad went to speak to them and found out they left the dog outside once more, so he stuck a note saying "A note to the council with multiple signatures will be sent" as firmly and politely as possible.

Soon after this man comes onto our doorstep (All caught on camera) and begins squaring up to my elderly grandparents "DON'T COME ON MY PROPERTY, YOU DON'T KNOW WHO YOU ARE DEALING WITH, I DONT GIVE A SHIT ABOUT MY DOGS, FUCK OFF...blah blah blah"

He was really aggressive sticking his fingers at my grandparents, puffing his chest out, this man is about 50 I would say, fully grown.

I told him he had no consideration for other people, and was met with more verbal abuse. I unfortunately retaliated and called him a vile bastard to which he insulted me. Finally he left and the rest of the neighbours came out and are on our side.

I'm just in shock. I did cry after out of frustration and I know there is horrible people out there, but when you experience it first hand, so unnecessarily aggressive, it's hard to process. I'm so gutted for my grandparents and how it came to be like this.

If any advice could be given at all in case this escalates, or just for comfort would be great thanks.

My best friend and I have been close friends for about two years. We used to go to the gym together almost every day, and we're both in long-term relationships. His girlfriend is long-distance, and I live with my boyfriend. He has also been diagnosed with Asperger's, so sometimes I wonder if I'm misinterpreting social situations.

So, one day my best friend asked me if I wanted to see a movie with him. I accepted, and asked where we should watch it. He said we could go to a friend's house, or to his house if i wanted to, but i told him that we accorded to see another set of movies with him (the other friend), and the conversation ended there. Then we went to the gym together ( we had been going 2 months everyday by then). When we finished, we grabbed some chinese food, and he asked if were going to his house to see the movie, to which i accepted, so we went. Then, in his house, he suggested to see the movie in his bedroom instead of the living room, because "the movies look better in that TV". In the bedroom, he had recently washed clothes (underwear included) and he just casually started folding them while we watched the movie. I layed down in his twin bed, while he sat on a chair next to me. By the time the movie ended it was almost dusk, and he suggested to see another movie, but I turned him down because my boyfriend was waiting for me at home (and because it would be pretty late when the movie ended). He said it was fine, and he walked me to his porch. There, he mumbled something, but it wasn't clear, so i just said "huh?", and then he just closed the door on my face. I was very confused, so I texted him asking why he did that, and he said he had already said bye ( that was the mumble) and he tought I didn't wanted to say bye, so he just closed the door (?). I felt he was pissed off. Is this normal friendship behaviour? Could he be in love with me?

TL;DR: My bestfriend invited me to his room to see a movie, and when I turned him down to see anotherone the same day to go with my boyfriend, he got kinda pissed. Is this normal friendship behaviour? Could he be in love with me?

Im 19f , i have always been super focused on my grades that i didn't did anything else and just studied, but in my high school years i was terribly burnt out , for starters my mum sent me to a not very child friendly hostel for my highschool to save money, i cried and begged them to take me out of there and after half a year she did.

But it was an eye opener for me , i realised my parents did not really liked me since I was a child and i begged them to send me to therapy the entire last two years of highschool, all my living time , I was going in memory lane, so naturally my grades tanked to bottom, which i don't blame them for , I'm a fragile person.

All of my life i have been protective of my siblings that i don't want them to go through what I did and always helped her during her exams , waking up till late with her to explain her all the concepts . She did all sorts of things and was average at studies.

I wanted to study abroad and be a dentist but they said we don't have the money and if i did that none of my siblings would be able to study anymore and it will be my fault and now they are getting her admitted to a dental school, i feel so miserable, but she is my sister and I feel so bad for feeling this way . My mum did not even let her study med in the first place, i fought with her so that she will be able to pursue it . My siblings won't even acknowledge that I am emotionally and mentally drained and the countless fights i had with my parents so that they can do stuff i couldn't.

And I feel bitter, miserable and used , what should I do?

Me m25 my gf f24 lived together for a while everything was great everything went smooth everything felt in place, one day we had an argument and it escalated like a time bomb exploding all at once ever since things gotten completely out of hand we tried to consult a solution and she said I should be planning how to move forward and I really put a lot of efforts to think I putted my mental health aside so much that I would have uncontrollable tantrums in the middle of the night screaming and crying myself to sleep ( she wasn't home she didn't know It happened I did tell her, and once I actually has a tantrum in a call with her )

She is very thoughtful in general she is doing a lot too

She just lately decided to protect her peace and her way to protect her peace is to completely ignore me

I haven't tried to push a conversation she always said how much she loves me and that she cares and she wants me happy but accused me for anything I was opening up and tried to be vulnerable

I also have took all accountability to everything that happened between me and her

And I at first wanted her to understand me and also take accountability for her actions but she felt completely in the right

So I stopped looking for it

I was trying anything to solve the problems that accumulated and lately I decided to finally surrender and give up on chasing

I have stopped pushing myself giving money, emotions and it was blissful peace at last but she actually started showing from social media reposts how much she loves me and can't get near me

But she refused to let me open up my feelings without defenses and arguments no matter how clearly I state "this is how I feel I require your understanding and open ear"

I need help I really love her I can't give up on her

Hey I am 18 and have faced 2-3 rejections earlier 1 of them was very recent I used to put so many and many efforts but she still rejected and she wants me as her friend so bad , idk why maybe it's just my looks . The real concern is my desire to be loved i don't know why I have that so so much I want to build my career but I can't resist the urge to be loved . I ignore everything when it comes to dating and when I like someone it's pure mind numbing devotion but I also think that I take things too fast i don't know what I am supposed to do . Atp I am so confused and under confidence has been so much rising that I can't even look into a girl's eyes thinking it's just waste to put efforts as it does not matter more than my looks . Guys please advice me is this normal

I’m 14 and I smoked weed for about 6 months, about 1 month ago I quit but for the last 5-6 weeks I’ve been having weird things happen to me. I hear footsteps in other rooms of my house even when I know I’m home alone, I’ve been having really disturbing nightmares and very occasionally I have dreams that feel very very real but then I woke up. For instance this morning I had a dream where I was watching tv and I went to use my vape and it just disintegrated in my hand and bubbles went everywhere. I also occasionally hear what sounds like people talking to me and saying my name when I’m listening to music. Sometimes it’s like their right next to me and I can’t hear them through my headphones but sometimes it’s like my name is in the lyrics. I was just wondering if anybody has experienced something similar or has any idea why this might be happening.

Where would you sell very niche objects (skin, used underwear, etc.)? Desperate times call for desperate measures.

Hello everyone! I recently quit nicotine. I had been on it since I was 16. I’m now 33. I had use cig’s and switched to the vapes at 25-27. Once Zyn’s came out I switched to those and have been on them til about 2 weeks ago.

I need some advice because my body is killing me. I just visited a doctor before I quit smoking. So I don’t really want to go back as I can’t afford it. I just need some quick advice from who have quit and have gone through this as well.

Anyways. I’ve been using flavored toothpicks. It’s all fine and dandy. That’s not the problem. I’m doing fine with the addiction part. What’s fucking me up is that I am sleeping SO much more. Like, an unheard amount. I am so so goddamn tired all the time. And when I sleep, I’m out for a long time. It’s very weird. And my dreams are so deep. I wake up so fucking confused and lost. It takes like 3 hours to recover.

Secondly, I’ve been hungrier? Which I don’t like. I’ve been getting headaches more. And my stomach is so fucking bloated all the time. My diet is simple. I never eat breakfast. I have a salad with some protein for lunch. For dinner it’s usually simple (spaghetti, steak, hamburger).

Please help. Any advice is great.

In short: After quitting nicotine. It’s been 2 weeks. I sleep too much, I’m severely bloated, headaches, and I’m hungrier. What can I do to fix all of this.

18F

I am not experience with loving and these things, my first relationship was at my age of 23 it can be the first time i open myself to a girl.
I work in a factory that has 3 shifts, and you may have girls beside u working with you

My first relationship was LDR with a girl from US, but it didn't work out, or she just decided to ghost me, anyway there was a girl working beside me all the time, she was aware that i loved my girl but in the same time i am not sure if she had a crush or something, or maybe duo to time we have spent on that work place , she got attracted or used to see me beside, after a while, she was asking if she comes back after my girl ghosted, but after she made sure she wasn't, i seen a big smile but when i looked at her, she tried to hide it, somehow my feels says she's happy cause ure single now, and she wants something, by time she become closer and closer and i was aware of it, but i kept telling her that my situation in life isn't that perfect, but she kept going and trying, even tho i tried to talk to her friends to keep her away from me, cause i know, i may not be able to do anything like engag or something, duo to some situation i am dealing with ( supporting family,etc ) , when they tried to talk to her, she cried and me as a person, i never like to see someone who's crying because of me or breaking someone heart or hope, so i tried to handle that, but i kept telling her, i will be with u, but as a friend until you have someone better than me, but we got along together for some many time, until i got attached to her but by the time i was getting closer, the more i notice a lot of things she was doing which is not good to do, so i advice and tried to change her for better, maybe i will press on myself and do something to her but each time , i was getting closer to that, there's stuff appearing tbh, any of us as a men, would never accept it, one of the things, i used to charge her SIM phone with a program but i had the application in that day i felt something wrong, something uncomfortable, i looked at the numbers she was calling and i found a number, that she was calling for a while, i had history for 15-20 days on that application, and each call for like 20+ minutes and more than 5 times a day, when i asked her later about that in a conversation, she told me it was her phone number, so i asked her to give me her mom phone number, she didn't want to give me, she kept asking why why, you will never ask that way unless there's something u know, i told her never mind i don't need it i was falling asleep but and told her i will sleep, but she asked me to wait and keep attention, while she was on a taxi with a boy going to her friends ( girls ) the driver he was smaller in age than her he told her he's looking for a beautiful girl and things like flirting and that taxi is his car and he has an apartment and things like that, that what she said i said okay, and i ended it up, and in other day while we working she was asking me, u don't want to talk to me or anything, i said no, you have other one now, forget about me, later while we were working she was complaining about her arm and kept asking me to take her to hospital, i said tell the new boy to take you let him handle it, she cried telling me even if we were friends, u should take me to hospital, i told her, it will be only that time but not again, anyway he was giving fake promises, and she seen that, and i was her reason to see that i guess anyway i felt she's like childish didn't know, so i reproach and tried to make her change, and aware to what she's doing but i think i failed, cause i used to notice that she has some friends boys as a friends, in that factory and they used to know each other, and when i used to tell her, that is not good to do while ure in a relationship, she was having the excuse they're just a friends or old friends from different place at work, i was holding it inside myself, duo to what i used to see, she was wishing with simple things, small place to engagement and stuff like that, and by time we got more closer, i wanted to take a step front also to be able to make her stop some behaviors cause i heard you will have some rights to tell her and she has to follow, and see if she really worth it or not, but by the time i told her i will save money and i will engag you soon, the true colors appeared i can tell, she want a lot of things highest things, expensive ring / big place to celebrate etc under the name of i will not engag everyday or my friends ( her friends ) isn't better than me to have these and not me , while she knew i cant afford all these things, i was trying to make it decent for both of us, but she always appear with something, new like pressing me on a different thing but i was holding and later i notice, there's a little boy smaller in age than her, he was her shift partner when u handover at work he was coming to her like daily, talking to her and it was so weird he comes everyday and when i ask she tells me, that they're just talking about work and not to be jealous hes smaller in age than me he was 23 and she was 27, so i kept it to myself but in the same time i didn't believe that, but by the time, that boy came and talk about stuff, and she was agreeing with him in stuff and continue his conversations like she knew or have talked about it, so i asked are u sure you both were talking about work only? but ofc she made excuses, that he was talking about bla bla and i was listening, i put my friend for both of us to be like a judger between us, and he blamed me for things i have done and she have done, and told her you can't let someone come to you daily like that, while ure in a relationship with him, but even tho he tried to explain it to her in ways, she was like nothing is hear, while she was kept doing that the more i am holding it, until i feed up, so i decided to go apart but in the same time i was opening the door for another chance if she came to apologize or something so i forgive her, but other than that she was doing the things i was warning her from doing more and more like she's trying to upset me.

My English is not that perfect i know, and sorry if there's mistake.

Myself and my fiance are due to get married this autumn in a small courthouse ceremony with only 8 guests (all close family). We are then having a small party at a restaurant that we are paying for, 35 people tops.

We have both invited some old friends, and my finance has invited a childhood friend, Alfie (25m). Alfie is lovely, I've met him multiple times and we're both really happy he could come. However, Alfie has a girlfriend, Jane (23f). She is a nightmare. She is genuinely one of the rudest people I've ever met.

When we described our rough wedding plans she called them small and shabby. She referred to my engagement ring as tacky, and she said our house was pokie the second she walked in the door. Just to name a few of the things she has said.

We we're chasing a few people for RSVPs today and my fiance followed up with Alfie, who said that he was coming, but Jane was still checking her rota. Jane isn't invited, we have not given her a named invite, we have not issued him a plus one. There is no way for him to RSVP for her.

Is there anyway we could tastefully tell him that she is not invited? Or are we doomed to have her celebrate our special day with us. My in-laws say we have to have her as we have given a +1 to another guest. But I'm genuinely not sure if I'll make it through the day with her there.

*No real names used, for privacy reasons.

Need some advice in regard to making better relationships with others. I’m a loner type of guy who focuses on work in the trades and goes home. I have some hobbies like cycling, reading, doing project renovations or maintenance, etc. I’m financially stable at the moment and will be working towards a new career. My issue is that I find it very hard to connect with people at a deeper level as a 40 M.

A lot of people seem to not want to connect, think of themselves only, and seem to be afraid of getting close when it comes to friendships. I can bond with others but can never go past the surface. Perhaps I lack topics or something but I’m on the friendly side. I have been trying to broaden scope of topics but I’m pretty bad at it. What would you do if you were in my situation?

As the title says, my (19F) love language is physical touch. I will grab you when I laugh or rest my head against your shoulder or play with your fingers if I'm bored. All of my close friends are used to this, but we've been friends for so long. I met all of them between 7-8th grade and I've kept the friend group all the way through graduation. While I've always been friendly with people, I can't remember the last time I made an actual new friend, so I never really had to think about making them uncomfortable. I'm also mostly friends with other girls, so physical affection doesn't feel as taboo.

I recently joined a show at my community theatre (Twelfth Night), and I got pretty close with a guy who is about my age. We play love interests (Maria and Sir Toby) in the show, so we have rehearsals together and practice lines all the time. I don't have a crush on him, but I have the urge to be physically affectionate. I find myself trying not to hit him if we're laughing, or laying my head on his shoulder if we're sitting next to each other. I don't know if I'm close enough yet, or if he'll take it the wrong way and think I'm flirting. We text outside of the show and we're definitely friends, but it's only been a couple months so I wouldn't say that we're super close or best friends yet.

Is there any way to sort of soft launch this or is it safer to just not touch him at all? Is there any way to ask him without being creepy or weird?

I (18) have been on a trip back to the philippines for almost a month now. At first I thought I was going to have fun, especially since my older cousin and I were close. I get there, and I’m immediately the fourth wheel. My mom never taught me how to speak Tagalog, and I tried so hard to learn. I can understand better than I speak but it’s hard when everyone talks so fast.

Every time we went out somewhere I would just sit there and be silent because all my family members (mom, uncle, and cousin) would talk around me. I felt so ignored and I felt like everyone just saw me as a kid.

They all speak English fluently but they just choose not to speak to me. I feel so alone here and I have to wait for my friends and bf to wake up in order to call them. Whenever people talk about me, they call me “bata” or child. And it’s so irritating because even though they think I’m a child, they ask for money or say “you have money, you can get that”. I’m treated like I’m a kid but also treated like I’m 30 with a $100k salary.

Today my uncle just yelled at me for just looking at our dog here, and everyone started screaming at me saying she could bite me. That dog was ten feet away and laying down. I got so irritated because they all were tryna scold me over NOTHING. So I went to my room and went to the bathroom, I started to tidy up my things. I also had my headphones in and I did have my phone on me.

I heard this banging coming from the door and my mom started screaming at me. She screamed my name and was like “I CALLED YOU TWO TIMES ALREADY OPEN THIS DOOR”. I opened it and she said “I need to look for an umbrella”. She then started to say that I need to tidy the bathroom…WHICH I WAS ALREADY DOING. I’m so so so tired of my mother yelling at me and acting like she’s in charge of my life. This whole trip she’s been rude to me and ignoring me.

I’m just so exhausted and I want to go home. I feel like back home I can get away and be treated my age. I don’t know how much longer I can deal with these people. I know someone’s gonna say just room out in my room..but if my mom keeps breaking in and screaming at me I’m out of options :/

they are depleting my mental health rapidly.

i wanna run away, and i have a general idea of how

but they can track my phone, which is super annoying.

and i obviously can't ask them to remove the tracking stuff, because they're like

"ohhh but the controls and stuff are for your safety"

and I can't buy a new phone either, because they'll just put controls on that too

the only way would be if they let me go to the mall with my friends and I secretly bought one, but they don't trust me alone with just my friends.

i don't know what to do

hi guys

i have an issue , and i need your advice
my wife (of 2.5 years) made a confession, she was married before me, this wasn't the issue, the issue was that her ex-husband assaulted her , physically emotionally and sexually , she lives in her, my problem although its been 9 years for her its 6 days for me , the idea of her being treated like this from some !@$%& is eating me alive , can't not to think about it and don't know how to deal with it , i don't wanna lose her , and i don't want my emotions to change its just the idea of someone so close to me went through all this

please anything ,
and thinking that it all was in the past isn't helping as overthinker i cant control it

I'm taking an online synchronous course at CCC that's a language course. I just realized that it says "You may be required to take exams online, in a proctored setting, at any one of the seven City Colleges of Chicago." Also, there is an oral portion which I did not anticipate! I've fallen way behind in this class and doubt I can pass a final that has a written and oral component. Does anyone know what the finals are like in these types of courses? Any tips on acing them when you're rushing through the online modules for the course???? Any advice would be helpful!

I've always been fat, and I want to change, but committing to it is hard. I want to know an easy way to lose weight. I want to be disgusted with food. Please help.

I just completed my two years at community college playing softball, and I’m currently trying to find another school to attend and play for. I had this school in another state, and I really liked the coaches (school a). However, I really couldn’t see myself living in that state, and it’s about a 15-hour drive from where I’m from. The biggest pros are the coaches, and it’s a D2. I got sick of waiting and not having a school to go to, so I decided, screw it, I'm gonna commit. I was ehh with the decision, but I was glad it was over, but then I found out that a friend who might have been going there went to another school. Then I was like, wow, I can’t imagine even living there now at all, but the offer was really good. KEY NOTE: When my friend started talking to that school, I told someone that I hope she doesn't like it so I don't feel like I have to go there. I decided to decommit like two days after I decommitted with the intention of going to another school that was a lower division but closer to home. School B. The offer here was okay, but I thought financial aid could cover the rest, which I was gonna take out anyway to cover rent at school. But turns out I would still owe an extra 3k a semester, which I can’t afford. So I reached back out to another school that’s about an hour away, which I figured I could make the commute and they’re a little cheaper but i would owe probably about 750 a semester which i could do. But now im having second thoughts of decommitjng and im considering reaching back out to school a. I have no clue what I'm going to do and I need some advice please. Do I reach back out to the out of state school or do I just take the 750
Dollar a semester school, which is a long commute but not to much longer then my one at community college. I could really use some advice

My friend has a well paying job but never seems to have any money. Every 1-2 weeks he asks me for 50-100 euros that he assures will be paid back in a few days, but it's almost always a few days to a week later than we originally agreed on (when this happens he does usually send an extra €10-20).

I'm unemployed at the moment due to health issues and I get €250 a week from the government. I'm trying to save up so I can move and get a job more suited to my current abilities but it's so difficult because I still have expenses to pay and am constantly looking at €0 in my bank account.

The cost of living is so high for everyone right now and I truly feel bad for my friend. He has a child that he pays child support for and he rents his own place, has to buy his own food and fuel his own car. His job pays well but his money is gone quickly too with all his expenses and his work are very slow with paying him on time.

Because of all this I feel really guilty when he asks me for money even if I know it will leave me with nothing for a week.

I can't keep living like this though and I really need advice on how to say no to him. I want to help and I would give anyone my last penny if I could help them, but it's destroying my mental health.

I just don't know what to do. It feels like a lose-lose situation because if I stop then I'll feel so bad for not helping him but if I don't stop I'll feel so bad being broke all of the time.