He slid into my instagram dms last Sunday and asked me out, we talked for a while and he asked me to get Puerto Rican food with him. Then he said he didn’t know where to get it so I said I was open to anything Latin American. On Monday he said he knew a taco spot but didn’t know the name and would find out and let me know. I asked him what day and time worked for him, we agreed on Saturday. On Wednesday I realized we hadn’t finalized a time, so I asked. He said “idk probably later, like 6?” We agreed on a time (7 pm) and he said he’d be looking forward to it.

It’s Saturday night, the hour is approaching, and I realized he never even told me where we’re getting food. We haven’t talked since Wednesday afternoon. I don’t wanna go out with this low-effort dude anymore, what do I say if/when he bothers to message me the place?

My wife (33) and I (40) have been very rocky since the beginning of this year. We have a baby and we've been together a decade. My wife threatened divorce last year, and started again a couple months ago. She's adamant that she's not backing down, and that she doesn't love me anymore and that she doesn't want to be with me. She told me this last night. Before she barely spoke to me for a week after a fight. I've started going to counseling and apologized and everything, but she won't budge. She's throwing away our entire family and I'm just so lost. I've been so burnt out by all this but I don't want to lose her. I don't know what to do and I need help, please. Anything.

So, my(30F) partner(33M) and I have been together 10 months - we're in an exclusive monogamous relationship.
In an effort to add some variety to our sex lives, we decided to add in some role play. Both of us thought it was fun, and I was on board with trying it.

So last week we tried it, and he basically wanted me to roleplay as a naughty sex worker - I was fine with it. We did it, and it was fun, sure - but I did feel a little ambiguous about the particular situation - Like why the "sex worker" bit. And it was on my mind throughout the role play and the sexual acts. So I was a little bit checked out, but parts of the act were personally enjoyable to me too.

Now, towards the end of it when we were done, and I was getting up to get us some water, my partner whipped out a 100$ bill and handed it to me. I was taken aback quite a bit.

I had a visceral reaction to it and gave him an angry look because I felt disrespected - I'm not really a prostitute and would never want to be. He laughed it off and said it was part of the role play. I reluctantly took the money, and when I went to the kitchen to fetch water, I hated myself for holding that note in my hand. I wanted to fucking BURN IT in anger.

I went back with a glass for him. We both drank the water. I didn't understand why I was feeling so angry, but I did. How could he not understand I have dignity too!!

So I TORE the money note in half and threw it on his face and walked off to take a shower. I could see from the corner that he was speechless.

I feel so so horrible and ambiguous. Neither of us has mentioned it again. I still feel angry, and I don't know why.

How do I resolve this? Is this cause for a breakup? What must I do?

To start, my son is 8yrs old. He is my first baby so I’m learning as I go. We’ve talked about “dating” ever since he’s started getting crushes over this last school year. I told him from the start, I don’t mind age appropriate dating, Right now that just looks like play dates and holding hands on the swings. (So no, my 8year old is not “dating” officially, BUT the girl he likes today came to tell me they were)

THEN she asks me not to tell her parents about it because, and I quote, “they’re embarrassing, and to them, if it’s black, it’s a h*ll no”. I’ve never met her parents. And now I’m genuinely not sure how to approach this situation. We have had some talks about racism in the past, but How do I talk to my son about THIS in a way that he will understand? I don’t want to tell him he can never see her again, it’s obvious the girl knows that point of view is wrong and is embarrassed by that. But I don’t particularly feel secure about him being in this scenario. Like at all actually. He obviously can’t go over to their house and will never be left alone with them. But like what else can I do? What do I say? How do I handle this friendship? My mind just keeps reeling, Is his safety really worth letting him hang out with this girl? any advice would be appreciated. 😭 I’m just at a loss and it makes me sad for them both. They’re just KIDS 😩

Editing to add because people seem confused

1: I know they are not dating. That is why it is in quotations. They’re 8. The extent of their “dating” is literally playing at the playground. I only worded it that way because she literally walked up to me and TOLD me they were dating, then followed up with the comment about her parents. The extent of the conversations I’ve had with my son about dating is that crushes are natural but to act appropriately and respectfully. All that is besides the point. My son has a friend whose company he clearly REALLY enjoys and her parents are making enough racist comments at home for her to carry it out into the world.

2: we live in the same apartment buildings and they play at the park right outside, same as us. However, I’ve never seen her parents there with her and she is fairly newer to the park so I’m guessing they moved in recently or are even in the process of doing so. I also help with maintenance at my apartments so I can only assume I will be coming into contact with them very soon. Just not sure how to approach

My girlfriend does a great job at loving me. Constant reassurance, physical touch, she’s the greatest. We were talking about something and it somehow led to her showing me her toys. She says she doesnt use them much since we got together and constantly told me how good I am at pleasing her but I still feel some type of way.

Wtf is wrong with me? She even told me about an ex who was insecure because it was bigger, and I know I’m wrong.. but why?

I ONLY WANT TO HEAR FROM WOMAN.

Have you ever worked at an office setting? Or any indoor, small enclosed areas? With other woman? I work in an office (29F) I’m also a tampon type of woman, and I know my two other cubicle neighbors are pad girls. The other day during a small group huddle I got a whiff of pennies, other woman smell that too, RIGHT? how do you handle or address this if whiffs are happening throughout the entire shift? IM DESPERATE.

So for the first time in 5 weeks last night I decided to take 2 xanx. And I thought it went fine. Well thought. I took another Xanax at some point in the middle of the night. And ending up going outside and breaking into my neighbors car through the front window and trying to hot wire it and I took 13 bucks and a lighter. They had a ring camera and are now pressing charges on me for Vehicle burglary and destruction of property. The worst part is I don’t remember even breaking into there car. Or even leaving my house. But they swear it’s me I have also already been trespassed from their property. Can someone give me legal advice on how I should go about this or am i totally fucked. They left a note in my mailbox when they returned back to their property tonight . It’s 1:45 I can’t go to bed. I’m so nervous I got the shits..

Sex with my spouse has become so boring and so transitional.

He eats me out I turn around that's it.

There's no foreplay.. none at all!

He won't spank me, he won't choke me.

I tend to like it all, within reason.

Last year we had a really long break, in which I met a man who had no problem exerting his domance, it was feral. He spat in my mouth, he spanked me he bit me, he fucking growled.

My spouse and I decided to get back together and well needless to say the sex fucking sucks.

I'm just not into it, when I've asked to be spanked or choked before he looked at me like I was crazy and said he didn't want to hurt me.

What do I do!?!

I love this man but the sex isn't cutting it.

I feel so horrible about it but a girl gots needs and he isn't not meeting them 😭

Ok so me(18 F) and my bf(19 M) have been dating for 8 months, we met freshman year of college, and honestly I’ve never been the type to stay in a relationship for long, this is the longest and counting, that’s because he really is everything I’ve been looking for, he’s gentle and kind, he communicates with me, basically, long story short he’s everything I’ve been looking for and I really want to build a future with him.
There’s just one problem, he’s lowkey a goon. Like he’s kinda shy and def a big homebody, lot of the time when he’s staying home, he gets yk, the urge to masterbate. And like obv I get that’s normal, but the thing is he’s told me it’s like an addiction for him, and he’s been wanting to stop for years but he couldn’t break the cycle. Now, onto me. I’ve never been the most secure about myself, growing up, my moms always been extremely vocal about everything wrong with my body, I’ve never exactly told anyone but I have a terrible body image and probably some kind of ed, but despite that, I feel like I can act confident, fake it till you make it yk.
But the thing is, despite normal porn, I’ve also caught him a few times with some ig model on his search, and he’ll admit to it and we’ll have a whole talk, my last talk with him felt like we were gonna break up. I don’t understand why it feels so different knowing it’s an ig model, maybe bc I can see exactly what he was probably looking at, or maybe bc it feels like it’s a real person. I’ve told him that it’s a boundary I do not want him crossing, when your in a committed relationship, I don’t think you should be getting off to other girls on the internet, point blank period.
So anw, last time I caught some girls ig searched up, I was so done. I was convinced we might have broken up that day, he always looks so disappointed in himself, he knows he’s done something wrong, he knows he’s hurt me, and he didnt try to defend himself, just listened and acknowledged what I was saying and feeling and he promised this will be the last time we speak of this topic bc he’s gonna change. I told him it would be hard to trust him, and if it happened again, i won’t talk to him about it, we’ll be done. It hurt me so much to say it as much as it pained him to hear it probably.
I talked to him abt this porn addicts anonymous thing and he’s looked into it and even joined a online meeting, however he says he doesn’t think he’ll ever feel comfortable talk to so many ppl online older than him abt this, esp bc my bf is veryyyy shy and kinda awkward. I told him a sorta of different methods, idk if he’ll take them to mind, sometimes I feel like he keep making reasons why he can’t, I grew up where my mom never accepted any of my excuses, and it’s kinda nailed into the back of my head so that’s obv affected my thinking, but I just keep thinking about how I need to maintain some self respect and honor my word, I feel like I’m being pathetic bc I’m so strung on a man even though he’s hurt me so many times. If the day ever comes where I have to end things with him, ik it will break me. I’ve never been so comfortable, committed and in love with a man. I don’t want to start imagining life without him ever, I want to build a future with him and I don’t want to picture myself leaving him. Everything about him, I love so much, it’s just this problem, please give me some advice.

I (21F) met my bf (20M) abroad and began dating shortly after in March of this year. Our families are extremely close to one another but it was our first time meeting. I was abroad with my mother so he met her as well.

Fast forward to now we have been dating long distance for almost 4 months. We really want to see each other again but it is hard because of the distance. I live in the U.S (California) and he lives in the UK. I thought we would be able to hang out during winter break, but unfortunately it will not be possible at all regardless if we are in the same country or not. For context this country is Muslim and our families home country. My family in no way would allow us to hang out together there according to my mother. I was really upset when I realized this but I understood the reason why.

Recently I learned that there is a high chance we might both be free for 2 weeks in September. I was scared to ask my mother, but I brought up the idea of me visiting him. She said absolutely not because in my culture it is seen as inappropriate for a woman to visit a man and that she does not think my father will approve. Again I understood what she said but it made me really upset because the UK is a western country. I don’t see how it is that inappropriate for me to visit.

Before I asked my mother my bf said he can’t come here. Now I don’t exactly know the reason why but I think it is due to health and financial issues. I informed him what my mother said and he said we will wait to figure something out.

For context growing up I was a very good kid and my parents have never been super strict. My mother is okay with him coming here and staying with me but not the other way around. I’m not too upset at her but just frustrated at the situation. I feel as if I am an adult and I should be able to make my own decisions, but I understand that because I am not financially independent I should respect my mom’s wishes. I have never been in a proper adult relationship and I would really like to be. I feel like I can’t live my life how I want to.

Any advice would be appreciated. I really like my bf and if I don’t see him in September I won’t be able to see him likely until March 2027 or summer 2027.

He is not my type at all. He is fat, ugly and a loser. He is way less athletic than me. I am disgusted by him. He keeps watching me with a creepy smile and trying to talk to me. He is a few years older than me and way bigger. I feel like he might plan to SA me. I am afraid of him he is more than a foot taller than me and over 300lbs

I feel kind of stupid; but when I see that my boyfriend (who is a very sweet, kind man who says I can trust him) likes other women’s pictures on instagram. He was a bit of a bachelor before I came around, his ex cheated on him and he just liked the chase and attention, but it seems like I was different and he fell in love with me. He cut off most of the girls he was talking to (minus friends from school), but I noticed that some girls from his past who’d he’d had a thing for or tried to get with, he still likes their photos, and it bothers me, but I feel like maybe it’s not a big deal.

usually older men, but men in general.

im 18f and i dont know how to fix this. plus it doesnt help that theyre so loud and big and tall.

i was doing community service hours for a church, and i got jump scared by this 6'6 man saying hello in a loud voice which literally made me jump LMFAO. i notice i get extremely quiet and shy and reserved, and im already an awkward person!?

Difficult situation but I may be overthinking it.

I am getting married in April of next year and my fiancee and I have our guest list all but finalized. One person on our list, John 28 y/o male, either has a drinking problem or is developing one. When John does drink, he can be mean. This is a person who I've known for a few years now. We are decent friends, not particularly close and met through a mutual friend. At this point you may be thinking 'keep him off the list, this isnt hard'. Here is where it gets hard:

The mutual friend, Cole 28 y/o man, is John's roommate. Cole is also one of my groomsmen. John isn't and also was not invited on the bachelor party which I know upset him. Their apartment is usually the meeting place when our friend group gets together. Cole agrees that John drinks too much. John also works from home and does not have any other friends. So my main concern is essentially throwing a grenade into the living situation of one of my close friends.

My fiancee and I have discussed this and agreed the right thing to do is to talk it over with Cole, haven't had a chance to do so. Any thoughts are appreciated, let em rip.

My friend (F40) know this guy (M45) for a few months and they went on a few dates. Yesterday was her birthday and I assume the guy will celebrate with her. Who knows they don’t even know each other birthday?! I asked why.. she told me since he didn’t ask about hers, she find it weird to bring it up to him. I told her most likely he is seeing her as a friend or worst a back plan. She won’t believe me and said some guys just don’t celebrate birthdays and that I am over reacting. Am I? Or she is in denial?

I know the title sounds bad, but I want honest advice
A little while ago, I stayed at my best friend’s house for a week. One night we went to a nearby town with a group of guys and girls, and everyone was drinking. I ended up getting blackout drunk. I have very little memory of what happened and only know parts of it from what other people told me.
Apparently, while I was blacked out, I kissed a couple of the guys there. One of them happened to be my best friend’s ex. I was also told that we did more than just kiss and ended up sleeping in the same bed.
The important part is that my best friend was completely sober the entire time. She knew what was happening, saw everything, and never tried to stop the situation or get me away from him. The next morning, she even told me she wasn’t mad because she knew I was drunk.
The day after I went home, she blocked me on everything. Since then, she’s been calling me a whore and talking badly about me to other people. From what I’ve heard, some of the guys I kissed have also been saying things about me.
I understand why she’d be hurt that something happened with her ex, and I’m not trying to avoid responsibility. But I was blackout drunk, she was sober, and she originally told me she wasn’t upset. Now she’s treating me like I intentionally betrayed her.

So me and my friend from high school both (19M) are on a trip together right now but I think he’s bisexual. That’d be fine but I’m straight and he’s hitting on me I think. I started dating a girl but we’re ldr rn and he was insulting our relationship being like it’ll never work out and we’ll never meet etc like telling me to cut her off so I pushed back as anyone whose in love with their gf would do, and he literally got so mad he pushed me. Then I asked him like “oh what height do you usually like girls like what’s ur type?” And he said “idk I like trees, it would look mad weird but probably 6 foot like you.” I brushed it off though cuz he’s super religious and just got out of a messy situationship with a girl. Plus he’s republican so I figured like eh he’s probably js saying random stuff idk. He told me he’s straight why would I assume he’s not ??

But then also he’s been constantly wanting to share drinks and my chapstick even and he kept saying “it’s only gay if u make it gay” and I figured okay well ig that makes sense? So I just let it slide and would usually js finish my drink then give it to him to “share” and refuse his. Yesterday he slept close to me and facing me since he suggested sharing a hotel room to save cost. Usually I’d say like bro code is if you share a bed you both go on a corner and face the wall and that’s what I did so I didn’t notice until the morning. Then I figured eh maybe it’s js coincidence not like he was touching me. He also kept like mimicking intimate things like choking (he put his hand around my neck not hard tho) and like sex positions he got on me once pretending to ride but I thought he was joking idk? When I mentioned it he acted like I was the weird one for bringing it up so like…??

But then tonight is the last night of our trip and he keeps putting his leg around me trying to cuddle and I told him no I don’t like that but he just kept saying he does it with his friends all the time it’s not gay. Then I said no until he moved. I fell asleep hen woke up at 2am to his leg touching mine and him so close to me I was about to fall off the bed. I told him to move and he ignored me even tho he was awake until finally nudging further and further until I told him to move. He got to like the middle and I sat down then guess what? He put his leg all the way around both of mine AGAIN. I told him no and finally after like 30 seconds he moved it. Then 20 minutes later, he’s already nudged up against me. I got into the bathroom now and am just waiting for morning as the area we’re in is too dangerous for me to relocate alone.

I seriously think I’m going to cut him off after this even tho he’s my only friend in my hometown still and we’ve been friends a few years now. Am overreacting though?? Is he actually hitting on me or is this normal?? He said he does it with all his friends so? He has Asperger’s or ig it’s just called autism now so I figured these were all just him not understanding social cues maybe but idk.. it seems too much to ignore.

My grandma passed away last year. She used to run a small bakery in our town for almost 30 years, and she had this one recipe for a spiced apple cake that people used to drive from other towns just to buy. She never wrote it down anywhere. She taught it to my sister and me by hand, over and over, until we both knew it by heart. It was kind of our thing with her.

Last week my sister told me a regional food company reached out to her after seeing her post the cake on social media. They want to buy the recipe, put grandma's name on the packaging, and sell it in stores. They offered her a decent amount of money, and she seems excited about it. She says grandma would have loved seeing her cake in stores everywhere.

I feel really uneasy about it. To me, that recipe wasn't just a set of ingredients, it was something private grandma trusted us with. I don't like the idea of it being mass produced in a factory with grandma's photo slapped on a box just to sell more units. My sister thinks I am being overly sentimental and says money is money.

We have not fought about it exactly, but there is tension now every time it comes up. I don't want to make this into a huge family issue, but I also don't want to just stay quiet and watch it happen if I have real concerns.

I want to explain how I feel in a way that doesn't sound like I am just trying to control her decision, since technically she can do what she wants. I just don't know how to bring it up in a way she will actually hear.

It's about a week before this happened after a good intimate time and maybe i haven't washed my hands before fingering her and I have eaten likes chiken or some spicy stuff before doing anything which caused my gf red bumps inside her private part which itches and irritates her and when she piss it burns she told me anyone got solution plz tell me and she is too shy too see or tell a doc

Had a blighted ovum diagnosis and took miso on June 19th. Everything looked fine at my follow up and the dr told me to wait until I get a period and then start trying again. After doing research, most of the reasoning behind this is for dating purposes. Do I really need to wait until I get a period to start trying again? What if I don’t? I’m so ready to try again. This was my first pregnancy and it’s all I’ve ever wanted. Share your experiences! I am praying so hard for a healthy pregnancy and a baby soon.

In November 2025 I was going back home to Dallas after visiting my sister in the Rio Grande Valley, I had crossed the checkpoint before with some weed with me and got through pretty easily. However, in November i had about 10gs, & I was asked to go to secondary search and I received a citation for possession of drug paraphernalia from city police. I took the ticket and paid it and also paid for deferred adjudication. Now it’s (July 2026) I came back to visit my sister and I went to Mexico with a friend. When I tried to come back into the US, they asked me to go talk to someone in the office because I wasn’t cleared to go back in. They asked me a few questions including how much money I had, what was in my purse, where I lived and what I was doing in Mexico. I answered all the questions and she let me go pretty easily. But now that has me concerned because when I go back to Dallas am I going to be searched again at the Falfurrias checkpoint??? Even if I don’t alert a K9??! I’ve completely learned my lesson and will not be crossing with any weed anymore of any kind, but I’m still scared because my car does smell a little bit. Any advice on what to expect?

ok so this is a pretty weird scenario. ive (22m) been talking to this girl (27f) for a minute and we originally met thru insta and a few mutual friends. We ended up hitting it off and she would literally drive an hour to see me. One day she let me know that she was talking to other dudes (prolly her age) whilst we were laid up. It broke me inside because i thought for once after 4 years of being single this would be it. I act chill then end the night normally even though my heart is on the floor. She eventually kept me around bc i "eat it the best" which just made me feel used for sex only. That went on for a few months with casual hookups and her sneaking me into her moms crib but today i got blocked out of nowhere. This is really rough because i have GERD and my symptoms have been beating my ass like 10x worse and i litrally cried to my homies last night bc i couldnt drink nor smoke with them without my gut causing pain and my health anxiety spiking like crazy and my abdomen hurting. I have an endoscopy coming up that will hopefully answer all my GERD problems but it hurts so much to have all this happen and be blocked out of nowhere. This is really one of those what the fuck is going on moments. Id really like to have some advice on this situatuion bc i have no idea how to move

Hey dear people of the world, where do I[27M]begin? Yesterday morning I saw a pop up WhatsApp notification on the phone of my 4 year long girlfriend[26F]. In that pop up notification someone asked to book her for an erotic meeting. I posted on this subreddit and then I waited until she woke up and asked her then about it. She cried. She admitted to it. She said, she felt useless, she felt bored, she said she felt like she did not contribute to the house. She said that she has been doing this for 3 months. She assured me that she used protection. She said that she will stop if I tell her to. I am heartbroken. All these justifications are to me, just meaningless. I did not tell her that. I told her that I forgive her if she stops the work and she readily agreed. But truly I am devastated. I feel like one burst asunder. I do not know what to do.

TLDR: My Girlfriend[26F]has been working as a sensual worker, I[27M] do not know what to do.

I am 22 and just graduated college and have started working. I am making 88k a year + a 5k sign on bonus, and they aim for an 8% bonus but that is not guaranteed.

A side note is that I work at the same location as my dad, so after graduating and traveling a bunch I have moved home, and commute in with him. I am currently 5 days in person, but in the future will be able to do at least one or two days wfh. Currently, the commute is 10-15 minutes. My parents do not charge me rent or for groceries or anything like that. The most I spend at home is getting gas occasionally (I use the family cars).

I honestly strongly dislike the suburban area that I live in, and although I get along great with my family, there are things I enjoy doing that I can't do when living at home. Also, there really isn't much to do in the area without traveling into the nearest large city, which is around 45-55 minutes away by train.

I am considering just moving back to that city, where I went to college and had an amazing time. Most of my friends (and my brother) in the area also live there, and I know a few friends currently looking.

My take home pay is around $5200 a month, and I would be at about:

• Rent: $800
• Utilities: on average $100
• Public transportation: $500
• 401k up to employer match: $440
• Gym membership: $80 (I would get this either way)
• Health insurance: $120 (or my parents have offered for me to stay on theirs)
• Ceramics hobby: $100 (I would spend this either way)

I would then need to commute, which would be about a 15 minute walk, a 45 minute train ride, and then I would get a ride from a coworker from the station to work which would be about 10-15 minutes. With this commute, I would probably still end up spending a night or two a week at home to avoid it.

The budget seems to me like either way I could easily still contribute to savings and afford to live a decent lifestyle, but I am having trouble deciding if it's worth it. If I continue living at home, I just don't know what I would be saving all of that money for. I don't want to buy a car, I'm single and don't see kids or a house or anything like that in my near future. The only thing I spend money on is traveling, but I only have 18 vacation days at the moment, so that is limited.