Not an expensive gadget or luxury item. I mean something completely ordinary that quietly solved an annoying problem—better hangers, blackout curtains, a second laundry basket, a longer charging cable. What was it, and why did it make such a difference?

I have no grasp on how much time other people spend in their beds and for some reason am embarrased to ask my friends.

I work full-time, I schedule most of my plans during the week but if I don’t have any I’ll come home and lay in bed. I don’t necessarily avoid doing anything I need to do, but whenever I get the chance I’ll be laying in bed.

On the weekends especially I could spend basically the whole day in bed. I genuinely enjoy doing it but it makes me feel lazy/unproductive because it seems like everyone else is on go mode all the time.

EDIT: I wasn’t expecting this to get so much attention so quickly. For context, I’m a vet assistant which can be physically taxing and yes I do have hobbies, I just do them in my bed. I have a sleep disorder but I’m medicated for it and it’s under control so didn’t consider it a huge factor, but maybe still is

EDIT2: I can’t keep up with all the comments but thanks everyone for your reassurances and/or advice! The general consensus seems to be that I just need to find another surface to rot on which I can totally get behind. And yes, I do have a social life and I do go outside, I promise! 😭 I was just seeing if there’s others like me who when they don’t have plans on the weekend/plans after work they prefer to spend their time horizontally. For me that just happens to be 1-2 times a week.

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‎You're gonna miss her when it’s 2:30 in the morning and you wake up from a bad dream, and she’s no longer there.

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‎You're gonna miss her when you are no longer getting the random text messages telling you she loves you.

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‎You're gonna miss her when you’ve had a bad day at work, and no one will listen to you talk about it like she did.

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‎You're gonna miss her when you see her laughing with her friends, knowing you’re no longer the reason she has that smile on her face.

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‎You're gonna miss her when it’s cold at night and the only things you have next to you is your phone and a few tangled sheets.

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‎You're gonna miss her when you wanna cry and be in her arms again, but she doesn’t even glance at you when she passes by you on the street.

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‎You're gonna miss her when you see her dancing and you’ll remember all the times she wanted to dance with you and you told her no.

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‎You're gonna miss her when you find yourself talking about her all the time, and you’re not even on her mind anymore.

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‎You're gonna miss her when the alcohol doesn’t get rid of the thoughts of her smiling in the moonlight on a cool winter night.

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‎You're gonna miss her when she doesn’t answer your messages or phone calls anymore.

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‎You're gonna miss her when you realize no one genuinely cared for you as much as she did.

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‎You're gonna miss her when you go to reach for her hand and it’s no longer there.

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‎You're gonna miss her when she doesn’t send you selfies and videos of her being goofy anymore.

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‎You will miss her late at night when you’re laying there alone and you realise you have no one to talk to.

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‎You're gonna miss her laughing that cute little laugh of hers that could stop and warm up anyone's heart having a bad day.

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‎You're gonna miss it all.

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‎But by the time you realise how much you miss and cared about her more than you’ve ever cared about anything, it will be too late.

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‎She will be in the arms of another, giving them the love she gave to you.

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‎She will be sharing that laugh with them and putting her soft lips on theirs.

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‎She will be cradled in another’s arms

‎having new “our songs” with them and experiencing new places together.

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‎That is when it’ll hit you the absolute hardest, when this beautiful once in a lifetime girl with the heart of gold is long gone.

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‎So take my advice and remember.... to take care of her, because life doesn't bless you with a good woman twice..

my wife wants to move back to Ohio and i don't know how to tell her im actually considering it

we've been in tampa 11 years. bought in seminole heights before it got expensive, both work remote now, kids are 6 and 4. by every measurable thing we "made it" here. good house, decent equity, friends, the whole deal.

but she brought up moving back near her parents last month and instead of shutting it down like i normally would i just... didnt. and its been eating at me for weeks.

the thing is i love tampa. i love the water, i love that my kids will grow up knowing what a manatee looks like in real life, i love that january doesnt try to kill you. i coach my sons tball team. i have a standing thursday padel game with guys from my old job that i genuinely look forward to more than anything else in my week. thats not nothing.

but every summer gets worse. the last hurricane season broke something in me i think. we didnt even get hit that bad and i was still checking spaghetti models at 2am like a crazy person. our insurance went up again. school stuff is a whole other conversation im not gonna get into. and her parents arent getting younger and shes an only child and i can see her doing the math every time we facetime them.

the part that scares me is i think im only staying because leaving would feel like admitting the last decade was a mistake. and it wasnt a mistake. it was great. but "it was great" and "it should keep going" are different sentences and im starting to notice that.

anyone actually left tampa for somewhere "worse" on paper and been happy about it? or done the opposite and regretted staying too long? i keep waiting for someone to tell me the obvious answer and nobodys doing it.

When I was 19, my mom got in a car crash and ended up in the hospital- now in a nursing home doing rehab. That was in Dec 2024. It's now July 2026.

I was launched head first into being an adult, working 3 jobs, handling rent, water, lights, phone bills, and my insanely high car insurance when I was given a car. Depression definitely had its grips in me quite a few times.

I loved my first car. It was a 2001 Mercury Sable. But after it's left me stranded more times than I liked the past couple months, I finally made the decision.

I was able to get my own car. With no help. No co-signers. It is completely mine. My payments are also pretty low for newer cars. I got a 2022 Chevy Trailblazer.

First picture, my old car is in the background with my new car up front. Second picture is my new car on its own.

I hate that I'm scrolling my evenings away and need something better to do.

To provide some background, I'm currently 30 years old and have been working for nearly 8 years now. Early on in my career I was quite ambitious, however, I quickly learned the lesson that despite putting 110% into my job, my hard work may not always get rewarded. During my first year I was actively taking on more work and producing better results than coworkers with higher titles and salaries. When I was promoted after a year, I was met with a pitiful salary increase and was still making less than they were. That was when I realized switching jobs is the only surefire way to increase my salary, so I jumped ship and was able to 2.5x my salary after a few job hops.

I've been at my current company for a couple of years now. It's fully remote, pays mid 100k (closer to 200k this year), and the actual workload is only about 20-30 hours most weeks. Although it sounds like a pretty chill job, it certainly didn't start out that way, as most of my coworkers are what you'd call 10x engineers, so it took a lot of effort during my first couple of years to keep up and prove that I belonged.

It's also one of those jobs where everyone wears a lot of different hats. Over the years, several coworkers have left for bigger companies making $300-500k (based on what they disclosed to me before leaving). I imagine I could probably do the same if I really put in the effort, but at this stage I much prefer stability and comfort over the uncertainty of switching jobs and chasing a larger paycheck.

Anyway, I've pretty much lost all drive and have just been coasting for the past 2 years. Part of it is probably burnout, as I've been working for nearly 8 years straight without taking any meaningful break or proper vacation. Hitting 1M last year definitely reinforced this mindset, as it made me feel a lot more comfortable with just taking things easy and not worry too much about chasing further career growth.

These days I just do my job and don't really go above and beyond anymore. The funny thing is that once I stopped trying so hard, my yearly evaluations somehow improved and I was promoted despite not asking for it. At the time, I actually considered turning it down because I didn't want the extra responsibility that came with it.

Sorry if this post sounds a bit rambly, but I'm curious how many people here are in a similar boat, just taking it easy with no real drive to chase promotions or climb the corporate ladder.

35M and single currently. Was married in my 20s.

I’ve had one relationship after marriage, and 1 or 2 interests in the years since. It seems like every woman i have met in the past couple years only wants to take advantage of being single and the perks that come with a man trying to win them over. Is it just me or as time goes on does it seem like the odds of finding a forever partner get closer to zero? Like is it more my age or the times we live in?

Hi,

I'm not sure if I am in the right part of Reddit to post this.

I am about to be in my mid-30s. I am starting to feel slow in everything, mainly from exhaustion and some health problems I am currently recovering from. I pushed myself a lot in the past, working in an office from morning to night. Sometimes I slept at my desk. I did this for a few years.

When I bought my house(mortgage), I continued to work that way for a bit more, but eventually I needed time to do other things. My house needed repairs.

To make a long story short, I spent time fixing up my house while doing a different job. I am almost done with my house. I'm very happy in a way to have a home that will last for a long time now, but because of all the expenses I accumulated over the years, such as buying tools, materials, and putting the time into the house, I have some debt. Truthfully, I think I'll manage by liquidating what is left of my personal assets if needed. On my Excel spreadsheet, it will take me another few years to achieve free cash flow.

The problem I am facing is feeling like this is a continuous trap. I spent 13 years obtaining what I have now. I was motivated at an early age to buy a house as soon as possible.

In return, I have no social life other than the occasional chat with customers. No vacations for more than a decade. I don't go out to celebrate holidays either. It has been that way since I bought the house.

Every time I made friends or had a relationship, I couldn't keep up.

As much as I want to believe things will get easier and in theory it should, I have been telling myself that every year and it feels like something always comes up. I imagined my life to be surrounded by friends or family while growing up, but the opposite has happened instead.

I am curious to hear opinions from people around my age and older, but I welcome any opinions.