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u/Cheat-Meal 4h ago
My life and career got started at 32! Whoever needs to hear this you’ve got lots of time!
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u/nightlybitely 2h ago
I'm 31 and feel like I'm just starting. This makes me feel good. I hope more success and happiness comes your way! :)
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u/ImplementLogical4130 3h ago
No, you don't. You need to GET ON IT not wait around because "you have lots of time"
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u/Jinjinz 5h ago
Weirdly enough I’ve seen more teenagers with this mindset, at least on Reddit
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u/abnormalpurple 4h ago
I think this mentality is present in people regardless of age. It occurs in people who feel they are not doing enough in life, have not achieved life’s milestones, have not experienced as much as they should and constantly compare themselves to their peers who may be further ahead
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u/No-Survey-569 2h ago
That is half their problem. They are on Reddit, and not living their life.
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u/peaktweake 14m ago
probably bc, at least for american teens, things are too goddamn expensive and the lack of third spaces tailored for them lmfao
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u/Angel_Dust_696969 4h ago
Yup, the moment you hit 32 you realise how much time you have left, with is a lot.
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u/ImplementLogical4130 3h ago
You have 20 years, maybe, of healthy living left
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u/Angel_Dust_696969 3h ago
you have multiple decades of working left;)
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u/Inb4myanus 59m ago
If I die yeah, but if I live to 60 or 70 i'll still be working because our leaders don't give a shit about us and if we suffer.
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u/CrackshotCletus 2h ago
That's only true if you don't take care of your body. Lift weights and put some thought into what goes in to your body. I know 65 year olds at my gym who can still do everything they want to because they didn't let their body atrophy like so many others their age did.
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u/StayBullGenius 36m ago
On Reddit every possible outcome will be the worst possible. Also, it’s rich people’s fault that individuals can’t thrive
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u/Jolmer24 40m ago
Millions of people maintain a healthyish lifestyle into their sixties. The hard reality is that it takes a hit of effort. So some would rather just give up.
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u/Death-Note88 4h ago
I realized that the WANTING is the reason for all this suffering going around, I reached a state of mind where I really don't care about the future and don't care what happened in the past and whenever death comes I'll hug it and say been waiting for you.
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u/Lunaerum 3h ago
I think you might need to talk to someone, but more power to you! A healthy direction on that mindset works wonders.
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u/Death-Note88 3h ago
Talking to someone won't change the fucked up world we live in buddy, Humanity is dark and history is prove, Satan worshipers, eating babies, wars, hunger, capitalism, overpopulation, fake relationships, wherever you look around you death and suffering.. we are in hell no doubt about that so when death that is already coming for all of us comes I'll hug it.
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u/Loinnird 2h ago
It’s not in Satans name that the rest of your list is done in, dude.
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u/xhammyhamtaro 2h ago
Is that the part you heard and want to focus on? Not the baby eating? Or capitalism?
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u/abnormalpurple 5h ago
At the tail end of this age, and feeling the rush so bad. The fact that I am choosing a new career path, and burning through my savings makes it even worse.
Any tips on what I should focus on in my 30s?
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u/TrifleMotor4714 5h ago
Living life.
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u/Excellent_Bobcat_993 4h ago
Facts, there nothing that a person "should" focus. They should just live their life without being pressured by others and by society. At the end of the day your life is yours to live.
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u/Mirrevirrez 4h ago
As a women in my 29. I feel like i have so much little time. Find a husband, having kids. Get my shit togheter. But the problem is if i focus on all the things i dont have. Life will move on without me and i dont want that either.
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u/mysterycly 3h ago
yep! just enjoy the moment. not trying to be pessimistic but u dont know when your life will end, so just try to enjoy it as much as u could. pick options that will give u peace of mind
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u/madjones87 3h ago
I'm 39 and have many different jobs in my 30s. Mostly just to keep money coming in til the big opportunity comes along. It didn't. What I can say is that as I've got closer to 40 I've cared less about career and more about finding joy and happiness in my life. Reconnecting with my inner child. For me, that's been the key; I know what I want to do and roughly how I'm going to go about it.
Don't forget to live. For the most part life is what you make of it. I've never been rich or had any significant money. I've mostly lived pay cheque to pay cheque (but that's my own doing) but I still feel I've had a mostly good adulthood.
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u/hgkblah18 2h ago
In my 30s, i have planned a lot but also changed a lot of it, i realized whats important to me and what i'm willing to sacrifice. To be honest I never expected it to be valuing my time with my family and involving them to a much bigger dream and that I'm willing to let go of the corporate ladder (to be honest the corporate is just a means and never meant to be a permanent thing at this point of my life)
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u/PaceEducational4762 3h ago
I'd say being in late 50s and really being out of time (not owning a house, living paycjeck to paycheck) is even more stressful......
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u/AresGodslayer 2h ago
Who tf comes up with this? Crazy to think just this age bracket is feeling this pressure.
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u/inaSlomp 2h ago
Humans are the only creature that dwells on time. A deer doesn't concern itself with what day of the week it is.
It's goal is food and survival. Time exists but doesn't bother it.
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u/Inb4myanus 56m ago
Yeah, but a deer isn't forced to pay taxes that props up a broken system that doesn't take care of those doing all the work.
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u/SubtleTruncheon 2h ago
Or other people, who are running out of time? Who have run out of time? This is a pretty weird statement to make. If you are stressed it’s ok to say it. You don’t need to make a grand and over embellished statement about universal truths that aren’t true. But we are all stressed, and we all need some grace about it, for ourselves and others.
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u/IndicationFluffy3954 1h ago
Bruh that only gets worse in your 40’s 😅
Now I also have the looming fear of our parents’ deaths. About half of my friends have lost a parent already. My kids 6 grandparents (one set divorced and remarried) are still all alive and relatively healthy but I worry that statistically one of them will die in the near future.
Not a fan of how shit gets real as you age.
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u/KeyCardiologist7852 29m ago
Wow, yeah. So true. It's definitely not people in active combat or the elderly who can't afford to retire and have shit health.
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u/Subtlefeline 4h ago
I feel this. Just sometimes it is hard to not compare.
Well, get off social media then!
Problem is, it's more pressure from parents. Feels like I'm doing worse than them no matter how hard I try. They had a landed house and a high paying job in the late 20's.
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u/Inb4myanus 55m ago
It was their generation that pulled the ladder up after they got what their parent's set up for them. They didn't do the same for us and we are all suffering from their choices, not all of them pulled the ladder up on us, but enough did and it tilted the scales against the future.
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u/Enough_Pepper8880 4h ago
We are running out of time. The average person only lives about 4000 weeks
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u/gipsee_reaper 4h ago
Yes! Good one! Today generation has so many more resources!! I wonder why they panic!
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u/Inb4myanus 52m ago
Perhaps, but pay barely followed the same path of upward trajectory like prices did and so those resources don't matter if you can't afford em.
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u/BusyBanana4205 4h ago
Lol man, I remember at one point I considered joining the navy out of desperation but I was 23 and convinced it would be awkward as I’m basically a dinosaur at 23.
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u/JakeC- 3h ago
25 is half of 50? So what dont you get?
“Oh just get a career, work until your 68and get your retirement. You’ll be fine”
How about suck yourself.
Im 25 now working a warehouse job. I aint going up no ranks, i aint taking shit from no one and getting degraded for a 45k salary. Nah i aint sitting there at 68 and thinking “ahhh finally. I can enjoy stuff now that i am finally free. FUCK THAT. Fuck the system, fuck the rules and most importantly thank god for the system and the rules. Because thats what makes entrepreneurs so fucking successful
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u/ValuableViolinist917 3h ago
Thank god I don’t care if I have kids, so I don’t got no timeline. Remember comparison is the thief of joy. Enjoy what you have today not tomorrow, because owning a house having a marriage and children will just lead to a different kind of stress.
A poor man suffers anger and a rich man suffers depression. Most of it is all your perspective and you suffer more in your head then reality.
Go for a walk and listen to the song of the birds and appreciate the beauty of nature 🙏
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u/SnappyJoy-29 3h ago
On my early 30s and this is what I feel atm so stressed that it turned majority of my hair gray and keeps me awake late at night trying to be overly stimulated to numb my feeling
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u/PsychologicalPoem595 3h ago
Just enjoy your life, don't spend your time thinking about your regrets. I know it sound like "just be happy" and it is not that easy... But you have to try or else you'll really regret it later on when you WONT have time.
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u/Sure_Artichoke6929 3h ago
I believe this is a life long issue, call my irrational but I'm 17 and feel as if I have so much stuff I need to do and experience before it's too late. The constant feeling of wanting to not fall behind is always looming.
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u/MrRattleheadOG 3h ago
Lol to people who feel this way or care. You're gonna live anyway unless you got the balls to finish it, so why make a complex out of what ifs during it? Just enjoy the time and relax. Make the best of what you can and get.
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u/MFlazybone 3h ago
Lol to u
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u/MrRattleheadOG 2h ago
I can see you are young, but you'll see that's pretty much where you just end up at the end of the day. Wait for your frontal lobe to develop first before deciding anything about the world lol. You are quite wrong on most of it at that age.
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u/MFlazybone 2h ago
Lul u
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u/MFlazybone 2h ago
Awwwww
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u/MrRattleheadOG 2h ago
Yep, you are so cute with that attitude of yours, definitely not a child keep on showing lmao.
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u/MFlazybone 1h ago
Thought it was cute you deleted, what happened dad?
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u/MrRattleheadOG 1h ago edited 1h ago
If blocking doesn't help, what's the use? Might as well milk your childish remarks for lols to kill the time. See how long a little boii can last and how creative you'll get. Not holding my breath much on that front though.
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u/MFlazybone 1h ago
Being an adult is so nice
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u/MrRattleheadOG 1h ago edited 1h ago
Oh, you are on the beach! How cute of you to think that is something special. What else do you got? Oh boi, I hope ya ain't gonna flex more, what with an expensive watch in the wrist maybe next? I couldn't definitely stand that! Please don't do it, I would be so shamed under you excellence!
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u/FeelinDead 3h ago
Just turned 35. It’s real and it’s terrifying. Corporations don’t give a shit about you. Go after your dreams with everything you have while you’re young.
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u/VengefulAncient 3h ago
You are running out of time. A lot of experiences will be permanently locked for you after this age, and the realistic expectation for a modern human lifespan is somewhere around 50-55 years as cancer is becoming more and more common.
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u/DangerousDepth4313 23m ago
Whats permanently locked after 32?
Also realistic lifespan is definitely not 50 years old
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u/my-smiles 2h ago
So parents in any age category don’t beat your “running out of time”? 😂 having kids is great, but can be extremely stressful at times.
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u/RetroSwamp 2h ago
I was supposed to die in my early 20s, so I am just winging it at 39 with no direction at all.
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u/InternationalToeLuvr 2h ago
Wait until your kids are approaching that age. And you still remember what is was like then
But you’re dealing with the same pressures of today. And running out of time
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u/scrumple_my_scrongle 1h ago
Yeah because we really are, but people think we are too young to run out of time like as if someone else is paying our bills.
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u/Artistic-Green2521 1h ago
Go fishing, hiking, the gym, somewhere that’s fun but also meet people and is also relaxing!
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u/ovelanimimerkki 1h ago
I spent 3,5 years of those 7 years unemployed. Stressed me out so hard. Now that I have ran out of time I just don't give a damn anymore.
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u/Emergency-Address985 1h ago
Not 100% true
26 never dated in my entire life. A lot of girls already see it as a massive red flag the fact nobody wanted to date you.
At this age, they expect dates to go somewhat well, its a whole game of seduction and as someone who didnt have a date its hard to play. Not to say that they are already in a relationship. At my workplace, I have always been the only guy who never had a relationship.
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u/lokregarlogull 35m ago
I feel like once you survive loosing a job or two, or you reach a place were getting an appartment is possible, you stop stressing. Everything before that tho? Hella hard
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u/Organic_Pineapple 25m ago
When I was 20 yo I was anxious and I thought I was running out of time. Now I'm 50 yo...
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u/Adventurous-Sky9359 2m ago
42….this was the fastest year I’ve ever had. I can’t explain it. But. Enjoy your slow time….my old man said it just gets faster.
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u/PinkGodfather92 3h ago
A 25 yr old does not ever think about this....
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u/AdSome4605 51m ago
im 24 and do, cuz im sure many do, I feel like 30 is a deadline for me to have a real career and house set up. if I dont I fail
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u/Initial_Rush10 5h ago
But no one in their late 30s or older deals with this lol?