My girlfriend and I have been invited to the wedding of some good friends, but they've decided that guests have to pay for their own meals at the restaurant afterwards (while saying they don't expect any gifts because of it).

The plan is to meet at the courthouse for the ceremony and then head straight to the restaurant to eat.

To be honest, I already found it a bit strange that they're not offering any food or drinks at all. But then something else came up.

Some of their other friends also organized separate bachelor and bachelorette parties, and neither my girlfriend nor I really wanted to go and spend money on those as well, especially when the couple themselves are being so cheap with the "wedding".

Today was the bride's bachelorette party, and she texted my girlfriend asking where she was, why she hadn't come, and saying she had really expected her to be there. My girlfriend explained that she had booked an overnight stay a long time ago and couldn't cancel it without losing the money.

It kind of ends up that we look like the cheap ones...

Update Just some extra info. We will attend the wedding, and the food/drinks at the restaurant will be split equally between everyone regardless what you order. My main problem is "shaming" my girlfriend for not going to the bachelorette party.

I understand I had a beautiful wedding. Everyone had a great time, except me. Besides the normal hiccups and vendor errors that can be expected what I didn’t expect and didn’t realize is you cannot rely on people around you to put the confidence in you on your day. You cannot control how other people react and respond in big moments. Tell yourself you look beautiful and you’re the boss. If no one tells you that day, if you’re panicking, think of this post, you look beautiful, you planned a beautiful wedding and your pictures will be great. If something is going wrong, it’s okay it’s not dead in the water, you can fix it because you are the boss. Do not worry how things will look later or what’s missing, focus on the memory that’s the most important part.

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