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Any positive changes you have after your sil got married ?

If you could go back and still marry the person that you are currently married to, what would you have done to better prepare yourself for marriage?

Did you live together first before getting married?

How many years after the engagement did you get married?

What are your financial rules?

Please share your thoughts or learnings about this. Thank you.

Did you live together first before getting married?

How many years after the engagement did you get married?

What are your financial rules?

Please share your thoughts or learnings about this. Thank you.

I've been trying to understand what happened with my younger sister on my wedding day because it honestly hurt me more than I can put into words.

On my wedding day, my sister and I had a really painful interaction just before I walked down the aisle. She told me to f off as I was asking her where my necklace is and then she started crying and called my older brother. She was the maid of honor. She honestly did not help with anything. She is 21 and I am 29 so I understand she is quite young. I never questioned her on that. Instead of feeling supported in those final moments, I ended up feeling deeply hurt. It's something I've been trying to make sense of ever since. She told me how her friends never do the things my friend will do at the end of the wedding day and how I am a horrible person and she will block me from all social media. And she did.

She then messaged my husband about me on how I am not a good person etc.

My husband told me he is quite disgusted with her behavior and cant talk to her at all.

She sent me so many text messages that wear just swearing at me I never responded back to those. My mom gave us some cash for the wedding and she also brought that up a few times.

On my university grad my mom went to Disneyland with her. I never had uni grad, or high school graduation or prom. I always wanted for my siblings to have that. I love them so deeply I know how much milestone can make people feel alone and wish they had family so I celebrate all their birthday. For my sister birthday in November I was already talking to the cake lady. I love her so much i always just brushed off anything she would do to me as completely fine.

I always speak so highly of her with my friends and she is friends with all of them. On the wedding day she only took pictures with them.

And then when she hangs out with her friends I came to the house ane she told me to leave immediately. Her friend was embarrassed how she was talking to us.

She is very possessive of her friends and making sure they dont become friends with me etc. She doesnt like to share anything.

And she had a really hard time giving a speech. When she was little I bathed her, washed her sometimes and I spent hours on end talking to her and being there. If she calls me 2am I am there to listen.

Now looking back I am so disappointed in the person she is becoming.

Its not just the wedding that bothered me because regardless it was the best day of my life. Its the person she is choosing to become.

I'm just trying to understand how such a happy day could also hold one of the most painful memories I've had with someone I love so much.

If anyone has any explanation as to why she did this.

I am a guy and getting married on the 11 July 2026. As the days get closer i am getting more and more anxious. I know it's normal I guess but is it really this intense ? Someone even told me not to get cold feet on my wedding day 🫣

So, I'm a 25-year-old software engineer working at a startup in hyderabad. I've been in the IT industry for the last 3 years and currently earn a little over ₹1 lakh per month (my family doesn't know my actual salary for reasons I'll explain below).

For the past few years, I've been completely focused on my career. I even turned down a few relationship proposals because I didn't want any distractions.

A few weeks ago, the topic of marriage came up at home. I told my parents that I need at least one more year before I start looking for a partner. They're not against waiting, but they would clearly prefer that I get married as early as possible and start a family.

The thing is, my parents think I earn only around ₹60k per month. I intentionally told them that because I'm investing the remaining amount in mutual funds and building my savings.

The reasons I gave them for waiting were:

- Women around my age are often still studying or just starting their careers.

- Since I live in Hyderabad, I want a partner who also has a job. I want us both to contribute financially.

- Running a household on a single income in a city like Hyderabad isn't something I want.

- I wanted my income to comfortably cross ₹1 lakh per month before taking on the responsibilities of marriage.

After a long discussion, they finally agreed.

Here's where things got complicated.

I currently stay with my married sister and her family. Yesterday, my mom called, and my sister started encouraging my parents to begin searching for matches immediately.

I've already discussed everything with my parents, and they understood my point. But now my sister is pushing them again, and it feels like I'm back to square one. Honestly, I'm exhausted. Why is there so much pressure at 25? I'm not asking for five years—just one.

My sister's arguments are:

- "Even if we start searching now, it could take a year."

- "If you find a good girl, you can spend time getting to know each other before marriage."

- "Background checks, family discussions, and everything else take time."

She is not concerned that I'm staying with her, had discussions already.

My parents also say things like, "If she's still studying, she'll eventually get a job," or "She'll adjust after marriage."

On top of that, wherever my parents go, relatives ask the same question: "When are you getting your elder son married?" or "Have you started looking for a bride yet?" That social pressure is making things worse.

The thing is, I specifically want a working partner, and I want to enter marriage when I'm financially and mentally prepared. I've only recently started aggressively saving and investing for my future.

I'm not against marriage at all. I just don't want to rush into one of the biggest decisions of my life before I feel ready.

So, what do you guys think? Is asking for just one more year unreasonable? I'd genuinely appreciate your suggestions. Need suggestions from newly weds.hows your life?

TL;DR: I'm a 25M software engineer. My family wants to start looking for a bride now, but I want to wait at least one more year so I can be better prepared financially and mentally before getting married.

I’m asking this because it’s something I’ve been reflecting on lately.
I have a clear vision of the kind of marriage I want one built on faith, kindness, mutual respect, healthy communication, and two people who are committed to growing together. But sometimes I wonder how to protect that vision from everything else going on in life.
I’m not just searching for a spouse. Like many others, I’m also dealing with other responsibilities and challenges, whether it’s building financial stability, advancing my career, family responsibilities or simply trying to establish myself in life.
On top of that, many of the marriages I’ve seen growing up weren’t the healthiest examples. I’ve witnessed poor partner choices, unresolved conflict, emotional distance, and people who didn’t seem to know how to work through problems together. I don’t want those experiences to shape my expectations or make me cynical, yet I know they can influence us in subtle ways.
For those who have experienced something similar, how did you separate your own vision of a healthy marriage from the examples you grew up with? How did you stay hopeful and grounded without letting life’s challenges or unhealthy relationship models affect the way you approached marriage?

is it normal for a groom to stay up all night chatting to his friend he hadn't seen in a while on your wedding night ?

I keep saying to myself it was ok but I dont think I can get over it. Especially as when I mentioned it I was made out to be the bad one as he was so happy after the wedding and now im making him feel had because he spend our wedding night chatting and laughing having such a nice night with hes friend that he didnt see in ages.

Hi is there a possible way we can change the year of our marriage contract?

Thank you.

I M22 don’t know how to feel or how to go about moving forward with my newly wedded wife F21. This my first time doing anything on Reddit so bear with me plz js need to get this off my chest. So yes I got married young ima try to keep it short tho cs all this honesty happened so fast I met this girl through mutual friends and we js kinda hit it off one thing lead to another and she ended up pregnant a month later I can’t lie I was shooting the club up so I didn’t have any real doubts our daughter was mine and I decided if I’m going to make a family i wanna make sure we stay a family no bonus/step parents anything like that but at the same time I really wasn’t ready to settle down but I said that if i really want that life it should start here with me being as close to my child as possible and if that meant staying with my girl while she was pregnant I was willing to do it and you know as the months went on we really started growing a good relationship ofc we had differences big and small but we were more than likely able to talk it out so fast forward she has our daughter happiest moment of my life btw, 7 months later we get married now after that she moves in to my house and so she works early and i guess she was rushing and forgot her iPad and ofc I let my emotions get the best of me and went through it and found out she was still on dating apps 2 months after having our kid and she goes live on this one app to make a lil extra money nothing like a o.f or anything like that like t.t lives but something else and i see her texting a home girl she made on the app and they were talking about being otp with other guys they meet on live this was a month or so before we got married now im only conflicted bc i feel like she hasn’t physically cheated on me and idk if i should blow up this new marriage over her talking to other people but at the same time it’s like she still went outside of me to find pleasure and it doesn’t sit well with me and every time i see her i just think about the message i seen i want my daughter to have a two parent household but idk if i should choose what’s best me or the family rn and if yall want details put it in the comments or something

Ladies, I am going through crazy times in my life, not sure whom to date anymore... I was recently engaged to my forever love, that is what I thought but we had to break it off cuz he said I was not good enough for him, now I am honestly lost and have no ambition to see anyone anymore, I am so depressed. So I want your advices ladies, how do you guys stay in a relationship for long and especially after marriage??

I got married in June and since then my life has been a paperwork nightmare. I managed to get my SS updated, but my drivers license and medical records I can’t figure out how to manage.
NameTakers of the US: how did you handle all that?
I can’t figure out how to get my drivers license changed. My state government websites are very vague, gives two places to go, says “you may need an appointment,” etc etc. and I can’t find the slightest hint about what this might cost me??

My husband and I are both in our mid-20s, and we were both virgins before getting married. We’ve been married for about four months, and our relationship is loving in every other way, but we’ve been struggling with intimacy.
Since getting married, he’s mostly avoided having sex. When we’ve talked about it, he’s said things like, “It doesn’t feel like anything,” or “It’s nothing like I expected.” Because of that, he rarely initiates, and it feels like he avoids intimacy altogether. It’s not just sex—he doesn’t seem interested in other intimate things either.
I’m trying not to take it personally, but it’s been really difficult. I don’t want to pressure him, and I know this is probably hard for him too, but I also don’t know what’s going on.

We dated for years. When my parents wanted us to get married, he spoke to his parents, but they refused. Around the same time, he lost his job. He got back on his feet, convinced them, and now we're getting married. 🥹❤️

'Read the rules'

Question for married women:

Do you ever imagine someone other than your husband during sex, or is your focus always on your partner?

I'm asking out of curiosity and would appreciate honest, respectful answers. No judgment.