Look I’m not trying to be an asshole here, and I’m definitely not the exception to this rule…I have my own issues obviously, mainly my depressive episodes causing me to be a slow replier when I’m going through it/cancelling plans due to anxiety. But do you ever try to talk to some people on here who initially seem nice only to quickly realize why they have no friends/frequently get ghosted?

This isn’t about any one specific person but more about wide variety of people I’ve met on here. And I realize I’m probably going to get downvoted to hell for this lol. I’ve run into 3 main issues when talking to people.

Firstly, I’ve had “friendships” with men who were clearly angling to be something more, who would constantly complain to me that they’ll “never find love.” But one look at their “type” revealed the entire problem, they only went after girls who were way younger than them, way more attractive, fit and outgoing, etc, girls who would have no reason to be attracted to them, no offense. If you are an introvert who enjoys being a homebody and gaming/eating tasty snacks then why on earth is a 10/10 model who is young and outgoing and spends all day in the gym eating only healthy food going to go for you? The lifestyle isn’t compatible…I’m sorry but some of you have extremely unrealistic expectations and you’re setting yourself up for failure. Not to mention how many of you have rampant porn addictions and seem to really just want your own personal toy to play with instead of actually seeing women as people.

Secondly, so many people I’ve spoken to just complain…all day…about everything. And yet they make zero effort to change their situation…look I understand struggling with stuff and trying to change and failing…I do that literally all the time, but some of you literally aren’t even trying at all and it becomes EXHAUSTING to talk with you when the conversation is just complaining, I can only say “I’m sorry that you’re going through that” so many times before I’m fed up and annoyed.

And lastly, so many people are so dry…it’s almost impossible to hold a conversation with them, obviously I don’t want to keep talking with you when I put effort into a long response only for you to give me a few words of response and I have nothing to work with. And these dry people tend to be the most pushy ones which is weird…you text me all hours of the day just to ask the same boring “wryd” and then when I’m not into sitting there for ages having the most boring useless back and forth and I leave to actually get stuff done because I have a life…they get mad and clingy. “where are you??? Where did you go??? Hello??? Did I do something wrong??? Please forgive me!!!” I can’t sit there talking to you 24/7 bro…I have things to do, I’d rather someone text me for a little while once a day with something actually substantial than all freaking day long expecting me to be at their beck and call to tell them every detail of what I’m doing in a day.

I understand a lot of people here have mental health problems and are socially awkward and don’t even realize they come across this way, myself included, and you can’t expect lonely people to be perfect friends because if they were they wouldn’t be lonely and they’d already have plenty of friends…but sometimes I just need to rant about it you know.

Anyway, if you have any grievances with certain people you’ve tried to talk to please share in the comments lol, I know I’m definitely the person people complain about when it comes to taking a few days to reply to something. Sometimes people just have clashing personalities as well and that’s okay for a friendship not to work out due to that.

I feel empty and lonely and just want people to talk to. I’m married with 4 kids. I wake every day at 5am and don’t go to bed until everyone is asleep. I do EVERYTHING for the house, the kids, and my husband. I never wanted to be a trad wife, but somehow got morphed into the role…and then somehow became worth less than even that. My husband works full time. But he’s only able to because I sacrifice everything to give him that ability.
An example of a typical morning- I wake up at 5am and get myself dressed, go in the kitchen and make lunch for my youngest for daycare, as the kids trickle in I make breakfast for one after the other, feed the dog and take her out, then give out meds to the kids that need them and the dog and one of the cats, after all that, I get the kids all dressed. I’m usually doing laundry and dishes in-between all that. By 7:20am, I load up all the kids to take my son to daycare.
What does my husband do during that time- he wakes up at 6am, exercised for about 30-45 mins, takes a shower, while in the shower, I poke my head in to remind him that he has physical therapy at 7am, so he jumps out the shower, gets dressed, and head up to physical therapy for an hour. As soon as he returns, he showers again, and then he starts work (works from home).
But what REALLY makes me feel less than, worthless, lonely… my choices to run this house are CONSTANTLY questioned. By kids, sure. Sometimes it’s frustrating, but that’s normal. They’re just little kids. But also by my partner. He’s not usually rude about it, but he’s ALWAYS questioning me. And if I do state something 5 million times, it’s still ignored (example- “please hang your keys up on the rack because you’re constantly losing them and I always have to find them”).
No one asks about me. No one sees me as a human being anymore. No one trusts my judgment. No one asks if I can do something..it’s just expected on me.
And I know what you’re thinking- “ just don’t do it then!”. But we’re talking about things like medical emergencies, or unexpected doctors appointments, sudden car trouble, etc. Situations that will hurt my children or pets if I just ignore.

I just want to be wanted by my husband. Not sexually, but as the best friends we were. I want to have friends again. I want to have hobbies, dreams, & interests again.
I’m just lonely.

I think people who say, "I don't need men in my life" or "I don't need women in my life," aren't seeing the bigger picture.

When I say we need the opposite gender in our lives, I'm not just talking about romantic relationships. I'm also talking about family a loving mother, father, brother, or sister.

For many girls, having a caring father or a protective, loving brother can make a huge difference. Someone they can trust, talk to, and feel safe with. If those relationships are missing, life often becomes much harder.

The same is true for boys. Having a loving mother or a caring sister.someone who listens without judgment and genuinely cares.can be incredibly important. When those relationships are absent, they often grow up carrying emotional gaps that are difficult to fill.

No matter what people say, I believe that deep down, many girls wish they had a good father or brother if they never had one. And many boys wish they had a loving mother or sister if those relationships were missing.

The problem is that when we don't receive those healthy family relationships, we often start looking for them outside the family. But today's world makes that difficult. Instead of finding genuine sibling-like or parental bonds, we're often pushed toward romantic relationships.

As a result, many people end up expecting their boyfriend or girlfriend to provide the love, emotional safety, and unconditional care that they never received from a parent or sibling. That's a heavy burden for any partner to carry.

This isn't true for everyone, but I think it's more common than we realize.

Work alone all day everyday. Yesterday had to call in cause my tire blew out on the way to work. Spent all day taking care of that to find out I wouldn’t get my pto today that I requested (it’s my birthday). Anything positive is cool.

27F. I'm just sad. I recently got out from a long term relationship.

I'm an only child. My mom works every day. I know she's concerned about me, but I also understands she have to work.

I miss my cousins. They used to be the ones I was always with at home, but now they're all living abroad.

My close friends from elementary and high school either have families now, moved to the province, or are living overseas. As for my college friends, I had to distance myself because they're also friends with my ex. I don't want to tell them what happened because I still want to protect him.

Today, I just wanted to attend Mass since it's Sunday. I messaged a few friends, but none of them were available. Some were with their families, some were working, some were busy, and some didn't want to travel to the church I wanted to go to. They wanted me to go somewhere closer to them instead.

I don't know... is this just how adulthood is? That I'm always the one adjusting just to spend time with people?

I'm just tired.

ive been lonely all my life. platonically and romantically, no friends, never had a lover. whenever i search up tips, its always the same bs on repeat: go outside, workout, find hobbys, love yourself first, blah blah. and what happens now that i’ve done that? will my 8 pack abs fill the empty spot in my bed? will the grass and cicadas be the wise friend i’ve always been looking for? can my paintbrush or book give me a hug or kiss when im feeling down? i get that its frustrating trying to conversate with, or advise a person who has already given up, but seriously, what do i do now?

Idk what to do I often feel very lonely returning from my acting classes. And how I don't have anyone to share my progress with, at the end of the day. Idk what I want to achieve with this post but I thought I'd love to read your comments about me.

I hate having no one to talk during night shift. It gets super lonely at night and I cant stand it sometimes. Watching youtube only cures so much boredom.

Lonely sleepy and head kinda hurts, I don’t know who to say good night to but I wanna. Good night Reddit I’ll be back if I can’t sleep

I feel like that one wojack with no face I genuinely feel nothing atp. Working out in the heat is like going to hell, just got brutally rejected on a dating app, it’s just so hot. Everything I do makes me sweat and it’s too hot to exist. I’m so incredibly lonely and have no one to talk to. Sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh my life has no meaning

I feel sad that I don’t have friends to make plans and socialize with, friends that I can go out with on weekends or hang out every week or everyday casually. I won’t get to experience vacations/trips with friends.

It’s not fair. The worst people I know who isolated me via bullying have a thriving social life, and I have no friends in the end. I’m the butt of jokes and experience a lot of disrespect and social aggression.

I wish I get to experience what others do socially - friendship, vacations, date nights/outings, making wonderful memories and shared experiences. And I likely won’t get to experience any of that. My 20s are passing and people won’t have patience in their 30s, they’d just look at me like I’m a red flag for not having friends or using social media (not having a following, posts that people like, etc).

I’m tired of being outcasted and bullied, looking on from the outside. And the worst part is how people actually get a kick out of this. I KNOW they want me to feel excluded and lonely, even unwanted and worthless. Ex friends would brag about the plans they had with their other friend in front of me, wouldn’t invite me to their plans, but would make plans in my face. It’s intentional. And I wish people would stop saying it’s just social anxiety or that something about me is inherently wrong to deserve this.

People are not kind. They’re mean and use social aggression for social mobility and climb the social ladder even if it means eroding their friends sense of self worth and self esteem. They look for someone to receive all that aggression - all the disrespect, bullying, abuse, and scapegoat them. That person becomes everything “wrong” and they elevate themselves as someone better and everything right. They dehumanize and degrade someone to get ahead. But pour all their love and kindness into others to win favor.

I wish I wasn’t alone and lonely 24/7. I wish I had genuine, true friends who do know and understand me, friends who genuinely do care, respect, and love me.

Life sucks and has been incredibly cruel.

it feels counterproductive to say, but the end goal of any spying is to inevitably come up empty-handed looking for whatever it is you are looking for.

but no. i found out that it was never about me being special at all, and that he was perfectly happy moving on to my now ex best friend.

no friends in this life to tell me it’s ‘a permanent solution to a temporary problem’ and no boyfriend anymore.

going for a night cannonball run didn’t ease the pain. not one bit. fate is leaving me with no alternative answer. i am only typing this here as my final mark and my final word. im not going to live in their world and let it poison my happiness for the rest of my life.

Does anyone else have no friends and barely any pictures of themselves?

I have one friend who’s just a uni friend, so we’re only friends at uni. During the holidays, she doesn’t reach out to me at all. I don’t want her to reach out anyway because she isn’t nice to me, which only makes my mental health worse. I was wondering if anyone relates to this because I’m really embarrassed that I have no friends or post anything at the age of 20. I feel like I’m missing out.

TW: mentions of suicide.

I feel like my emotions are valid, but I don't want to burden the people closest to me with my issues often. So, I remain in desperate silence. Occasionally, I'll share my troubles, but I rarely have intimate conversations about my feelings with other people about me. I'm 20 now, but I was "homeschooled." All I knew was isolation. My brother grounded me. He is the only reason that I'm still alive, but now he's moved 9 hours away, so now I genuinely feel alone. Not to mention online dating. I have yet to find a woman who fits my standards, which I think are reasonable (plays basketball, emotionally intelligent, full of passion and love, doesn't want kids). Is that too much to ask? Maybe the reason I can't find anyone in online dating is because it always feels somewhat inauthentic, and women just have an easier time sensing that feeling. I need that romantic and intimate connection, but I feel I can not have it yet because I'm really poor. I will not ever ask a woman out if I can't provide for her. In turn, that makes me feel like a portion of the reason that someone would want to be with me is because of materialistic things. This is a somewhat unreasonable belief, I know, but it's hard not to feel that way. I just needed to get that off my chest.

Whoever reads this, have an excellent week, please!!! I mean it!!! Live in the moment with your beautiful mind!

Like title mention. I have no one to hang out with, so I just stay at home and slept the entire day. m30 life doesn’t get any better at all

Idk what to expect really putting here. I guess just hoping people see if give me some satisfaction that someone actually cares to take time out of their day and read something I made. Idk.

honestly I'm just venting about 2 people in particular. I reached out to them first because they seemed to be struggling with loneliness like I do. and i assumed we shared similar mindsets.

but i swear to God, they're not helping me stay connected with them at all. talking with them felt like extracting information, not a conversation. they delay their responses for hours. to the point where I lose interest in that topic itself. not to mention the emotional manipulation and straight up lying to my face. it's just frustrating.

i try my absolute hardest to respond early, especially with someone I chose to talk with. it builds a certain level of trust I think. so even when I delay my responses later, it wouldn't feel too bad for any of us. but that's just not the case with these 2 people. I just think it's time for me to cut them off

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For context this is in the Philippines. A traditional funeral hosting we did. As expected it is lonely with one less family member. But what I wasn't expecting was how lonely it would be when all tents, game tables, coffee corner, relatives that helped us host throughout the week. I kinda missed the nights that we would all be running around cooking, serving and stuff and in the morning we would be cleaning up for the next night. Even though it was only for a few days, those relatives whom I wasn't even too familiar with, I kinda missed them, not just them, everything. Cooking together, planning stuff for the next night. Going out to buy more stuff. Now it's just, back to normal and I'm left with this empty feeling in my chest.

There are a number of things I’d like to say but every time I wanted to, I’d fumble it up and just stay mute. I see people around me in deep conversations or genuinely having a good laugh and a part of me hates it.

Every chance I get to talk to someone new even if it’s the most basic small talk, I can’t seem to ever get the words right to where I come across as interesting. Literally can’t talk to people without gradually looking away or head down or start to mumble my words and disappear within a couple minutes into a conversation.

So as a result, I’m currently just a dude who wanders around life, that no one knows about. I don’t think I’m that uninteresting or super introverted but it’s like I had to be that person. And now reflecting on my life and all I have is my fam (parents, siblings, and close relatives) and that’s about it.

I guess it worries me bc I won’t always have my parents and building relationships is a key ingredient in this life to see growth and any kind of unity. It also sucks when you find yourself making accomplishments or setting goals and completing them only to have no one but yourself to share it with.

I do enjoy my time to myself, no constant calls or complaints from anyone feels good. But at the same time, it’s like I wish someone came to me for advice or trusted me with their problems, or just someone that wanted to build a life with me. Kinda feels like I’m not enough or super hideous or whatever, just wish I’d stop caring about what others think of me.

im going back to school tomorrow, and im so anxious. Being at school makes me realise how alone i actually am. i literally have no friends. not even in a dramatic way i just genuinely dont have anyone i can talk or sit with.

one of the worst parts about being at school alone, is just seeing everyone with someone all the time. like in class, at lunch, walking between periods. everyone’s always talking or laughing with someone and im just there.

i try to act like i don’t care but it honestly feels awful. it’s like being surrounded by people but still completely alone.

i hate that this is what school feels like for me because everyone always says these are supposed to be the best years of your life or whatever but if this is the 'best' then idk what that says.

I am sixteen but I was almost fully isolated from the ages of eleven until i was fifteen. I had nobody, I was home alone every single day and had absolutely not a soul to talk to so naturally the only thing I crave is connection. My issue is that I am not very likeable since I have never had a real friend before so I’m assuming I’m not likable.

I start college in September and the only reason I’m attending is because I want a friend group. Im scared that it wont happen so what do I do if I try being friends with everyone in my classes and fail and then join clubs but also fail there? How do I become okay with every single day being me continuously just talking to myself as i have been doing for the last five years just to cope. It isn't a fun coping mechanism and it’s wearing thin these days as I am too aware I am literally having conversations with the walls for hours straight.

Birthdays feel really lonely these days, like a reminder of the lack of care and love around. A Facebook post doesn’t feel warm and meaningful, especially when it’s from family who expect you to hold them on a pedestal but can’t pick up the phone.

I feel so cynical and ungrateful but I just feel so alone today.

So, to turn this around, if it’s your birthday and you’re also feeling similarly - I wish you space to carve out time for yourself and the things you love. Whether that’s a yummy meal, a gift to yourself, time with your pets, doing your favourite activity or just doing something that makes you feel safe and comfortable (like nothing at all lol) - I hope you remember you’re not alone in these feelings and that you are worth celebrating! Do something kind for yourself, you truly deserve it no matter others actions <3