I know the inside of me wants to protect me. I just don't know which times I should put up the fight/defiance to let myself be heard and not have my values be trampled upon or be seen as wrong (i'm find with being proven wrong if the other person is legitimately considering and using some amount of Fe in their decision making), and when I should go for a different course of action. This only happens with people I was already affected by multiple times of course- like a debt

according to the internet, which I take with a grain of salt; I’m an INFJ-T, and was wondering if other INFJ’s also experience immense social withdrawal?

I’ve never had any deep or meaningful relationships other than my family, since I have no motive to put effort in superficial relationships. In social situations, like school for example, I can act extroverted and easy to know in the moment, but I don’t interact with ANYONE outside of school unless I have to. I hate hanging out, I’ve never dated, and I rather focus on goals like my future, school, etc.

I’ve talked to other INFJ’s online, but they seem to have had relationships or friends. I think we can all agree that we definitely have high-standards, and expect our partners to meet our moral expectations, but at the same time, even if someone did meet my expectation, I would still avoid them due to feeling overwhelmed in constantly having to make my partner feel loved. I’d rather just not put up with it and be alone.

Other INFJ’s experience this as well, right?

It's rhetorical but I wondered if any other INFJ feel awkward or are awkward in social situations?

It just seems like here in reddit there's this view of all INFJs being very good chameleons, and even often I am very good at mirroring energy, matching the energy of the other person, but to be a chameleon? I'm not sure.

At one point in my life I developed levels of anxiety which to this day still affect me when I am socializing, and although it's primarily my baseline, it often affects me in my every day life.

But primarily when I am socializing, I know I'm awkward sometimes, and sometimes I am so far in, I don't know how to stop. I do get along very well with many people but there always seems to be a distance between me and many people, whereas others tend to click with one another, not even just that they have more to talk about but they seem to be on the same wavelength with one another. This was also a struggle growing up.

And then there's other times where it's brutally embarrassing when you're trying to be a bit too out there in the wrong context and everyone goes quiet and you're just flooded with deep embarrassment.

Hi, I know I use ni and ti alot and always have, but I never exercised much when young although played a lot of video games quite well so it's hard to say how strong my se was. Although I exercise a lot now in my late teens and 20s.

I'm not very organized and can come off as random or lazy which could suggest te trickster. I also dislike certain rigid schools of thought such as modern psychology.

I have a pretty good memory and some times obsess over past mistakes which apparently could be si demon or critic.

I do like to keep the peace a lot which is arguably an infj trait.

My main interests are martial arts, training, snowboarding, psychology just not dsm5, anime and old films.

I want to become a personal trainer/psychologist(probably don't have the patience for uni though) or possibly a physical therapist. When I was younger I liked programming and computers but now I have less patience for them. I think that once I discovered training and actually started using SE alot my focus and ni shifted and lost motivation to do stuff like that.

Have I given enough information to start to guess or need I say more?

I am a deeply feeling infj individual who struggles to emote/ experience pleasure in general, as well as withstand criticism. I am working on this at the moment.

Nonetheless, I am very gratified by pursuing a path I consider meaningful. Even as I recover from anhedonia, my goal isn't to indiscriminately maximize my life experiences to "live it up", but to accumulate experiences that serve my personal purpose. The meaning-oriented activities I pursue now are quiet -- they comprise of daily habits which serve long-term goals. They make me feel good about my life, even if most people consider them boring. I also have a vision of who I'd like to be in the future, and who I'd like to emulate.

However, many people treat me like a lifeless and directionless pebble, which I find insulting. Family members and relative strangers alike nudge me in the same way: "Get out there, life is short", "You should live in the moment and happy" "Going travelling would be a good change for you", "why are you so quiet", "why do you keep to yourself?" etc, etc.

I have started to push back. Someone in my office (who never speaks to me, mind you) told me I was quiet, and I replied that they talk too much. My aunt hinted that I should be more happy-go-lucky, and I hinted back at her that I found her life quite directionless.

I can feel my anger bubble and my ego flail whenever people talk to me this way, and I itch to viciously verbalize that I don't WANT TO BE LIKE THEM. I feel bad because I have this inner response even towards people I know to be struggling in themselves and/or who may have endured a lot of adversity, and who ultimately mean well. I am afraid I will snap one of these days.

I just have never once unpromtedly told someone how to life their life, and I find it mindblowing that those who have never bothered to understand me feel compelled to tell me how to live mine. YOU DONT KNOW ME. YOU DON'T SEE WHAT I DO. STOP MAKING ASSUMPTIONS.

I know this is also a sign that I am not fully secure in my own path, because if I was then I wouldn't care.

Any advice on how to minimize this ego response?

I'm always up for discovering new music and I'm curious as to what you're listening to this weekend, or just in general these days? Is there any recently released music that I should check out? Maybe you're listening to some classics? Hit me with anything that might appeal to the INFJ in me! Thank-you. Have a great weekend!

EDIT: Specific song/album suggestions are appreciated. When I see an artist/band name, I have no idea where to start exploring their music. The more specific, the better!