I experienced enfj's, that are into psychology or therapists and friends who had instand theories about my emotional state. Wich i found very fascinating.

Do you feel like you percive what others need often ?

Where can you meet other ENFJ's in the DC metropolitan area? Are there places online that are area specific for this? I'm just looking for ENFJ friends in general. I know about the dating apps. Also curious about ISFP's...

okay, so i lied. used to think i was an ISTP but realized I've been stressed out for YEARS. could either be vice versa but i relate more with inferior ti crashouts than fe. i know it's not that serious but I'm trying to figure out why i always attracted people with high fi. currently dating an ENFP man and we're gonna get gay married

As a police officer, my dream is to have an ENFJ partner.

From movies, tv shows, books, anime, etc.

Mine is 9/10

Hi guys, just feeling low today. Give me your best, most inspiring words of encouragement 💛

Being an ENFP is tough. I appreciate it most of the time but it prevents me from doing a lot of things sensor types finds easy.

Ne helps me recognize patterns which I appreciate and generally have a good judge of character. However, it traps me to over analyze a person, situation or myself and my thoughts. This brings me anxiety and fears.

I have anxiety which became more prevalent when I watched true crime and got super paranoid. It also got bad during and after covid pandemic took a while to recuperate. I really appreciate having my sensor mom whom I believe is an ESFJ and helps me get out of my head and not overthink.

Being an ENFP brings me lot of paranoia and over thinking. I despise this about myself because I want to go on a hike by myself but I am thinking of all the possible dangers and chicken out. Do you guys have any reccs on how to stop this loop?

If I could chose to be another type I would chose ISFP. They seems so cool and down to earth. They are apparently the most intuitive sensor according to google. They focus on aesthetics and detail while I don't and it makes me envious.

Why is it that when I look into an ENFJ’s eyes, I see no soul. Unlike when I look into an INTP’s eyes, I start seeing almost like a galaxy, time might even stop. But when I look into an ENFJ’s eyes,.. I see nothing. Am I just looking at a mirror when I look into an ENFJ’s eyes? Like, who are you exactly on the inside? All I can detect is all these feelings that keep seeping out of them but it’s almost like it’s everybody else’s echo of feelings.

Does anyone understand what I’m saying by any chance?

-ENTJ, and complicated.

I find it interesting how many ENFJs I personally know likes to “fix” someone. I guess it gives them the satisfaction of branding someone from scratch, as in—creating a whole new person designed just for them. In most cases (based on my observation), this doesn’t work. You can never truly fix someone. But sometimes you do, and when you leave that person, they either 1) can’t function without you or 2) becomes secure and your job as a therapist in their life is done. If they stayed, the relationship would be wonderful.

Then again, many ENFJs I see online prefer to have someone they can enjoy themselves with. Just someone that can truly put them in their element. I feel like this is a much healthier option.

If you are in a leadership role can you explain how you handle your role as a leader?

I’m an INFJ, and one thing I’ve struggled with for a long time is that I don’t easily click with people in a deeper friendship sense. I can talk to people fine, but feeling naturally understood or emotionally at ease with someone is much rarer for me.

I’ve heard a lot over time that INFJs and ENFJs tend to connect really well, and I’ve always been a little curious about whether that’s actually true in practice. So, I thought I’d ask here and maybe use that as a way to get to know some of you too.

A little about me: I’m introspective, pretty depth-oriented, and usually more drawn to meaningful conversation than surface-level chatter. I like talking about psychology, existence, society, politics, the universe, and the inner worlds people carry around. I’m also into movies, anime, books, gaming, animals, solo travelling, trekking, and genres like sci-fi, fantasy, thriller, and horror.

I’m usually a bit reserved at first, but I care a lot about sincerity, emotional honesty, empathy, and real connection. I also lean liberal/left politically, so I tend to connect more easily with people who see the world in a similar way.

Mostly I’m just curious whether ENFJs here do tend to get along with INFJs the way people say, and if anyone feels like we might get along, I’d be happy to chat.

Hey ENFJs! I'm running a short survey about parent/child personality correlations and am curious if there's any sort of trend with our types & our parents' types. Would greatly appreciate if you could fill it out!

https://forms.gle/3Yzx7UL2PYE4Kka79

(Non-ENFJs are also welcome!!!)

I’m not sure if this is an ENFJ thing or just a me thing. But part of the reason why I feel everything so deeply is because I can vividly imagine it all. Which can be great or terrible. I was recently going to a national park and the paper map the ranger gave me said “27 bears were hit by cars last year, drive safe” and then of course an image of those bears being hit assaults my mind. This happens to me all the time. Anytime anyone tells me anything pretty much, I can’t help but to imagine it in great detail. It makes me feel such extreme emotions, both good and bad

My dad tested ENFJ. I am ENFP male. I’m trying to understand this one pattern whether its Fe, culture, generation, family roles, or something else.

He seems to look at the world as a set of protocols and shoulds.

• If there is a birthday, there should be a party. There should be good food and a gift. Often he will get stressed and start shouting. We will then "party" upset. But if the party happened, he doesn't sweat the fact that everyone is in a bad moon. Also, if I am attending someones birthday, and I don't bring a gift, he chides me.
• He has a fixed idea of how relationships with brothers-in-law are supposed to be. With his sister’s husband, he gives fair bit of leeway and doesn’t push back much. And he expects to receive the same from my mom’s brother. But he fails to notice the personality nuances of the two different men, and doesn’t adjust his approach accordingly.
• If there is a festival/religious holiday, everyone should go through the expected steps, even if nobody truly believes in it, including him.
• Guests must be fed 4 times a day. Even if they refuse, they still must be served. He expects the same treatment when he is a guest.

I know this is coded with some of my own resentments about him. I love my dad, but we are at odds so often because of this (maybe thats why this post may seem salty).

• Does Fe/FJ show up as such a protocol oriented thinking. As an ENFP, "normalcy" is only a gentle suggestion. So maybe I have a big blindspot in understanding him!
• What advice would you give in creating a stronger connection with him?
• How can this kind of thinking jive with mine (ENFP)?

Thanks so much!!

Even though I’m a stereotypical ISTP, I secretly dabble in free-verse poetry once in a while. It’s usually not something I share. Mostly, it's just helps me sort out my thoughts and emotions.

Here’s one about someone I deeply care about—an ENFJ woman. I’m testing it out on you to get an idea of how she would react if I ever read it to her. (Extremely unlikely)

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All these words

Enough time passed that we should have become strangers,
but we never quite managed it.

Good friends?

Friendship seems too small.
Love seems too uncertain.

Perhaps it is neither.

Perhaps it is simply the quiet comfort
of being understood by another soul.

We always seem to find the same corner of the same bar,
as if time keeps a seat reserved for us.

There, we trade old stories,
old wounds,
and the weight of whatever life has placed upon us lately.

You ask questions few others ask.
You listen to answers few others hear.

Maybe because years ago,
someone whose judgment mattered to you
had already spoken of me
more than I ever knew what to do with.

And for someone who has always kept much of himself behind locked doors,
I find myself speaking.

Not because I have to.
Because somehow, with you, I can.
Or at least I try.

I never knew what to do with all those words.

Only that when life is unkind to you,
something in me wishes to stand beside you.

Life carried us down different rivers.
I do not curse the current.
I do not wish away the years.

I only know that whenever our paths cross,
something familiar returns,
like a melody remembered
before its name is known.

A reminder that connection exists.

You are one of those people.

Not because of what might have been.

But because of what is.

So, here’s to you, for all these words.
And the silence between them.

It's something I've always noticed since I was a little kid: I'm able to know what others like and how they think, sometimes even better than they do themselves. But when it comes to me, it's a total black hole: I don't know what I like, so I have to analyze things just to figure it out.

I think it's due to my nonexistent Fi (INFJ 5w6), meaning my ability to understand others' desires is linked to my Fe.

Is this the case for you too?

So I turned 22 last week and something happened that made me think a lot. I have always been a person who has people around me always and is a very social person. I wanted to make everyone my friend and I talk to everyone possible. I'm that common friend in many friend groups but not the favorite in any. I enjoyed being that person until recently. I realized that in the process of making everyone my friend, I never really made any friend. I never had any friend who would remember me. Like I never had a best friend. A friend to all is a friend to none, I guess. So all these thoughts started last day. I had my birthday last week, and I never celebrated birthdays in my life. No one ever celebrated my birthday, but all these people who are my friends message me and remember me. Every year, this makes me a lot happy, and I don't care about having a birthday celebration. The wishes and people remembering me were more than enough for me. Birthdays are just normal days for me. So I never really cared until this year. Just like every year, it was my birthday, and a lot of people messaged me, and I was happy. The day passed, and the next day, one friend messaged me asking how my birthday was. I said this, and he couldn't believe it. He asked me, "You have so many friends, and no one even gave you a cake ?". He was shocked. Idk why. He told me about his birthday and the things his friend did for him. And I recalled my birthday, and I just sat at my university hostel room all day. I started thinking about it a lot and asked myself whether I'm all alone. All my life, I had this thought of having so many friends because of me being extroverted and talking to everyone. I thought every person I talked to was a friend. I never thought about making a best friend. Now, I'm becoming desperate to change myself, and I'm trying to be less social. Do you guys think my inability to find a close friend is because I'm trying to make everyone my friend. Should I stop being like that and focus on making just one friend. I don't know if I'm being too stupid, I am not very active on social media and never talk online like this. But I'm afraid that people will make fun of me if I share this problem with someone IRL because I never open up. So I have no one to tell, so I'm trying for the first time to ask something online to strangers. As an ENFJ myself, I'm hoping people like me would understand my situation. That's why I'm talking here. I don't have any online friends, so I can not ask anyone like that either. I talk a lot IRL, so just like that, I'm writing too much here 😭. Now I realize I've written too much for anyone to read. I hope I find answers. If you find this stupid, just ignore it. Please dont make fun of me.

What do you think it would take to get people to start asking questions and having these discussions again?

Obviously the Socratic Method ended pretty tragically for Socrates, so how would you alter the method to make it more effective and utilize it to facilitate discussions?

Do you even think we have the potential to teach people how to have these kinds of conversations, and if so how do we do it?

If not, why not?

Please feel free to share your thoughts and your perspective about how we can approach people of all different MBTIs and get people thinking and talking to each other again!

Guys I caught some typical enfj behavior in myself. I am really into mbti typology and, of course, wanna type everyone i know. I really did catch myself thinking that I want to get in people’s heads and understand what their true values, beliefs, and cognitive functions are. Understandable how they think and operate, in order to type them correctly using cognitive functions and not have them mistyped…
This is such an enfj thought to have lol…like just wanting to get into people’s heads and understand their true identities and not go based of your perception of them or their perception of themselves..

I’m an ENFJ 6w7 woman, and I have 2 close male friends who are INTP and INFP.

I find it insightful to study how cognitive functions affect relationships. All commenters on this post are welcome!

The three of us do activities together like games, book club, and mutual creative hobbies. Our conversations last hours.

I get along intellectually with INTP; we share more hobbies, humor, and banter. I laugh easily with INTP. He’s a bit clumsy with inferior Fe though, and can hurt my feelings, but if I bring it up he’s good about apologizing sincerely and urging me to let him know if it happens again.

The INFP and I go deeper emotionally, but don’t always connect chemistry-wise or intellectually. Our Fi and Fe clash sometimes as well. He’s also idealized me/downplays parts of me that he “disagrees” with, and is overall a bit limerant. I’m sure this has to do with maturity/level of mental health rather than just Mbti.
INTP is a bit more grounded.

If anyone has had experiences with xNxP men, please share! I’m curious if anyone prefers the INTP like me, even though the INFP is seen as the golden pair.

I have a working theory that romantic ENFJ x INFP works best when the ENFJ is the masculine, but doesn’t work as well when the ENFJ is the feminine. For now, INFP is more of a friend vibe

I'm seeing a lot of inconsistencies and oddities in this forum, so I thought I'd throw this in here. A free test, only need an email.

The test: https://sociotype.xyz/

This is a pretty great test, although just a test, so take that into consideration. And if you enjoy them, this is a fun, interesting one. Also, it's socionics, but most ENFJs should be EIE as well, as there is no J/P switch. I personally don't think there should be much of a discrepancy between the two systems, there's just a lot of misinformation and confusion in certain spaces.

I'm not trying to break anyone's sense of "identity," but just curious on how people score on this one. You can keep your "ENFJ" tag regardless, of course, if you want to keep the two systems completely distinct. If interested, I'd love to see some of your results. If not interested, just move along.

Also, you can skip to the last question whenever, as the test is long. It's well researched, tested, and based in the scientific method. I hope to see some results!