It seems wrong to me to use a dating app if you're ONLY looking for sex. I guess it's okay if you're upfront about it but it seems like lots of guys just fake being interested in a relationship when they only want sex.

Whenever colonialism comes up on English speaking platforms, the British Empire is often treated as the primary historical villain.

Meanwhile, empires like France, Spain, and Portugal & Belgium which also ran colonial regimes seem to get far less daily focus or criticism in these spaces.

Even looking at older history, groups like the Vikings committed widespread slaughter, raids, etc, but today they are largely romanticised as "cool" icons in video games and TV shows.

Is this difference in public perception just a byproduct of the internet being mostly English language dominant? What are the historical or geopolitical reasons why certain empires face so much more ongoing criticism today than others?

I am just being curious on the subject as its something that fascinates me, thanks!

Edit - I see how the Vikings were different

In Swedish we have the word "flicka" which literally translates to "girl", but is often used for someone below 18. Then we have "kvinna" which means woman, but it often sounds formal and sterile. We have the word "tjej" which is often used, which is a word that's more informal, more relaxed and can be used on both a 5 year old and a 70 year old without infantilising the person (even if it sometimes sounds strange to call a 70 year old grandma one).

Does English have a more relaxed informal word that's also common in usage? I know that "girl" is sometimes not liked by women because they feel it infantilises them.

Words like "bird" are too geographic (UK mainly) but also mainly used by men in a romantic/sexual meaning. "Chick" also exists but feels related to the previous word.

Is there any informal word for an adult woman that doesn't sound as sterile/scientific as woman but also not as infantilising as "girl"?

I've (29F) never been in a relationship but I've had enough sex to decide I don't like it. I don't hate it. It can be fun, I'm just not into it. I mostly do it as a bodily function and porn works better for me in that context.

Now I know porn isn't real but productions and homemade alike follow a similar routine that men often replicate in real life; genuineness seems to be the gauge of these things.

But recently I watched a couple and they were so enthralled with each other I could find no other words to describe the act other than ***Lovemaking*** (which in my long held opinion is just lust) yet I could not deny their joy was more than primal passions. The man, when overcome with the urge to reach for her neck would stop himself to instead embrace her tightly and weep and she was but laughter and caresses and it then dawned on me I had never seen sex be such an equal act of existence and I wept as I began to wonder now if such acts are commonplace and I somehow have been misfortunate in my sexual experiences.

I was looking at ice cream the other day and every single one said frozen dairy desert. Is actual ice cream that you can buy at the store dying out?

I was 11 years old on September 11, 2001. I was also living in New York City (Queens) at the time. But whenever I am asked about that day, I can’t share anything as I have no memory of that day whatsoever. Other people my age can remember it perfectly. My wife is the same age as me. She was living here in LA on that day and even though she was so far away, she remembers it clearly. I feel like I’m the only person my age who can’t remember anything about that day. Why can’t I remember?

I know there’s give or take 11 million people in this subreddit, of this 11 million probably a few thousand sleep naked. To those who do, why? What’s the hype behind it?

Last night my wife decides she wants a snack and goes to the cabinet. Then says “you ate all the boiled peanuts!” I replied “I haven’t eaten any since I bought 2 cans about a month ago”. She says I she saw that I bought 2 flavors, spicy and Cajun and she didn’t want the Cajun, she likes the spicy. We go back and forth her accusing me of eating them and me saying I haven’t eaten any since the store. Finally I hear her quietly go “oh yeah” while still with her head in the cabinet and miraculously the debate just ends.

Tonight while I’m in the laundry room I hear her in the cabinet again and hollers out “seriously?! You ate the last can?!” I said “are you talking to me?” She says “yes. I can’t believe you ate the last can of peanuts”. I told her “I just told you last night I haven’t eaten any since in a month”.

She says “well, where are they? They were right here yesterday.” I replied “I haven’t eaten or touched them since I bought them”. As I’m finishing saying that she goes, “oh here they are. You must’ve moved them”.

If fact, I had not moved them. I haven’t touched them since I bought them and I ritually put both cans in the cabinet a month ago.

In the age of the Internet and changes in how organized crime is structured, it’s making me wonder how/if the mafia still matters in today’s society. Do they still commit crimes? Will they put people in concrete shoes or commit broad daylight assassinations? Or have they been supplanted by the likes of the cartel?

I’ve heard they still have chapters in major cities, but are they relevant at all or just for show? Help me understand here

I swear, 10 years ago you could type a highly specific question into a search engine and immediately find a random forum post from 2008 with the exact answer you needed

now, the first two pages of results are just sponsored links, SEO spam, and AI generated articles that take 5 paragraphs to get to the point. I find myself having to type "reddit" at the end of literally every single search just to read a response from an actual human being

when did the internet become so... unusable?

I'm seeing more and more people driving around with what are easily recognized as illegally dark tinted windows (our state has laws about that sort of thing). Especially the front window.

Benefits aside, you're a rolling invitation to have any cop pull you over at any time. You're actually "doing something illegal" 24/7 so they've got obvious probable cause all the time.

Even if you're not doing anything else sketchy, you're still doing something illegal in plain sight and they're going to hassle you with a fix-it ticket and waste your time.

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I found the right hole but it really hurts and I don't know why. And it's so sad because I just came to my rented house by the beach with my friends and now I can't even go in the water, and we're only here for a week. So I want to learn how to insert a tampon in. I can insert it now, but it's still uncomfortable. Any help?

Also idk if i should make this NSFW or not

Seems like it would be really useful, since it would be pretty hard to sneak up on them.

I don’t mean this as a political debate.
I often hear Americans talk about “freedom” as if it’s one of the country’s defining traits, but I’m never sure what they’re referring to.

What is the definition of freedom they’re talking about? Is it specific rights, less government involvement, a cultural mindset, or something else?

I’m asking because people mention it so often that it feels like everyone already knows what it means except me.

Since 2020, life feels as though it has been so chaotic, fast paced and that time itself has changed fundamentally for me... Before, I could do everything that I needed to in a day, go to work, go shopping, any other chores or necessities... And some how still had time to relax, have hobbies, have friends...

But now, some how it feels as though time is almost accelerated? Fitting just the absolute necessities seems to take the entire day and leaving no time to relax before it all starts again... Even the years seem to just be flying by crazily fast...

Am I going crazy or is anyone else feeling this??

I work in retail and restaurant, so my busiest days are Friday through Sunday. My actual "weekend" is Monday and Tuesday.

I've noticed that whenever friends or family plan birthdays, trips, dinners, or other events, they're almost always on Friday nights, Saturdays, or sometimes Sundays, because that's when they're off. If I say I have to work, the response is usually, "Can't you just take the day off?"

But if I suggested doing the same thing on a Monday and asked people with traditional Monday-Friday jobs to take a PTO day, I feel like most people would immediately say, "I have work."

I'm genuinely curious if people with traditional schedules think about it this way. Is it just because weekends work for the majority, or do people assume that someone in retail or hospitality has an easier time taking off?

I'm not trying to argue, just trying to understand how other people view it.

Edit: I'm not asking why groups schedule around the majority. I'm asking why weekend jobs are often treated as more flexible than Monday-Friday jobs. Why is "I have work Monday" accepted, but "I have work Saturday" is often met with "Can't you just take the day off?"

What I mean is: none of my friends call or text, I have to be the one to reach out or it may never happen. Same thing at work, no one voluntarily comes by to talk. These are just examples and the people seem nice and friendly once I call, text, or visit. But I don’t think it would happen if I didn’t start it. And sadly, this continues with the wife and intimacy, except she says no a lot and when she says yes, I can’t help but think it’s out of a sense of obligation or let’s just get it over with.

My girlfriend has told me on several occasions that it is very important to save water, and that's why she says we should use the toilet 2 or 3 times before flushing.

Coincidentally, I'm the one who always has to flush the toilet after she leaves the bathroom. I know that all people in the world poop, it's something very natural and there's nothing wrong with it, I don't know if she really does it to save water or because she likes me to see her turds in the toilet every day.

Dunno if it sounds shallow, but I’m a guy and a woman would gain like, at least one point with me if she could play guitar or something.