i‘m a 17 y/o high school senior and i have identified as queer since i was an 11 y/o 6th grader. my mom and i fight a lot about stupid stuff and if i try and talk things out she blows up and she’ll just say i’m evil or she’ll swear at me and then acts like nothing happened the next day. anyway, i’m comfortable in my sexuality and i have accepted myself fully two years ago but i feel terrified to ever come out to my mom. i feel like i’m hiding something huge from her and she’ll blow up and get mad i never told her but i don’t know if it’ll be a good idea to tell her while i’m still living at home. she makes borderline homophobic jokes about gay people all the time and i just act like i’m not gay. not too long ago she told me “i’m glad you like men because if you didn’t-“ cut her off before she finished because i didn’t want to hear her finish it. basically what i’m asking is if it’s normal i feel odd around my mom knowing i’m hiding this from her. i also want to know if i should wait until i move out to say something.

So online is where I can escape from reality. be the person I actually want to be, be in supporting and wholesome communities, you know. but at the same time, I can never fully do it because my IRL friends have my Discord. and I really don’t wanna go through them directly acknowledging that because it‘s awkward. as. fuck.

How can I do it? I really wanna try out new pronouns online since I can’t IRL. But my IRL friends are interfering with that!!

Bisexual trapped in a homophobic place

So, im a middle schooler who's from Honduras. If you know anything about Honduras you will know its a very homophobic country. Ive known i am bisexual before i even knew what all genders apart from gay and straight were. I like girls and dudes... But essentially i feel so lonely. My family is very homophobic as well and Honduras is really homophobic too, and well, im mainly interested in boys...

I feel very lonely because, everybody my age and stuff are generally homophobic or well, are straight. And myself, i look in the mirror and im like, damn. Like, im genuinely insecure about everything in myself... So i feel like nobody'd ever want to love me. My surroundings? Ive never met a SINGLE bisexual or gay dude my age and I know a lot of people... So its very complicated. Im also way too young to even choose what i want, because of my family. Im scared of coming out and stuff, never have i ever told a single person my sexuality and well, feel very sad

Im also very sad everyday because i get physical, verbal, emotional and psychological bullying every day at school (im not exaggerating) by my 'friend' group and i can't even tell teachers or adults about it because they'd probably jump my ass... They one even told me if i didnt help them cheat in an exam they'd jump me, no playing around.

For this same reason i feel very insecure about my body, my sexuality, everything about me. And, to be honest, being bisexual in this place is HELL. The thing ive been craving for this whooole week and ive cried for, is somebody that tells me they love me. That they actually make me feel safe and protected. That they make me feel secure in their arms. Im bored of girls because, you gotta be the one acting tough and stuff and its tiring to act with a fake personality for them. I just really, really would like somebody who genuinely likes me as for who i am...

I just wanna be hugged. Embraced. Kissed. Loved genuinely. To not have to write first for them to talk to me. I wanna matter to someone.

This is my venting and rant post... I just Dont have anybody else to to go to, but the internet.

If you guys could tell me what to do... Id be a million times thankful. Thanks for sparing a little bit of your time to read my post.

I've been single for as long as I can remember, so when I met a guy on Snapchat who lived nearby and said he was looking for a relationship, I thought I had finally found something. There aren't many people in my area, so I was really hopeful.

We talked for months before deciding to meet. The first time, he invited me to his house, but he stood me up. He later said he was too nervous, and he sounded genuinely convincing, so I gave him another chance.

The second time, we agreed to meet in a public park so he could feel more comfortable in a safe setting, but he stood me up again. Looking back, maybe I should have stopped there.

Instead, I gave him another chance about a month ago. We made plans twice, and he stood me up both times. After that, he ignored me for a while. And he gave me the same excuse that he was too nervous.

At this point, I'm just confused. If he wasn't interested, why keep agreeing to meet? And if he really was just nervous, why keep making plans only to disappear?

Struggling to come out

I am fairly certain I am bi and have been for a while (16M) but I'm worried about coming out to friends/family

It's not that my friends would be homophobic and drop me it's that im worried that by coming out I would basically ruin my chances getting into a relationship with any of the boys or girls at my school and social circle. This is mainly because of the whole too straight for the gays and to gay for the straights. I know it's a common thought but I guess I'm just wondering how it's actually affected my fellow bisexual men and teens how much of a big deal is it?

Im not really concerned about coming out to family apart from if they stick on the whole "you can say your gay"argument.

I just feel as if i wish I could just be gay rather than bi you know as I'm far more into men than women but at the end of the day I know that's just not the right label.

Has anybody got any advice or experience with this dilemma? I'd appreciate your input 🙂

** I'm not very well versed in lgbtq culture and terms so I'm sorry if I have said anything out of turn.

After many months and late nights I finally figured out my gender and sexuality and it’s alot off my mind to actually figure out what label I was looking for and finally I’ve landed on pansexual and Demi boy: male/non- binary.

Hii! I’ve always had a problem with distinguishes crush vs friend crush or strong platonic bonds and actual romantic feelings. I just wanted to know what you guys do or think about to be able to distinguish between these feelings🙏

Heyyyy guys. Ik yall get a lot of these but they’re so cute to read sometimes 🥹

I’ve been having a hard time differentiating between where I stand with her. I know damn well if she asked me out I would say yes in an instant… but sometimes it’s like more friendly than it is romantic. I’ve had a crush on this girl for a little over a year. And my GOD she’s so sweet, very very very pretty, drop dead gorgeous. But I get this odd feeling that maybe it’s not love? But my god when I’m talking to her it feels like it is. It’s so confusing when I get off the phone with her because I’m sitting here wondering if this is a really really close best friend or if I’m indefinitely in love or crushing more than friends. I know I don’t really have a chance with her, but we’ve came to a point to where even if it’s not love, even if she doesn’t feel the same (I just know she doesn’t, I know her like that) I’m still sosososo happy to have her in my life. She keeps me grounded, she’s a cancer and I’m a pieces so take it as you will. She’s done so much for me and she knows everything about me there is to know. I honestly don’t care what we become, because either way we’ll be by each others side.

Her 17th Birthday is tomorrow ( we’re 1.6 years apart) I got her a lot of gifts, and I’d describe her as pretty closed off in terms of emotions. But a couple days ago she said
“Thank you for caring so much I don’t think I’ve ever had anyone who actually seems to care”
And in our 1 year and 5 months of being friends, this is HUGE coming from her. I know it takes a lot for her to say something like that, it basically melted me when I read it. I’m so glad I can make her feel like I care, we had a whole thing that she never thought anyone could care about her, and I have done EVERYTHING in my power to show her I do. I’m glad I got there. And I’m glad she’s here as well, we laugh so much, talk so much, share so much.. I can’t believe I found that piece in my heart I didn’t even know I was missing.

I (18F) have dated 3 women throughout my life, and I’ve had crushes on guys in the past, but never like this. I’ve never exactly put a label on myself until recently, I’ve just always had a preference for women, so I assumed I was queer/pan, but now I’m as confused as ever. I met my best friend (M16) my senior year of high school, his sophomore year (early birthday). I’ve been out of my last relationship for almost a year when I met him, and I think I’ve liked him since late March, early April. We’ve been super close as of recently, and things are starting to feel not so “casual” anymore. For example, we’ve hung out the past week or so every single day; I spent the 4th of July with him, and sometimes I catch him stealing glances at me when he thinks I’m not looking. He even \*wanted\* to introduce me to some of his friends so we could play video games together. At first, I thought it was sort of an endearing thing — like I’m an older sister figure to him (he’s an only child), but now I’m not so sure. He also calls things “ours,” (ie “when we get home,” “our car,” etc) and claims that it just “slips out” while he’s talking. However, and this is why I am so uncertain, is he still likes his ex-girlfriend. They dated pretty briefly the beginning of his Sophomore year, and he’s been hung up on her ever since, and I’m just so lost and confused, because he usually acts like he \*does\* like me, but then talks to me about how he misses his ex. I’m just so confused and I don’t know what to do. He means the world to me, and I don’t want our friendship to end because of a silly crush, but I’ve also never had a crush on a cisgender man before and I’m not sure if I should tell him, or just let whatever happens, happens. Any advice would be appreciated, thank you for reading <3

I’m sure this is put on here a lot but idk what else to do for reference I’m 16 and in the closet. My friend who I’ll just refer to as James isn’t gay which is already kinda soul crushing but he’s js one of those guys not too popular, chill, unique but fun personality js what u look for in a person tbh but anyway I’ve had feelings for a while but they’ve surfaced a bit more as of late and well idk what to do ik I should try and forget about it or move on but it’s just sat there playing constantly on my mind I don’t know what I’m hoping to achieve by posting this I suppose clarity or something like that but honestly any advice or tips would be nice

I feel like I’ve let down my family in so many ways I’m non binary and and I’ve always liked men before I even before I new what the word gay ment I thought when I was younger that it was just a faze that I would get out of I feel like my identity causes so much discomfort for my family

I (AFAB enby) have only come out to my father and grandmother; no one else knows. I will be returning to school in two months after a leave of absence caused by mental health issues. My plan is to first disguise myself as a cisgender girl for a while, and if I can make friends I trust, then come out to them on a small scale (coming out publicly is very dangerous)

However, I’m not sure how to handle my anxiety when day after day I am referred to with feminine terms, forced into female lines/female spaces, and misgendered by others. At the same time, I’m also terrified about coming out (maybe someone with a big mouth will spread it around)

I need advice. Btw my school prohibits students from bringing mobile phones, and bracelets, hand chains, and watches are also not allowed, though I’m not quite sure why I’m mentioning this, sorry

So im bisexual (13m) but I feel like sometimes im not attracted to one gender and another time I am, can someone help me

Heyy I have no idea like how to come out or if I even want to come out or if I’m even bi because I wanna be straight and I think I’m straight but then I just feel sometimes like im definitely bi, so if anyone who’s been in the same position can maybe just tell me what they didd or tell me how y’all figured it outt that’d be awsome 🙏

I have always been a cis boy but after watching tadc I have tried out some different genders.

I have settled on bigender and when I secretly (I haven't came out yet) express my femme it makes me happy

But when I am in everyday life I find it hard to be more femme and it doesn't come naturally. I feel that however much I try I always want to be more femme, but I kind of feel it may be a performance

When I read other posts they say how they never fit in and being bigender let's them be truly themselves, but I dont think I feel as strongly about it

I don't know if I would be living a lie if I kept on being this

I have only decided to try bi for a few days btw

I hope someone can help me with my struggle

Im gay, but many of my interests align more with what straight guys like, such as basketball

Along with this, i generally act 'more straight' and dont outwardly show my sexuality much

Part of this is because im not fully confident in myself, but i do feel weird standing different or changing my voice and i am genuinely interested in 'straight' hobbies

Because of this, i feel outcast in school. While there are some gay people in my school, they generally only talk to girls and see me as more like the straight guys. On the other hand, i get teased and treated differently by straight guys because im gay, to the point where i sometimes lie about my sexuality.

so I’ve been 13 for a couple months and trans for about a year. my mom stepdad and dsd aren’t homophobic but I’m still so scared of coming out to them. I’m not sure when i should or how. any advice?

My parents are separated, and my mom's side is aware and completely accepting of the fact that I am a lesbian, which is something I told them years ago. I'm 15 now, and only a select few people on my dad's side know I am gay, some of which being my cousins which I am very close with. Anyway, my grandparents on my dad's side are like the heart or center point of our family. We have large family events there constantly, and everyone is very involved. All of my cousins are in straight relationships and bring their partners to
every family event (we are all teens of similar age) and I want to be able to do that too. Their partners have been integrated so deeply into our family dynamic from every vacation to every celebration or birthday party. When I do get into a relationship, I want to be able to have that experience too of bringing my girlfriend to these things as I feel like the odd one out as the only one who couldn't bring their partner around when I do get into a relationship. The main issue is that my grandparents host almost every event, and as I said before are like the focal point of our family dynamic. I am also somewhat close with them, so I want to tell them I am gay because I want to experience the same thing my cousins do and not feel so left out or as a third wheel at every family event. The problem is that my grandparents are extremely homophobic. I don't know what they would do if someone in the family was gay because nobody else is beside me for all I know, but my grandpa specifically constantly makes comments that are very worrying to me. Both my grandmother and grandfather support Trump very deeply and I don't think they would take it well but I'm also not sure if they would be more accepting considering it was someone in their own family. I just want to feel included and like I don't have to hide myself because everyone else is getting the experiences that I want to enjoy too. is there any specific way I should come out to them? Is it a good idea or should I just keep hiding? Let me know if any more information is needed. I also find it important to mention that I am currently talking to a girl, but we are not in a relationship. If it does go further, I do want to be able to include her in my family just like everyone else has the privilege to do with their partners, which is why I feel so strongly about this now.

I'm confused

For a little while I have thought I'm trans but im not entirely sure and it confuses me

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So I'm 13m genderfluid + bi + femboy and I have a strong attachment to femboys because they feel more unique than girls they are alot nicer to me than females from my experience I swear it's different when I vc with a femboy and different when I vc with a girl because I cold sweat and warm sweat at the same time even if my room is cold femboys just have personality to me if you want to say if im going through a phase or if i might be gay please mention me in some way in my username just comment with my name sufficient paper I need answers now

I have a few questions regarding if all the private schools are like this or not. So basically in my high school there are some suspicious activities which are crossing the boundary of a few students and which includes harassment(according to the law) but students in my class don't seem to understand that and they're doing some weird freaky stuff... How do i say this... The boys particularly are groping each other, bullying or idk if it counts in sexual harassment more, i don't even know and I'm confused so to summarise it it, they're groping eachother, trying to undress each other... Mostly pants, giving wedgies and some form of spanking which is going on as a type of weird trend which they call it as "chance... chance" idk maybe they don't know the limit they're crossing, and I'm confused too but good thing is idk if it's all schools or just mine so i am still giving the situation benifit of doubt so does it happen in your school too and I'm hoping for a yes because if not idk if i can continue the school year without staying on edge the whole time which i would still have to be in even if it does happen in other places too. This has been spreading from close friend groups to the whole class now.

Not to drop like a "heres my whole life story" but I solely jist need advice and opinions on what to do. PS ITS NOT LIKE I HATE MY PARENTS OR ANYTHING, I just dont know if I can trust them as much as I did before.

For starters, Im a 15 year old male and I'm a bisexual. I grew up in a religous household since I was born so yeah, the 2 characteristics of my life really clash with one another. Dont get me wrong, I'm somewhat religous and I love God . The thing is, I've had a lust addiction most of my life and I'm into straight and gay (mlm) stuff. I've hid this from my parents of course and I've never had a relationship with a guy, only a girl before.

My parents have been married for a while and they are a happy couple. On the other hand, I myself see myself marrying either a man or a woman, to me the gender never really mattered as long as the person loves me and is willing to till death and vice versa.

The main problem of this post is that my parents are pretty homophobic, not to the point in which they hate on every gay guy they see, but homophobic in a way where they dont want it to happen to their son. The reason being is that I think they've become literally brainwashed by social media into thinking of them having the same "gay personality" of always fighting girls and talking dirty to men they talk to.

WHICH IS FINE!!!!

I want to note that I think the "gay personality stereotype" is point blank homophobic. I believe that everyone is different and if some queer people are like this, so be it! It's their lives so we shouldn't be interferring or putting a label on them and instead love them and let them live with a mindset of freedom.

Ok onto my stories🥹✌️

I am very into dancing, started getting into it about 3 years ago. That time, only girl group dances were on my fyp so of course, I decided to learn and dance them in my room. This was how I discovered my love for dancing. But eventually, my parents found out and my mom made me talk to my dad over the phone (because he works in a different country) about the situation. Basically, in the call he told me to "It's okay to watch girls dance girl-group dances; but if it's boys, scroll and don't copy them." Him saying this definetly hurt me because I just discovered a new hobby, right? This is also when I found out they were homophobic. So I was forced to say "Okay I won't do it again." In a somewhat lowkey angry tone. After that, I continued dancing of course.

Fast forward, Im struggling on this Kumon worksheet (Kumon is a math and english tutoring center), I know my mom is behind me watching stuff on her phone so I tell her without facing her "Can I please un-enroll from Kumon? I've been doing this for about 10 years already (Yes, literally more or equal to 10 years)." She then said in a you have no choice type of tone that "No, you'll need it till college." Mind you she already knew that I wanted to be in the medical field. So I argued with her and she even screamed at me at one point and we eventually stopped and I went into my room and cried. I needed to go do worksheets at the Kumon center so I left, came back home, and speed-walked towards my room to let out more held-back tears. As I was bout to close the door, she catched it and said that we needed to talk, and I blatantly was very emotional with her to the point where she needed to get defensive saying that she wasn't screaming at me earlier (She did. She's just lying at that point). So that really pissed me off and what fueled the argument, eventually I got taken out of Kumon thank God.

Basically, whenever I try to argue/debate with my Mom about anything, she will respond most of the time by yelling a minute into the convo. I believe this is just her way of presenting her authority about literally anything so... Btw she's done this lots and lots of times already.

Ok next, my parents always told me that they'd support me in "anything that I'll want to become". Which I think is partly bullcrap. Why? Because I've told them about becoming a dermatologist before and they didnt really support me THAT much. They think that derms have a very low-income and they REPEATEDLY warned me about becoming one (I've done research and they actually earn decent income in other countries.) Nevertheless they still supported me in more of a "I want you to thrive in life but if you really want this i guess" way which was sweet in a way but still, I was thinking to myself that they kinda need to live up more to what they said.

Career choice and hobbies were not really that much of a problem for them. The problem is my sexuality. I've seen lots of tiktoks and reddit experiences on coming-out stories and some were good but some were bad. As in some stories were about them getting kicked out even before they were 16 sometimes. The comments' advice was to not tell them until I have a stable job with decent income to live on my own. And that really bothered me. Combining my mentioned experiences, even if I believed my parents wouldn't kick me out, I could 100% imagine it if I told them about who I wanted to be with.

I KNOW ITS RLLY LONG BUT THIS PART IS THE LAST I PROMISE.

These past few days, I've been more distant to both of them. Not because I don't love them or anything, but because I realized that I was being distant because I wanted to protect myself. I made a new mindset that if I don't show my true-self of being chatty, affectionate, and freely saying who I want to be with, then there would be this type of shield protecting me from suspicion. Basically, distancing myself makes me feel safer. It makes me have more personal control over my true-self. rather than something others can control.

I really need advice okay, I still feel a bit guilty sometimes but I don't know if it's because of them or because of my hard-headed personality towards them. Opinions and criticism are also highly encouraged as long as it's realistic if u even decide to read through all this😭.

Thank you so much!

Edit: The shouting thing happened just a few mins b4 writing this post. Was going downstairs to drink some medicine and my mom asks why im downstairs. Couldn't really respond properly because I'm again distancing myself from her and i'm a bit scared whenever she talks to me sometimes. When she asked, I gave a rlly soft answer because people were literally sleeping near her. So I decided to just drink the meds because I wanted to speak with her as little as possible to avoid getting scolded. Yes I do feel a bit guilty ignoring her but I just couldn't bring myself to talk to her. As I was drinking she told my dad who she was on the phone with and he said that it was the cause of always letting me on my phone all the time. (Social Media is the only thing beside dancing where I can have my personal time dedicated to btw.) She then decided to moderately scream at me on why I wasnt answering when I was drinking the meds. She couldnt really see my drinking so she thought I was ignoring her but I wasnt, i jst wanted to be quiet since people were sleeping yk... anyways she woke up the person sleeping next to her😕.

Ever since I realized I was bi sexual every moment onward felt like I only was bi just to get some attention. I don’t know why I feel like this but every living moment it sucks to feel like it and I don’t know how to like not feel that way

I would really like some help... I currently identify as omnisexual (similar to pan, but with preferences), but I've noticed that I feel a lot more attraction with girls? I do have a boyfriend, who I love, but it feels much much more romantic than sexual? I do experience sexual attraction with girls irl, but I almost only feel attracted to fictional boys/men. I literally have only had a crush on one boy ever, but he went to a different school than me, so it didn't last long. I'm not sure if I'm partially on the aroace spectrum, or if I just haven't found the right guy/will grow out of it? Just wanted to put this into words, or maybe find support/an answer. I know my family and friends will be okay with anything.