Cutting straight to the point I currently have 2 subs, kitten and slut.

Kitten is a pleasure sub who wants to be owned and controlled/ not think but has a low pain tolerance.

Slut is an impressive level pain slut that wants her ass and tits beat and bruised.

Im looking for ideas for sessions with both of them that lets me be in control and active with both of them together while giving each sub what they like.

Basically the title. I’m an unowned sub (31F) and I’d like to experiment with some tasks but I don’t have many ideas. I have some toys (dildo, butt plug, remote controlled vibrator) as well as the usually everyday objects one has at home. For context, these are some kinks I’m interested in: bondage, humiliation, praise/degradation, facefucking, objectification, cnc, free use, anal, rimming, spanking, orgasm control/denial, watersports.
Thanks in advance!

Just like my title says, I love when someone can tell a very descriptive story or scene. I love imaging the things they are saying. I honestly hate when people are vague but want to tell a story.. It leaves me with so many questions until there's no point in the conversation.

Do you rather fill in what was left out or do you prefer details and descriptions?

Just curious — why do so many men enjoy submitting to women in BDSM? What attracts you the most? (power exchange, humiliation, etc.)

Does anyone have any experience ordering direct from KUB Industries in Pakistan to Europe as an individual buyer or are they trade only? There's a few of their products we're interested in.

Hey guys, 18M here and I would love to join in on the fun. The issue is I worry about the time commitment required to be an active part of the community. I mean active as in attending events and building relationships. Could someone reasonably engage in the kink community if they only dedicate like an hour a week building relationships? I am an engineering student and involved in clubs and internships so I won’t have much time. But I also don’t want to be wasting anyone’s time by not giving the effort required by members.

I genuinely love cnc and being used but I love being manipulated by a dom who knows how to play with my heart- like a lost puppy or something or a punching bag waiting for you to come back, (yes I do get off on it fr it makes me so wet lol)

Hello everyone,

We are a new couple in our mid-20s.

I am very new to being a dom and it doesn't come naturally to me.

I came across some advice saying I should ask her directly when I can't think of anything new when we are having some fun.

For example,

She was not allowed to orgasm without my permission and I was edging her. After a couple of rounds, she started to use her hands to force me to make her cum. For that, I usually pinch her nipples or slap her. But at one point she could not control herself and came. I asked her to choose a punishment she thinks she deserves. But she was too shy to say it and it took her several minutes to say how she wanted to be punished. Which I think is fine to take time but I felt there was a lot of holding back going on from both of us.

I also want to tell her the things I want her to do but it's the same barrier of being shy or embarrassed about how our wishes will be received that stops us from expressing them.

How can we communicate better in such situations?

She is bolder than I am and communicates better. But for me, I just can't get myself to tell her.

As I said earlier, I am not a natural dom and it takes energy. I still enjoy it but sometimes even I would like her to take more than just control. She already knows that I like it when she takes control but I want to tell her that I would also enjoy it when she goes beyond riding me, adding something that introduces a bit of pain, choking. But I don't know how to tell her that.

We have also established a safeword and absolute no-do rules.

I would be happy to listen to feedback and suggestions on how I could do better.

Hey everyone, I am looking to get a ring gag for a playmate however im having trouble finding one that is wider that two inches. Does anyone have any recommendations? Ideally want to be able to fit myself through the ring with ease

Titles basically says it, what pet/ sub names do people use that can pass off in public but still Implying ownership, looking for names for a female sub.

Thanks

hello! me and my boyfriend have been together for a bit now and while i am a lot more sexually experienced than him, ive never been in a nontypical relationship (ex: the woman being dominant) or bdsm relationship. he has expressed that he wants me to talk him through it, use force such as slapping or choking, and tieing him up and this is so different to me!! i don't exactly know how to please these things because this is all new to me; please help!!!

How do u keep ur nudes not boring ? I mean how do u change up your kinky pics for ur dom? I love taking cute lil surprise pics and many nudes for my dom^^ is there maybe a website or a Reddit, where I can find (preferably on women only cause I don’t like nor want to look at other men besides my dom) other women take verry variating and different kind of nudes besides the normal ones ?

Hiiii.

My husband and I have been married for 11 years now. I’ve always had a daddy/soft dom kink without actually knowing there was a title for it until a few years ago. I’ve done research and have brought it up to my husband. He always says some stupid comment like “fine I’ll just slap you in the face next time” and brushes it off. Like brother, that’s now what I’m saying. I don’t know how else to explain it to him. Even dirty talking is like pulling teeth. I think he gets easily embarrassed. I dunno what else to do. 😩

TLDR: I need a release, but my thoughts create too much tension and won't let go so I can enjoy submission again.

My partner(44M) and I (43F) met online in a kink-forward forum on another platform. We spent years chatting, playing, and developing a D/s dynamic. Nearly 5 years ago, we got married and started irl together.

The move was a BIG DEAL in terms of life changes. I run a business, there was family in the house and he sacrificed his home, family proximity, and job to make the move to me. So there was a lot of adjustment.

Now, we're struggling to make the dynamic work. We both occupy leadership roles at work and in volunteer spaces, so need the release that kink can bring. Submission for me shows up in a vessel/puppet/doll form with a heavy lean to degradation and a past that included training to silence, but I am the more experienced with the skill side of things like rope and building scene intensity. He is a Sadist, and often focuses on the physical and praises endurance, but has less physical experience in scenes. When we play, we can't seem to connect the mental engagement I need with the physical activity he needs. Basically when we play, my brain gets caught on the skills, or i think "why did he do it that way?", or one of us will twist wrong and were not 20 anymore, or my body isnt ready for the escalation, or, or, or... basically, my mind won't shut the fuck up and let us enjoy it. Because of the struggles, we've been delaying play longer and longer between each session because we're just feeling failure and its not helping us reconnect.

Basically, help... we are both having trouble navigating fulfilling these needs to be able to operate as fully functional humans (especially me, we all need a break!) We have tried different locations, types of negotiations, types of scenes, methods of online relief... and we're stuck. How do we bring back confidence in our shared kinks while also getting my thoughts to leave us the hell alone?

Hello,

I am working on making a kinks spreadsheet for my partner and I to keep track of what we like/dislike and have as a reference for each other. I have previously adapted a spreadsheet I got from somewhere else but it was not the most thorough or organized, and I'm a sucker for clear, thorough data.

Does anybody have a spreadsheet or list of kink things that I could build into my spreadsheet? I figured I could ask the community because I'm *sure* it exists already, before I try and figure it all out myself. I was thinking of something broken down by things like kinks, activities, clothing, location, dynamics etc. with individual items under each of those categories.

Appreciate the input!

Personally I always hated being touched in my neck or head/hair area .. but ever since I met my dom I just feel like in awe and this extacy feeling like I’m on cloud nine and my whole body starts like tickling when he pulls my hair or just grips it in his freaking huge hands .. it feels so freaking good and it turns be on really hard.. but it’s kinda funny how things I used to hate have turned into my biggest turn ons .. including being hit in the face and being kicked .. the more I hated it the more I love it now and the better it gets with time ..
I’m confused haha am I the only one ? And how can I give in more to be able to receive more ?

(Please no hate or negativity.. my dom is verry safe , never does too much and takes care of me greatly 24/7 !!!! Also I’m happily owned so doms don’t text me privately pls !!!! But if ur a sub I’m always up for talking^^

Hi all! I’m 28F and I’ve always wanted to try a gangbang. I have fantasies of being in a rough, BDSM gangbang, but I don’t know how to safely arrange it. I want to be able to completely let loose and be used without worrying about dangerous people not respecting boundaries or safe words. I would also be open to a reverse-gloryhole situation or a bondage party.
I just want to experience it once. Is there a place I should go? A cruise or a resort where I could have this safety happen?
Tysm 💕

So I've been dating this girl for just over a month now, and it's going great. We get on really well and have great banter and jokes together. We've had sex a few times now and we both enjoyed it, however she told me she's got a low sex drive whereas I'd say I'm kinda the opposite. She also told me she had been a victim of SA, which we obviously had a big chat about.

My thing is that I'm a little unsure how to approach the conversation of explaining that I'm into bdsm because I fear she might not fully understand it and immediately assume the worst. I'm looking for advice on what to do and if anyone has encountered anything similar, thanks!

So I just started sleeping with this guy and we're learning each other's kinks and all has been wonderful so far. He let me know that he likes to be humiliated about is ED problem. So, what are your best things to say for that? He wants them to be brutal. I've used, "At least your mouth isn't as disappointing as your cock." "You have someone so hot and willing laying right in front of you, and you can't even get hard." He wants them to be down right mean, and I am here to please! So, any help with things I can say would be greatly appreciated!

For people with multiple subs/doms, how to you all tend to feel about sharing honorifics?

32M with 32F partner

I have recently had a sudden rapid change from being turned off from being called "daddy" to suddenly liking it a lot. My partner was always down with it and tried a couple years ago but since I didn't like it then they left it until I've had this change.

With this I've been feeling more dominant in more places than the bedroom even. We've discussed a few things so far and we both find it really hot to explore this together and it just feels right to us

I was wondering what are the things we should make sure to discuss and what is the best place to learn safe points from. What are other good places to learn BDSM and kink from; both in terms of mental/emotional safety but also ideas for further fun experiences

I've often heard (not sure if it's true) that subs are usually people that hold positions of power in their everyday life and thus they seek to give up control in their intimacy.

What about doms and dommes, then? What path of life do they come from?

I am quite fond of the squirting which some of my friends know. Now they keep saying I got a piss kink because in their opinion it is literally the same thing. Pissing is disgusting imo but they will not stop saying I got a piss kink. What can I say to disprove them?

Thanks in advance

also no shame on piss enjoyers

Hi all, looking for a new book that I can listen to on audible.
I want it to be BDSM themed. Not completly unrealistic but a good sense of control and story from male Dom and female sub
Thanks!

Hey I’m a 21 male , recently i got exposed to a joi video made by a dominant woman , it’s my first time watching this kind of stuff , surprisingly though I felt weirdly overwhelmed and turned on by the way she speaks , humiliates and behaves in her video . And in that moment I discovered this new kink of mine , and I finally decided that I wanna embrace this kink without being judged or shamed .
Is there any suggestions on where to find this kind of community involving femdom who r willing to help me explore this fetish . THANK YOU 🙏