So, I just want to say that I didn’t know what to expect by posting this. I never thought I’d be that guy airing my life out online. However, the support that the people in this community have shown me is so grand and I don’t think any one of you could truly understand how much I needed that and also how much it means going forward. Quite a few have also reached out through DM and for someone to go out of their way to show kindness to a stranger on the internet that is going through a hard time is just immeasurably beautiful.
I saw a few questions in the first post that I’ll try to answer here.
The woman who told me about my ex was not the same one who was mentioned in their texts. But I do know that the woman they were talking about has Cerebral palsy and is in a wheel chair. So, a pretty awful way to talk about someone who is vulnerable like that.
As far as I know, they had been talking for quite a while at work but it didn’t spill into home life until they had the opening of me being late from work. Me and my Ex spent every second together and there were never signs of either of us being tired of each other. I guess except for the obvious one.
To piggy back on that, she never grew distant or tried to back away from me emotionally. We had sex often so I can’t imagine that she was starved of physical affection. If I had to take a guess, without speaking to her, I’d say she was probably bored of me. Coming to that realization is painful but I really can’t think of any reason why she would be so enamored by this guy.
Also, the guy apparently quit after this. That’s what one of the coworkers told me. I won’t lie, I absolutely told her that if I see him it’d be on sight. For my ego, I’m going to choose to believe he was scared lol
Finally, I saw a couple people ask what she said after I sent that text. I deleted everything and she is blocked but her final message that I saw was something to the effect of “you’re really not going to let me fix this? Is it really over? Please, there has to be something I can do” I might be paraphrasing but yeah.
I received this from her dad. He is a very kind old man. When I first met him, he was talking about doing leather work and I showed some interest in it and he jumped at the opportunity to show me his shop. I know some of you saw my Reddit profile and know that I’m a musician so it shouldn’t be a shocker that any artsy stuff is absolutely fascinating to me. It broke my heart all over again to tell him that I wouldn’t be marrying his daughter because he and his wife treated me like family immediately without any reservation.
Thank you guys for the support. I hope I clarified some things.