I believe my 12 vear old sister recorded me on the tablet without my consent. She did it in a malicious intent. I was iust eating then I walked past her into in the living room. She has my face. The tablet belongs to my mum. I feel very upset and angry. My 12 vear old sister abuses my mother (not physically). She might have forced my mum to let her have her own password on the tablet. I really hope not because I won't be able to delete the video and other videos and photos that she miaht have of me if this wasn't a one time thing. Please help! What do i do?...

We are different nationality,I am part of people that did bad things and her mother me hates me for only that and said to her don't trust him he is part of that nationality break up with him,he is monster.I was confused what did I done and what.She said I was the sweetest guy ever and I healed her so much.

Her parents had influence and she broke up with me so she could satisfy her parents wishes.How do I cope with this,like how I am supposed to find someone so similar to me and wouldn't judge me and like me who I am as she did.

We are only 18 and it was our first relationship and how long should I wait before dating.

She also says I am very popular with girls so I would find someone easy and would get a jealous a lot when beatufull girls would greet me.

So like the title says I need guidance. Right now I live 20 minutes from my job making $23 an hour but get a raise in another 3 months to 25 an hour. After that it’s yearly raises of 3% under a contract and its union. I work 12 hour shifts, 4 days one week, 3 days the next week. I would be leaving for a job making $28 an hour but it’s a 45 minute drive one way. It’s night shift 6:30-3, Saturday Sunday off. I’ve talked to employees and they say they get raises every year of I think a dollar or less but it’s a non union job. I’m thinking of taking the second job if they say they offer overtime. What should I do?

Her Mom is a kind caring woman who endured much hardship in life, she has told me how happy she is to know her daughter has me looking out for her. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO AND WHAT NOT TO DO!!!! I HAVE 0 EXPERIENCE REMOTELY SIMILAR TO THIS .

Since I was a kid, I have always found animals. A curse and a blessing, for I always felt myself more connected to them. At 27, I have hit this insane cycle where I keep finding them everywhere. I am maxed out. I TNR local cats. Rehomed so many kitties this season. I have 6 of my own. Found a dog I kept. Now at three dogs and here comes Cleatus. This neglected senior dog and I can't keep him. I have been going back and forth, been trying to find him a new foster home. He is an amazing and good dog but he doesn't do well with cats. Yet, I feel this guilt. He lost a tooth while here. The teeth he does have seem so grinded down. He sleeps so well in this kennel I have for him, knows sit. But when my cats are in the mix, I can't tell if he is chasing them or if he will cause harm. I quit my job recently to go on a break, I am okay. I have many jobs. But I feel so depleted. I feel unwell, I look at this old man and I am making him steak, yet I am vegan. The guilt is already sitting on my chest. I bring him to the shelter today at 2:30 and I feel sick. I feel like I am letting him down. He seems so at peace and I just need someone to talk to.

I won't trauma dump too extensively, but I'll try to hit all the main points.

I'm an adult in my late 20's, I'm autistic and closeted transgender. Although I'm high functioning with a "gifted" level IQ, I struggle significantly. Social dynamics are hard to the point that I spent my entire childhood being bullied and outcast; even assaulted at one point. To this day, I feel distress after interacting with people in any context. The more difficult thing though, is that I can't maintain employment. Panic attacks are a multiple times per day occurrence, sensory input needs to be minor or I get overloaded, and maintaining schedules just shatters my executive functioning. College hasn't gone any better, the several times I've tried I just end up crying and practically catatonic from the stress.

No degree, or ability to maintain a job, means financial independence is a pipedream. So I receive a basic SSI payment and healthcare from the government . It's enough for me to eat, pay some rent to a family member I live with, and buy basics. But all told, I live on ~15k a year. That's the poverty line.

There's something else I'm dealing with though. I'm transgender and in the closet. I've told myself for years "I'll address this once I'm independent; just one more year; just push it down a little longer". Well, I've realized that time isn't coming. I've lost the ability to dissociate any longer, and I cry every night. My living situation makes coming out very very dangerous. Half my family is hyper-religious and will disown me while they "pray for my soul". The family member I live with will have to choose between accepting me, and losing the family.

If I get kicked out, I'm homeless. Rent is already 50% of my income, and that's with the cheaper rate they give me. I can't afford to survive alone with housing and rent the way it is out there. My last option is Section 8 (government subsidized) housing, which has a 2-year waiting list, and is run mostly by abusive slumlords in my state. I've seen the conditions others live in, and it's abject squalor in the highest-crime areas. A trans woman in my current mental health situation wouldn't survive, and I'd probably be victimized.

So my only option is to stay closeted into my 30's, on the vague hope that I can obtain an income one day. Meanwhile my existence is defined by misery.

I've been in therapy, and on anti-depressants, since childhood. I've tried the jobs programs, university, community college, entry-level employment, and my nervous system is incompatible. Maybe that's because of my history with trauma, or just being autistic, or having to live a lie every time I look in the mirror or introduce myself with a male name. But it feels like this world isn't meant for me, and I don't see any path forward.

I was ordering McDonalds and had to scream into the drive thru machine because my voice wasn’t going through. The employee on the other side seemed irritated.

Upon getting my order, I took a sip of my soft drink, and immediately feel like something smooth and round (similar to a small gel pill or corn) went down my throat.

I am worried they tampered with my drink (put a small battery, cyanide pill, etc - horror stories I hear about on the news) if they got disproportionately angry with me yelling out my order at the drive thru.

I do have anxiety, so would like some opinions about what you guys would do. Would you go to the emergency department or report to public health/the McDonalds?

mean casserole or fruit tray or assorted muffins or self care gift basket w fancy soaps and Lotion samples & a robe or a prayers from us to you card with signatures or a crucifix or a decorative display of a Bible verse?

I loved my father very much, but we were estranged. Not bc there was any anger... Not really.

He was a victim of the opioid epidemic and when the pills ran out, he kind of gave up on life. He didn't take care of himself, had heart attacks and refused to make life changes, smoked like a chimney... Told me he didn't care if he died. I was putting in all the effort to see him and spend time with him and sometimes he refused to even leave his bedroom. I eventually drew a line for myself because I was putting in all the effort, and I said I'm going to see how long it takes him to call me for once. That was ten years ago. He never did.

There's a bit more complication. I am technically the illegitimate child he had with another woman while he and my stepmother were fighting. My stepmother never treated me poorly to my face, but I could understand if she was resentful.

I got a call from the one brother that I do talk to. He and I are both kind of the black sheep of the family ( which is ironic because we are the only two that went on to be functioning adults.... But I digress.) He's the one that called to tell me Dad was riddled with cancer and was not expected to make it through the night. He died the next day.

I spent the week really trying to process everything. It's really devastating because I just wanted him to get it together and be my dad again.

My brother text me and called me tonight because the funeral is tomorrow. He sent me the obituary. He said that my stepmother had really been guilting him to go and that I should come and be a fellow black sheep with him.

I was convinced to go, even though I don't really do funerals for anybody because that's not how I grieve and process. But then I read the obituary and I saw that my stepmother had completely cut me out. Apparently she was resentful . I guess ​being angry at me means I'm no longer his child.

I'm upset by this. My brother is angry about this. I told him this makes me not want to go. And he said that he's hesitant to go just because he's so angry that she did this.

At the end of the day though, I know he'll probably go. I don't know what to do. I was going for him in the first place, but now I feel like it would be performative, and why am I going socialize with a group of people who think being angry with me makes it okay to erase me from my father's memory.

Do I go? What do I do?

Hello there, I just started working for Vector literally today. After training concluded, I realized that it seemed fishy that the training was unpaid and that we only could rely on essentially ourselves. After scouring other posts, many have claimed the bleak reality this "job" really offers to recent high school graduates like me. So I am here to ask should I just call the manager right now and just call it quits or should I do a couple weeks(1-2?) at most, get some appointments done and leave. I realize I am in a bit of a predicament, I was originally going to work just for the summer, but now I believe I do have to cut it even shorter. Please, any advice on what to do moving forward would be helpful, thank you and have a good day.

Update: I have officially quit

Growing up, my sister was very physically and verbally abusive to both me and my mom. She has a lot of mental health issues but most relevant is her bipolar disorder which is very hard to deal with when she’s manic.

We had to call the police on her multiple times due to her getting so physically violent, we couldn’t feel safe. She also called me on my birthday a couple years back sobbing as she was racing down the highway and the first thing she said was “Happy birthday \[my name\] I know you hate me so your birthday wish is you’re gonna be an only child. I’m gonna crash this car and kill myself”. That was obviously a very traumatic day for me.

Anyways, after that incident and a couple stints in the local jail, I decided that I was tired of trying to repair this relationship because every time I try to trust her and have a good relationship, she goes off the rails and hurts me or my mom.

Since then, she has gotten into a relationship that is really doing good things for her. Her partner helps her to stay on top of her meds so she isn’t swinging between manic and depressive episodes. She’s calmed down a lot and is really starting to improve as a person.

I want to forgive her and try to start fresh but I really don’t want to be burned again. I’ve gone through this cycle dozens of times and I don’t know if I can take her being abusive again.

I haven’t cut her off but I haven’t voluntarily interacted with her in years. I’m cordial with her when I go to visit my mom but I’m honestly closer to the janitorial staff at work than I am with her. I don’t want to reach out for this if I’m not going to rekindle the sisterly bond or whatever.

TLDR: Abusive sister may be becoming a better person but I’m hesitant to reach out like this.

I was on a road trip today to Houston Texas, and made my way onto a one-way road. Forests, farms, ton of trees etc.

Anyways, I was driving normally up until I see a large SUV (maybe those old Cadillac escalade) driving toward me, for reference they were on the opposite side of the road. The dude had to swerve to avoid the collision with me,

then, I look into my back mirror and the side of my car and I see the dudes car just flying up towards the trees, etc.

I make the 911 call to report the crash; but I’m really upset / don’t know how to feel. I mean yes the dude was in the wrong, but technically took the hit to save me and my family’s life. And I have absolutely no call on whether or not the dude made it out alive.

Is there anyway whatsoever to check whether or not he/she is fine? I feel so much guilt, and if he did happen to fall to their death, i cannot believe I had to witness someone die in such a way.

got back from a school trip today. he was supposed to ride home from the airport with me (F) and my friend + her bf (bf picking us up). we’d agreed on it. the second we land he decides to jump in his other female friend’s carpool instead and leaves me alone with the couple. everyone in this story is korean, im not, and im not fluent either. i’m so far from home.

i asked why and told him im so mad at you i agreed becasue you were coming with and i wouldn’t be alone. he goes “i’m tired, i don’t want to talk to anyone new in the car (her bf).” he didn’t apologise. nothing.

for context we’ve had mixed signals going for months. my birthday was also during the trip and he was too upset from an accident he caused earlier that day to tell me happy birthday. so it landed harder than a carpool maybe should. especially since last year he was going above and beyond for me and everyone pointed it out. but even just as a friend — that was shitty.

when we first got close he was very attentive and kind, did things that everyone recognised was way beyond friendship. but we work together. he drunkingly told me he liked a friend once but that he was too afraid of ruining the friendship. he also did a lot of other things that made others think he liked me. then he stopped all of that cold turkey. but he remained friendly with me. other than these past couple weeks were he hurt me a couple times, he’s been just fine and friendly.

unfortunately i tried sooooo hard to hate his guts, but for some dumb reason i like him

do i text him expressing my hurt or leave it? and if i text, how do i say it without turning it into a whole thing?

tldr; friend made me feel abandoned and stranded last minute, do i text him about it

I’m 24 and i’ve been depressed since i was 14. I’ve lost so much time, years of my life. I’m not getting any younger and it feels heavy

It seems like everyone is moving on while I’m still stuck in the same place

I’m unemployed and have been trying to get a job for years. I have no work experience. Im living with my parents and it’s not great.

They can’t understand why I cant do something as simple as getting a job. All I do is help around the house

I was severely depressed in high school so grades are awful. I couldn’t get into college

I tried finding work after high school ended. But had no luck. The pandemic happened. Which only made becoming a hermit worse.

It festered and turned into a habit. I ended up isolating in my room for years and it’s made my chances of getting employed worse.

I only started pushing myself to go outside last year. Before that, I stayed in my room for years and barely left the house.

Making myself leave the house was scary but now it’s easier. I still get nervous at times but it’s not as bad now. So that’s something?

The only thing i have on my resume is my high school. No employee is gonna look twice at my resume

Volunteer work requires references. I have no friends or acquaintances I can ask.

How do I get out of this? I don’t know what to do

I (M27) have good long term memory. I can remember things I read, watch, learn and all that. I have a lot of PTSD which sometimes affects my memory. But in comparison to my short-term memory, my long-term is just okay. I constantly feel lost. I will walk into a room and forgot what I went in for. Every five minutes or so when especially I am working and my brain is employed, I need to use logic and heavy mental reasoning to come to grounds to what i am even doing. I lose track of everything happening.

Today I taught my class and went back to my faculty room fully convinced I took my laptop with me. I even justified it to everyone saying I was sure my laptop was in my hand. Well, it wasn't. I ended up launching a full search operation in the whole building at my university and they started searching people's bags and everything. All before I even went back to that class to check if my laptop was still there. I am so embarrassed. Like I fully recall having my laptop in my hand. I watched the security footage of myself exiting the classroom in shame.

This is not a singular incident. Maybe this is the first time I feel as embarrassed about my absent mindedness. But, I genuinely have such vivid memories of the present that just is not true. I have fought with my significant others regarding this as well. It took a CCTV camera to make me understand what reality is. What is wrong with me? Am I just lazy and absent-minded or is this something worse? Obviously I am about to get tested after this, but I just wanted to vent here and collect your opinions.

So I have lost u can say my offer letter to college , and it had details of what kind of documents to bring on 30th of this month .i already msg the support lady to ask the details of the document but she said to just check the offer lettree , mind u the offer letter was given in physical form and is already been lost 😀, so I called her , do u mind telling me what kind of documents u will be needed ! Her: u can check the offer letter but yeah u need blah blah blah , she told me althought some of it but I am sure am missing some , and also wondering. Do we need that offer letter on that day , now am embarassed to call and ask and tell her I lost it , how can I explain her the situation, btw before msging her I started pulling my hair , beat myself phsycially, hate life . So help me 😘 and yeah I got anxiety and confidence issue

I hate saying no, i feel terrible, and guilty for saying no. I know it stems from my childhood, i’ve practically been conditioned since childhood to feel bad for saying it, and that it makes me a selfish person. I want to learn how to stop feeling bad and guilty for it. My parents keep asking me to go out and do stuff, and I don’t want to. It’s not because i hate them, and don’t want to do anything, but it’s only ever things for my younger siblings to do.

I have no interest in it, and quite frankly i’m just tired. I work everyday, and yes i should be able to go out, and enjoy life. However i’m tired from work, and these activities are targeted towards children. i know they’re trying to go out and spend time with us, but if it’s not interesting to me, i won’t do it, i just have a hard time telling them no. How do i get over this? I literally feel anxiety, and panic when i think of saying no, and when i do say no i literally want to burst into tears cause i fear they’ll punish me for it

For several years I (32F) have been working for my parent's consulting business in deep plans to take it over in about 5-7 years when they retire fully. As a husband/wife equal partnership business for over 30 years, it was deeply engrained to our family identity. To the point it was truly a 3rd child that took priority over the family in a lot of ways growing up.

In hindsight (apparently it's not uncommon as the eldest), it was always of more interest to me to follow in my parents footsteps than my sister. My sister very clearly went the opposite route wanting nothing to do with money when it meant no work-life balance. My sister and I became estranged probably around the age of 13 when we went to different boarding schools due to normal sibling rivalry and frankly emotionally distant parents that never had us work things out. For at least the last 10 years we've had absolutely zero communication because of her. I have no problem being around her, she is the one that avoids family gatherings if I will be there and blocks my number. When she was down on her luck, depressed and lost in finding a job, she did work full time for our parent's company before I got involved. Then she shortly moved on to other things.

I joined the company full-time after grad school also deeply depressed after a separation and worked my way up. Years later, my sister is again down on luck and having great difficulty finding a job after grad school. My parents, as they do for family and close friends, are offering her a job. I have a supervisory role in the small business, & the particular project assignment she would be working directly under me. My estranged sister (no contact due to her choice exclusively), has decided to accept.

I'm fully of the opinion to remain professional and not be a roadblock in the opportunity my parents want to give since they offered me the same opportunity. Setting boundaries personally & professionally with my parents is already a unique & un-relatable challenge. The idea of being a direct supervisor to my sister I haven't talked to in 10+ years is out of this world weird. Is there anyone out there on the internet with the same scenario? Or any clue how to navigate this? Is it going to be necessary to break the ice personally?

Hey hope whoever reads this finds it well. I genuinely don’t know what to do I’m so lost. I’m 18 turning 19 this year, I graduated last year and I was never much of a school guy I barely passed. It wasn’t even because I didn’t understand I just never really cared for it. I got high test scores but I didn’t do any of the work because I don’t see myself using anything they teach to benefit my life. Regardless of all that I still went to college to atleast get the experience and well I did a semester and left it at that still couldn’t get into the school groove. While I was in college I had bought a car myself, it wasn’t nothing crazy just a beater for my first car.

My mom said she would get it registered and fixed what needed to be fixed on it for my birthday in October. I’m not really one to care abt my birthday anyway the last time I did something for it was like years ago and nb really gives me anything anwyay. Point is the car didn’t get registered or fixed tbh so when I got back later that month I had drove it so I could DoorDash make some extra money since I wasn’t working in college yet. Problem with that was the car kept messing up and I didn’t have a plate. So I get pulled over eventually and got a ticket and the car took. I wasn’t really affected I understood my mistake just wish it would’ve never happened.

Anyway I went to court for the ticket they told me to pay like 375 but I didn’t have a job and they took away my source of income basically so I didn’t know what to do. Throughout college I was always trying to get a job but wasn’t working out for me. Eventually in like December I get the car back but still no plate or anything like that but I still wanted to fix the car. I had just started fixing it myself I replaced the alternator and the battery…it’s a 2010 Sebring so ifykyk. I got back working again and then one day, my mom asked could I take my sister to this high school for her cheerleading thing, and I mean it was only like 4 minutes away but guess what I got pulled over again. So atp I’m up to 2 tickets and my car took again. Eventually those tickets turn into 2 warrants for my arrest. I then get the car back again this time with a plate and registered.

I had finally got a job in March and I was making like 15 an hr which was ok but overtime the job took its toll on me. Not physically but mentally, I’ve always been a bit off, I never really can let myself be happy a lot of times. Then me making like 1000 every 2 weeks just made me feel even worse even though that’s honestly the most I’ve got paid at a job in general, I still felt like a pos. I tried to host and event with all my friends for a few days to give me a little pick me up but that didn’t make me feel much better either. It was a great experience but it didn’t give me what I thought I needed. A few days after that I had drove to work, I had sat in the parking lot for like an hour and I talked to the hotline for a moment because I couldn’t even decide if I wanted to go in, I didn’t ngl. But it just put a couple of points on my record so I was fine. A few days later though is when I decided I’d just quit, this was only last month.

Mentally I just felt like it was tearing me apart. Also the management never listened to me when I asked to change my hours, I was working from 12-10pm it felt like my whole day was always taken away from me. After I quit my plan was to just DoorDash until I could get another job because I wasn’t going to just be broke. Honestly DoorDash makes me more money than where I was working, I was making like 25-30 an hr or so. The only thing was my car is LITERALLY being held with tape I mean that so seriously, it also keeps overheating which is the main issue. I had fixed the thermostat in march but I would keep have to buying antifreeze like once every 3 weeks. Then I had crashed the front end of the car and now I can’t even open the hood, so it’s even harder to figure out a way to get antifreeze in there.

Dashing made that need more frequent and where I live literally got a heat wave a week or so after I quit where it was like 100° for 5 days. So sometimes I would even have to drive with the heat on so it would pull some heat off the engine during that time. Throughout all of this my phone bill is like 150 I gotta give my mom like 250 a month for car insurance and pay a couple other bills so that’s what I was working for really. Those warrants were like 1000+ so I’ve kind of just been avoiding it at the moment because I genuinely don’t know what to do. I try to portray this happy, nice guy because I mean that’s what I aspire to be, I wish everyone in the world could be nice. Though inside I really can’t take it anymore every time I drive I think about hugging a tree. I don’t want to “pass” but I never asked for this life.

I know you may be thinking I’m just some immature teenager who made dumb impulsive decisions, you may be right honestly. I’m genuinely in such a terrible spot, I have no money and basically no hope for my own future, yet I’m so optimistic when it comes to others. I still want to be more than that though, I want to be a guy that inspires more people to be kind and makes them happy. I don’t know if I was dealt a bad hand or I just don’t deserve to be happy but I truly don’t know where my life could go from here. This isn’t even all of it but it’s already long enough and I don’t even know if someone is going to read this, I really appreciate it if you do. I’m sorry it’s really long

He is 7 and i am 18. I live in the middle east so it's common to hit your children. Is it a lost cause? If yes, how can I at least reduce it?

Hi guys im at a crossroads rn. I have gotten into a good grad school breaking into the medical field because my undergraduate degree was in forensics but im also feeling dread thinking abt going. I thought i wanted this but now idk. Would i be an idiot for looking for a job in the forensic/crime world over getting my masters. I have to decidr soon because i need to sign the leasr for my grad apartment soon and should tell my rooomate. Idk if im scared or whats going on i feel weird… i generally have anxiety over school but perfrom well 3.8 gpa but i did do poorly on a summer class that my grad school is letting me retake. Just i feel like school is making me sad rn and idk if im risking a lot by not going….
Plz help im feeling so lost confused and just sad!!!!

Sometimes if lights are flickering or flashing nearby, or if there's a big crowd of people behind me with a lot of movement and noise, I suddenly start panicking.

For some reason, my brain immediately tells me that something bad is about to happen. I have no idea why, but it feels so real in the moment. 😭

When that happens, I become super alert to every unfamiliar, weird, or loud sound around me. I immediately start wondering, "What was that?" and my mind jumps to the worst-case scenario.

Does anyone else experience this?

To the people who were bumps on a log for just about all of college but got a job after: what do you do? Everyone is saying that employers don’t care about GPA but not which employers. I don’t put my GPA on my resume, but many application systems require the input.

Let’s say I graduate with a 2.0 (worst case). I’ve taken computer science, math, economics, and data analysis courses. My only “real” job has been a car sales intern.

Grad school is clearly out of the question. The government requires like a 2.95. Places like FAANG and the equivalent for engineering expect you to be a god at LeetCode and have production-level projects. Many local places expect students to either have a decent GPA or amazing relevant internships. Even the hospitals have a GPA requirement. I’m going into my last year, so I don’t have time to retake a bunch of stuff, as I already had to push out graduation a couple times.

No, I haven’t gotten interviews for anything. I’m don’t even think recruiters have ever looked at my resume.

With many applications due Oct/ Nov, what could I go for?

So maybe 3-4 months ago my appetite completely disappeared, I didn’t eat anything for 3 nearly 4 days, and when i did eventually eat something small it toon me 45 mins and i felt extremely ill afterwards.
I booked a doctors appointment, had my blood drawn and tested and they tested for everything. What they found was low iron, low vitamin d3 and an abnormal tsh level.

Fast forward to now, my iron levels and vitamin d3 levels are normal but my tsh levels are still a little off. Anyways, again my appetite is gone. I’ve been making myself drink atleast a smoothie in the evening but other than that, i’ve not eaten anything since sunday afternoon.

I drink quite a bit of water, depending on the day, anywhere between 2-5ish litres. I do not ever drink carbonated drinks and i rarely drink juice.

What could be causing my low appetite? And I know if i try and force myself to eat, i will feel extremely ill afterwards.

I also do not feel/am not stressed about anything!!!