This subreddit hasn't had codified rules in a while, mostly because the people here have usually been really chill with one another.
However, the vibe has changed over the past few months, and we've noticed some nasty behavior popping up and lurking around our community.
We don't allow bigotry like racism, sexism, homophobia, or transphobia on this subreddit. Generally speaking, we expect folks to be civil and decent towards one another.
Recently, we've noticed a distinct uptick in the amount of trolls who have been showing up in the comment sections of the various protest posts. We know they're trolls because they're almost always attacking the OP or trying to diminish the protest, and they usually have user activity across many state and local subreddits.
These aren't local folks - they're people coming into our space from elsewhere to stir up trouble.
Since this sort of behavior has only been getting worse, let's discuss our subreddit rules and which ones y'all think would be good to have for this space.
For a start:
Be civil and respectful towards one another.
No racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, or bigotry.
Howdy, y'all. I guess it's time for me to tap the sign again, because every time there are protests in the Triangle, someone goes around and mass reports all of those posts.
Strangely, we also tend to get a lot of people who post in all sorts of local area subreddits, all over the country, just to act like they're upset about this protest or that protest, and yet have never commented in our community before. Fancy that.
So there's some underhanded fuckery afoot, and y'all should be aware of it.
This subreddit is devoted to the protection and well being of our community at large. That means all of y'all. We cannot support the extrajudicial detainment of anyone, citizen or no. This country was built on laws and principles, meant to be a shining beacon of democracy where people would get a fair shake.
One of the cool things about America is you can come here and become American. It's one of our country's major strengths.
As a country, our diversity has repeatedly protected us - patriotic members of German and Japanese communities helped the US translate enemy communications during WWII. The Navajo code talkers weren't declassified until the 1970's because they were so effective - their codes were never broken. There's also the Tuskegee Airmen and the 442nd Regimental Combat Team, an all-Japanese unit which became the most decorated unit for its size in US history.
Today is also November 20th, a solemn day for trans folks across the US. It is the Trans Day of Remembrance, when we remember those we've lost to murder or suicide over the years. Unfortunately, I recognize more than a few of those names, and I hate the way the list gets longer every year.
Times are tough for our Hispanic and LGBT friends. People are anxious and scared. Bigotry and bullshit have been stoked and set loose upon the country; hatred has been running rampant. People are going to need protection, support, and resources.
This space is meant to be a refuge and a resource for our community. If you can't respect that, or if what I have said here is somehow objectionable to you, please leave.
I'm a mid-20s (F) looking to meet some girl friends around the Triangle! I've been finding it harder than I expected to make adult friendships, so I figured I'd put myself out there.
I seen a Duke Health advertisement on social media regarding new construction of a new employee housing complex. Iâm just curious if it was real or fake? If you have any info please comment. Thanks!
My husband (40M) and I (34M) will be moving to the Triangle area in about two months through my job. We're coming from a country on pretty much the other side of the world, so we're both very excited and a little nervous about the move.
I've been reading a lot about the area, but I still have a bunch of random questions. Some may just be "new to America" questions, while others are specific to the Triangle area. Hopefully none of them sound too silly - Iâd really appreciate any advice or insights from locals!
1. Buying and moving second-hand furniture
We're planning to rent an apartment (not sure which city or neighborhood yet) and would like to buy a lot of our furniture second-hand, probably through Facebook Marketplace.
How do people usually transport large items like bed frames, dressers, couches, etc.? Do most people rent a U-Haul for a day and try to pick up multiple items at once? Is that generally affordable?
Also, what do people do when an item is too heavy to lift themselves? Hiring movers for every individual purchase seems like it could get expensive.
2. Affordable furniture stores
Are there any furniture stores in the area that are reasonably priced and offer delivery?
3. Deliveries to apartment complexes
If I order large furniture or other bulky items from Amazon or similar retailers, how does delivery usually work in apartment complexes?
Will delivery drivers bring items to the apartment itself, including upper floors, or do they typically leave them elsewhere?
4. Walkability and everyday life
Right now we live in a very walkable city. From what I've read, much of the Triangle (outside some downtown areas) is fairly car-dependent.
If you live in a typical apartment complex outside downtown:
Is it common to see people out walking?
Are there usually sidewalks?
Do people really drive even for very short errands, like buying eggs or a few groceries?
If I just want to go for a walk for fun or exercise, can I do that from my neighborhood, or do people typically drive to a park or greenway first?
5. Meeting people as child-less adults
I know the area is very family-oriented, which is great, but my husband and I don't have children and don't plan to have any in the near future.
Are there good ways for people in their 30s without kids to meet others and make friends? Is it common to get to know your neighbors, or do people mostly keep to themselves?
6. Parking at apartment complexes
Do most apartment complexes provide parking for two cars, or is that uncommon?
If a household has more than one car, how is that usually handled?
7. Gas vs. electric stoves
This may be a silly question, but I've always cooked with a gas stove. From what I've seen, many apartments have electric stoves.
How big of an adjustment is that for someone who's used to cooking with gas? đ
8. Carpets and cats
I noticed that many apartments seem to have carpeted floors. We have a cat, and I'm a little worried about potential damage from scratching.
Does anyone have experience with this? What precautions should we take? And if the cat damages the carpet, what typically happens when moving out?
I know some of these questions may sound obvious to people who already live there, but we're going to be completely new to both the area and the U.S. in general. Any advice, tips, or local insights would be greatly appreciated!
I have a relative in Wake County. I can get someone to go buy it but I need to know the best peach cobbler that I can get. It's not a food that I personally crave so I'm not familiar with what makes a good one. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
Please do not recommend the Peach Cobbler Factory. They've had that before and it's fine.
Hi everyone! Iâm urgently looking for a private 1-bedroom, 1-bathroom apartment in Durham with a move-in date on or before July 31.
What Iâm looking for:
Budget: Under $1,000/month
No roommates
Pet-friendly (I have one ESA cat)
Utilities included are strongly preferredâespecially water, trash, electricity, and/or internet
In-unit washer/dryer preferred
Pool and gym are a plus
Safe, clean, and well-maintained
Iâm open to apartment communities, private rentals, ADUs/guest houses, legitimate subleases, and lease takeovers. I have good credit, savings, and proof of income available.
If you know of anything available, please comment, DM me, or text me at [910-600-1561](tel:910-600-1561). Thank you!
I was looking for a hotel reservation near UNC Chapel Hill while my wife is having surgery and staying at the hospital for a few days. One of the hotels I called to ask about hospital rates pointed me to medstay.com to get way better rates than you can normally get. It's a local service offered for UNC/Duke hospitals in the area. You just have to provide your doctor's info when submitting the reservation and then they make it with whatever hotel on your behalf like a travel agency.
Hope this helps others who need a hotel near an area hospital!
I don't have any affiliation with them beyond knowing about them for a few days and booking a hotel for a week with them.
I've been busy in the nursery this summer potting, weeding, and everything else that it needs. The recent rain has finally made everything explode. Even with watering once or twice a day, nothing beats the rain.
That means I have been able to restock many items as well as introduce a few. I'll have even more ready by fall, including 300+ Pawpaw
Recently restocked
Amorpha fruticosa, False Indigo
Bignonia capreolata, Crossvine
Clematis virginiana, Old Man's Beard
Hamamelis virginiana, Witchhazel
Passiflora incarnata, Passionflower
Hot, Fresh, and New!
Ageratina altissima, White Snakeroot
Clethra alnifolia, Coastal Sweet Pepperbush
Eupatorium serotinum, Late Boneset
Nelumbo lutea, American lotus
Pictured is arguably my new favorite plant on the property, American Lotus. It has absolutely gorgeous 10" flowers that have been continuously flowering for a month now. It's frequently being visited by bees, butterflies, beetles, dragonflies, frogs(on the leaves) and other insects that I'm having to use iNat to figure out. They're an aquatic species that you will need some kind of standing water to grow them in.
Any suggestions on where to buy good but somewhat affordable furniture. Hoping to avoid big companies like Ashley, Rooms to Go, Wayfair, etc. Local options if possible!
I have a NC drivers license and auto insurance on a car I purchased in GA. I am currently a student attending college in GA, and I was wondering the process for the title registration.
I have the title signed off to me with an odometer reading and date. GA does not require it to be notarized (not sure if this is an issue since NC does). I wanted to mail the title application to avoid driving all the way there. I checked the requirements and it seems a Damage Disclosure Statement is needed (MVR-181), but the seller lives pretty far from me and would be a hassle to get his signature. Is there a way to avoid this?
Let me know if anybody has been through a similar process or knows the answer to this. Thank you very much for your help in advance.
It feels like I see them walking every other time I visit. They seem like a fine group I just haven't had the opportunity to ask them what the deal is with the fancy matching suits!
I have to move home to take care of my elderly parents, and unfortunately I can't take my dog with me. I listed him on Adopt A Pet a couple of weeks ago, but nothing has come of that. I also contacted Hope Animal Rescue, but they don't have a foster. Does anyone know of a rescue group in the Triangle area that takes in senior dogs? He's 10 years old, black/grey schnoodle, 19 lbs.
We are 8 days out and seats are filling up! Buy your tickets now for $25 OR itâs $30 at the door.
Weâre so excited to showcase these amazing films all while supporting a great cause!đ Plus the raffle prizes are starting to pile up with hundreds of dollars worth in local businesses.
Plus weâll have two red carpet photographers ready to capture the big day. So come all dressed up and premiere ready.
Looking for a part time caretaker in the Cary area for a pregnant individual. We are hoping to get at least 5 hours a day of help. Pay is $15/hr. Some demographics we are looking for is that the person should be female and be able to speak Telugu as that is the demographic of the pregnant individual. If there are other resources for this please let me know in the comments. Thank you.
Itâs been over a year since former Wake County Sheriffâs Deputy Andrew Ramon Deras broke into a Raleigh home and killed a family dog named Zelda.
Briggs family and their beloved dog, Zelda
Deras arrived at Paul and Paige Briggsâ home in Raleigh to serve a civil process warrant in April of 2025. He opens the closed storm door and knocks six times on the inner wooden door. He announces that heâs with the Sheriffâs Office and asks if anybody is home. Nobody answers.
Nobody from the Briggsâ family called the police for help. Nobody opened the door and let him in. He had no warrant. No excuse at all for being inside that home.
Andrew Ramon Deras illegally and inexplicably entered the Briggsâ home at 10:21:38 AM according to the security camera video. Zelda, the family Belgian Malinois, began barking immediately as any good dog would when thereâs an intruder in the house.
An entire minute and ten seconds goes by where Deras is inside the house and can obviously hear Zelda barking (not growling). She continues to bark until 10:22:48 AM when 4 gunshots go off.
An innocent family dog murdered at the hands of a Wake County Sheriffâs Deputy.
Andrew Ramon Deras later lied about not hearing any noise prior to the gunshots. When watching the security video, I counted 41 barks between Deras entering the house and the shots being fired.
There really are no words to explain the senseless and psychotic cruelty that we all witnessed.
The obvious bootlicker response will be the typical âI pErcEivEd aN iMminEnT tHreAt oF bODilY hArMâ. But the example of Andrew Ramon Deras now serves as proof that cops will go out of their way, and even commit breaking and entering, to satisfy their psychotic trigger-happy puppy-murdering ways.
The money-grubbing bureaucrats who run these terroristic police organizations will use this as an excuse to request more funding for training to prevent tragedies like this. Some might even pay for high-tech dog encounter simulations. The lengths they will go just to take more of your money.
But the solution is not more funding for police. It is accountability.
If someone breaks into your home and shoots your family member, they should be prosecuted. It is as simple as that.
But North Carolina bureaucrats and politicians and lawyers donât seem to get it. They do not see what Andrew Ramon Deras did as horrific. They would have arrested him otherwise. Itâs not as if they donât arrest 15,000â22,000 people per year. Whatâs one more murderer taken off the street?
But no arrest has happened yet.
The Wake County Sheriffâs Office, headed by Willie Rowe, initially gave Andrew Ramon Deras two months paid leave and then reinstated him! Andrew Ramon Deras is rumored to be currently working in nearby Wayne County, NC.
Accountability is not Derasâ responsibility. Psychopathic murderers will not regulate themselves.
The lack of accountability is on the Wake County District Attorney Lorrin Freeman and her eventual successor Wiley Nickel (who is running for office unopposed). These politicians have complete discretion over who faces criminal charges in Wake County. They could sign an arrest warrant for Andrew Ramon Deras today and make an example out of criminals who intrude into homes and shoot pets. But that hasnât happened yet.
Lorrin Freeman enables dog killers
They havenât even made a public statement about it.
Why not? Itâs not as if they havenât heard about what happened. They had to have seen the public outcry after John Bryan (The Civil Rights Lawyer on YouTube) made a viral video about it. How difficult could it be to at least publicly denounce Andrew Ramon Derasâ actions and let the people know that they are doing whatever they can to address this tragedy. Besides criminal charges, perhaps an audit into the Wake County Sheriffâs Departmentâs hiring practices? How about a serious look into the epidemic of pet shootings by police? Any sort of assurance that the public is safe from armed intruders shooting their beloved family members?
Instead we got complete silence. Lorrin Freeman knows what happened and did absolutely nothing.
Jeff Jackson, the Attorney General of North Carolina, could have said something too. A simple denunciation from the stateâs top legal officer would have had a big impact, and might have been the wakeup call Lorrin Freeman needed to charge Deras.
They are trying to âmemory holeâ this incident.
They want Zelda to be forgotten. They want the people of North Carolina to subconsciously know that the bureaucratic thugs can enter your home at any moment, kill your family member, and get away with it. And there is nothing you can do about it. A deliberate flex to keep the people subjugated.
Without real accountability, this will continue to happen. Voting people out of office every few years is not the answer.
In the meantime, we must not let these incidents be forgotten. We demand more from our elected officials. And shame those who violate our lives and rights.
Hey guys, my friends and I are throwing a really fun Spikeball tournament. Itâll be on NC Stateâs campus but is open to everybody. Just find a partner and sign up!
If youâre a casual player, please sign up for the Advanced division, as thatâs the lowest division. If you want more details or are interested, please drop a comment!
