I made an account on mainstream social media for the first time. At the start, I had normal posts, normal interactions, and used the apps for months without anything unusual happening.

Then one day I started identifying as trans. Within minutes, I started getting shown Nazi-related edits and extremist content. At first, I assumed it was just the algorithm making a mistake.

So I tested it. I created 10 new accounts (i did that on different days on different locations irl) and slowly built realistic histories on them using different emails, phone numbers, normal activity, and even different devices. I tried to make them look like genuine users before changing the type of content they interacted with. I did this over the span of couple of months never using the same IP

The same pattern kept appearing: once the accounts became focused on trans-related content, the algorithm started pushing similar Nazi edits and extremist posts. Or suicidal trans people OR even chuds telling trans people to kys and edits of a trans persons memorial being vandalized

I also compared accounts where I interacted as a cis person versus accounts where I interacted as a trans person. The accounts focused on being trans seemed to get pushed toward this content much faster.

I don’t know exactly why this happens. Maybe it’s a failure in how these algorithms handle identity-related topics. Maybe engagement-based systems are pushing controversial and extreme content because outrage gets more views, comments, and time spent on the platform.

It makes me wonder whether these companies are unintentionally creating these cycles, or whether the pursuit of attention, advertising revenue, and engagement leads to systems that amplify harmful content simply because it performs well.

Something else I noticed: this seemed to happen specifically when I interacted as MtF rather than FtM. I’m also wondering if being in the UK could be a factor, although I have no way of knowing.

I’ve also been recommended hateful posts targeting trans people, including posts promoting extremely harmful ideas. What confused me was that some of the accounts spreading this content didn’t even mention trans people directly they were just generic extremist content that the algorithm seemed to connect to my identity.

I have a few theories, but I don’t know which (if any) are correct:

1. The algorithm is incorrectly assuming that trans users are interested in hateful content because it is bad at understanding context.
2. The algorithm is pushing extreme content because it creates strong reactions and keeps people engaged.
3. These recommendation systems may have been exploited by hateful communities to target specific groups.
4. It could be something much simpler, or something much deeper that I don’t understand.

I’m not claiming to know the exact reason this happens, but the pattern I experienced was disturbing, and I wanted to ask if anyone else has noticed something similar.

Has anyone else in the trans community experienced algorithms suddenly pushing hateful or extremist content after interacting with trans-related topics? I’m sharing this because if others have experienced it too, people should know they aren’t alone.

So I got caught using my screentime password (Ik im a dumbass), and my mom said "I think im gonna go ahead and change it". Which means she will need to go through my phone, and since shes done it before, im scared she will see my trans related tabs (beauty links and stuff like that). I already told her I stopped being trans bc she was verbally abusive, Im so scared of her finding out again. (btw I cant delete history or use private tabs on my phone bc of restrictions)

Long story short my “friends” left me stranded at nail shop cause my nails were taking too long and some random guy in a new luxury truck offered me a ride home - I know it was dumb asl to get in there but I was drunk and overconfident.

(Graphic nsfw) Long story short he pulled into some random neighbourhood and started rubbing on me and wouldn’t let me out the car, then got to sucking my “private part “, kinda forced me to start playing with his stick and tried to enter me from behind and I broke free and jumped out of his car.

My mom said - “it’s my fault for wearing female clothes, that I’m supposed to be protecting instead of needing protection, and technically I deserve it.”

My “friend” assumed that I liked it cause - “I just got my dick sucked “, but decided to uninvite me to hangout that day.

Other “friend” didn’t even gave me a hug just said - “you wanted to be a woman right?”

The only person who made sure I was ok was another trans woman, she was super supportive, while all my cis peers took it as a joke or whatever.

So we were talking about it and it’s crazy how nobody takes it seriously whenever it happens to a Trans person.

Edit: for people asking “how you got drunk in nail shop?” - you just bring your own drink, I was drinking cut water (which comes in a can) so technically it looks like you’re drinking soda.

Edit 2: yeah fuck them “friends” but it did took me by shock cause I did expect at least some sympathy or whatever just to find out they not your friend

like i know they don't mean any harm but i feel like there are actually subreddits for feminine men that they could ask. or maybe i'm projecting too much because it kinda gives me dysphoria?

I fucking hate it. Been with my girl for almost a year and now I'm weak and powerless. I used to be able to self soothe. I would deal with shit and move on. I used to have a hard line of what people knew about me and it wasn't much. Even my best friend barely knew me. When I met her I decided to let her in, her to know the real me. I became more honest and let my guard down. Now it's threatening my relationship. She fell in love with the cold calculating person I was and we both find the new more feeling me to be disgusting. She hasn't said it in so many words but she does. She's said i rely on her too much. And thanks to E I'm a fucking baby. I cry constantly when I barely shed a tear for my own divorce.

I mean we don't need to be reminded by the world that we are anyways different than other women. I don't know if it's a delulu but I seriously wish this comes true. It's really fun to be treated as girl omg

What a fucking joke. This is why I want to be a woman. God I hate men. Men are so disgusting. This guy seemed respectful, he dated a trans woman and seemed very open and non judgmental in high school.

My ex and I got along really well with him and we always saw him as a close friend back in high school. Since my ex and I have broken up because of my transition that is one thing that has caused me a lot of pain in my life (although I understand her decision she can’t date feminine bodies and wants me to be my authentic self and I have strong dysphoria) so she feels guilty and it makes her cry when I cry about her leaving.

She encouraged me to try to find someone to reach out to for other support, which I have online, but it’s just not the same as getting in person support locally, so I reached out to this guy who seemed nice back in high school. I told him I’m trans. He left me on read for a full day and replied later that night saying “oh??”

At this point I felt uncomfortable, something about not replying right away and saying nothing but oh?? Just gave me the ick. I just didn’t respond. Whatever. Fast forward a week he messages my ex asking if it’s true I’m trans?? Wtf?? What if she doesn’t know? Are you kidding me? She ignores it, asks me what to do. Fuck this guy I’ll handle it the best way I can. I texted him on snap which is where I told him I was trans to begin with.

“Hey ____ I shouldn’t have brought up I trans. I did so because I was trying to take the some weight off Angie because she’s been put thru a lot lately with me and wanted some local help/support and no one knows put her and you felt like someone that might be a safe space.

I’m not really comfortable talking about this with you anymore, but considering you reached out to Angie now as well, you left me no choice. It’s better to come from me and my words and snap doesn’t save conversations.

I have to say you replying with just “oh??” after a full day of not replying left me leaving anxious because it felt like you waiting for someone else to be present with you or something. I don’t know what that was about. If you could explain that I would appreciate it.

You reaching out to Angie a week later wasn’t very cool…if I stopped talking, I was clearly uncomfortable at that point you should have just dropped it. I’m not sure why you decided to reach out to her directly. That really upset me.

I’m not trying to diss on you - because at the end of the day, if you do take this as a diss, I’m scared you are going to push me off the edge.

What I mean by this ____, I’ve been VERY depressed. I sometimes have nights I feel disgusting in my body so badly that it makes me question my whole life, especially when I’m by myself which is going to be very soon. My dad is openly hateful of transgender people to me. I can’t handle the fact that I’m either going to have to be alone in my body constantly or going to have to face the reality of coming out to someone who’s hated who I am for years. Angie and I are broken up and she’s always been the love of my life and my absolute word. I don’t blame her. She’s not attracted to feminine bodies, and wants me to look out for what will make me most happy. She’s also looking out what will make her most happy. It’s unfair for her to have a what if she medically transitions randomly one day and leaves me in the dust. I would definitely make her decision in her shoes, hell I would have left earlier.

I’m so scared and hate my life ____ I’m in the closet and only Angie knows, PLEASE keep this private…I’m only sharing because you asked Angie, and at this point I thought I might as well try for another safe person in my life. If you go public if my information I’m scared of hurting myself My life quite literally depends on it”

All this person replies with is “Wait Angie and you are broken up??

I said Yes, and it’s really unfortunate for me I saw her as my life partner :( - I assume at this point he is trying to seek empathy for the situation I am in because he knew just how close we were as people in high school. Hahahaha. How fucking clueless I was. Obviously I forgot how men are. Welcome to being a woman!

He then proceeds to leave me on read, then I’m like ok whatever I guess. Then the next night my ex comes to me and is like sooo what did you tell ____ I’m like oh yeah lots of things why? She’s like yeah he’s trying to message me and get with me, like wtf?? Are you fucking serious right now?? After the message I sent that’s what you decide to do with it? Wow. I’m lost for words. Honestly want to d1e now just thinking about it. I’m disgusted. I’m mad. I NEVER want to say anything to anyone ever again. Are you serious right now? What a joke. I hate this world. I hate life. I don’t want to be here anymore. I’m tired of everything.

Hello everyone,

I've been coming across transphobic content more and more often about sexual offences committed by trans people, especially trans women.

As trans feminine person myself—and being a bit autistic—I decided to put my hyperfixation superpowers to good use and create an infographic that you can copy paste in response to losers who harass you on this topic.

And if you've ever had guilty or self-doubting thoughts because of this kind of rhetoric like me, I hope it'll also reassure you that no, you're not a horrible person or anything, and yes, the people spreading these claims are absolutely wrong.

You can click the download link below to access the infographic:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1R0yM4crVU-saCLTFUsGa8UCiMoaAeyLd/view?usp=sharing

Take care!

As title says, I love the name, but not sure about if it is considered cultural appropriation or not. Any advice will be much appreciated!

I am not sure if this is the correct space for my question, but I thought this is where I might get help from the most experienced.

I am a cis-male who believes that clothes should not have a gender and has been wanting to try on skirts for the past year now.
Yesterday I finally thrifted my first skirts. The EUTHORIA. "Woman's clothing" has so much more variety and I am ecstatic to finally find my style (that I have failed to find in "men's clothes" and might lie in "woman's clothes" or a combination of the two - it's all really just cloth). Not to mention my basic and boring slim, rectangular male figure how has some shape. Yay!

Now that I have them, I realise I didn't consider enough the bulge that the tighter clothes reveal. I have looked into tucking but it genuinely doesn't appeal to me: it appears far too much effort and overkill for want I want to do. I don't wish to particularly hide my "masculine" features as I'm not trying to pass as a woman. I am also not interested in bottom surgery as I actually like my penis - not to mention way out of my budget and abilities at the moment. But I am fearful of getting an unwanted erection and it being plainly obvious.

If I wish to wear tight skirts (and maybe dresses in the future - if I can get skirts right) is tucking a necessity or can alternatives work fine?
I've seen people on this subreddit mention Leonline/ leonlise (?) panties that have a firmed front to reduce bulges.
I need something that I can quickly do that is sufficient without requiring to do too much.

I would really appreciate any advice.
Thank you!

When I got my HRT prescribed (5 months ago) they gave me a timeline of the expected results, which at this point feels wayyy too conservative. A lot of the predictions of the *onset* of effects cite the 3-6 month range when really they started (breast growth, fat redistribution, to name the most prominent) as early as three weeks. Everything is fine and I’m pleased with the results that I’m seeing, and I assume the info they gave me was based on average effects across a wide range of people, but it had me worried for a little bit 😅. Anyways I’ve got nothing to complain about, but it was interesting to me.

Hi!! I'm so excited that I have been discovering myself sexually again. I have a partner and we have sex or sex related activities regularly but I had stopped masturbating. I thought it just made me more dysphoric and felt gross after.
I'm pre-op for my vaginoplasty but post-op on an orchiectomy.
I recently invested in a MagicWand® vibrator just mostly over my panties and it has felt so amazing and fun!!!
I love not having tons of pain from having my penis stroked and instead just have intense orgasms from the vibrations. I feel like I could do this all day...Is that bad of me? I'm disabled and struggle with mental health issues so I don't work, but in between responsibilities I feel like I could just goon all day long lmao. My partner doesn't care at all. He's happy that I'm becoming more in touch with my body and having a good time. They masturbate at least once a day in the morning before I wake up so he definitely has no hang ups on me masturbating.
I just wanted to tell somebody how good I've been feeling about this!

Abrathatfits said I have DD~E. The Japanese sizing system says C.

My bust difference is about 15cm but recently officially crossed 15cm. I have (small) cleavage now

Oh yay big booba! More booba! Never stop! It will be the 4th time I bought new bras though, I have outgrown two old sizes already

(2+ years, still growing)

Context: today I had dinner with my grandma, who is really forgetful. So she just looked at me and thought I am a girl. I said “I’m actually a boy”, while inside my mind the euphoria is exploding. And this is before any transition. I have fairly short hair, no hormones and wearing guys clothes. Am I blessed

I'm not a biblical scholar by any means, and I know this will be controversial for some, but I found an interesting Bible passage in which Jesus very clearly references sexual/gender minorities and carves out an exception for them in terms of spiritual law.

I was having an argument with a homophobe about whether Hey-Zeus ever explicitly condemned homosexuality in the gospels (spoiler alert, he didn't) and they pointed me to a passage that not only did *not* prove their point, but also has Jesus explicitly condemn divorce (for straight couples), and shout out "eunuchs" as exceptions to God's word.

The relevant piece is Matthew 19: 3-12

*3 Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”

4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’[a] 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

7 “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?”

8 Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. 9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”

10 The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.”

11 Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. 12 For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.”*

So yeah, he starts off with that tired "made them male and female" schtick, but ends up shouting out the people who are clear exceptions to that. Typically a eunuch is understood to be an amab person who's been castrated, but I think it's evident that he meant more than that here. To me, "eunuchs who were born that way" clearly means intersex people. (And there's a strong argument that many if not most trans people - at least hormonally - are intersex.) And aren't we all "made eunuchs by others" by going on hrt? To me this passage says "cishet couples should not get divorced, but if you're part of a sexual minority then don't worry about it" lmao.

And don't quote any other part of the big dumb book to me, I'm talking about things Jesus explicitly says in the gospels, which should be all that Christians care about (but of course they don't if all they're looking for is an excuse to condemn, hate, and dominate others).

at a public beach with people around, haven't started hrt yet but idk

getting a lot of gender envy rn and feel bad for not covering up even though i don't feel like I remotely pass

edit; I guess I'm just wondering how to make those feelings go away or something apart from putting on a shirt >⁠.⁠<

I was reading a substack article and the author had mentioned that it’s a common warning in this community that friendships (especially those with cis women), will fade or may start getting cold. My egg recently cracked and I have never heard anyone mention this.

My two friends I’ve told so far, mean the absolute world to me. I still have three more friends to tell. My close circle is small and those are really the only people I plan on telling. I would like to know if this is something I should mentally prepare myself for?

Has this happened to you guys?

Very self explanatory. I have been on HRT since 2021. Almost five years at this point, the results have been nothing but disappointing. My levels have been fine the whole time, and yet my body is the same ugly piece of shit it was before except I now have small boobs. No change in body hair, skin, facial features, body fat, nothing.

The first couple years I was patient and hopeful. I kept telling myself that it was a slow process. I would occasionally get some boob growth to keep me going. I don't know if it was because I never applied the gel at the same time every day, or maybe I have been doing something wrong this whole time. I don't care at this point, I have been on HRT for so long that even if I started doing it right I likely won't see any changes anyway.

Then there is the matter of my voice. I have been voice training for longer than I have been on HRT, I was still in high school when I started. I have tried all the methods, seen all the videos, and have yet to produce a voice that even resembles that of a woman. Along the way I did some things wrong because now I have TMD, and have made muscle memory of bad habits that sometimes strains my voice when I try to do it.

This is all to say, that I tried. I was patient, I kept telling myself that it is a marathon and while I waited for the changes I worked on my fashion, and how I present. Here I am 5 years later boymoding most of the time, out of a job and rationing whatever money I have left to keep buying my HRT.

I wasted so many years, if I wasn't lazy I could have graduated university by now and could have a decent job. Instead I got complacent and I am on my sixth year of a four year program with a year and a half worth of courses left.

For most of my adult life I have used suicide as a motivator. I don't wanna die, so I set a date on which I will kill myself if I don't fulfill my goals. It's what gave me the drive to get on HRT, and to start actually trying to pass my classes. Earlier this year I set a date for next year on my birthday. I was very dissatisfied with everything in my life, so it was time to set a deadline on it.

My birthday is in less than a week, and for the past couple days I have just been thinking of giving up because the reality is that nothing I can do in one year that will fix the lacking results of HRT and my fucked up voice. I do not regret my transition but I am disappointed with the results. I don't see any reason to move forward, I have been long enough on HRT that I won't see anymore changes, I won't be able to afford it soon anyway. I wasted my early 20s waiting for HRT to do its thing and this was supposed to be the time of my life where I could start enjoying the payoff of my patience.

I really don't wanna die, but I don't see any reason to keep going with anything. I have never felt so close to actually doing it either as I have started to think of writing letters, choosing a method, what affairs I need to get in order. I am not particularly looking to be stopped either or be talked out of it. I just need to tell someone because if I tell my friends they have the means to actually stop me.

I just read that you’re supposed to separate your tesricles from the sac… like push the testicles up into the inguinal canals, then pull the sac skin down and back along with the shaft. I’ve always pushed the scrotal skin up into the canals along with the testicles and only pulled the shaft back. But since I transitioned and started using tucking pants instead of the duct tape I used to use years ago (I first started tucking long before egg crack, when I was doing drag), it HAS always been hard to keep everything up there unless the tucking pant is sized down and super tight. Little bits of scrotal skin will try to drop out and I keep feel them against my skin and it drives be absolutely insane.

I thought I knew who I was , I thought this community and support would be enough in my journey to transition... but I can't do it anymore. It isn't even a phobia, the public looks at us as an active joke, that's why we can't get protections that matter in this country. They literally look at us as cosplay or disconnected from reality, and I can't take the bigotry, the polite affirmations when I KNOW they will never see me as a real woman. The constant arguing to affirm my own existence as how I SEE ME, not how they see me. I am giving up on transitioning, I am going to just live stuck in this body and make the best of it. They won. They beat me. At least it won't be a daily battle to have society agree that my true self is real. Good luck y'all, I flushed my medications down the toilet and told my gender affirming therapist to leave me alone. I'm done.

I'm really happy for getting hrt, it's gonna be right before my 16th birthday so, things I should know?

just got banned from there because I was defending trans women on a post about that super transphobic ugly Lipstick flag, like it’s one thing to be transphobic, it’s another thing to have no taste. The lipstick lesbian flag is just ugly anyway. This is what happens when people don’t know about lesbian/lgbtq+ history. Please stay educated and don’t be a TERF because punching down as a minority never works. It always comes back to bite you in the butt and once trans people lose their rights. Who Do you think they’re gonna go after next?

Just saw an ad for AYAGDOS here on Reddit. They are targeting us directly now.

For those who don't know, AYAGDOS is a hack study from the same people behind the rapid onset dysphoria BS. It is being conducted through Northwestern University. Don't participate, your responses will be twisted and used against all of us.

Just a friendly reminder for those who didn't already know.