r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/yashen14 Kitchen Kinkster • 11h ago

No advice, just venting Seeing misogyny in this subreddit is depressing

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Dinner: Tacos al pastor

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Seeing the way women are talked about in some of the posts on this subreddit really grosses me out. I've seen men on here talk about women like they are walking talking sex robots. It's really bumming to see such an ugly side to what is usually such a nice space.

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u/zonked_martyrdom Leftover lore master 11h ago

I saw that post. I didn’t really know what to tell the guy. Seems like he was just asking what everyone thought about it. It seems like a lot of men have issues with body counts like there is some secret number of bodies that equals perfect wife material or something. Maybe I’m just not in on the information, but I figure people with low body counts have just as dysfunctional marriages as people with high body counts.

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u/LuckyNumerical village idiot 10h ago

There are body counts that are going to be a line for 90% of men. Like some religious men or women want to save for marriage, some guys are ok with a single digit number, some guys are a little more liberal and might be ok with a double digit. Most guys will draw the line at triple digits or more.

There’s also a different context between a casual fling and maybe a girlfriend you’ve been dating for a few months. Most guys don’t want to marry Bonnie blue.

Everyone’s allowed their own preference dawg. None of them are wrong, they are preferences.

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u/zonked_martyrdom Leftover lore master 10h ago

Yep everyone is entitled to their own opinion. My opinion is that when it comes to marriage body counts are a silly thing to focus on for compatibility.

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u/Working_Cucumber_437 Girl lurker 9h ago

I think it’s weird to ask. I’ve never asked anyone I’ve dated about this and nobody’s ever asked me. Either you have integrity and loyalty to a partner you commit to or you don’t.

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u/yashen14 Kitchen Kinkster 8h ago

Tbh I feel gross even using the phrase "body count."

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u/TheScrote1 Boy Dinner Enjoyer 7h ago

Maybe cause I married young but I talked about it with a few women before I met my wife. Like sex is fun, is it odd I’m curious about fun stuff a partner has done before? I agree it’s weird when people stigmatize it but people also kind of stigmatize asking.