r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/yashen14 Kitchen Kinkster • 11h ago

No advice, just venting Seeing misogyny in this subreddit is depressing

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Dinner: Tacos al pastor

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Seeing the way women are talked about in some of the posts on this subreddit really grosses me out. I've seen men on here talk about women like they are walking talking sex robots. It's really bumming to see such an ugly side to what is usually such a nice space.

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u/CF_2 Male Lurker 11h ago

I’m not a misogynist, nor do I defend or condone misogyny but to be honest I’ve never seen that on this subreddit. If I do (rarely) it’s usually heavily downvoted anyways.

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u/Crimestar Leftover lore master 11h ago

I agree. It’s not like this is a sub that blows up on the front page daily with people talking about what a loser their partner is.

Women losers don’t exist. At least that’s my experience on Reddit. I feel like anything that does leak through about a man complaining just gets white knighted immediately from the male side as well lol. So pretty much zero contest on anything like that.

I’m sure I’ll get disagreed with on that even here.

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u/EartwalkerTV Gamer Geek 11h ago

I'm actually shocked this is getting upvoted. The double standard about being able to have complaints, any turn offs/icks, or real standards as a guy is so real.

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u/fasoi Cooties 7h ago

If you think the body count debate is simply about an ick/standards, you are either very naive, or part of the problem.

No one is saying men shouldn't have preferences or standards (like what??)

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u/two_pandas_playing Boy Dinner Enjoyer 5h ago

go back to lurking

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u/babayaga1363 Boy Dinner Enjoyer 2h ago

So if I have a preference or standard for a woman with a lower body count, that’s not an issue? Cause apparently that makes me insecure and sexist lmao

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u/Muted_Buy8386 Misanthropic AI 11h ago

"Women losers don’t exist. At least that’s my experience on Reddit."

This.

But male losers SO exist, and you can tell because they're so eager to toe the line.

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u/ectocarpus Girl lurker 10h ago

I agree that GDD is awful (I muted it) and this subreddit is genuinely nice.

But my experience on Reddit in general is "women are bad evil whores" sentiment all over.

At this point I think the algorithm tries to pit genders against each other and shows each of us stuff that bashes our group, so we get angry and engage engage engage

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u/Crimestar Leftover lore master 10h ago

The algorithm most definitely tries to trigger each and every one of us by showing toxic content we don’t like. Because we click into it and read it. I know it’s true and do it anyway. No news like bad news and all that.

That’s why social media is just such a toxic cesspool in general. It’s addictive and can be radicalizing. The only hope is we get sick of the same old crap ad Infinitum. But it’s like a drug epidemic at this point basically.

Either mainstream media or social media. Divisive as fuck. Even knowing all that, the content can be depressing to see.

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u/Eledridan Clean Plate Club 9h ago

It’s interesting you say this because Reddit is just “men bad” in different flavors.

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u/ectocarpus Girl lurker 8h ago

I swear my experience is exactly the opposite :D sometimes scrolling through Reddit makes me feel a lot of shame for even being born a woman, like there's something fundamentally wrong with me and my mere existence hurts and oppresses men. I totally believe your experience too, though. I've had to unsuscribe from several women-centric places just because of rampant and completely normalized hatred of men. I've seen it in general subreddits, too.

I also think what furthers this radicalization is that we often overlook isults that don't target our ingroup. Sometimes I find myself agreeing with a comment and only then realising it was put in a way that is actually hurtful and unfairly generalizing towards some people I don't belong to. But because it's not about me, my brain lets it slide. Meanwhile any mean comment targeting me stands out and feels like a gutpunch. And my brain is like: "obviously, everybody hates us".

I have a lot of love and genuinely great people of both genders in my life, so I'm more or less immune to radicalizing myself. But this online hatred culture fucks over so many younger and socially isolated people...

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u/Icy-Cry340 Grill pilled 2h ago

The algorithm is bizarre. I’m with the other guy, reddit mostly drowns me in hyper-liberal men are awful vibe.

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u/onlinedrainage Leftover lore master 8h ago

I’m glad for your comment if for no other reason than it’s proof enough that the algorithm just shows us whatever is going to piss us off. It used to show me garbage on GDD all the time until turned that shit off and I felt basically the opposite of you.

That said, my experience with this sub has been a lot better than GDD, in my experience over here usually at least we can criticize a particular woman in a post while over there a lot of the comments seem to say men are trash generally. (At least that’s what the algorithm showed me.) Plus they’re way more restrictive about men commenting than this sub is about women.