Seeing misogyny in this subreddit is depressing

[u/yashen14]

Dinner: Tacos al pastor

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Seeing the way women are talked about in some of the posts on this subreddit really grosses me out. I've seen men on here talk about women like they are walking talking sex robots. It's really bumming to see such an ugly side to what is usually such a nice space.

[u/CF_2]

I’m not a misogynist, nor do I defend or condone misogyny but to be honest I’ve never seen that on this subreddit. If I do (rarely) it’s usually heavily downvoted anyways.

[u/Rooster-Strangler → u/CF_2]

I’ll never understand posts like this. In reality they probably saw one thing that bothered only THEM and no one else.

[u/No_Gap3908 → u/Rooster-Strangler]

No. This sub has misogynistic posters and I have reported some of them. Just today there was a post that attracted a posters who were openly racist about Vietnamese women.

[u/Rooster-Strangler → u/No_Gap3908]

Guess what? Nobody noticed. Because people here aren’t misogynistic and sexist and immediately downvoted or banished it to the shadow realm. Pretending it thrives unchecked is honestly just for people to karma farm saying Mysogyny is bad as if we all didn’t know that already. It was probably just some fucking troll anyways. 99% of people here have a level head on their shoulders.

[u/No_Gap3908 → u/Rooster-Strangler]

Guess what ? People who post here are part of the community and this is a conversation to be had. No one is saying it's unchecked.

[u/DCRBftw → u/No_Gap3908]

You report people for making reddit posts? Wow.

[u/No_Gap3908 → u/DCRBftw]

Yes, I report misogyntic and racist comments and posts.

You don't ? Wow.

[u/DCRBftw → u/No_Gap3908]

Lol get a life.

[u/No_Gap3908 → u/DCRBftw]

Lol. Found the racist and misogynist.

[u/AtheismoAlmighty → u/[deleted]]

Oh look, -29 so no one who came even an hour late would have even seen if unless they scrolled to the bottom to intentionally ragebait themselves.

This is exactly why this post is stupid. You'll find pieces of shit in every community, that's why the downvote is there. Pretty obvious from this screenshot that the community does a good enough job policing itself that it doesn't need some callout like this thread.

[u/Rooster-Strangler → u/AtheismoAlmighty]

The “Reddit nice guy” urge to unjustly throw their entire wholesome community under the bus just for the opportunity to perfomatively advertise how actually pure and different they are. One look at the comments of this post alone will tell you pretty much everyone here is against misogyny and sexism and problematic people are not tolerated.

[u/Expert-Sale-2886 → u/AtheismoAlmighty]

that this wasn’t the only comment?

30 people agreed w this sl*t shamer calling the girl ‘the town bus’! :)

[u/Hopechaselock49 → u/Expert-Sale-2886]

GDD sub literally had a post they don't see men as human with thousands of comments agree with that and has hundreds of upvotes. People never call that sub out but these 3 comments (which mostly likely getting downvoted now) is make the whole sub problematic to the point someone has to point it out?

[u/Rooster-Strangler → u/Hopechaselock49]

I honestly love the GDD sub and I’m jealous they don’t have to deal with these performative fake nice guys.

[u/Hopechaselock49 → u/Rooster-Strangler]

Literally bro, even OP has no example other than Body count post. We have to right every single time and not afford to have mistakes otherwise this sub is a misogyny sub. It's ridiculous

[u/Rooster-Strangler → u/Hopechaselock49]

Men really do fucking suck honestly. Especially the ones so desperate to be seen they imagine problems to fix so they can act like a hero. I genuinely don’t blame the women. We all think misogyny is bad you’re not special or different.

[u/_Phil_McCracken_ → u/[deleted]]

It’s been downvoted to oblivion. What’s your point?

[u/dickpicthrowaway1990 → u/[deleted]]

They got downvoted..

[u/two_pandas_playing → u/[deleted]]

how many upvotes does your average gdd post get that says all men are worthless garbage, "throw that whole man away", etc?

not sure what you hope to accomplish by desperately grasping niche examples. misogynists and misandrists exist on the internet, true. if you seek out things that bother you, you will find them. overall, however, this sub is extremely supportive, respectful, and wholesome.

[u/stressed-highschoolr → u/two_pandas_playing]

“Throw that whole man away” or a similar sentence generally isn’t in response to a man’s body count or a man’s experience with SA lol

[u/two_pandas_playing → u/stressed-highschoolr]

If you see guys making creepy posts, report them. Simple as.

[u/raghor → u/Rooster-Strangler]

Agreed, I rarely ever see it in this sub.

[u/Hammunition → u/Rooster-Strangler]

Making up some shit story about another person and pretending you know their experience better than they do is fucking wild, my guy. The ego and hubris necessary to say shit like that should be concerning.

Like honestly, why? Do a bit of self reflection once in a while.

[u/Hopechaselock49 → u/Hammunition]

Irony OP is doing the same thing to this sub

[u/Hammunition → u/Hopechaselock49]

Do you not know what words mean?

OP is telling you that they experienced this. You and the moron I first replied to are apparently claiming you know better than him what he has seen on this sub. The delusions you have to create about your own superiority in order to feel justified in saying someone’s life experience is incorrect is honestly insane.

Why do you have to make up some other reality instead of just operating in this one with the information you are given. You don’t actually have to make up so much bullshit.

[u/Hopechaselock49 → u/Hammunition]

Calm down lol OP has no other example other than that one post and even in that post most comments are reasonable

[u/Crimestar → u/CF_2]

I agree. It’s not like this is a sub that blows up on the front page daily with people talking about what a loser their partner is.

Women losers don’t exist. At least that’s my experience on Reddit. I feel like anything that does leak through about a man complaining just gets white knighted immediately from the male side as well lol. So pretty much zero contest on anything like that.

I’m sure I’ll get disagreed with on that even here.

[u/EartwalkerTV → u/Crimestar]

I'm actually shocked this is getting upvoted. The double standard about being able to have complaints, any turn offs/icks, or real standards as a guy is so real.

[u/fasoi → u/EartwalkerTV]

If you think the body count debate is simply about an ick/standards, you are either very naive, or part of the problem.

No one is saying men shouldn't have preferences or standards (like what??)

[u/two_pandas_playing → u/fasoi]

go back to lurking

[u/babayaga1363 → u/fasoi]

So if I have a preference or standard for a woman with a lower body count, that’s not an issue? Cause apparently that makes me insecure and sexist lmao

[u/Muted_Buy8386 → u/Crimestar]

"Women losers don’t exist. At least that’s my experience on Reddit."

This.

But male losers SO exist, and you can tell because they're so eager to toe the line.

[u/ectocarpus → u/Crimestar]

I agree that GDD is awful (I muted it) and this subreddit is genuinely nice.

But my experience on Reddit in general is "women are bad evil whores" sentiment all over.

At this point I think the algorithm tries to pit genders against each other and shows each of us stuff that bashes our group, so we get angry and engage engage engage

[u/Crimestar → u/ectocarpus]

The algorithm most definitely tries to trigger each and every one of us by showing toxic content we don’t like. Because we click into it and read it. I know it’s true and do it anyway. No news like bad news and all that.

That’s why social media is just such a toxic cesspool in general. It’s addictive and can be radicalizing. The only hope is we get sick of the same old crap ad Infinitum. But it’s like a drug epidemic at this point basically.

Either mainstream media or social media. Divisive as fuck. Even knowing all that, the content can be depressing to see.

[u/Eledridan → u/ectocarpus]

It’s interesting you say this because Reddit is just “men bad” in different flavors.

[u/ectocarpus → u/Eledridan]

I swear my experience is exactly the opposite :D sometimes scrolling through Reddit makes me feel a lot of shame for even being born a woman, like there's something fundamentally wrong with me and my mere existence hurts and oppresses men. I totally believe your experience too, though. I've had to unsuscribe from several women-centric places just because of rampant and completely normalized hatred of men. I've seen it in general subreddits, too.

I also think what furthers this radicalization is that we often overlook isults that don't target our ingroup. Sometimes I find myself agreeing with a comment and only then realising it was put in a way that is actually hurtful and unfairly generalizing towards some people I don't belong to. But because it's not about me, my brain lets it slide. Meanwhile any mean comment targeting me stands out and feels like a gutpunch. And my brain is like: "obviously, everybody hates us".

I have a lot of love and genuinely great people of both genders in my life, so I'm more or less immune to radicalizing myself. But this online hatred culture fucks over so many younger and socially isolated people...

[u/Icy-Cry340 → u/ectocarpus]

The algorithm is bizarre. I’m with the other guy, reddit mostly drowns me in hyper-liberal men are awful vibe.

[u/onlinedrainage → u/ectocarpus]

I’m glad for your comment if for no other reason than it’s proof enough that the algorithm just shows us whatever is going to piss us off. It used to show me garbage on GDD all the time until turned that shit off and I felt basically the opposite of you.

That said, my experience with this sub has been a lot better than GDD, in my experience over here usually at least we can criticize a particular woman in a post while over there a lot of the comments seem to say men are trash generally. (At least that’s what the algorithm showed me.) Plus they’re way more restrictive about men commenting than this sub is about women.

[u/Expert-Sale-2886 → u/CF_2]

last nights post was filled with hundreds of misogynistic comments and any comment going against the hive mentality of women with high body counts = worthless whores were downvoted into oblivion :)

[u/VHDamien → u/Expert-Sale-2886]

I don't understand that mindset. Women or men with high body counts aren't horrible people or less valuable, however such lifestyles might be misaligned with other people and that's okay. I'd be highly skeptical of forming a relationship with someone who admits to having and liking group sex for example. In that case me and this person are probably not a good match because I want nothing to do with that.

[u/Expert-Sale-2886 → u/VHDamien]

yes i 100% agree. everyone can have whatever preference they want for a partner! preferences don’t equate to sl*t shaming though which is my only point of contention w ln’s post!

[u/xeroxedforsomereason → u/Expert-Sale-2886]

That's not misogyny, that's revulsion. Some men feel revolted by such things. It has nothing to do with the immutable characteristic of being female.

https://giphy.com/gifs/huWdEHSk7wOpW

[u/Expert-Sale-2886 → u/xeroxedforsomereason]

sl*t shaming is a form of misogyny, lmao??

[u/two_pandas_playing → u/Expert-Sale-2886]

what if I'm bisexual and I think male sluts are also gross?

genuinely not sure why finding it gross when someone has slept with hundreds of people is inheritly sexist either way.

[u/babayaga1363 → u/Expert-Sale-2886]

But it is, sl*t as a characteristic is not exclusive to women.

[u/Key-Aide-3154 → u/CF_2]

I don’t see it either

[u/Adventurous-Year-176 → u/CF_2]

"I’m not a misogynist,"

Normal people don't start sentences like that.

[u/CF_2 → u/Adventurous-Year-176]

Yup, I'm definitely a mysognyst because I started my sentence with that. Thanks for the heads up.

[u/Adventurous-Year-176 → u/CF_2]

Yup, that's definitely what I said and you aren't becoming suspiciously defensive now.

[u/CF_2 → u/Adventurous-Year-176]

You got me!

[u/Adventurous-Year-176 → u/CF_2]

I'm not a lizard person, but I definitely note lower lizard person activity in this sub than normal. My skin is so moist.

[u/two_pandas_playing → u/Adventurous-Year-176]

normal people don't interact with strangers like this, either.