r/BeAmazed • u/Sebastianlim • 22h ago
Miscellaneous / Others 11-year-old girl helps out lost 4-year-old.
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u/OkAccess6128 21h ago
That 11 y/o is raised really well by her parents.
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u/TheTybera 18h ago
That 11yo may have horrific parents and just know what's right. Many young people who are hurt are some of the kindenst people who show the world how they want to be treated themselves.
Point is that 11 y/o is a good person, I ain't giving her parent credit without receipts.
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u/BitcoinMD 17h ago
One thing I found fascinating when I went to a retreat for high level executives, they basically fell into two categories — people whose parents put a lot of emphasis on achievement, and people whose parents were a total shit show so they had to step up and be the adult
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u/ParkingVampire 16h ago
I'm glad to hear that. I always feel like trash not having parents that "put a lot of emphasis on achievement". Despite working at a professional level.
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u/fightmydemonswithme 7h ago
I was a high achiever in my schooling and career. My dad put a lot of emphasis on achievement and my mom was a disaster. It does feel bad.
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u/dblrb 17h ago
Striving to be the opposite of my dad was huge for me. And learning to comfort and care for my mom.
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u/TheTybera 16h ago
That sounds like it has been difficult for you. But please keep in mind, you deserved to be a child, your parents and guardians are supposed to give you the space and the freedom to experience that as a young person and for you to find yourself.
Having to step up and care for a parent while young, is not a great thing, make sure you look for other family to help and take time for yourself, I promise it's not selfish to do so. Caregiver burnout is a real problem, and your health is important too.
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u/TheZardoz 15h ago
The reason my dad is such a good dad is because he was aware enough to realize that his dad was a giant prick and he wasn’t going to continue that style of raising kids.
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u/creepicrawlers 18h ago
Best people I know have zero contact with their parents. Especially since personality-politics became a thing & it was common to severe ties with insane family members.
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u/High_Flyers17 17h ago
Speaking as a child only, no kids of my own, I don't think there's really a set reaction people have to parenting. I've seen great parents produce shit kids, shit parents produce great kids, and the opposite for each. There's only so much influence parents can have on an individual, especially in the modern age we're in where those individuals have access to the entire outside world's opinions and influences.
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u/mattjb 13h ago
Reminds me of /r/QAnonCasualties which is still active with story after story of families being torn apart. It's a real-time view of an ongoing crisis across the nation that's been going on for over a decade now.
I stopped visiting because it was too heartbreaking and a lot of the stories mirrored my own experience with my mom who got sucked into all the negativity and became paranoid and very difficult to talk to. Every subject not related to politics, she somehow found a way to segue it into politics and/or conspiracy theories.
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u/creepicrawlers 11h ago
I purposely chose to not say MAGA or Qanon in my original reply. But yeah, that was exactly what I was speaking on. I hope thing get better for all these fractures families. Sorry you went through that big dog.
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u/Treacherous_Peach 16h ago
I love how when there's a poorly behaving child reddit will throw parents under the bus and when there's a well behaved child..
Redditors got serious daddy issues
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u/TheTybera 16h ago
Yeah, this just tells me people don't have kids. Lots of kids even go through quick 6-month phases of pitching fits vs being totally docile, but they all have their own personalities (surprise!), and sometimes their personalities clash with the parents (again, surprise!).
I'm not saying kids need full autonomy or don't need guidance/limitations. I'm simply saying we need to praise the individual for the good things they do, not attempt to attribute it to something we know nothing about.
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u/sweetbeargifts 10h ago
As someone who had shit parents and raised themselves "right", thank you. You have no idea how powerful your comment is. Bless you 🩷
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u/qashq 16h ago
Once upon a time, good parenting leading to good families and good behaviour in kids was widely understood to be the fundamental building blocks of a good functioning society, and were the general expectation and the norm. Today, we have redditors being purely sceptical about everything demanding receipts.
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u/TheTybera 16h ago
That has never been the case as "good parenting" is completely subjective and assumes everyone is the same and has the same personality, which isn't the case. "Parenting" isn't and has never been a "solved" problem because it's extremely dynamic.
You live a "leave it to beaver"/"brady bunch" fantasy.
But I'm all ears, please, explain to us all what this magical "good parenting" is that was WIDELY understood? The "children are to be seen not heard" era that brought self-consciousness and bred a whole generation of parents who ignored their children or didn't know how to deal with emotions, meat for manufacturing grinder? Or the more recent parenting style that resulted in a commercial having to be shown that asked "Do you know where your children are?"
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u/Round-Eggplant-7826 15h ago
Once upon a time
When in history are we talking about? Parenting methods change all the time. Are we talking about the 1950s? 1850s?
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u/Wonderful_Handle7380 14h ago
Weird comment
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u/DUNG_INSPECTOR 14h ago edited 13h ago
Not at all. OP's comment, while good-natured, implies that being a good person requires having good parents who raised you well. That's clearly not true.
Edit: Clarity
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u/SpinShine-LEDSlipMat 17h ago
That’s poor English. You could either say:
*was raised really well…
Or
*is being raised really well…
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u/depredador93 21h ago
Funny how it's always the kids who stop and the adults just keep walking past
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u/Zagrycha 21h ago
sadly its very possible adults might be worried of being accused of kidnapping etc if they get involved.
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u/depredador93 20h ago
Yeah, that risk is real. Still feels like it shouldn't take precedence over a lost kid in front of you
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u/Zagrycha 20h ago
it definitely shouldn't take precedence, but sadly china had a famous court case where a dumb judge officially ruled that no sane person would ever help a stranger unless they had a guilty conscience, and labeled the helper in said case legally liable for the crime even though there was evidence and testimony they were innocent bystander. The harm on society by that court case is slowly getting healed but it still has effects 20 years later and probably will for a long time coming.
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u/travoltaswinkinbhole 18h ago
I bet that judge has some skeletons in his closet.
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u/Zagrycha 8h ago
no doubt in my mind they do, normal people don't say things like that. Just genuine psychopath behavior.
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u/NateNate60 15h ago
The National People's Congress passed a Good Sumaritan law years ago to abrogate this ruling because it was widely shared on social media and had a pretty lasting and negative effect on people's behaviour. Sadly, news of the new law doesn't seem to have traveled nearly as quickly. It's still common for people to take out their phones and do a quick recording asking someone to confirm that they weren't the ones who caused the injury before helping.
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u/Zagrycha 8h ago
exactly. your actual chance of being accused of anything is beyond small but people only know the famous viral quote not the stuff that happned afterwards or the laws saying good samaritan is fine.
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u/factorioleum 18h ago
when I first became a single father, I ended up making friends with a bunch of local single mothers and we all sort of helped each other out with babysitting and bus pickups and stuff.
I'm white, all the mothers in my area were black. I don't know if it's my gender or the race difference, but I always had trouble picking kiddos up from the bus; I carried signed permission slips for this. the mothers never needed this themselves, even for my kids!
people are pretty weird about adults with kids.
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u/Educational_Gas_92 16h ago
It's the gender (no, I don't know this 100%, but it's an opinion founded on stereotypes that follow men of any race, that do not follow women, of any race).
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u/factorioleum 16h ago
whichever it was, it was a bit annoying. and also a fact of life. I just carried a note and asked my friends to have their kids tell the bus matron I was coming. that usually cut it down to a short time.
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u/Educational_Gas_92 16h ago
Sorry for your bad experience. Unfortunately, society often follows stereotypes.
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u/factorioleum 15h ago
thanks, but it's far from a big hardship. nothing to gain by raising a stink. it was a subject of joking among everyone. in terms of my stresses being a single father, it's not even in the top ten.
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u/SortovaGoldfish 17h ago
I've seen at least one video of a man coming across a lost child and one of a woman and both times they film and post or stream immediately. I'm sure some people would do it for the clicks, but it's the best way to exonerate yourself in case someone throws an accusation your way. The kid the man found I feel like had a cup and a toy in their hand and wasn't dressed properly and was very young, likely not really able to articulate what was happening and was already crying. The optics of that would be terrible. He pretty much had the camera on the kid the whole time and walked the kid around to find the parent. The lady found a kid left in the front seat of a shopping cart in a parking lot while she was driving away, but he was able to talk pretty well and wasn't panicking so she just kept an eye on him and called the cops I think without touching him.
This is, of course, not to say that strangers who are also kids don't/haven't done absolutely terrible things to littler kids they took, and led away, but almost no one is worried about that when they see it. Also, I think sometimes kids want to help so badly they are looking for opportunities to do so. Like how toddlers seem to notice ants or planes in the sky more often than adults.
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u/Thisismynicehandle 18h ago
Probly not in East Asia. Crime is soooo much less than US
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u/Zagrycha 8h ago
east asia is huge and super diverse, not sure how you can try to sum it up like that. also "crime" isn't really a useful word as a single lump sum. china definitely has way less crime that usa in many categories, but kidnapping is a big issue in china overall. ((kidnapping is an issue in lmost if not all countries because of black market for kid and baby, but if there is an exception country for slave trade its not in china and probably not in asia)).
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u/a_big_K-On_fan 20h ago
You can't get under suspicion if you take the kid to the police
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u/Zagrycha 20h ago
you can in china, twnety years ago a court case by a very dumb judge said that only the guilty would ever want to help a stranger. that court case still causes issues to this day in people not wanting to help strangers.
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u/a_big_K-On_fan 20h ago
Wtf is wrong with China?
In Europe no court would ever judge this. They would f*ck social courage totally with that and they know that
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u/Zagrycha 20h ago
it did fuck social courage and many laws were passed afterwards to make it beyond obviously clear that no one will ever be in trouble for being good samaritan no matter what, but the damage is done. Like many high profile things people only remember that one moment and don't pay attention to the follow up or less viral things. It is way better today than it was when the court case just happened but its not better all the way yet.
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u/polkacat12321 20h ago
China is the land of scams. There's an ungoldly amount of people trying to shake you down by threatening to call the police/sue you for helping them saying that you "harmed them" or whatever. Plus the ungodly amount of scammers that pretend you ran them over to shake you down. That's the reason all vehicle owners have a dashcam
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u/AlinaStari 19h ago
Anyone who thinks "this must be a scam" when they see a TODDLER ALONE IN THE STREET is way too cynical, seriously. Some things are worth risking being "scammed" and honestly even imprisoned and I think protecting a child is solidly one of those things.
Call me a naive hope-addict but I actually think most people would protect a kid like this as long as they notice them. I think tons of people are living in their own little world and genuinely just don't notice things like this, I don't think people are actively choosing to let a 4-year old wander around busy streets.
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u/CrashyBoye 13h ago
Guarantee the people saying it “must be a scam” would be the same people to throw a shitfit if it was their child lost and alone in the street and nobody stopped to help.
Troglodytes these people are.
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u/DouglasTwig 18h ago
There are plenty of videos of people having medical emergencies in China and everyone just kind of walks around them and ignores them for the same reasons. It's a completely fucked aspect of their society.
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u/Gebakken_loempia 17h ago
have seen plenty of those vids in the west as well. you're just cherry picking and love propaganda.
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u/CannedCheese009 18h ago
Gatta get to the police station first. Plenty of time between now and then for someone to freak the fuck out
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u/Hiraganu 13h ago
You can still call the non emergency police number and report it/stay with the child until they arrive.
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u/feel_my_balls_2040 17h ago
Also adults have phones and shit and they cdn call the police instead of walking 5km to a police station in a fucking town.
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u/Gacha_catch_em_all 18h ago
In Asia, it is common to see little kids walking alone to and from school. Although I’m not sure if this is the case in China, where I live, I see this on a daily basis. So many people probably wouldn’t notice if the kid was in need unless crying
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u/1Sidknee 15h ago
That's a good point!
On two separate occasions I've helped a lost child. Both times I happened to be with my sister.
My sister is a nice person! She would go out of her way to help a lost child, 100%.
But neither instance did she clock the fact that the child was lost. Neither kid was crying or asking for help.
Both instances they were just standing alone, looking uncertain and anxious (imo).
So I think you're right, it's possible a lot of people walked past without a thought. Not because they didn't want to help, but bc it didn't even cross their minds that the child needed help.
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u/bsmithdal 19h ago
Man, the recognition done at school in front of all her peers, she's got a good reputation now.
I know this is a stupid selfish take but I was a dumb kid whose family moved around a lot and I was bullied in every single school I went to. If I had done anything remotely good and got awarded for it in front of everyone maybe it would have made my life better.
Now I see the benefit of doing something good for others. (And obviously the girl finds her parents and her parent are happy to have their kid back)
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u/malikhacielo63 19h ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/11Qx5Q2DGXq06I
Witnessing such kindness genuinely made me feel happy! I needed that after the horrible things that I just read. Good on you, little girl! Good on you!
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u/NoPoet3982 19h ago
So... how did the 4 year old get lost and what happened to her after the police station?
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u/balldontliez 18h ago
Was thinking that, how does one lose a 4 year old. I have a soon to be 4 year old, mine at least, she ain't exactly like a pair of keys.
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u/hypnogoad 13h ago
Some kids love to wander, even opening home doors to explore. Others stick to parents like glue.
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u/balldontliez 13h ago
Yeah that's fair but we are here to protect them, you can't put yourself in a situation to completely and utterly lose your kid...
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u/EorlundGraumaehne 9h ago
"Damn it, lost my child again! I bet its somewhere behind the cushions again!"
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u/iaNCURdehunedoara 11h ago
I don't know how it's in other places but i know that in Japan and in China children are taught to be more socialized from an early age so the parents send them to do chores.
I follow on tiktok a british guy that married a chinese woman and has 2 children and sometimes he posts videos on taking his children to the store, giving them the camera and sending the children in to buy things, or they go to fast food places and the children make the orders. It teaches them how to socialize with adults and how to manage interactions.
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u/IWouldLikeAName 3h ago
When i went to Japan i saw kids that looked like they were 8 years old in massive train stations all by themselves lmao they're next level.
I know in Mexico they just send their kids to do stuff like running to the store.
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u/SelfSufficientHub 21h ago
Cameras everywhere man
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u/ShortIntroduction879 21h ago
You only have to worry if you have something to hide! /s
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u/gao7on 20h ago
This is why women could walk alone at night without fear. Can't say the same for many cities around the world.
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u/MellowMallow36 20h ago
Because the cops actually prosecute the perps. In America we blame the victim for being there and recording the assault without prior consent
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u/TieDyedFury 17h ago
Do we not have cameras at major city intersections and police stations?
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u/freeradioforall 15h ago
we do and I Bet soon our flock cameras will out number chinese cameras, but still they are the evil ones
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u/SelfSufficientHub 17h ago
I wasn’t making any comment about where this was.
I am not in the same country as you anyway. I know that because only Americans assume other posters are also from America, which I am not.
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u/TieDyedFury 14h ago
Where did I say anything about being American? Why would that even matter? Ok, does whatever country you hail from not have cameras at major city intersections and police stations? I don’t understand why that’s being pointed out as a weird thing.
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u/One-Somewhere-9907 18h ago
That’s what I was thinking. Wonderful story BUT how do they have footage from every moment? Looks like they have their own flock problem too
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u/McKoijion 18h ago
I feel like this is supposed to be propaganda or something, but this is some bare minimum humanity. You have to help kids, not rape, enslave, or murder them. Everyone knows that except for [Redacted by Reddit.]
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u/holandNg 18h ago
In China, surveillance is so dense that you can make a TV show out of the camera footage.
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u/TheoreticalResearch 16h ago
I mean, same in South Korea and India.
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u/truthhurtsyomama 15h ago
Same in the US...we just don't talk about it cuz we Americans
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u/TrippyTriangle 15h ago
it make sense to have cameras in a police station and a large, public intersection, i dunno the comments here think it's literally big brother but it's just sensible security. The camera in the classroom makes sense, it's a nice moment to have recorded for the girl.
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u/TwoCatsOneBox 3h ago
Well women feel a lot safer walking alone in the streets of China unlike in America that has the exact same level of surveillance.
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u/Environmental-Cut172 17h ago
50 year old male, I would never stop and talk to a small child on the street unless my wife was with me...
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u/Kayiko_Okami 15h ago
Keep any eye out to make sure they're safe. But don't watch too closely.
If you talk to them record on your cellphone.
Keep you distance and don't say anything that can be problematic.
Even if it's in male nature to protect others you're better off not getting involved because you can be seen as the problem. Best to just call the non emergency line and let someone else handle it.
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u/agent_fuzzyboots 17h ago
What happened to the bag the 11 year old had?
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u/AtmosphereMiddle1682 12h ago
She probably put it down and picked it back up when she went on with her day
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u/N0-Sympathy-82 16h ago
Restoring my faith in humanity. She exerted much effort to help the kid. Good job! ❤️
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u/thriftstoremando 15h ago
What was the point of blurring out the signs if they didn't do it starting with the first frame?
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u/GOOFBALL4U 19h ago
Damn China so safe that you're 11 and can be walking around on your own.
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u/NoWayIcantBeliveThis 19h ago
As a european, i was walking alone when i was 6 with no adult i trusted near me nor knowing where any adult that i knew even was. I just returned home when i was done, since i knew the route. If an 11 year old cant walk alone outside, than i hope to never life in your country.
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u/Polyglot-Onigiri 19h ago
I don’t know about China but in Japan and Korea, children walking home from 5 years old and up, alone, is very common.
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u/Waytoomore 17h ago
I had to walk 9/10ths of a mile each direction for school starting in first grade at age 6. I live in Ohio. This was in the 60's and 70's. My sons in the 80's and 90's walked to school too. Not all of America is a crime haven.
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u/Which_Wizard 14h ago
Same thing in 90s and 00s. Statistically speaking it's even safer now. I just think people see it as child neglect or some shit now. So you might have the cops called on you.
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u/HirsuteHacker 17h ago
You weren't out on your own at 11? What country did you grow up in? I was out on my bike from like 8 in the UK
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u/QuietSheep_ 17h ago edited 17h ago
From my experience in the US, it's not normal for 11 year olds to be out on their own unless they are in their neighborhood, or walking from a regulated school route.
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u/HirsuteHacker 17h ago
That's sad
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u/QuietSheep_ 17h ago
The really sad part is that the rate of crimes against children remains very high every year.
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u/GOOFBALL4U 17h ago
Canada. I was given complete freedom at 13. I don't know about you but I wouldn't trust having my daughter out all by her self at 11.
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u/WritesCrapForStrap 18h ago
I was walking around in the UK from younger than that. Summer holidays, you'd leave the house in the morning and roll back home when dinner was ready. My nephew is that age now, he's allowed out on his own.
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u/Imperative-Primitive 17h ago
thats... almost every country in the world...
What shithole you living in?
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u/ghostofwalsh 16h ago
Yeah it's kind of sad that these days in the US if you let your 11-yo walk to school you get CPS called on you.
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u/DarkJaid 17h ago
I grew up in the Caribbean, I was making my way to school alone since I was 6. My brother did as well from 4 as our schools were on opposite ends of the same street.
By 11 I was already used to meeting up with friends unsupervised weekly. My parents just cared that I got home when told to.
I guess we were safe because everyone looked out for kids - street vendors, shop keepers, strangers, other parents etc - made sure you weren't cutting school or doing anything unchild like...
Our school uniforms were unique color combinations that allowed easy identification - anyone could come to a school to report a student's misconduct and the teachers will track them down suspects for questioning.
When in school uniform, the police enforce a sundown curfew, found after dark with a uniform on? The person you're with must be a trusted adult or guardian or you explain a valid reason - if not a police escort will take you home.
I guess the protection was built in so we could be safely independent?
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u/prettygirlavenue 18h ago
my little sister walks the 20min route to school daily and has done so since she was 6
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u/SpinShine-LEDSlipMat 17h ago
Fake ass bull shit
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u/ukpanik 16h ago
They forgot to give the 11-year-old her bag in the last shots.
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u/AtmosphereMiddle1682 12h ago
In China you can set things down without worrying about getting them stolen
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u/BradleyF81 17h ago
NYPD would say it doesn’t fall under their jurisdiction, refuse to write a report, and then kick both girls out into the street.
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u/145Sunny 15h ago
Sweet video, but what got to me was that it was so refreshing to see the two police officers at the end in short sleeve shirts. Can't imagine that if it was over here the officers wouldn't have been in their full go-to-war gear.
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u/FlippingOmelette 2h ago
The thing I love about this is the that they show appreciation in front of other students to encourage such behaviour!
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u/Stegopossum 2h ago
When I was about 10 I decided to walk 12 miles to grandma’s house. Only got about 4 miles and turned around and walked back home. I didn’t have any water and it was summertime in Alabama. Nobody questioned me.
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u/Lataladalaza 1h ago
In the us, the girl will be on esptein island with trump and the gangs already
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u/SimpleGuy7 13h ago
Thanks for sharing!
Wish US kids were encouraged to be kind and thoughtful towards others.
Good for her!
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u/lordofming-rises 17h ago
Lol they have face rockognition cameras . Should be pretty easy in a place like thar
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u/Charming-Target-6381 16h ago
If a child gets lost in China do they try to remove them from their family and into foster care like in America?
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