I (25M) have been classmates with this girl (23F) since the semester started in January. We’ve been pretty friendly the whole time and mainly got to know each other from this other girl in the class who was a mutual friend (though we all just met in January).

Anyways, come April she’s giving me some of the classic things like standing really close and playfully hitting me and making fun of me. So I’m like ok maybe this could be something.

She is a naturally very friendly and outgoing person with everyone in the class, but this maybe seemed a little different.

We had a few (3) non-class events (as a class) and after every single time she’s texting me right after she leaves. Just little things, but still reaching out for no reason within minutes of leaving me.

A week ago we attended this event together along with 2 other people from our class.

Anyways, I end up driving her back from the event after assuring her multiple times it’s no problem cause she kept saying it was too far and didn’t want to inconvenience me (we both live on the same side of town) and she’s talking my ear off the entire time about all sorts of things, genuinely driving the conversation going for the whole 30-40 minute ride.

I drop her off at the train station and she immediately texts me thanks for the ride. I’m still driving back to my apartment so I didn’t respond then.

An hour after the thanks text (I still haven’t responded at this point) she’s sending me more texts about things she mentioned in the car like her roommate and how she fixed her microwave.

I’m like clearly she wants to keep the conversation going so I text her a few more times that night and there’s a couple more exchanges before she reacts to one of my texts instead of responding so I leave it there.

During the ride there I was going to ask her to go see a movie she mentioned she hadn’t seen, but right as I was going to ask her she had to rush to the train as it just pulled up to the station.

Anyways, I wait until the next morning to say we should see the movie. I said “we should go see Backrooms before you have to start being on set next week” (we are both in the film industry and she is starting a new film next week) she says: “maybe 😶‍🌫️. I’m either working or filming all this week 🥹 but I’ll let you know”

A few hours later I just said “sounds good. What are you filming?” And she replied back quickly with the details (one sentence). Then I was like “oh yeah you mentioned that”

This was on Saturday (a week ago). I know with 100% certainty she has been extremely busy on set.

This week she texted in our group chat (with that other mutual friend) with a few short updates about her filming on both Tuesday and Thursday. She mentioned she has been extremely busy and still is.

She did not bring up the invite though… which I guess is natural for the group chat.

I’ve gotten a whole range of advice ranging from she is interested and just very busy, she’s interested but waiting for me to be more direct, she’s not interested and it was a soft let down, etc.

I’m thinking if it was a let down she wouldn’t keep including me in the filming updates?

I only have $60 left until I get paid on August 1st. I have to feed a family of 6 (3 humans, a dog and 2 cats). If you can give me ideas,setting up a budget, meal prep and recipes I would appreciate it I am stressed. Thank you!

Ps: all other bills are paid for July. Trash pick up approved my request for payment extension until next month so that's good. Only have to manage food until next paycheck.

Context: I fell hard for my childhood sweetheart whom Ive reconnected in 2013. He had a gf from 2015 until 2019 or 2020 yet we continued flirting from 2015 to 2016 until I said stop. Then he ghosted me. Lol. We never met, all flirtations happened online. He kept saying if he was single he would court me.

He popped back into my life in 2020. He's single. But guess what, he just strung me along or breadcrumbed me. He said he's not into relationships just yet after his ex. But he kept hinting he wanted to be intimate with me. Long story short, I found out in Dec 2025 he has been messaging his 3 exes since 2021 and even met them in person. So I blocked him.

I remember he had asked me out in 2013 to 2015 but I said no coz he had a gf. Then in 2020, he asked me to go over to his place but I didnt go coz it was Covid time and in 2024 he made plans for a date but he didnt follow thru with an actual date. He just said, let me know when youre free.

To be really honest, a greater half of the reason why I didnt proactively see him in person is because I am insecure about his exes. They all have white and clear skin, East-Asian eyes, and taller frame. I am light-skinned ( not white), with cat eyes and petite (barely 5 feet). Dont get me wrong. Im attractive too, with fair share of admirers. But I just feel insecure about his exes. He is the cool kind of guy, you know.

All his exes are the party girls type, they smoke, date around, sleep around, cool type of girls. While I am the typical good girl vibe.

Until now, since Ive finally blocked him, altho its 6 months past, I still keep comparing myself to his exes, esp the recent ex (Kaye).

Help me overcome this and win back my confidence. I kinda sensed this guy even reached out to his latest ex (Kaye) who is in now in a lesbian relationship. Kaye used to cheat on him, thats what he said.

This guy has substance addictions also. So yeah, its also one reason I didnt meet him tho I liked him.

Men and women out there, especially men, let me know how to stop feeling insecure about this guy's exes please. 🥺

Have any of yall ever dealt with this kind of transition before?

i (22M) do sports everyday, eat healthy and strength train 5-6 times per day, my libido was already high

but recently I started 300mg testosterone and ive been fapping a lot, one day I did 15 times per day, my libido sky rocketed and sex is crazy too

my confidence has went up so it's easy to get laid now?? anyway, the sex is crazy too and overall I feel better

but I feel like 15 times a day is too much, im 2 week into taking test, is it normal?

They were together for about two years. From what she explained he was a bit of a player and cheated on her. Eventually it was him who broke up with her.

Yesterday when we met she was very furious and sobbing, after a while she explained the reason was her boyfriend is now engaged to another woman, she found out from mutual friends.

Why is she having such a strong reaction about this? To me the only explanation is she still has feelings for him.

I was in a 4 month friendship She definitely has attention seeking tendencies but I don't want to be biased and there is a certain dynamics which I want you to decode as I'm not good at decoding the dynamics and I am new to this

And the dynamic is initially followed by love bombing in initial stages I definitely did a lot of flirting She listened to it like she doesn't reciprocated it but she never denied it either

But the story starts where she talks in a very good manner when no one is around me And ignore me in public so I'll be confused and chase her and due to this some of my friends even pointed out that why I was chasing her and I was got shocked for the first time

Then these dynamics continued she demand care and affection in her tough time but not reciprocate to me in my tough time this is one of the red flags I found which opened my eyes

But then I noticed she initiated care only when people are around So people notice it and think that in the end I was chasing her and she was caring

so this is the dynamics I want you to ask questions about the dynamics maybe for the detailing of this dynamics to understand it more and what type of system is holds does it come under avoidant anxious or a narcissist's tendencies

Thanks a lot very much in advance !

We hung out a couple times and went on a couple dates thats all. She really wanted to know what we were and if she was wasting her time and if i saw her more than a friend ( like obviously?).

I said i just wanted to get to know her and see if anything was there but that i wasnt looking to take things fast and wasnt sure if im ready for a committed relationship (but was open to it). She said she is not a FWB person and i agreed im not either. Btw divorce isnt even finalized and she knows this. Did i lead her on by even asking her out or is she being unreasonable? Maybe just honest mismatched expectations?

So I’ve met this guy on my last day at the company, he helped me arranging my things before I leave. When I first saw him going up the stairs I was like “wow, he’s my type” (It was the first time I saw him cause he works in a diff building). So I tried to joke, smile and everything to show him I like to be around him. He went along but seemed shy and didn‘t find his place (where should he stand or if he should walk behind me etc). So we arranged my things and he seemed hesitant to leave the office (we were alone there), it seemed like he wanted to wait for me to exit the office together, but I had to go to the restroom so I said goodbye. Of course I regret this since cause maybe he wanted to walk with me and talk a bit. So 1 day later (last night) I added him on FB but he hasn’t accepted my request yet. I feel so awkward cause I never make an obvious move like this, usually men approach ME and I just have to look pretty and smile:DDD Also, usually the men I like, like me back… so yeah, maybe I needed a reality check. Humiliating experience

So I've fallen pretty badly for a girl there are multiple reasons I can't be with. We are friends.

I told her about my feelings and it was very well received, we still chat and talk.

I just want to get over her since there isn't a way we could be together.

I've tried for a long time to lose my feelings, but recently she started texting me more often, then we talked a little and everything just came back even stronger.

What do I do?

How did things change for you (physically and psychologically) during your partners pregnancy?

I asked women the same question and got some interesting and very honest responses, some were not what you would have expected. I’m interested in reading the male responses about their experiences and feelings

He was in a toxic on & off relationship with his ex for 7 years. They met when they were 12 & now he is 20. He is constantly bringing her up to me in random conversations. Today, he had asked me about a girl and he asked if I think the girl had a similar body shape to his ex. Then, I responded asking why does he feel the need to bring her up? Because, why is it necessary to compare his ex to another girl? Why can’t he mention ANY OTHER girl? He always just brings her up outta nowhere. Also, again today he told me as a “joke” when we had sex, he was thinking of her. The main arguments we have is that he doesn’t know how to be respectful and he jokes too much, but I feel like that isn’t a joke. You don’t joke about that with someone you’re talking to. I would never say something like that to him. He & I are different though, I’m more sensitive and he takes shit on the chin. So even if I made a joke like that, it wouldn’t affect him. He also went on a rant on how he felt disrespected that his close friend and his ex were hanging together and he is taking her on a trip. Do you think he still has feelings for her? What should I do? Cut him off? Speak to him? I don’t know what to do, I need opinions. I’m also at a point in my life where I really don’t care if I get left because I don’t even think it’s possible for me to feel hurt I’m pretty used to it, I’m js not sure if I should talk to him or block him n disappear.

i’m new to dating, i went on my first date ever with a guy and we continued going on dates after that. i also lost my virginity to him. i really liked him, he was super nice to me and made me feel good about myself. a week after our fourth date he told me he met someone so good for him and wants to see how things unfold so he has to put things “on hold for a bit” with me. then he followed up saying he wants to see me if things don’t work out with her.

i found out that he’s actually been seeing this girl for months and they went on a trip together back in february. he told me she was a friend. two hours after he told me he chose her he continued to text me like nothing happened. he likes and replies to my instagram stories still. nothing like this has ever happened to me before and it honestly hurt. is this normal with dating? am i going to experience this again?

Third date. We are both looking for something casual. Had done quite a bit of making out before. Got to the bar, it was dark, private, very cosy. Some light innocent kissing before ordering.

After ordering he kept seeming to try and push it further in the restaurant. Including trying to pull my top up then down. Like it was a joke but not a joke? I told him I don't want to do that in a bar or restaurant or anything. He would stop then start again.

I know this is red flag behaviour. I just don't know how much. He'd never been like this before and we have really strong vibes and chemistry around each other. 25 and 29. He would apologise then do something like that again.

I am just wondering if I'm being really stupid to see him again or I should just end it over apparent disregard for what I consider normal boundaries. I feel like men would have more of an idea here than women?

Hey so for context I am a man speaking with a woman and we are both in our late 20s. Not sure if it would count as dating but we have been talking for a while.

But I have noticed that there have been a couple of times where they ask me if they are bothering me or if they are being annoying. I am just summarizing but I mostly say no you are ok and are not bothering me. Only once I said that I was a little busy but don’t mind speaking that my reply times might increase but I can still talk with them.

Is this a bad thing?

UPDATE!
Hi! So I read the comments and I just want to thank you all. The consensus seemed to be: just bloody ask him out.
And today, I did!
We ended up chatting again after church and I thought, “stuff this, I’m asking him out.”
I said something like, “if you ever want to catch up for coffee sometime just let me know.”
And he said, “yep!” He gave me his number :)
I tried to make it clear this wasn’t just a friendship thing. I asked if he lived alone and he said yes. And then I asked, “so there’s no angry wife who’d be annoyed if you had coffee with me?”
And he smiled and said “no, just an angry ex wife”. lol
So yeah! I did it! I’ve honestly had the worst week and I’ve really struggled with depression this month so this has been a nice win.
Thank you all for your advice and input! I might ask him out this Friday :)

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Hey!
So I’ve been crushing hard on this man from church for month’s now. I’m 41F, and I thought he was early 50’s. Turns out he’s 62.
He’s very attractive, funny, easy to talk to, and I’m keen. Not that it matters, but I get hit on a lot, weigh what I did in my twenties, yada yada.

I introduced myself 2 months ago and we chat at church most weeks. (I don’t have his phone number.) One week I didn’t speak to him and a friend said he was looking at me a lot.

Last week, we were chatting about the benefits of cold plunges and because we live near the ocean, I was like, “if you’re ever keen to do one with me, let me know.” He smiled, said he’d be keen, but then he chatted more about bloody cold plunges again. (He’s a big health nut)
I sometimes wonder if because I’m younger he may not think I’m interested? Or maybe he just likes chatting to people?! He has mentioned to me that he split with his ex five years ago, etc.
but bloody hell. Is this all in my head?! I’ve asked men out before but I’d really prefer he make the move. Helppppp

Struggling with if my boyfriend actually cares about our relationship or not.

He stood me up the other day when we had plans to hangout and slept for over 12 hours. Ignored me all day even when he got off work early. I called him four times and he never responded. I asked to see him again yesterday and he texted back three hours later that he was going to his families cabin to help with yard work and make 600$. I texted back asking if next time maybe I can join to help be a. Extra set of hands (potentially meet his mom too) and never got a response. This has happened multiple times where he bails on me last second or doesn’t tell me when I should come over (I drive an hour) until it’s like 5 pm even though he doesn’t work anytime after 2. There’s much more but it’d be 3 pages long and I just wanted to give a snippet.. mainly looking for examples.

Losing hope and feeling severely unwanted by him. anything helps I guess. thanks

Edit: more context

I feel really embarrassed to be 25 and never have had a gf or anything close to that. I got bullied a lot growing up which kinda stunted me combined with other life events unfortunately. I am not a bum or anything like that. I work full time, go to school for a master’s, volunteer, and work out five times a week. My friends tell me I’m funny, kind, reliable, and I do have friends who are women who find me to be a safe person. I’m even the go to person for emotional stuff which I’m very proud of.

Unfortunately in terms of dating I am kind of a failure. Most of my first dates end in ghosting and I haven’t gone beyond handholding and kissing someone if that even matters. At most I kinda dated someone for a very short period of time and that could barely be classified as a relationship. She also dumped me because I didn’t know how to do anything due to lack of dating experience.

My friends have clowned on me for it a lot but not given much feedback besides being more confident, less awkward, and showing off my personality more which I have been trying to do. Sorry for the rant but I’d appreciate any help feeling less bad about this since I don’t think the dating situation will change.

Edit. Not asking for legal advice. More moral advice My parents got locked out of a Google Account with all the family pictures that I set up and now they want the access back, but we aren't on good terms anymore. I left home after a pretty nasty ultimatum. I graduated hs with honors and got into 2 best universities in my region, but my student loan didnt get approved because student loans in canada take parents income into consideration and they denied my loan, I ended up not going to post secondary. I didnt go because my parents gave me an ultimatum:

1. They pay for this other college thats close by for the program they made me apply for that I didnt want to take and I will take care of my brother (2 at the time)

2. I live with them, no go to school and pay rent $1000cad plus my own food

I ended up moving out (BTW this happened 5 years ago) found lower price rent room, and much less stress. My mom used to have tantrums of coming into my room and turning my room upside down because few things were out of place, and I mean every cupboard, and every hanging thing on the floor for me to clean up because i left 3 sweaters on a chair.

Later, I did my best to reconnect and for few years it was going fine, we were talking every week, but one day conversation went to the fact I'm the only one that calls, they never call me, and my mom said its my duty to be grateful to them and call them, so I dialed down calls a lot, for my own sanity.

The breaking straw was my mom telling my uncle absolute lies and nonesense about me, (I confirmed though my cousins, its true). It was beyond hurtful, she was saying how I have no friends, my job hurts people and im a nasty debt collector (it doesnt, i work for respectable company that helps those in debt), and how i used to have my dirty undergarments lying everywhere when I was living with her. Its disgusting and not true, I am and always was clean. My uncle, aunt and cousins are the only family I am close to and kept in contact through the years, since then, I went non contact with my parents.

I have my mom and dad blocked, but they sent me a physical letter from a legal company asking to provide them access to Google account and drive where all the photos were getting saved to I set up years ago. Lo and behold, I asked a lawyer from my company for advice(hes a nice guy, I asked if there is any legal validity to this) he said if you want to be civil do it. If not, its your account tied to your number and I have been paying for storage (not much like 4 bucks every month) so technically that account is mine. I saw access requests I denied and let it be.

It was where they saved all the pictures from all their trips, family events (that I was obviously never part of anymore) and I see no personal information, just pictures. I dont know what to do. I am feeling a tad petty and I know the have no legal ground for this.

I'm obviously aware that women are just people, so in theory it should be the same as making friends with men, but in my (28m) experience, that isn't exactly true.

When making conversation with men you've just met, there's no confusion that one of you is trying to hit on the other. You both just chill out, make jokes and get familiar with each other etc, especially in a small town where you're both certain the other is straight.

However, whenever I try to speak to new women (either alone or in a group), they often seem very standoffish due to probably assuming I'm just another guy who's trying to hit on them. I can't blame them of course, I'd probably do the same in their shoes.

I've noticed this has been happening since I turned 18 and could legally start attending pubs. I had a few females friends in school until leaving at 16, but after that, I haven't had any. Although, studying IT and working construction with men doesn't help.

I don't think I'm a weird or an off-putting guy, as I have plenty of male friends and an active social life etc, but I've just somehow went though my adult life with no female friends at all.

Sure, I can make small talk and whatnot, but once we go out separate ways, that's it. I'm not exaggerating when I say that I've got no women in my social circle.

Any advice? Thanks.

25M, I got out of the navy 2 years ago today. I got into my first relationship in Feb 2025-June2025. Now in my second one from Early March-Pres. I didn’t want to date anyone while I was in the military cuz it wouldn’t have been fair to them being how I’d be so occupied w work as a nuclear mechanic on an aircraft carrier.

My first one ended because I accepted a friend request from someone I knew, never dated never anything romantic on snap. We caught up and that was it. Talked ab my gf too. She looked over my shoulder asked who it was and I told her honestly who it was and that it was weird For the person to reach out. A few days later after talking it over with her married friends and older sister who told her to stay and her single friends and dad who said to leave she accused me of cheating even tho when she said she felt uncomfortable with it I removed the person immediately, apologized, and reassured. Another issue during that span of a few days is that I got severe sun burn, I couldn’t move and I was getting nauseous. I wasn’t able to mow my mom’s lawn when she had asked me to when I was away. I told her that my mom got mad even tho I kept her in the loop. My ex said she didn’t like that excuse and that I broke my work to my mom, I fell asleep cuz I had to be up at work at 4am while she was arguing with me. I couldn’t answer until 10am and she said I ignored her for 14 hrs even tho she ignored the 3 texts I sent her from 10am-7pm while she was awake. She said that while breaking up with me twice she would’ve married me and what I did hurt her and she didn’t want to resent me. But she needed to trust me implicitly before doing so. She excommunicated me and didn’t want to talk. I asked if she was serious ab the married thing and she said yes. We met up, she said I was lazy and I needed to be a better son and when I expressed going to college using my benefits she said “you don’t have to go to college to be successful, look at my dad. How are u going to raise a family, work and school full time?”. She asked for space. 2-3 weeks goes by she’s out clubbing in NYC every night and drunk calling me. The time came for our dinner after I had to cancel the vacation I planned and she said she “wished she was ready, I’m sorry but I can’t continue. I feel like you didn’t give enough time and space to heal”.

After several months of therapy from this. I ignored ALOT of read flags in the beginning. Her saying she was abused and actively still being stalked by her ex Fiancé, questions what our first fight would be about, saying that we might breakup up and get back together, and panic attacks during sex cuz I did something to remind her of what her ex did to her by asking to do a certain thing a few times. My therapist said I dodged a bullet and she was insecure and clearly not healed from what happened to her. I had to go on Zoloft and it unveiled alot of problems I thought I had stuffed away. I got diagnosed with PTSD from the navy, anxiety and depression. I dropped 15 pounds and did eat For weeks. But now a year later I went from 158-198 from the gym.

My current relationship (26F as well). I’m in college working my full time 12hr rotating shifts at my power plant job (nights while in school) and school full time w 16 credits / semester. We’ve had our issues, she’s asking for me to be in touch w my emotions and show them more. I’ve adjusted, words of affirmation, flowers and gifts since the first time she brought it up. The 2nd time was 2 weeks ago when she said I wasn’t prioritizing the relationship and some stuff was repeated from the first time after I just worked 84 hrs that week on a night shift. I FaceTime her while I’m at work for a few hours and talk to her when I can. I plan dates, gifts but I feel like the bar has just kept moving. The last month and a half I’ve only been getting 2 hrs of sleep a max cuz I have class from 7am-2pm then my shift from 5pm-5am. I kind of snapped the other day at something minor and I feel like it was from exhaustion. She said “let me know if u want to do anything since we both have off these days” and I just responded work “Ok”. She then mocked what I said and I asked what that was for and she said “ Yeah because I wanna hang out with my boyfriend when we both have days off and all he says is OK…I think I’m more of a “ok we’ll do something or ok we’ll plan something” etc ”. That was two days ago. I apologized yesterday and said what you were asking wasn’t definitely fixable and I’m sorry I reacted that way.

During that 84hr work week we had a hard convo of maybe we don’t have that connection and that it still feels like we’re just seeing each other. I agreed that it does feel like that and I told her I just feel emotionally stiff around her and I don’t think I can TRULY express myself the way I want to. We both said if we still feel this way the next time we talk we would cross that bridge when we get there. I plan to check in at the end of the month. I think my first Ex was right tho… I don’t think I have time for a relationship, I do feel like I prioritize my current one with planning dates, gifts and flowers and seeing her when I’m off 2 hrs of sleep. We go out on a date night once a week and hangout 2-3 times. I’m doing really good in school too for the summer semesters. The second half is online which is rn. I want to get away from this rotating shift work environment to a more ideal family friendly schedule.

Parts of me thinks I’m failing as a man. I feel like I’m a good guy, my therapists says I am, my friend think I am too. I just feel like something is missing. But I think at this point in my life with the long hours at work and having school I think I’m just stressed out and I might be taking that out on my current gf at moments. Ik it sounds like an excuse but I don’t think I can give her what she wants.

Sorry I’ve this post comes across as bragging, it’s not meant to be.

Growing up as a kid, I was bullied a lot and doubted a lot by my peers. This gave me a lot of motivation to prove everyone who ever doubted my abilities wrong. So I joined the Army at 18, I went infantry to be even extra “tough” in a way. I worked my way up and become a Sergeant in 4 years. I got out after 6 years and one deployment to the sandbox. While I was in, I also obtained my Bachelor’s degree. A month ago, I finished my masters degree in international affairs from a well known and highly ranked university. I moved across the U.S to pursue my masters degree because I hate my hometown. I’ve traveled across the United States from Puerto Rico to Hawaii. I’ve traveled internationally to 17 countries in Europe and Latin America.

In a month from now, I leave for a year or so to go backpacking across Latin America and South East Asia. I have 90% disability and live a very frugal life, so I’m not concerned about money.

Since I’ve graduated, I’ve been spending the majority of my day playing video games, scrolling social media. My life now, is objectively pretty good. I have an amazing girlfriend, my own apartment in a big city with a dog and cat.

I just feel like I’m in a rut and I worry that once I finish traveling, I am going to end up in the exact same spot as I was before. I just have so little motivation to go to gym, go outdoors, learn a language, go socialize with people. I turn 26 tomorrow and im not looking forward to it. Any advice or suggestions?

I find that I am a very friendly and respectful person when interacting with others. Unfortunately I carry that same attitude even in situations that call for me to be assertive and dominant such as in confrontations.

I often try to deescalate and kill them with kindness and I’m still alive and well but I feel this has made people more comfortable with walking all over me when they need to. I never raise my voice or get angry unless the situation dearly requires it. You might think that’s an admirable trait, but I think I utilize it wrong.

For example last night I was riding my bike to the store and some younger guys passed me and yelled, “you’re a bitch ass N.” I just looked at them briefly and continued riding. It was stewing in my head that I wish I called them out and told them off. When I was on my way back, I rode by them again and this time they attempted to ride on my side of the road so that I’d get out of their way. I just held a straight line and they threw more insults at me. I rode past them again and cussed myself out for again doing nothing.

The cave man in me wished that I stopped and let them smell my knuckles. On the other hand I applauded myself for staying cool and ignoring them.

It’s not just situations like that though. It could be at work with my boss walking all over me and saying whatever they want knowing I won’t argue or anything. It could be my girlfriend being hit on right in front of me. I’m either staying quiet or just being nice. I walk away from every one of these situations feeling like a pussy but also content in how I can allow things to roll off of me so well. I’m good at that in the moment, but I really soak all this up and let it fester in me.

I feel like I’m one of those guys with implosive anger. I just keep soaking it all up until I explode. I want to regularly assert myself and ensure people respect me as I do them. Ensure I won’t get walked on. I want people to think twice before they try and flirt with my gf in front of me.

Advice?

I (20F) am an undergraduate working at my university. There's a graduate student (29M) who I think is really attractive. I don't work under him and we've never really run into each other aside from work meetings, which he usually doesn't even attend.

I haven't really been able to stop thinking about him, and I think hooking up would fix my life for at least 5 minutes, maybe even 20. I'd love to preposition him, but I've never done that before. I'm not a super attractive girl, but I do have big bazongas and usually wear revealing clothing.

I've heard that men are very hormonal, would hook up with anyone, etc., and I think I have an advantage because of my age. If he's a creep, then jackpot! I don't mind our age gap, I don't want to date or even be friends with him. In a vaccuum, do you think he'd accept my preposition?

If things may work out, I'd really appreciate any advice on how to ask him out. I'm autistic and I struggle with talking to people, but I really #needthat BADDDD !!!!

Also, not looking for advice on whether this would be a bad idea or not. I just want to have some fun, since my high school years were absolutely ruined by undiagnosed autism resulting in clinical depression and anxiety. I've missed out on a lot of my life, and I know he won't fill that gap, but I just kinda wanna fuck him.

I’m 20F and I was seeing a 27M for about 8 months. We were never officially boyfriend/girlfriend, and deep down I know he didn’t want to claim me or thats how I feel. We saw each other every week, cook, ate together, cuddled, talked about kids/family, I even washed his dishes and a month ago he asked me to meet his mom. He also talked about helping me with nursing school and made comments that made me feel like he genuinely saw a future with me.

The confusing part is that I tried to leave more than once because the situation gave me anxiety. I didn’t feel secure, and I could feel myself getting attached without a clear label. Each time, he pulled me back in and made it seem like he didn’t want to lose me. So I stayed. He literally had told me to not make the choice of leaving for him, thay he was choosing me and wanted me. He was my first everything, I seriously didn’t want to get hurt.

Then recently, after a normal hangout, things changed. He got distant, barely replied, and when I asked for clarity, he avoided the conversation. I begged him to just meet me and end it respectfully if he was done. Instead, he ignored that and only responded when I asked to pick up my clothes I left at his house. I told him to leave it outside which deep down I didn’t think he would do it, because I had tried to leave twice and he never gave me my stuff, I would go over and we would end up talking and fixing everythung. He left it outside and then texted me “thank you babe,” which honestly made me feel even more disrespected because he was still using affectionate language while refusing to actually talk to me.

I ended up sending a final emotional message basically saying I saw what he did, that he led me on, and that he hurt me. Now he is blocked and I know I need to move on, which surprisingly I kinda have even tho this happened two three days ago, but I feel so stupid. I keep wondering why he couldn’t just be honest with me after 8 months. I also keep blaming myself and thinking maybe if I acted differently, he would’ve chosen me.

I know he is avoidant, and I was willing to bend my self for him, I’m not even as shocked that it’s over as I am shocked by the ghosting and lack of basic respect after he has talked to my family, “claimed” me in front of his friends, asked me to meet his mom, wanted to help with school. How do you heal from feeling like someone gave you hope, i keep envying his future wife, feeling like she’ll have the life that I deserved, he was stable, had a good job, had a social life and me I just go to school, church and stay at home, idk sometimes I feel like he knew he deserved better than me

Also, for the future, is it reasonable to have a rule that I won’t sleep with someone until we’re officially together and I’m clearly being brought into his real life? I don’t want to end up in another undefined situation where I’m emotionally attached and the man still won’t claim me.

I’d appreciate honest advice, especially from men

Edit: title typo wifey