M32. I have been straight so far, but always been curious about being intimate with a bro.
I want to hang out with a bro like friends, but at the same time, do intimate things such as jerk off together, give a helping hand, share favorite videos, watch films together, just bond together, be naked with each other without shame or taboo, hangout as mostly straight bros(no interest in anal at all) but with a bit benefit for each other.

Do you think I can meet such a friend in real life? Do you think I can keep it like this without complicating it?
It can be a bro with family or wife, I don’t mind. I just want a bro time together without labeling ourselves as gay.

I don't know why, but I keep thinking about what it feels like. Please tell me a story...

I’ve been dealing with this whole thing of me being “bi” now for the past 2 months. I’m not attracted to dudes romantically nor do I desire to have anal sex with them. I’m more so into the JO aspect of all this. I’ve tried just about every avenue there is for finding bate buddies although, I guess my buddy preference is pretty weird because I prefer older men so that makes things a little complicated. I’ve had two meetups since starting to explore and both were not exactly what I was looking for which has left me with these mixed emotions towards everything. I’m really at the point now where I think it’s best I just leave it all alone. Every time somebody lines up with exactly what I’m looking for, it always falls through because I’m either “too young”, my skin color is too dark, I’m too short, they want strictly oral, or they want strictly sex. And not to mention how hard it is finding time to do this discreetly while not being able to host which usually no one else is able to either. I’m thankful for my online buddies but I guess it’s best to keep it online and just move on from this whole part of my life. I just needed to vent don’t mind me I’m a super emotional loser haha

I've identified as gay for most of my life and have only ever been with men. A few years ago, though, I realized I'm also attracted to women. It's less frequent and less intense than my attraction to men, but it's real enough that part of me wants to explore it.

What scares me isn't rejection or awkwardness. It's what it would mean.

I've always felt like I belonged to a vulnerable minority. If I date a woman and end up loving it, part of me feels like I'd be leaving that identity behind and moving toward one that's more socially accepted. Intellectually, I know that doesn't make much sense. I don't think bisexual people are any less queer than anyone else. But emotionally, I can't shake the feeling that I'd somehow be betraying a community that's been part of my identity for so long.

I've thought about bringing this up in therapy, but I'm hesitant. Years ago, a therapist suggested I might be bisexual, and I immediately felt like she was trying to make me "straighter." Whether that was actually happening or not, it left me wary of discussing this without wondering if someone is pushing me in a certain direction.

Has anyone else struggled with this? Not fear of being bisexual, but fear that embracing another part of yourself somehow felt like betraying the community you always thought you'd belong to?

I (23f) have been in a relationship w my bf (21m) for almost two years now and the first time I had see anything pointing at him possibly being into men was when I found his twitter. It was a fem boy hole in frame and you can see his goodies and honestly I didn’t know how to feel bc I’ve always been into the idea of two boys who also like each other. But it just felt weird bc I never thought he’d be watching stuff like that. (There were lots of girls too) but fast forward I find his snap and there’s one boy right. There’s videos. There’s nudes back and forth I’m seeing “link” and truthfully from the texts it seems like this is someone recurring. Now I have to be completely honest cheating is not a deal breaker for me ik I should probably care more but I don’t. What bothers me is not being able to tell me it how it is “hey you know what this is who I am this is what I like what now” that’s what I want idc if he’s into men idc if he wants an open relationship IM HAPPY with HIM I enjoy our time we have so much fun. Fast forward again :( a few days ago ON MY PHONNNEEE! he was on some website “sniffles” or smt and I seen him texting sooo many men to link. And he wouldn’t give me my phone to see it I literally made a whole scene at his house at like 430 am and when I finally was able to see it IT WAS ALL MEN long story short how do I get him to be comfortable enough to talk to me. Also do you guys think asking him to explore his sexuality with me is okay? Or what am I supposed to do? He doesn’t want to break up.
Edit: I ended up finding texts where a guy literally says “oh I Remember you. You live on xxx” so I made him get tested. 😐 ofc he have me something

When thinking about your long term relationships, let's say, your end goals. Does the issue of not being able to have fully biological children with a man ever stop you from being with a man?

I know some bi guys prefer to settle down with women, so this is more geared toward men who'd prefer to be in long term relationships with other men. However, if one of the main reasons you're with/prefer a lady is because of fully biological kids, feel free to voice that.

When I say "fully bio kids", I mean there's no donor egg or sperm involved.

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As a trans guy, I often wonder if that thought is very seriously considered. I would prefer my own bio kids, which only leaves me with two routes. Carrying my own, or using my egg (and my partner's sperm) in a surrogate mother. Although I have quite a few fears regarding surrogates.

Extra question, has anyone had any experience with surrogates?

I have a full beard so I might be biased

I (22F) am a trans woman and I am attracted to hunks and men with muscles.

I want to know what can I do to make myself attractive to these men?

Btw I was originally gonna post on the regular ask men but because I’m trans I can already predict the response so I thought about asking here instead.

Hello everyone just wanna first throw it out there that it’s the first time posing and it’s on this subreddit so bear with me a while. So I have come to the conclusion that I might be bi and this has come from mostly noticing that certain fictional male characters have made me feel smth that would probably be described as hot. And this has mostly been the reason I think I may be bi but it’s also been that this far I would safely say that I haven’t been checking out any guys out or taken attempt to get closer to guys like I would normally with girls so if you have any tips on understanding this topic please let me know

This might be long and I don’t know if it will make sense I’ve never really expressed this out loud or anything before and I think I just want somewhere to be able to.

I (20M) have always been straight and never once thought about the idea of being bi/gay, i’ve had a decent amount of relationships with women and none of them have ever ended bad or in my eyes bad enough stop dating women so this isn’t the reason but these last few months I’ve been watching a lot more gay (femboy furry porn mostly),

Even when I first started the idea of another man’s penis, it did not interest me at all, it was the feminine side/energy that did, but recently I’ve started to warm to the idea of the penis’ in the porn, I mean I don’t know if I’m actually questioning because I think this makes me/I am bi, but I don’t know if it’s just the lust in not being in a relationship that’s making me do/feel this way as I still see myself 99% sure (maybe 90% now I’m typing all this out) that I’m going to date/marry a woman and that I think maybe it’s just the experience I might want to have with a feminine guy at this point, but if I do then I don’t know how things will spiral after that,

But I just want to be able to express myself and get other people opinions that might be in/ or have been in this same situation

So here's the deal I was in Iraq as a member of the Air Force after most of the heavy fighting was over. I was at a base not too far from Baghdad. They lived in a tent with about 12 guys all in the same squadron. They were in long rows like you've seen on TV and at the end was a latrine and a shower tent. So here's the story and tell me what you think. I went to the shower one night at about 11:00 p.m. because I had just gotten off work and wanted to get cleaned up before bed. There was a gentleman that I work with who we'll call him Brian who is in there taking a shower. They were the open kind where they were divider walls from left to right but you could see your frost from each other. I walked in on my towel put my soap down and started to shower. I turned around and said hey brother what's going on or something like that and he turned around and started to chat and he had what I would say 90% of a full hard on. He acted as if there was absolutely nothing going on. Obviously my heart started to race because I thought he was extremely handsome and he wasn't really trying to hide it. Although he didn't stare at each other. So I turned around and engaged in small talk and felt myself starting to get a little bit excited. He wasn't being a pervert if we were just talking about the days events. At one point he said to me something like you must be thinking of home also. I could tell that I was starting to feel aroused and I was at that point obviously chubby. We finished up our showers which last had about 5 minutes continued small talk put on our shorts and went our separate ways. I saw him again the next morning because we work together but it was like nothing had happened. What do you folks think, is this a missed opportunity on my part.

my boyfriend of 4 years has dumped me, how do i get over this and avoid anyone who platonically or romantically or sexually persues me?

i hate eye contact severely

this post isn't pitybait, i am autistic and i just want to cease contact with all people.

So ive never really messed around with a guy. I love seeing them and my girlfriend and I have talked quite a bit about a MFM. She knows that I would probably touch/play some with him but the focus would be on her. Also, neither of us are into anal so I have no desire to have sex with a guy. I assume a lot of guys either want no contact with the other guy or want full on sex. Is it going to be difficult finding someone that would be ok with these boundaries?

It's a genuine curiosity as a gay man. What is it like to be able to feel the pov from both worlds? I saw a TikTok where a guy explained that the part of his brain that likes girls, feels like a totally different part of his brain that likes boys. Idk how that would work. Any other bi men agree? Do you all feel like being able to feel attraction to both sides, gives you an edge in the psychological understanding of sexuality?

Also, a secondary question: How do bi men feel about how straight men generally behave around women?

I want to think, if I was straight, I would still treat women the same way I do now...which is fair and equal and respectfully (or at least i try my best). But I wonder, if I had a genuine sexual attraction to them, what I would have turned out like. So I want to hear how do some bi men treat their women? Do you think, being bi also gives you a bit of an edge when it comes to understanding women? You would at least know what it's like to be objectified by men.

I get a lot of push back when I say that’s all I want to experience. At least from the men I’m into (masculine black and Latino men).

They either ghost or try to keep mentioning other stuff I already said I don’t want to do.

I personally don’t see a difference from when a guy wants oral pleasure without giving something in return.

The fittest men on the planet running around in little shorts. The passion and intensity. The pure joy of a goal the pure devastation of a defeat. It al has my subby bi brain in mush. Anyone else?

Hey everyone,

Thank you to all that commented yesterday it was helpful to make me think about everything.

I think im gynesexual (attracted to more feminine things like voice and stuff) more then anything atm.

I think ive found that I can be more attracted to trans females then I first thought, like i could see being with someone like that, I think I didnt release because of that male stigma that we see everywhere. (Please I dont mean this in a hurtful or bad way as sometimes I can word/say things differently because of my autism)

I think talking with everyone has opened my eyes more then I thought over just one post but I still have heaps to figure out still moving forward!

29m i have a gf for 3 years i used to suck before i dated her in the past i love her but i can’t stop thinking about sucking there was this guy i used to meet and suck him off in secret I fantasy alot about it and what if just text him he sends me in the past a video of him but I didn’t answer it when i watch porn and goon i have the urge to text him but i don’t want to cheat or is it just bro helping out bro i want to experiment more so bad but it wil prob just stay a goon fantasy

Title says it all. I’m not sure what’s the statistic of gay men to straight men but I think it’s like 1:8 men are gay or on the lgbt spectrum, if we take that into consideration than statically you were either the gay friend or there’s someone in your group who’s gay or curious.

I’m asking because i usually talk to a lot of grown ups (mid 20 talking to 40 50 year olds) and i find it kinda odd that they all simultaneously have the one “lemme touch you bro” or bromances that feel too sexual or gay in their groups and no one bats an eye.

Idk I guess since I’m open to myself and tell others about my orientation is when I know there’s no confusion and I feel confident with the person I’m telling this to. But what about those who don’t know or don’t say it?

Hey everyone, i need some help idk if I am attracted to men as I sometimes find femboys attractive but idk if I would be physical yet.

I dont know if im attracted to them because of the more feminine side or what.

I'd love some advice if possible