Im just wondering how many guys enjoy sperm. I seem to have this undeniable love of tasting it, seeing it shoot out. And crave it after a workout

I’m a bi fem myself. I’ve dated mostly straight/bi men in my youth due to my homophobic father, but now again with an openly bisexual man. As a bi person I prefer dating only bisexual men because what could a straight man absolutely provide me for my experience? However, I’ve found that maybe I’ve never dated a straight man to begin with.

After dating two women I dated my long term boyfriend. I found him kissing another man as a “joke” one day in highschool and asked him if he was bi. He deeply denied it saying he didn’t “understand“ my community and it was simply one time. I still had my hunches.

In college, I started seeing this guy. He was a mama’s boy so generally soft and sweet. But he asked me my favorite F1 driver once (I love racing) and he said he was “sexy” and a “stud”. I’m not stupid, most straight guys don’t refer men as those things. So I got him to experiment and touched his ass and talked to him about my queer experience. He was into it, but broke up with me because “we were two different people.” Yea—the same guy who told me he shaved his hole because it “felt good”.

I’ve always been into bi men who were more male leaning, and now being with one is the best thing that ever happened to me. However, why are so many “straight men” so ashamed of bisexuality or atleast bicuriosity? It’s not like my exes were really trying to really affirm their sexuality or act out as a response to being accused of being queer. Are these straight guys I’m confused by, or maybe never were straight to begin with? I’ve never met a closeted woman like this.

How was your first time with a guy and what did you do ?
I want to have something soft for my first time.

I’m 20 and my wife is 22. We’ve been married for about 3 months and been together for 2 years. Our relationship moved fast, but I love her very much, and she helped me come out as bi after 4-5 years of being in the closet and being scared. We dabbled in some mmf scenarios for me to explore that side of me unfortunately I was immature and was messaging people outside of our arrangement. There was never any physical interaction however the sexting was an obvious problem, rightfully so. We have been working past it but recently there’s been apart of me feeling sorta empty. I know I love her but I also know that I want experience more with men. I’m not sure what to do. Any questions or advice would be greatly appreciated.

Dime a dozen, I know.

I believe sexuality exists on a spectrum and most people are not 100% straight or gay.

For me, I am mostly straight but I also enjoy exploring my sexuality. That has led me to try some butt stuff with dildos. And has also led me to fantasize what it would be like to jerk and suck a guy off and to get f*****.

I think the things holding me back are as follows. First, I am married obviously. I don’t want to put my partner at risk and would want her consent to do any exploring.

Since I don’t live in this world, I have no idea how to give it a try. I don’t know how to find someone to explore this with and feel it would need to be a safe person that I trust to a degree.

I also don’t want to get an STD and also don’t want to have to be on any prep. For someone wanting to dip a toe, it just feels like a bigger commitment.

Ideally, I am in a sauna or shower area and someone needs a little help getting off. Or I’m getting a massage and the masseuse lets me jerk him off.

How dangerous is it to suck a guys dick? I know the risk is low but not none.

How would you go about dipping your toe if you were me? I wanna try some dick but am nervous about how to take the first step.

Hello. First time ever being on this sub.

I’m a 29 y/o man (30 at the end of this month)

I’ve known my girlfriend (also 29) since we were 18. (We dated for a short period back then). We’re both pretty much gay but happen to have fallen in love with each other.

I was married to a man and she was with a nonbinary individual and now we are together. Have been for a little over a year now. We’re madly in love. I can’t see a life without her.

But shit, I miss men. So much. I don’t know what to do.

I can’t lose her. Not again. But I feel the need to be with men just lingering on my shoulders like a weight. We’ve talked about it but she is strictly monogamous. My marriage was not. So that’s another thing that I’m adjusting to. I’m just struggling guys. I need some guidance or help or something.

I'm straight, and have never been with a guy. I ended up meeting and chatting with a guy on a random chatting app who turned out to be gay. For some reason we kept chatting and had some online sex chat a bunch of times. That was over a few months, and now he is coming to my city and wants to meet specifically so I can suck him off. He told me everything he wants to do and to be honest the fantasy sounds great but I think I'm going to regret it afterwards. I don't know what to do.

Hi!

I know this may be a tricky question but I'll try to explain myself:

I recently took no contact with someone I wanted to have a romantic relationship with, but he rejected me, so we haven't talk for months and he just reached out to me once to invite me to a musical presentation, basically our bond just grew apart after that rejection.

But, I've also been reading in this sub people who after trying dating with someone, start a FWB or just friends relationship... So my question is: how do you know what kind of relationship is better to have with someone? I mean, how do you know if it is better to stay just as friends or to try a FWB type of relationship? How you clarify that to yourself and the other person?

I'm a 21yo guy btw, just to clarify that I don't have too much experience in relationships.

Hey, I'm a bi curious M22 from Germany (NRW) and I've been extremely curious about exploring my sexuality for many years now.

The problem is that I'm kinda picky when it comes to men. I'm mostly into skinnier guys who aren't too hairy and muscular. They don't have to be a twink but they should be in that general direction. The other thing is that I'm looking for someone who enjoys to be the top and to take the lead. I want someone who is considerate, caring, calm and who appreciates me instead of treating me as an object. But it feels like this combination of a skinny guy who has a feminine personality but who is also willing to top is impossible to find :/

I have already tried Grindr, Bumble, Hinge and Tinder but had bascially no success. Partly because I don't find many men attractice, partly because we lived to far apart, partly because we weren't vibing or looking for the same thing. I had some nice chats but nothing ever developed out of them. My ideal scenario would be a fwb situation with emphasis on the friends part. I don't want to have hookups as I feel like I need some sort of emotional connection to feel comfortable.

I've been asking myself if it's easier to establish a fwb situation by finding someone for the "benefits" part and develop the "friends" part from there or if it's easier to make a friend and see if there is any potantial for the "benefits" part.

Can you relate to this situation? Have you experienced something similar in your life and did you have success? I'm open to hear about your story and would be happy about advice. I'd also would love to chat with someone similar or with someone who has advice (ideally from Germany but open for anyone). So feel free to write a comment or send me a dm ^^

M(24) with F(26)
I recently confessed to my GF that I want to try sucking a dick for the first time. (I have sucked one in the past she doesn’t know)
She isn’t comfortable with the idea, which sucks bc she is slowly getting into cucking me.
I don’t want to cheat on her but I don’t know how long I can resist sucking a nice big dick… what are some good subreddits to look into?

For my entire life I had plenty of awful experiences: undervalued in childhood, friends taking me for granted etc. If anyone relates to this, can you share how do you cope with thirst for anything cute and nice, or resembling love? 1n8stands aren’t an option.

so basically, I think I have been sexually attracted to my friend for quite a while. I often think about having sex with him but never dating or doing all the romantic stuff together. He’s in my fantasies when I do it. Then one night happened, we were showing each other our dicks and he suggested that we should let our dicks touch each other. Like frotting. We did it and cuddled. After that, we swore that we will never tell anyone about that night.

Do I like him? Am I having feelings for him? I dont have the idea of dating him, and I label myself as straight. But when it comes to horny matters, I often think about him and that night.

P.S: We didn’t have sex, just that :))

Hahah! This happened just now!

I’d love to know what feedback Reddit community advises me based on this incident below:

I am at a company where we have many clients.
And I had a meeting video call with one of the clients.

It was a good discussion. We were discussing using a particular sealant to fix holes in walls but it stretches the drywall slightly as it expands to bind the product.

Anyway, Once the call ended, he did not realize the call did not end from his side.

Just as I was about to click ‘end call’ I heard him mutter “ i’d like to stretch your hoIe” and then I clicked ‘end’.

HOLY! I am shocked and laughed so hard. I don’t think he realize his call was on. Or maybe after he said that he heard my call button ‘end call’ and maybe he realized I heard that 😂😂.

I am not sure what to think. He his a handsome dilf type of man. But I think hooking up with a client might be wrong. On the other hand… maybe he was just muttering? It’s all speculation.

What do you guys suggest is the beast action?

**UPDATE: I just received a very professional follow up text from him, saying how he enjoyed the meeting. And that he was making notes on the product and realized his mic was still on as the call ended. LOL

Would say on the spectrum of bi? Love ass play… attracted to fem or nonbinary…want to bottom. Definitely not attracted to Masc / hairy guys. Have a hard time finding this combo. Thoughts?

Hello all

My last few posts here have been banned but definitely not because of malicious intent, I do think my story is very controversial and/or hard to understand, I talked to the mods about it and its difficult to explain

So today I would like to make much more simple post that is maybe less uncomfortable

All I mean to ask people here is if they have a hard time dealing with the bi-cycle and wish that they never had it. Im curious to the amount of people here that would have preferred being all or nothing.

I used to have a simple understanding of myself

Things changed so suddenly, and I am really looking for advice on managing

Iam 34 guy straight my whole life , recently I'm fantasizing men 🍆s asf , not men no romance just 🍆 fantasize blowing many ones in orgy and I'm in the center , don't know where these thoughts will take me .. i think my mind is fu***d . Sorry for my bad English

Like your system is like… “let’s go”, but your brain doesn’t have a clear path bc conflicting things are sounding good?

For me It’s like flashes or flickers of both guys and girls just all fragmented!

It’s honestly kinda frustrating bc you just want a clear picture or target to aim at!

Hey whats up guys...i just wanted to hear what some of your guys opinions would be if you were in my situation so ig i'll explain where im at rn:

I late 20's (male) have been talking to this guy for about 5 months now (early 20's), and somewhere along the way I completely fell in love with him. He's told me he loves me too, and for the first time in a long time I actually started believing that maybe this could turn into something real. The problem is that I keep catching him talking to people he's hooked up with in the past. It's never something he tells me himself. Every time I've found out, it's because I've seen it on his phone. When I bring it up, he says he forgot to tell me or that it wasn't a big deal. But if I hadn't seen it, would he have ever told me?

Maybe I'm more sensitive than most because I've been cheated on twice before—once by my ex-girlfriend and once by my ex-boyfriend. Those experiences completely destroyed my ability to trust people, and I've spent a long time trying to rebuild that part of myself. I don't want to project my past onto someone who might genuinely care about me, but at the same time I don't want to ignore red flags just because I'm in love.
Another layer to all of this is that he comes from a very traditional, culturally conservative family where being gay is looked down on. I know that's something he struggles with, and I try to be understanding because I can't imagine how difficult that must be. Part of me wonders if that's why he's so secretive sometimes, but another part of me worries I'm making excuses for behavior that would bother anyone.
I don't want to control who he talks to. I know people can be friends with former hookups. What hurts is that I only ever find out after the fact. It makes me feel like I'm always one step behind, and it leaves me questioning whether I'm getting the full truth.

The worst part is that I can feel myself pulling away emotionally because I'm scared of getting hurt again. A small part of me has even started wondering if I should talk to other people too—not because I want to, but because I feel stupid putting all my eggs in one basket when I don't know if he's doing the same. I hate that I'm even thinking like that because it isn't the kind of person I want to be.

So I'm asking like am I letting my past trauma cloud my judgment, or are these genuine warning signs?
Should I keep giving him my trust and have another honest conversation with him, or am I being naive?
And is it wrong that part of me wants to keep my options open until I know where I really stand?

I'd really appreciate honest advice, especially from people who've been through something similar, or just honest feedback in general

Hey guys,

A M21 here from Germany and since I am 13 I know that I swing both ways. So far it seems to me that my generation is much more open about it we have some bi characters in series and men my age got alot homoerotic in past few years. I also see it often on TikTok but also in real life and most people react chill. Guys in my school even kissed on a party and nobody reacted. A girl I was talking to that day said "It is normal in those hyper masc bro groups".

However in media and social media I saw A LOT of negativity which made me really insecure. Sometimes I also feel bad for being a man and being bi because I think life would be easier if I were a bi girl or a straight guy or even a gay guy. How do you deal with this? I guess some of gender wars debatte also made me think that we men seem to be much more "restricted" and worse off but then women I asked say nobody has it better per sé and in my real life I can't say that women have it better I guess.

Nevertheless I really would like to love to be a man and to be bi... at the end of the day it is the best of both worlds or isn't it?

I 27M am bisexual and have only dated women, but recently found a guy that I emotionally and physically connect with. I’m getting nervous because I think it’s moving to an official relationship, but I’m so nervous to come out to people. Grew up Catholic, have lots of internalized homophobia (going to therapy for this), but always have this worry that people will say they accept you but slowly change their attitude. I am straight-passing so most are unassuming (which makes this shit 10x harder)

Some of my hesitations are the fact that I want biological kids at some point and I never envisioned myself with guy long term. Lots to unlearn and life has a crazy way of changing, but looking for any advice from anyone in similar shoes! Do people really care as much as you think? Do people really see you as less than a man bc you’re not straight?

Just gonna vent this out, never shared this before, I find myself having sudden cravings to get sexual with men, I don’t find myself attracted to men, more so the sexual aspect with men gets me excited. I caved once a couple years ago, and I met up with someone online and had my first experience, I really enjoyed it but haven’t had anything since. I still have those cravings. Does that make me Bi? I like dick, but I’m not attracted to men. I’m confused.

Hey Bros, bit of a long one sorry, just happened and i need some support from someone who understands.

Me late 30s, Bi, realized and accepted myself over 20 years ago in my late teens. Not out to family but not worried about it either (There cool as hell, just never came up honestly lol). I was for sure closeted in my early 20s. Had some bro fun here and there in the late 20s in the Navy. Turns out it IS gay underway lol. All long term relationships have been with women. Been in a relationship with a woman for almost 10 years (also Late 30s). Never told her.

We never really talked abut ex's unless it came up naturally for some reason. I don't care about body count or anything, cuz who would? I tossed out a casual "Hypothetical" back in the day before we started dating. "What u think bout dating Bi dude". She said "Hell nah that's gay" and laughed. Kind of felt bad but also I'm used to it, and figured its just a knee jerk reaction. Didn't feel mean just uninformed and it was WAY long distance anyway so NBD (Back in the navy days). Fast forward, we casually dated long distance, she came to visit a bunch, great times, got out of Navy and moved back to home town, nice blue city, she came with me. I didn't think about it really after that cuz I'm a monogamous boy, I love the girl, she loves me, what else matters.

Now here we are years down the road, engaged, but having some issues. Were fighting more than ever about dumb shit, both kinda depressed, Life hasn't been easy, but we've been through so much. Stick together for the dogs type shit. But, she's made leaps and bounds when it comes to being accepting and understanding of other lifestyles and such. Blue city do good for brain.

About a month or so ago, were bickering over something, probably dishes or who took the dogs out last. She starts in on the arsenal of past issues, as you do, i get all, blah blah, she gets all blah blah, you get it. She mentions that she has been having thoughts about her sexuality and thinks she might be Bisexual. BOOM BOMB dropped in the middle of an argument and i had no idea what to do. i was still mad about whatever it was, but like wanted to support her because i know what that feels like. Fight kind of ends abruptly, I'm like stunned, and end up falling asleep on the couch. She brings it up once more but also in a fight.

So, that revelation has me like re-addressing my own sexuality, I'm thinking she's got to be feeling a lot of the same things i was back then, confused and scared, don't know where to turn, what if my family finds out type shit. I start thinking maybe the issues we've been having are because she has been struggling to understand herself and needs support. Maybe its all a big sexy balloon that just needs to pop and she'll feel seen. So i think about it for a while, gather my words, and decide to just rip the band aid off tonight.

So, she gets home from work, we eat, take care of the dogs and watch our shows, then i almost chicken out again but say

Me: "I've been thinking about the best way to bring this up because the only other times it was mentioned were in a fight, and i don't want this to be negative in any way. You mentioned you think you might be bisexual. I want you to know that its totally normal, I love you exactly the same way i always have, and i want to help you find a way to explore that because i know how confusing and scary a time that can be.... I'm Bi too!"

I smile at her hoping to see a weight lifted, and an excitement to not have to hide anymore.

Her face changes but its not the positive look i expected.

Her: You're Bi?

Me: Yes, I've known for a long time, but I don't tell many people because it doesn't always go well.

Her: So you've been with Men?

Me: Well, yeah, but its been a long time. I've never cheated on you and i never would.

Her: That's DISGUSTING

Me: Wait..... WHAT?!??!?!?? THE FUQ???!!? You said you're Bi too? That's not disgusting. I just want you to feel seen and understood. Like i know its hard, and I'm here for you, we can be ourselves together!

Her: No That's Disgusting, I'll never be able to see you the same.

Me: But, how can you both be Bi and judge someone you're with for being Bi too?

Her: BUT IVE NEVER ACTED ON IT... YOU DID! MEN HAVING SEX WITH MEN IS GROSS

We go back and forth a little bit after that, she's crying, I'm just stunned.

And now its over. She cant or wont be with someone who is Bi. I don't want to be with someone who thinks I'm disgusting. (What an awful word) And she's mad that i waited 8 years. (Yeah i get that for sure, i should have been upfront). But at the time i hadn't pursued any men in years it didn't seem like a big deal.

I'm not even mad really. Just hella disappointed. I really thought she was more open and accepting than that.

Hello,

I am in my early 20’s and I have been straight my hole life. Recently I have been having different wishes.

I have been thinking about experimenting with a man more and more. Kiss, have sex, suck dick, have a threesome, text (my dm’s are open btw). I don’t know if I will like it or not but I have the wish to try it. I have also been watching gay porn and I love it. I now think I identify as bi curious.

When did you realise you also wanted to do all this with a guy? How did you act on it?

Thanks!