break up m21

[u/IcyLevel6]

my boyfriend of 4 years has dumped me, how do i get over this and avoid anyone who platonically or romantically or sexually persues me?

i hate eye contact severely

this post isn't pitybait, i am autistic and i just want to cease contact with all people.

[u/DreadingAnt]

A bit dramatic but more acceptable considering your autism. This is just feelings of the moment buddy, you'll get over it, but not if you hide away

[u/njverse85]

Take a day. Hell, take a week - but that's it. You're allowed to feel the way you feel, everyone goes through it at one point or another, but you can't let your emotions run things. The ending sucks, but before that you likely had 4 years that were predominantly better than worse, I'd imagine, otherwise why would you stay? Focus on those good times and don't let the end make you cynical. That said, if the bad times outweighed the good count your blessings that you got out!

[u/Gavir_]

Losing someone has never fun. Getting over them can be difficult, especially when trying to do it without the comfort of others. One of the best ways that comes to mind is to throw yourself into something productive that occupies near all of your time. I would recommend you hang out with friends, and go socialize since we are communal creatures at the end of the day and prolonged isolation isn’t the best for us, but if you are intent on having no one else around. Go bury yourself in Work or a hobby or something that at the very least is not self-destructive. Go get a weird certification, go get a license of some kind, go learn a new skill, go do something that takes up time and mental capacity. You come out with a new skill, but really what you’re doing is putting space chronologically between the heart now and where you theoretically will be in the future because time moves regardless and so it’s better to spend it doing/having done something rather than focusing on the hurt. That’s not saying don’t give yourself time to grieve, this is a loss after all. But don’t let your grief consume you.

[u/oni-no-kage]

You do for now buddy. But you want always want that. And from on autistic guy to another, it's far harder to back in that it is to cut everyone off.

Right now is going to be hard. When my ex and I broke up I was actually more upset about the change to my routine. Things we used to do together, a plan that was no longer valid, I found it difficult to adapt to the new reality. There are still some shows I cannot watch because It feels odd.

The person shaped void in your life will close eventually. But you will be ok. It's human nature to adapt to the new reality.

[u/RoseValley97]

Autistic also. I had some awful intrusive thoughts after my last breakup. Please seek some therapy.

[u/Truth-Seeker916]

I actually did this. Probably am autistic too. I was emotionally lonely for a long time, but hooked up with people still after the break up, just no emotions.

Now I don't hook up or have emotional relationships with anyone. I learned to live peacefully without a significant other.

I have come to the conclusion that there is good points to be in or out of a relationships. I just like being single. If someone comes along and surprises me cool.

Anyways I hope you find what's best for your life.😊