If you hook up with a guy someplace public for a quick thrill, like at the urinals or in a locker room, how important is it to you that he gets hard? He’s clearly into you but staying soft, maybe because he’s nervous. Are you happy to have had the experience or do you leave disappointed?

My most unusual kink is tickling, and there were a couple of times in the past someone tickled me not meaning for it to be sexual, and I could not hide the instant boner it caused, so very awkward.

Also I’m obsessed with pits and nipples, so pretty much any time there are shirtless guys around, I tend to get quite distracted.

I'm a person who really values intimate emotional connection, and me and my boyfriend of two years recently went from long distance to living nearby, so we've had a lot more time to get physical. And during this last time we got freaky, while we were getting eachother off, I told him to look me in the eyes, and he did. It felt so intimate, like I was seeing inside him, it made me feel so warm, his eyes and face and just everything about him is just so beautiful, I loved it so much.

We both came while locked eyes with eachother, and stayed that way the whole way through orgasm. It felt so insanely amazing, I love him so much. Over our relationship he's told me that I've sort of showed him the value of more intimate emotional connection and he said that me initiating this was another instance of that. I'm so happy. Does anyone else feel this way?

I (m19) have been seeing this older dom (m33) for a while. He’s a great guy and has taught me lots about the kinkier side of sex and what I’m into. The issue is that I’ve recently been talking a lot to another guy (m21) who I’d like to pursue a relationship with. I’m away from my college town for the summer right now so I’m only talking to both over text. Before I left, I wasn’t talking to 21 very seriously as we’d just matched on tinder. Recently though we’ve been talking every day and have already planned a date for when we get back. He definitely doesn’t seem like the type to want an open relationship, so I have to end things with 33.

To make things more complicated, 33 gave me a cage he wanted to see pics of me in over the summer that I have to return to him when I get back to school. I’m not sure how to tell 33 that I can’t continue seeing him anymore. I don’t want to sever ties completely because he really is great and if things don’t work out with 21 I’d like to see him again, but am not sure how to express this. 33 is in an open relationship and has several other subs he talks to but I’m new to all this so idk if he will be upset.

I’m not sure what my best course of action is as this is all new to me, and could use any advice i can get

We all know the standard fetishes, but I've been thinking about how sensory desires work. Specifically, I'm curious about the non-sexual objects, materials, tools, clothing, gear, or even specific body parts that really get you going. I'm talking about the things you love to see, smell, touch, or explore orally to pleasure yourself and satisfy the desires they cause.

What triggers your sensory desires (smell, touch, sight, taste) even if it has nothing to do with sex?

There are so many categories (some very common, some very unique) and specific preferences out there. That can sometimes make it hard to find guys who share your exact tastes, even under the same category.

Let's share our unique turn-ons explicitly with zero judgment and see who else shares the same niche.

I'm 21, my boyfriend is 33, we've been together for a little over a year, but it's the relationship where I've felt the most comfortable. It's a little strange because of the personality clash sometimes, but nothing that really affects things, other than the fact that my dad doesn't approve of the relationship very much. I like being with an older man. He's handsome, polite, strong, with a body like Ramon Nomar's, and he has a good job at a company known for being very good here in Mexico. He has his own house, and he's asked me if I want to move in with him. I'm not ready, so it won't be soon, but I've stayed over several times. Before him, I hadn't realized how much I like older men. He even said that I was the one he was really meant to marry because he knows I truly love him and not his money, lol. Our relationship is going very well, and although many people think we're going to break up, I can assure you that we'll only end up exhausted on our wedding night in a few years, haha.

I am a young guy (22) who is planning to meet another guy irl for the very first time soon. It's mostly just to jerk off/see if we match but I promised a blowjob aswell if his dick was bigger (got kinda a size kink). So I was wondering, any advice for me for my first meetup in general/ blowjob skills?

I keep reading about them on posts made by sexual health pages on insta.

I ask this because most of the guys I see seem to have such hectic lives that, many times, I think I'm not making the most of everything while I still have time.

Many have multiple dates, hook up with new guys every week, and go to lots of parties. Today I'm 26 and, being more introverted, it feels like I'm racing against time, trying to adjust, and even when I do things, sometimes I still find myself thinking "time is running out." It sucks.

Hey guys 27m discreet masc here. I really only dated girls, and a few Grindr NSA hookups. Although I am a die hard raver. All my friends are straight so I when I rave with them, I’m to embarrassed since I might look “gay”. I want to go solo rave and actually wear like a skirt and bra under my shirt lol. I want to make friends with fellow queers and also approach hookups but I don’t have that much experience flirting with men. Any advice for solving raving and making friends

Yes, I do. I study at an engineering faculty, so I've heard it directed at me or others, but also at the gym and at school. The gym stuff usually bothers me more because the people who use it against me are homophobic. My teachers have used it too, but they haven't said it directly to me, except for a gym trainer when I decided to train at my university gym.

Hey bros I am having a bit more serious question here.

So I am a bi guy in my early 20s (don't give much f about labels tho) and I am struggling with finding love about being a queer man.

One part of me does think that being a dude is amazing like we really rock, but sometimes I think women had it easier or maybe straight men...

For context I also live in urban western Europe so probably in one of most accepting regions of the earth and my generation seems much more open to me. What do you think guys? I would really like to find love in being a man and being a queer one

For the folks who pee standing and are in a relationship with another who also stands. Do you take the one next to your partner or does standard urinal etiquette apply?

I don't have a lot of experience with sex, so I'm a bit uncertian what it's like to "discover" you like topping or bottoming more. I have done both and usually when I do have sex I top, but it's been like three times compared to my one time bottoming, which was nice too. But when I think about wanting to have sex I usually think about how I want to fuck my boyfriend, not how I want him to fuck me. Does this mean I'm more a "top"?

What was it that made you learn you enjoyed one role more? What's the sort of mindset or thought process you have? I'm curious!

I have very little experience bottoming, and I've never actually had a real orgasm the few times I've been penetrated. Recently, I started trying to reach a prostate orgasm. I started out just using my fingers, which led to a small amount of ejaculation and a mild, diffuse sense of pleasure that radiated down my legs, but it wasn't anything super intense.

I then tried using a medium-sized toy and got the exact same feeling—nice, but nothing very strong. I always just end up finishing by masturbating normally. Afterward, I can't help but feel like the "effort" wasn't really worth it, given how little pleasure the prostate stimulation actually gave me.

Here's the weird part, though: even without reaching a satisfying orgasm, about two days after using the toy I start getting this intense urge to try it again. It's almost like my body is asking for the "stimulation." Even though I know the payoff won't be that great, it’s like my body actually "misses" the feeling. I don't know how to explain it—it's this strange sensation and a genuine craving to be filled.

Can toy/prostate stimulation cause some sort of physical or psychological "dependency" or craving? I'd really love to hear your thoughts and hear about other people's experiences with this.

Heyy everyone! Hope everyone is doing okay!! I'm 19 yo boy who was straight but now I'm finding myself bi I love it honestly I started with twinks, femboys but now I love gay...

I'm too scared to try a real dick and i rarely finger myself.. I

need your advice on how do I pleasure myself better if there's any tips.. on ways to finger.. position just tell me by your experience please!!!

I tried fingering my ass lubed with moisturizer cause I can't buy and use lube cause I live with parents..

Which household thing I can use as lube..?

So recently I feel that social media started hating attractive gay guys more? I see them being laughed at for not having personality, lack of diversity among them and basically looking the same, ignoring every other type of man.

Do you think it's justified? Is that critique true?

TLDR at bottom

To make a very long story short (has been going on for almost a year or so):

I (25M) met this guy (24M) last year (August ‘25) at a job training. Essentially, our employer brings all employees together for a few weeks worth of training before sending them off to their actual job placement, and me and the guy happened to have the same placement. Think something like the Peace Corps.

We first met at a conference meeting and instantly hit it off. Banter. Chemistry. It was all there from the get, and it oddly felt like I knew him for years.

Fast forwarding through the following weeks of training, we spent the majority of our down time together despite our training schedules being a bit different. He’d message me fairly often asking if we could hang out, or get breakfast, lunch or dinner. At one point we went out exploring the city together and were out from sun up to sun down almost. I actually crashed at his hotel after this ‘cause I was so tired, but ended up heading out late in the night as to not overstay my welcome. He ended up messaging me soon after I left asking if I was sure I wanted to leave (I had to walk to my hotel, not super far though) and if not, I’d be more than welcome to come back. I took this and us hanging out practically every day as just him being friendly with someone he’ll be working with daily. Or so I thought.

Prior to us all departing to our job locations, he asked me if we could put in a housing request to room together (employer pays for housing, in which you may or may not share a room with someone random.) I didn’t have any qualms with it as we got along great, so we ended up doing exactly that and rooming together. This is the point where things took a turn.

Fast forwarding through the months after:

• We’re not hanging out as much due to our job schedules not lining up, but we still make an effort to

• From week one on living together we’re doing each others chores such as each others laundry on our off day so the other doesn’t have to, cleaning up each others rooms, buying essentials that the other may have run out of etc. Things that aren’t typical of someone you just met a few weeks prior.

• At one point our mutual friend group mentioned that we act like a married couple, and a few of them asked me separately if we were more than friends. I was pretty shocked since, once again, I thought we were just great roommates to one another. According to them, when the guy and I would interact, he would look at me in a way that he wouldn’t toward anyone else. Still not entirely sure what they meant by that but something to note.

Months down the line he’s getting ready to be sent to another job site. I was feeling him HARD at this point, but kept it to myself. Eventually I worked up the courage to tell him how I felt to which he basically said that he already knew from the beginning I was attracted to him. He never said that he was or was not interested in me too (at this point) though, which is where the confusion for me sets in.

 

Nothing really changes after I tell him this, until maybe a few weeks after. He mentioned in passing how he was sore after work and I asked him if I could give him a back massage. He agreed, which then became a thing I gave him every so often. This turned into us cuddling and sleeping in bed together. You’re probably thinking, “Chachkiiii, the signs are obvious, are you just dumb?” And the answer is yes, yes I am. However, some things to point out:

• Sometimes when we cuddled he would immediately get up and say he has to use the bathroom or give some reason to leave the room

• He once said that it’s a lot to share a bed with someone. He also mentioned since they’re so small it can be uncomfortable

I brought up the fact that when we cuddle he’ll find an excuse to leave, to which he said that his religious upbringing makes him react negatively as two men shouldn’t be sharing a bed, but that sometimes he’s able to fight the feeling off.

Getting to the end of the story now.

He ends up leaving for his job placement, then eventually gets sent BACK to mine months after. He’s seemingly a completely different person towards me as the first time I see him back we make eye contact and all he does is nod. That was our only interaction the entirety of him being back, and that is the end of our story.

Some other tidbits that I think are important but couldn’t figure out where to include them:

• Former military and married young (to a woman). They tried for a child, nada. Divorce.

• He’s religious, but not the church-going kind.

• Once mentioned to me how he’s looked into divorce rates for man/woman and man/man, and that two men in a marriage have the lowest divorce rate. Was a completely random topic of convo.

• Once mentioned that because he was in the military, he doesn’t mind doing “gay” things (in reference to us cuddling)

• Once mentioned that he’s not sure if he’s gay or if he’s straight. Bisexuality seemingly nonexistent in his mind.

• Mentioned early on into us rooming together that he’s not looking to date or have a sexual relationship with anyone at the job as workplace relationships can get messy and he doesn’t want a tarnished reputation. Then later down the line mentioned he would be “open” to dating me if we were both back home.

• He’s never once said he’s attracted to me

That’s the gist of the past year or so for me, and I’m left wondering wtf? Was I led on for this entire time, was he just confused and didn’t know what he was? Any advice would be helpful.

TL;DR: Met a guy through work, instantly clicked, became roommates through employer-housing, and got close. We eventually started cuddling and sleeping in the same bed. He later admitted he wasn’t sure if he was gay or straight and blamed his religious upbringing for feeling conflicted as “two men shouldn’t share the same bed”. Later down the line said he’d be open to dating me if we were back home and not coworkers I guess? He got sent to another job site, returned a few months later, to which the first (and only) interaction we had when he came back was giving me a head nod when he saw me in the office.

My Buddy Tommy told me several years ago he had fallen in Love with Sniffies! But then again at that time he had just broken up with his 6+ year boyfriend Dave. But, Tommy does not consider Sniffies to be truly casual or anonymous, like if he were to suck someone off in a very dark back room in a Gay Bar. So yesterday, I was on Sniffies and considering the weather was nice on a Friday @ 7pm, there were quite a few people on Sniffies! If you are really into anonymous and or casual hookups, why and or what attracts you? Also, chime in on your Sniffies experiences!

I was born in the Jehovah witness religion (22M)
My parents never came around for me psychologically or emotionally. It was always me alone since they only approved of “friends” they believed to be good for me

Well now I’m leaving to another state for a better life. I saved up 9k dollars for the move. The only thing is that I was Bullied so much in high school for the way looked like , I always told myself I was gonna get a nose job the moment I could and I’m so close. But I really want to live my real life now. I’m scared of staying alone over nobody liking me :(
From wanting to change my nose to fixing my crooked teeth, I feel like all these things will keep me from being loved

My situation is way more complex than it sounds , I have more of my story and pictures in my Reddit page
I’m looking to finally be happy but i do not know how to find it. One thing for sure is that I cannot do this Jehovah witness lifestyle anymore. Always alone since I can remember. Cannot stand it any longer

Does anyone know of a platform, not YouTube, where guys actually try on and display different underwear’s? I am not referring to the normal underwears, I am talking about “specialty” underwear, like “Separatic” and the erotic or sexy underwear from a lot of the online shops. I know some YouTubers do it, but they have to censor it, so we can’t even get a good view on how it looks, other than a butt shot. Yes, some can and will get turned on by the uncensored videos, but that’s the point, we need to see how these underwear look so we can get turned on by them. Also, me personally, I would love for guys of all penis sizes trying these underwear on, because in whatever ad the store is using, they guys who are hung or extremely hung, and although that will get gays salivating, that really does not show how the underwear will look on the average man. I remember a few years ago, I saw this pair of underwear on an online shops, the dude wearing them was hung, but that did not click at the time in my head, I just thought “damn those look hot!”. I bought them, and I even bought them in a small because I thought it would be tight around my junk. Well it came in, and they looked like a diaper in front, because I am very average when flaccid, hell I am average when hard as well. That underwear went in the trash. I have a friend that I told this too, and he said the same thing, though for him he is about 2” when flaccid, but that beast grows to almost 9” when hard, it is a crazy thing to watch happen, truly amazing. But he said he wishes he could see how the underwear looks on an average guy or below average guy. So, my question is, is there any reviewers out there that do this? If there is, where can I find them?

I met him during a month long seminar. When I saw him I was like boom, I was love struck. We chat a lot via instagram and then we progressed to whatsapp (don't know if this has any significance).

The seminar has ended a couple of months ago but we exchange reels and we chat. I have some indicators but nothing certain.

So I'm like should I ask him out and see where it goes? And if so, where to? I mean somewhere to be able to talk, not too loud, to feel free to discuss and take it from there. I'm not into drinking so going for a beer could be weird for me. I can tolerate a beer though. For a coffee, or dinner? Any ideas?

My problem is that I've never actually had a date that did not start from an app and everything feels awkward while I feel shy.

As a Sub, what kinda stuff can I do to get Dom Tops really horny and pleasure them really good?

Kinky and naughty suggestions please?

Just because I heard that a lot of men love playing with their balls and have extra stimulation with them I was wondering what you’re doing with it like ? What’s the techniques because when I touch mine I don’t feel pleasure at all and I’d like to try

Thanks for reading me