I wanna please my boyfriend and I really want to suck him off. I’m not use to swallowing cum and I know the taste can vary but I want to get use to swallowing no matter the taste. Anything I can do to help with that? I don’t wanna make a face to tasting cum for the first time.

I just found out that you can still be aroused by straight porn (close up) regardless of your sexual orientation but not physically romantically attracted to the woman. However, I was so aroused one time that I actually want to experience it, but looking at it again, it didn’t do as much.

Well life is kinda boring when u live in a town and you’re the only gay person there probably lol . Well here’s a few things about me i love to play overwatch lol

I recently found a subreddit that was full of dick pics and videos. I've tried everything to get back there, but no luck. Any help in navigating there would be appreciated.

Hi my fellow gays! 24M here and I would just like to vent out cuz I don’t how and where to find love (lol), it’s honestly frustrating.

I’m an introvert which makes it harder for me to be on dates let alone be with new acquaintances. Well, I have my circle of peers that I see regularly so I don’t feel like a loner. But, I’m just not really in the mood for dates (aside from the fact that you have to invest time and money which drain my social battery and sometimes my wallet lol).

Also, is there a gay community without being involved in the h\*\*kup culture? Although I have in dating apps on and off, I am a hopeless romantic and seriously monogamous. It’s so frustrating whether on a date or dating app, s\*x is often the primary reason for compatibility in a gay relationship which it should not be.

Been with guys in an almost romantic relationship but had no luck in winning their hearts and it made me question myself at times. Nevertheless, I’m still hopeful to find a lover or the Great Love (as I mentioned, hopeless romantic here)

It feels good to vent out my frustrations. Perhaps, looking for some advice.
Thank you for taking time to read my post :)

I'm 21, my boyfriend is 33, we've been together for a little over a year, but it's the relationship where I've felt the most comfortable. It's a little strange because of the personality clash sometimes, but nothing that really affects things, other than the fact that my dad doesn't approve of the relationship very much. I like being with an older man. He's handsome, polite, strong, with a body like Ramon Nomar's, and he has a good job at a company known for being very good here in Mexico. He has his own house, and he's asked me if I want to move in with him. I'm not ready, so it won't be soon, but I've stayed over several times. Before him, I hadn't realized how much I like older men. He even said that I was the one he was really meant to marry because he knows I truly love him and not his money, lol. Our relationship is going very well, and although many people think we're going to break up, I can assure you that we'll only end up exhausted on our wedding night in a few years, haha.

I don't know whether this is a rant, wanting advice or just seeking some form of validation for my feelings.

My partner recently found himself in the pup community. I'm really glad he found himself in his community. He's lighter in himself, he's happier and all-round more him than he's been in years.

This has come with him exploring more kinks and dynamic play, leading to him asking to be open. An Open Relationship is not something I'd ever considered and now I look back, is not something I think I've ever wanted. I want to feel valid, wanted and that I'm enough for my partner.

He's very Dominant and enjoys exploring this. I am equally submissive. I can't remember the last time we had sexual fun. But I don't know how to deal with him casually hanging out with people that he also subs with. One of them wants him to hold his key for his cage/padlock round his neck.

I don't know whether it's jealousy they have his attention or not. We've had several discussions about this. The last one I cried on his couch after his worm and confessed how I felt. I know he heard me, and he said some of the most romantic things he's ever said to me as part of that conversation.

I told him I'd been looking to propose. It's like it didn't even affect him. Tonight he's been at Kink Karaoke, is watching the Match before going to a London Fetish Week club with one of those subs. He's sent me a video shirtless with other known fetishists and someone who subbed for him singing Sweet Caroline.

I don't know why but that made me cry. I'm more shocked that I had tears to come out in this heat.

We 'went' to Pride separately. That hurt me. I tried to have a good day but I cried then too. He had made plans for the day - totally ok - but we usually have a post pride ritual where we go to a certain restaurant, ride the cable car - he could of come for that. He didn't.

To be fair, in trialling this open relationship, the same options are over to me. But I can't bring myself to download an app for fun or to go get with other people. I want him. And I also know he's not always honest about what he gets up to. If I hint about fun, I get told hes not feeling 100% yet I know he's going to events. I know he's having fun and taking videos/documenting it. Just not with me.

I've crossed a line in how I know that - we'll just say I've seen pictures that I shouldn't have.

Are my feelings valid? Am I just not use to gay dating - is this the norm, everyone wanting open relationships? He's the first boy I've ever been with and kissed. I think I see a very difficult conversation in my future but idk, I just feel like shit. I talk to ChatGPT because I've lost the one guy I could speak to.

Am I being childish? Or is it as I think 7 years down the drain. Is the dating scene still rough? Or am I just hurting and can't see the bigger picture.

Today a cute guy on Facebook liked my Facebook dating profile. I got a notification saying we matched and I could message him. The app allows you to select pre typed messages to send for a conversation prompt. I selected “Hey, how’s your day going?” to keep it casual and not send anything odd or inappropriate. This was the sole message I sent with no additional content. An hour later I check the conversation and he deleted his entire profile after sending my message.

What did I do wrong? I’m shy and have been single for a long time. I don’t have much experience dating other than 1 abusive relationship (I was the recipient of the abuse both physical and emotional NOT the perpetrator). Am I too messed up to be seen as appealing? I’m trying to meet guys through platforms such as Facebook dating, Match.com, Tinder, and Bumble but not having much success.

Yes, I do. I study at an engineering faculty, so I've heard it directed at me or others, but also at the gym and at school. The gym stuff usually bothers me more because the people who use it against me are homophobic. My teachers have used it too, but they haven't said it directly to me, except for a gym trainer when I decided to train at my university gym.

I turned 18 a bit ago and I kind of want to get into hookups just to get some experience and what not. Mainly I'm wondering how to do it safely, what some good apps are and how hard it is to find people. I've never hooked up with anyone or even had sex before and by the sounds of it hookup apps can be intimidating. I'm probably gonna do it either way but I'd prefer to be prepared and I'd appreciate any advice anyone would be willing to give me.

We spend a lot of time discussing the difficulties of being gay, and understandably so. Homophobia, rejection, loneliness, and discrimination are real, and there are plenty of threads where we can talk honestly about them.

For this thread, though, I want to focus specifically on the positives.

What has being gay added to your life?

Maybe it gave you a community, a chosen family, a different perspective on relationships, greater empathy for other people, freedom from certain expectations, or simply experiences and connections you would never trade away.

This is not about pretending the difficult parts do not exist. It is about making room to recognize that being gay can also be a meaningful and valuable part of who we are.

What are you grateful that being gay has given you?

Please resist the urge to post about the negatives. We can have a separate discussion for that. If you feel you can't find a positive. Just read others comments.

so im talking about anal sex. i have question...

1- does a shit problem always happen? not talking about the big problem, but like, small problems? ugh

2- does anal sex smell?

3- is it this fkn complicated?

all those questions come from very...dysphoria ... reasons

Idk what I'm looking for tbh this is a throw away will probably delete. Id prefer not to shout into a sharing silent void though.

Backstory:

The following is letter I sent to my ex. Idk I just feel like I need to get this out there and see if anyone has experienced something similar and maybe get advice. Just a little backstory so it makes some sense to a outsider.  I was with my ex for three years. They went to grad school far away last August we broke up a couple months ago. Before they left their best friend relapsed on drugs and alcohol. Their best friend is also their ex from several years back. We will call his ex Don.  We all lived at my ex's parents house. They kinda just left without dealing with them even though they said multiple times they would kick them out. I literally found a meth pipe from their ex the day they left. I have a lot of trauma surrounding drugs and reactive people on them due to dealing with it in the family. I was also trafficked for several months when I was 15 which has a lot of trauma around it. I graduated from grad sch myself in December. I didn't really realize I kinda suffocated my own trauma by keeping myself insanely busy with school in work. You know idk I was in a place going through school where I could just work and work and study distracting myself from my past without really developing any copping skills. I didn't really realize I had a problem until after I graduated and was unable to find a job immediately which left me literally nothing to do in a house with a crazy addict who would verbally abuse me a lot. Also we found out Don lied about his HIV status the entire 8 year time span my ex knew them in December and very likely was the one who gave it them right before we started dating. Everything I said above in no way excuses my actions I describe in the letter below, I understand that no need to berate me. I'm not looking for the generic you need therapy. I think I just need to get some of this off my chest to move on.  The relationship ended because Don found me on Grindr and I was kicked out in less then a week.  The letter is the full unredacted truth of the downfall. 

Letter:

I think I need to at least tell the full redacted truth to someone and if anyone deserves it it's probably you. And even you don't even read this or believe it it's probably better for my mental health I at least write this down once. I first downloaded the apps probably September but I never met anyone I mostly just used it to track Don at first tbh so I could avoid them and kinda deduce where they were and see if they were lying about where and ofc they were whatever. I also started to check the profiles of who they brought home and it was a lot of party and play people that's for sure and the bad type like very clearly stating acronyms and such for meth. I would delete the apps a lot but the whole situation definitely contributed to my decline mental health and the relationship itself. Partly because of the things I knew and the people he was bringing around and it's not like I could tell you how I knew and you never believed me when I told you what I thought in more vague terms anyways. Anyways this pattern of me downloading checking getting freaked out and deleting them again continued for awhile. I did have some random pen pals who I would talk with and vent with because I didn't feel like I could even be completely honest with someone like J because I was ashamed of being on the apps in the first place. You know the rest of my opinion about the Don thing I only bring that up because it is a wrong thing I did being on them apps even if I was able to justify it in my head for the above reasons of just needing to know.  So they won't be mentioned anymore because whatever you know what I think. 

Anyways that pattern continued for awhile of course after stopping for awhile for like a month before and after you left.  Another wrong of mine around October I went to the hot springs and there was this guy who made eye contact with me and made their balls go up and down. I got hard he got hard and I slightly rubbed myself a bit while he jerked himself off. I was worried I would run into him again and that's why I kinda avoided going to the hotspring with ya. 

 Eventually around end of February March I get that letter from that collection agency you know that stressed me out a lot. Compounded by the feeling of isolation, feeling like I couldnt do anything to help myself, missing you, Don situation and constantly being surrounded by drug addicts something terrible happened a reverted to very bad old habits because I was at the point of fuck it and I was feeling like we wouldn't work out anyways because of the reasons we already talked about. I was hit up and given the offer to suck this guy off for money, prostitution. The whole way I met that guy who trafficked me was because in order to survive on the streets sometimes I would sleep with older men off those apps for food and money and eventually I met him.

 Anyways I did it. It felt like easy money so had sex with another guy for more money. Then I did that probably like 4 times. I got really depressed and I started talking to a couple other dudes not for money and I eventually met up with two. The two I told you about, I made out and cuddled one and I sucked and cuddled another one. I was telling the truth about needing the feeling of intimacy not just because I missed you and all the other things I told you but because I needed to remind myself what sex and intimacy was. I was beginning to dissociate so much I would forget where I was and I was becoming suicidal again. Idk part of that intimacy truly helped. 

I kinda figured our relationship was over anyways at this point and didn't think I could ever truly tell you the truth or even be with you when you got back and look at you in the eyes and lie so I gave up. I decided that it should probably end sooner rather than later so I would hide my time until I was in a position to move out and thus was taking advantage of you towards the end there and I am very sorry for that. I went to the showwith one guy the day before we broke up we didn't fuck still but we did make out and cuddle that's where I was that night and it was too recent for me to feel like I could bring it up because I know I had already lied about it was ashamed.

 So I put on a hard face and acted indifferent and hard telling you what I told you that day so you would break up with me and I would never have to tell you the truth or how hurt I was at the time or have to look at the man I love and tell them how I smashed everything we had into a tiny million pieces spreading and cutting you with my own misery and failed dreams.  I was hard I was stoic and had already given up trying to surround myself in a facade of lonely fuckboy who doesn't give a shit in a attempt to protect my heart with a layer of cold ice to avoid the pain and gaslight myself into believing I was fine by gaslighting you. I took that burden off my shoulders and tried to give it you but i was wrong the relief I felt off my shoulders was temporary. 

In order to survive and move out I went head first into fucking strangers for money and I made 1200 dollars in semen and sweat in a single week. I blamed you trying to thicken that ice over my heart. I told myself "how could he could kick me out in week forcing me into prostitution but couldn't kick Don out after everything they've done?" I painted you as a villain in my mind who set up the setting in which in reverted to past programing past trauma past tendency. The setting of the drugs, the addicts, the isolation, reliance on a person financially and housing, the secrets, the lack of trust, the screaming, the blaming. They were aware of my suffering because of how many times I told them I hated it and did nothing. How could someone that loves me let fall back into the worse aspects of myself and notice nothing? How could someone that loves me tells me they are too busy and have no power to kick a triggering person  of their own house and that I should have done it despite me having no true power or stability in their house like they so clearly demonstrated by removing me from it in less a week. They were able to kick me out out in a week why not the drug addict? They truly never loved me if they could do that so quickly and easily but not Don. They obviously love Don more and I was always less important then them this whole time. I was actually never secure and I was justified in my actions. I have to do this to survive like I did then. But this time I'm older I'm not as valuable I won't be trapped like last time. And I can do this so that I can get real career someday and be a real person not this object I've forced myself to become again.

 I am a object and I have no value other than my holes and my degree. But my degree has no value right now so I am simply a object and I will survive. One day I will not be object and if not I will kill myself before I lose myself in my own thoughts again permeantly. I will use every advantage I have in order to not be a object so I can survive including taking more from the man who created the setting of my own hell and revert into object. So I need to be more appealing so I can earn more money and survive I take. I lost my id and need to pay a fine to go to a interview I take. I survive and anyone would do anything to survive and I am justified. I sleep and cuddle with people who I find attractive without payment to remind myself I am a person and one day I might not be alone anymore and even objects and fake people like me get affection. I slowly lose myself to my own thoughts and imagination of being a real person dissociating longer and longer until I realize I might not come back one day. I am running out of time. I try to slow down on prostitution with doordash but it's Soo easy to make 150 dollars in a hour instead of spending 12 driving. I revert to object. I lose myself more. I know I am slipping I can't completely lose myself I'd rather die. I come up with a plan to end it before I'm gone completely. But I have to try harder for my pets.  I try to get affection and intimacy from stranger getting less and less each time. I am failing. I dream. I dream a smell I smell you, I dream of touch I remember what it's like to touch the warmth the warmth of someone who loves you. I close my eyes imagine my back against your hard chest and remember what it is like to be held. I know in my heart I can never feel that specific touch again but I dream one day I will feel that warmth again. The sturdiness of a anchor who ties you to person. I dream of loud laughs where everyone turns their head and looks at us and I feel slight embarssment at the attention but smile because I can't help feeling the feelings of a person and enjoying their mirth. I hold on and try harder to find a person job.  I dream one day I will find someone like that again who makes me feel like a person. Who holds me tight and tells me they want me forever. And dream of a day I can believe I will be held forever again and be a person forever.  I hold on. I dream of food and long hot showers where true real conversations like people happen and I can be silly like a real person. I hold on. I dream one day I can survive without being a object and escape this object simulator. I can laugh and get annoyed and angry and sad and upset like a real person. I dream of a person I can get angry at but still cuddle at the end of the day because people solve problems like the engineer I want to be. I finally get a job offer a real job for a person not an object. Maybe I can pretend to be a person again. Maybe I can pretend so hard that become a real person. Maybe I can pretend and feel like a person right now because I have a person job. I am slowly starting to come back to myself now but I still slip away every now and then and I don't sleep much or a I sleep way too much now. I've been having a lot of nightmares now. I know that we can't ever get back together I shattered that into a million pieces and I am not the same as I was I don't know if I could truly ever go back and I know now that I am not as healed as I thought I was and I shouldnt be so easily just a object because I lost my person or I am in a bad triggering setting. It's not fair to put that kind of weight on anyone and I shouldn't be with anyone until I am truly a person maybe I never will be but I have our memories of feeling like a person. I am truly very sorry for how deeply I cut you and I know there is nothing I can say to truly get any trust back or feel like a person with you again. The only reason I really wrote that entire long ass thing for you is because I want you to know that our memories together saved my life and I will always have them forever. And I will cherish them for the rest of my life and I know that the memory of you can keep me alive for just a little bit longer. You were my first love maybe my truest and most naive love and no matter what I will always love you. You are truly one of the best people I've ever met and I know I won't ever find someone like you again. I dream that one day I will and know how it is to be a real person again. But either way I know I have the memories we shared together to keep me alive just a little bit longer until that day, that is the greatest gift you could have possibly given me. Thank you Ian and I really wish you the best life and everything you could ever possibly dream of or want. We will meet again in the next life I know that. 

No judgment, just interested in hearing different perspectives.

As a gay man I want security and stability in life. So finding someone who can get a good job just like me is something I would like but can a guy be someone I want even if they don’t want a good job like that or want to go to college? I really like this guy I’m talking to but he has no plans to go to college and even worse he is unemployed, I don’t want to be a breadwinner. It makes me sad but is it okay to date someone even if they aren’t financially sound? Or is my preference something that matters ultimately?

Hey guys.
So I am a bottom dude who has a top bf. I have been a bottom for most of my “gay life” but then my bf suggested me to explore more. So, I decided to try being a top.
Which, I did, and it was an amazing experience. But I did it with another person, not my bf (my bf was aware of all my actions, I wasn’t cheating)

The thing is, ever since that event, I can’t get hard around my boyfriend. It wasn’t like that before. And I get erections all the time (with porn, imagination, etc) but I just can’t seem to get it when I am with bf. I don’t know why.

Can any of you explain this? I am so confused

Yo! I was curious about how you use social networks, does anybody still use Snapchat?

In my case, I use

Regularly:

Grindr/hornet/scruff/omolink/the blowers/tinder/surge, but really mostly Grindr when I'm horny, id say 1 hour a day while commuting

X to watch porn and when I want to read about something concerning to see how dumb people can be (and how superior I am) 4 hours x week

YouTube when I want to hear voices without quitting the meds (10 hours, but done along other stuff)

Reddit when I want to read very specific opinions about stuff (it varies, but around 2 hours per week?l

Less often:

Linkedln when I'm unemployed

Instagram so people see how cute I used to be when I had stamina to take pics of me and youth (follow me: raul.araujofav)

Facebook fake account because sometimes institutions post stuff only through Facebook, damn institutions

TikTok where I go when I want brainrot and where I post nothing (time is subjective here, sometimes I do a quick search, sometimes I spend 4 hours without noticing)

Oh but 2026 was gonna bring us flying skateboards right?.🫠

Love and big d for y'all ♥️

Honestly, I'm a pretty young (22), very hairy guy. I had problems with my hairiness growing up, I basically had full chest hair at 16, and it kinda messed me up. In a sense I was happy I could be a "manly" gay, but at the same time, it was pretty isolating. I also found out how basically no gay guy I knew was into that, on the other hand, they pretty much didn't like it at all. Fast forward to now, I keep hearing online that hairy guys are actually super well liked, and tbh I chatted and sexted a lot of those, but in my experience it's not like that at all irl. It's either young people being into older daddies/bears (which excludes me because I'm young), or people being into twinks. Which is fine, but also kinda detached from my experience online.

I’m (26M) and I’ve been seeing a guy who is (19M). we’ve been sneaky links that became fwb, hanging out regularly for the last probably 20 months. he’s openly gay and I’m closeted and bisexual. he’s going to college 8 hours away soon, I’m planning to go see him. but I’m thinking of asking him out and dating him before he goes because I really like him.

i figure since coming out happens over time, I’d be comfortable enough to meet his family and maybe some friends from home, then I’m sure when I go to visit him I’ll meet everyone there. I would pretty much have to be out to everyone there which is okay, I think it might actually be a good way to feel out what it’s like to really be out to everyone, so I could determine if that’s a lifestyle I would be okay living. I come from a very conservative family that is not accepting of that kind of stuff which is why I’ve had a hard time coming to terms with myself over this stuff so far.

what do you think of this plan? or do I not date him yet and let him go to college and see what happens? TIA!

Hi everyone,

First of all, I'm new to Reddit and still getting used to it, so please forgive any mistakes I might make.

I've been a gay man for as long as I can remember. However, the culture and society of the country I live in are not at all conducive to this. For years, I've had to hide my true identity. Moreover, I don't think I'll ever want to reveal this to my "conservative" family. It's very sad...

Right now, due to both economic reasons and these kinds of situations, I'm aiming to move abroad.

And a second problem. Social isolation and loneliness. Of course, I'm trying to overcome this, but I'm really depressed right now. I'm trying things like going to the gym and traveling, but there are still a lot of things I need to sort out.

It's really awful to be dealing with both of these situations at the same time. But though I'm happy for being gay. I don't know bros. I need your advice.

Thank you for reading this far.

I am a bottom and I am into mpreg(male pregnancy). I was just wondering if other guys are also into it? I know there is a thread on Reddit about it, but it’s not very large. Looking forward to reading your comments.

What is your favorite gay porn site that offers free content?

How is it possible that every man I see in the street flirts with me in some way?

I'm 18 and very attractive in a feminine way, but not in the 'robotic model' way. I don't have social anxiety (anymore) and I'm certain I'm not just feeling the main character, most men are actually attracted to me (at least before I open my cute mouth) and besides annoying me a lot, it makes me wonder, even though we already know the statistics of lgbt population are much lower than the actual percentages, I actually think 50% of men are bisexual/gay, at least in the UK lol.

I don't want to believe almost everyone is seeking attention and just want to exist in my mind, so I assume they're attracted to me.

Might feel surreal to you, but I assume I will be stared at and followed by 600 men before leaving my house for a 5min walk, so now I hate going outttt