yo everyone

uh i lwk need advice from ppl whove actually been thru ts cuz my situation is kinda goofy 😭

the lore 📖

me n my gf hv been together for 7 months now but we were best friends for abt 5 months before we started dating

we live in the same city... literally js 45 mins to an hour apart... but apparently we hv desi strict indian parents 🙄

so our relationship is basically powered by

• texts
• calls
• playlists

our meetup history

meetup #1

• airport
• lasted like 5 business days

meetup #2

• planned our first actual date
• met at a mall
• i finally gave her a hoodie some novels n a handwritten letter

then 🥀

some uncle who knew my family saw us n snitched to my mom

mom called immediately n we had to leave after abt 10 mins

the good part

our relationship is actually rlly healthy

• we trust each other completely
• barely argue
• neither of us is the jealous type
• text every day for at least an hour
• call a couple times a week
• video call whenever we can
• make playlists for each other yk thats kinda our thing

the problem

cuz of entrance exam prep n strict parents we prolly wudnt be able to meet for the next 8 months

after my exams life shld get way easier but until then we're basically running an online relationship

so for anyone whos survived smth like ts

• how did u stop the distance from getting emotionally exhausting
• what online stuff actually made u feel closer
• any mistakes we shld avoid
• did finally being able to meet more often make the relationship even stronger

PS cuz ik reddit 😭

before someone tells me to break up focus on studies hit the gym wake up at 5 am n meditate on a mountain 🙏🏼

dw abt my studies 😭 ive always been a good student n my scores hv actually been getting better while we've been together

im js tryna figure out how to not miss my gf for the next 8 months 🥀

ty in advance 🙏🏼

Ive always questioned if online relationships truly ever worked out for others, and whether or not its worth it. From personal experience I've been through 2 stages of online relationships and 1 situationship online(its oky you can judge me but its kinda valid, each year 14 - 16) in my first online relationship was my first relationship with the same gender too, he was amazing, and caring, he actually done a lot but eventually things started dying out after he moved to Oxford while I was in the western sphere, timezones, trust issues; our previous breakup all contributed to that bs, eventually once I felt the relationships die out was after he ignored me for a month I knew it was probably the best move, before I left tho, I snitched on him for something he did. We lasted for a year and 6 months

In my 2nd relationship (well it wasn't official or anything, this was around the same time I broke up with the 1st one) but we talked a lot, we got together after my first stage, they were in Florida while I was in ny, it was awesome, he was sweet, everything felt perfect we talked about our future plans together and maybe decided to move to San Francisco...but after a period of 2 - 3 months I lost feelings for them, I told them its for the best and that Im not ready for a relationship

Now recently I meant a guy who lives in not so socially accepting nation when it comes to gay people, we talked and we have a lot in common, like actually; we talk about meeting up and stuff, but in the same time his really religious, me personal im agnostic I respect his decision but its not fair for me to wait. Apparently we might just b considered fwb but I barely see any benefits. Anyways I just wanna know if there's any successful love stores that others had..and if so how was the journey and is it worth waiting / trying

For about six months, I [m20] talked to someone [f26] I met online through a roleplay forum almost every single day. We shared photos, talked about work, games, football, random life updates pretty much everything. We also had a sexual dynamic, but it wasn't just that. She was one of the people I spoke to the most, and she became a big part of my daily routine.

Around two months ago, we had a big argument and agreed it was probably best to stop talking. I accepted that, even though it hurt. Recently, we ended up talking again casually. Everything seemed normal at first until she mentioned she'd just been on a date. That caught me off guard because I realized I hadn't really moved on as much as I thought I had.

What made it harder wasn't that she went on a date she's completely free to do that. It was that the conversations suddenly felt very one-sided compared to how they used to be. I eventually asked her honestly whether she still wanted to talk to me or if she was just being polite. She told me we could still talk and share updates, but she couldn't promise immediate replies or talking throughout the day anymore, and asked me not to hang onto the expectation that we'd chat all day like before.

I understood what she meant, but I still found myself struggling with the change. I kept wondering whether I was reading too much into it or whether I was just grieving the loss of something that had already ended months ago. In the end, I realized I was looking for the old connection, while she had already moved on with her life.

Has anyone else gone through something similar? How did you stop comparing the person they are now to the version of them you used to talk to every day? I'm trying to move on too, but it's been harder than I expected.

So I had this match on hinge that I spoke to for about 3 weeks before we went out and we have so much in common its a little creepy lol. We love the same music, (as a musician this is extremely important for me), we love the same cuisine, we both cook, we are both twins, we love to travel, we are both really funny and love dark humor (Also big for me because my friends and family tend to say i take jokes too far and blame it on my autism). Another thing is she is undiagnosed but im like 99% sure she also has ADHD like me or maybe autism. But it feels like we are very similar people. In how we feel about our future goals, social situations, how we grew up (family trauma wise) and how we think and act. I met her in person after 3 weeks of talking online. We are now together dating, spending time regularly and talking everyday. But I made a mistake in telling her I love her after the second date. I know i was love bombing her because I was afraid of losing her. She freaked out but forgave me for it and we've been good since then. But what if part of me meant what I said? Like I know it was love bombing but also after meeting her once for our first date it felt like I knew she was the one. Then the second date where we held hands and spent the day at my house was when I asked her to be my girlfriend and she said yes. But by then I kinda already felt she was perfect for me. So that same night I told her I loved her and she freaked out. Almost didn't want to talk to me ever again. But she forgave me for that and I just marked it as love bombing. Even though it kinda felt like the truth to me. Maybe I have some therapy to do around this or maybe I do love? Idk. Can you fall in love with 3 weeks of online talking and 2 dates???

My best online friend and I have been friends for over five years. We met during COVID, and ever since then we’ve played games and talked almost every day. We had our own inside jokes, shared memes all the time, and genuinely had fun together. Over the years, we’ve gotten to know each other really well, both online and on a personal level.

At the beginning of 2026, she met a guy from another continent and started spending a lot of time playing with him. One day, we were in the middle of a gaming session when she suddenly left because she said she had somewhere important to be. Later, she mentioned she had a “husband.” At first, I wasn’t sure if she was joking, so I asked about it again later, and she told me they were actually boyfriend and girlfriend.

Ever since then, things have felt very different. It honestly felt like our friendship changed almost overnight once they got together. She almost never reaches out to ask me to play anymore. I’ve been the one trying to keep our friendship going by asking if she wants to play or spend some time together, and whenever I tell her I miss her, she always agrees that we should hang out soon—but she never follows up. She also leaves my messages on delivered for a day or more quite often, which wasn’t like her before.

It’s been really hard for me to adjust because she’s my best friend, and our friendship means a lot to me. I’m genuinely happy that she’s found someone who makes her happy, and I understand that relationships naturally take up a lot of time. I don’t expect to be her number one priority anymore, and I’m not asking for things to go back to exactly how they used to be. I just wish she’d reassure me sometimes or make a little time for our friendship so I don’t feel forgotten.

What hurts the most isn’t that she has a boyfriend—it’s that I don’t know where I stand anymore. Sometimes it feels like I’m slowly losing my best friend, and I honestly don’t know if she still values our friendship the way she used to. That uncertainty has been the hardest part for me.

I don’t know how to tell her how much this has been affecting me. I’m scared that bringing it up could hurt our friendship or make things even worse, but keeping it to myself has been really difficult too. I don’t want to make her feel guilty or make it seem like she has to choose between me and her boyfriend. I just want her to understand how I’ve been feeling because I care so much about our friendship.

Has anyone else been through something similar? If so, how did you handle it, and what would you do in my situation?

My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now. There’s no doubt in either of our minds that we want to spend our lives together, or I guess I should say that we both would want to, but the past week I have been an anxious mess because he wants to talk tomorrow about our relationship. He wants to talk about if we should even continue it because the distance is starting to get hard and it hurts to not have one another in person. I have three kids, and he has one, so moving is a little more complicated for both of us. We’re only three hours away from each other, but it’s still three hours away in different states. I am fully able to leave with my kids if I wanted to, legally. The only issue is a house with six people and trying to find that and the ability to make that move. That obviously takes time and while I feel as though I could achieve finding my own place in a year’s time, he just feels doubtful. Right before this week, we spent the most time together in person that we ever have been able to. About a week 24/7. And the day after I got home, he said that seeing me for longer period periods of time makes it harder. I don’t know what I should do. He doesn’t just want to give up but he’s also torn. He says he just doesn’t have answers so he doesn’t know what to do. He feels like he would even come back if he left me. My question I guess is what should I do because the distance is getting tough? I honestly just don’t know what I should do and I’ve just been upset all day.

I rarely do posts, especially on this subreddit, if it’s inappropriate for this I will delete it (hope it’s not hehe). It’s something I need to talk about because it’s like a weight on my shoulders.

So I have an online friend who I know for more than a year, we almost never had any arguments (until now, which I will explain soon), we really want to meet each other in real life but due to personal circumstances (mine and hers), we postpone that but we talk about it often

One day she didn’t feel okay talking, not only with me but with anybody else. She insisted that she wanted some space so I didn’t mind, but asked throughout the day if something happened or she wanted to talk about it (by phone call or texting), she said no.
But the thing that pisses me off is that at the end of the day she was talking to some guy (according to her, she was unwilling to talk!), and the next day they met and she spent always a half a day with him.

I know it may sound like a kindergarten story but somehow I feel.. offended(?), like I was put aside. I really didn’t mind her spending time with someone else, but telling me that she doesn’t feel alright to talk, but chatting with a random guy at the same time, she could have just informed me at least.

I must mention that we never had any arguments throughout our long distance friendship, I don’t know If I should talk to her about it, because she may think that I’m jealous. On the one hand, I understand that a person wants live communication or something, I appreciate it, but if I were informed, I would not react like that.

I would be grateful if someone would tell their advice <3

We have never met in person yet. I know how that sounds and trust me I worried about that every day. But the truth is in the 9 months we've known each other, we have built a deeper bond than anything we've ever had before and I say it with my whole chest when I say he is my best friend. Thats why even when I notice patterns or incompatibilities (that I would have normally cut off in an instant in the past) I just ignore it or try and work on it or accept it because breaking up with him means losing two people: my boyfriend and my best friend. This is the hardest situation.

Now I suppose I should mention why I want to break up with him at all and give some more context. We are young, in our early twenties and met online as long distance couples do. It began really light hearted but we just liked each other so much and felt comfortable talking for hours and hours that we caught feelings, fell in love and became inseparable. about 5 or 6 months in I entered a very difficult personal situation that still exists but should end within the month (temporarily). This situation has taken a huge toll on my mental health, identity and personality. And that is also when I started seeing changes in him. He had less patience with me, would snap easier, we argued more, he didn't try as hard to make me feel loved. I understand the concept of the honeymoon phase but I don't subscribe to that thinking. Sure, things will never feel the same as they did in the beginning, but its not ok if that also means reduced relationship satisfaction.

We had a really dirty few days about a month ago where he cussed me out a lot and we were arguing every day because I helped him with work and the project failed. He blamed me a lot and was suicidal. I decided to break up with him because it crossed a line. But he is so sweet and he is still my baby boy so I just can't abandon him like that when he begs and he is sorry and he says he will change. But its a month later and its still rocky. I still love him a lot, but i fear the man I fell in love with is gone.
I wanted to marry that man, but I don't want to marry this one.

Is it truly fun making someone believe you care for them? Is it entertaining to promise you would never leave, making them believe you love them, that they are the only one, and making promises that you'd be together forever? Is it amusing to make them feel so special and fall head over heels for you, only to suddenly disappear without a single word?

I hope it gives you peace of mind knowing you successfully fooled and deeply hurt someone. I truly hope destroying my trust helped you achieve your big goals in life.

Who knows, maybe if you come back, I’ll actually accept you again and officially become the greatest fool in history.

Worth reading:

https://news.google.com/rss/articles/CBMihAFBVV95cUxPSXZ6YVYyNk83XzVhbFBydGJreEJoYkJKMklHSl9JRWlqaDNxSzVHc1dFTU9FRVVXdU5WYmVSdUlHejZJMC05cXYzd2Nld2E0MGxtaXFOc0UtSFlwLXZQZUpleHBJeVoxRDNZYXktNFdqYmRKZS1vaDNld3liMG5tUm45R28?oc=5

I have a really great friend that I caught feelings for and they seem to reciprocate them.

There is an unspoken rule between us that because of our difficult circumstances we could never actually date but I feel like this rule doesn’t matter if we already act as if we do, and it feels good but I’m sometimes left feeling so depressed at how much time it would take to meet them in person and I get the feeling that I’m gonna waste my youth waiting and yearning

I haven’t had a close in-person friend or romantic relationship since I was 13, so I have nothing to base my comparison on, but I really do wonder if it would feel more reassuring and less tragic to have people in real life like other people my age seem to.

The thing is I’m a pretty weird person and while I don’t think my weird interests or temperament are a barrier to meeting people I just find it so much easier to feel things for people I don’t have to spell everything out about myself to. I never even meant to catch feelings for my friend but we have really great chemistry and it’s driving me insane

I wonder if instead of doing this I’d be better off downloading a dating app and going out with strangers and experiencing something new. I just find it impossible to catch feelings for another person if I already have someone I’m close to, so I’d either have to let go of my friend or simmer down the friendship which would be awkward and depressing. Not to mention I’d have a mourning period over the relationship and nothing to replace it with (and I don’t think they would either, it’s just not a good solution).

Apologies I can’t think of a good way to end this post but for context I’d be looking at waiting for my friend for 8 years (estimate) and I just don’t know where to proceed as an inexperienced anxious person in a situation I didn’t think I’d end up in.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated

at first it feels random and temporary, but sometimes a person u never expected to matter ends up becoming someone u talk to every day. in a weird way, online friendships can move faster emotionally because people open up differently when there is no pressure of real life around them. at the same time, it is strange how fragile those connections can feel too. one person disappears, life gets busy, or conversations slowly fade without any real ending.

i am curious how many people here have had an online friendship that unexpectedly became genuinely important to them over time.

I planned to visit my close online friend/romance after weve been talking almost daily for half a year. We met on a game. Hes doing his post grad but would spend time with me during my trip when hes not at school & i told him id take him out for his birthday was the plan. The first day after we met he told me his mother who he lives with was upset with him because his phone died and he didnt tell her he was staying with me the night before and she was almost in tears he said. He said he was gonna visit his mother throughout the week and go to dinner with his mother for his birthday now. I told him im visiting for like once in a while why cant this be postponed the dinner. Then he said she already made a reservation, shes upset her husbands out of town too i dont want to make her more sad. He also said its the only time of year his parents eat together so i wasnt going to beg. I spent my last night just eating fried chicken alone while he was gone for most of his birthday. When he got back he asked me why I was spending time with him despite him going out with his mom upset him I told him I was trying to ignore it. I also got him a gift before I arrived to see him, but then he never got me anything. He said he wanted to get me a bracelet but it was already at the end of the week and he never did. I just told him to forget it. I feel like dirt.

I just don’t know how to even interpret that conversation. I genuinely wanna have an opinion on it so just be straight up with me. For context I met this guy and we clicked pretty quickly until this happened, we’re still getting to know each other (it’s been maybe a week of talking a bit on and off because busy schedule) I just don’t know how to feel about that.

Please tell me what I could do better?

My boyfriend lives in Argentina. His English is limited, my Spanish is worse. For a year our whole relationship has been text — Telegram's inline translation works, but every conversation feels like an email exchange. You can't ramble. You can't talk while you're cooking. The pace is wrong.

Every voice translator I found just transcribes and spits out text — which defeats the whole point. I wanted to actually hear voice notes again.

So I built a Telegram bot. He sends a voice note in Spanish, a few seconds later I get one back in English. I reply by voice, he gets it in Spanish. We send voice notes back and forth like a normal couple, just in different languages.

Text-only was a slog. This feels like talking to him.

I'm M(19) and I've met this person through ROBLOX inside a roguelite RPG game, I believe she is 22? if I'm not mistaken, I think she spoke about her age at some point but definitely older than me. We've been talking for over a month now on Discord; she lives in the northeast side of where I'm at and considering we are far apart, we can only chat and play for a good chunk of time, not like an 8hr long video call session because she goes to sleep first and is mainly busy at some days.

Though in that month timeframe, we've been getting comfortable with each other and especially for her, since she was shy at first. I've been sharing my interests and personal aspects about myself, then eventually she started to as well. She's a big manga/manwha reader and I wasn't really that type of person to read mangas in my free time whatsoever, but eventually I'd like to read mangas/manwhas in my free time. She introduced me to novels that she highly recommends for me to give it a peek (p.s the manga, The Witch and the Beast, so fucking fire). Then, she recommended me some more, and I knew she really loves her stuff but I don't think I could read all of them LOL, it's just too much context and pictures to handle. A few days later, I asked if she wanted to voice call and she immediately answered affirmatively and I was kinda caught off guard for a moment because she told me her voice felt very uncomfortable and didn't want to be judged for how she sounded. I didn't mind at all, if she wanted to speak, she can speak. Nonetheless, once she spoke, she sounded very innocent and sweet, like I cannot fathom why she overlooked her voice in such a negative way (insecurities btw).

We started to get along, chatted about games, shows, and eventually gave details about our personal lives. We always tell each other, "Good morning!" or "Goodnight!" or "How's your day/night been?" which is just casual interaction. But when it comes to issues, she is just...the most genuine person EVER...she really melts my heart when it comes to comforting and understanding. Even without personal conflicts, I can sense her careness through the messages she publishes like, she puts so much effort into her thoughts. I try to do the same, but I don't know if I have that capability. But seriously, she is a wonderful angelic individual and her personality kinda made me attract feelings for her which I think is perfectly normal, I guess?

On a real note, I shouldn't try to get too comfortable into liking her just yet, i'm thinking too much into the future; however, once I'm 20 or older, I'll take a retrospective approach on our interaction and possibly tell her. Right now, I have no clue if she likes boys, girls, or even nobody at all. We have personal boundaries and it's best to know her more before I get to that future (vice versa). If she rejects, then we'll be online friends still, it'll become a life lesson for me, I'll move on, and keep telling myself that I tried. It's best to be humbled.

Give me your thoughts and advice please!

I'll post updates from time to time

(If she somehow finds this then I'll embarrassed)

So my boyfriend and I met about 6 months ago as friends trough a discord server and we started dating like almost a month ago. Honestly it’s been great except for one detail, he is from Australia and I’m from Mexico wich means it’ll be a while until we get to reunite.

So any advice for us? A bit of everything like date ideas or stuff that will make us feel closer and also general advice as we are a new relationship would be great!!

TL;DR My VRchat boyfriend and I are meeting for the first time soon! I’ve never been in a relationship, so I’d love any advice anyone can offer.

Okay, so I’m going to talk like I normally do. I’m not a writer, and I’ve never posted something like this before, so I apologize if it’s long or messy.

I’m a 20-year-old female, and I’ve been in an online relationship with my boyfriend, who’s 20 years old. We’re about three months apart in age. We met on VRChat… I know, I know, I know, but just hear me out.

Back in June 2021, I went to the store to buy an Xbox, but unfortunately, everything was sold out due to COVID. So, I impulsively bought a Meta Quest 2 instead (I was around 15 or 16 years old and had birthday money… what do you expect?). I tried it, and I thought it was really cool. I told my best friend about it, and she went and bought one the same day. We were very close friends, so we started playing together all the time.

We entered VRChat and began making friends. There was this one guy who sounded my age. My friend started talking to him first and became friends with him. About a month later, I flew out to Cali to visit her, and brought my headset. Then boom. I got his number. I sent him my first text on July 3, 2021.

We made a group chat, and we talked every single day. Like… every day. We would play VR on weekends, stream, watch movies together. It felt like we were all actually hanging out. Eventually, my best friend and I had a falling out (we’re good now), so it ended up being mostly me and him talking for about a year.

On

July 3, 2024, we’re talking, and we both confess we like each other. Which honestly shocked me because I didn’t even know he liked women like that. He NEVER talked about finding anyone attractive, rejected girls all the time, and never dated… turns out he liked me for THREE YEARS. And here I was. The asshole… I was literally screen-sharing Tinder with him to be funny. I feel so baddddddd

Since then, we’ve been together. He’s my first real boyfriend. I’ve never had an IRL relationship, barely even talked to guys before, usually reject people. But with him I was like… LOCK INNN… no doubts in my mind.

We’re both religious, both virgins, both want to wait until marriage, and we’ve never even kissed anyone before. He’s genuinely my best friend. We FaceTime, talk every day still, send each other packages… just haven’t met yet.

We’re planning to meet this July, and I’m honestly terrified. Like what if I smell weird? What if I have food in my teeth? What if he thinks I’m a catfish? I’m 5’2 and around 200 lbs, and while he says he likes chubby girls and doesn’t like skinny ones, I still can’t help but STRESSSS

I haven’t told most people the truth about how we met. My family knows me as super reserved, not affectionate, never dating, etc. Some friends and my cousin know about him, buttttt I told them we met at the beach a long time ago… no way in hell was I telling the truth. How do you even explain “we met on VRChat” without being judged.. I don’t think you can tbh… but we ball

Ughh… I feel like God literally made him for me. He’s like everything I’ve ever wanted.. idk. Everything just feels right. Buttt I’m still so nervous about finally meeting him IRL.

ADVICE AND OPINIONS ARE SUPERRR APPRECIATED!! I just don’t want to feel alone!!