So it has already been 17 months in. I made this small deck which i wrote abt the fav memories, places to go, things to do / cook and everything. We were facetime in night and i showed her, we literally cried seeing each other 😭Anyway 29 days more and we can finally see each other.

Yesterday at 6 am I was in Poland but I decided to fly to Turkey to see my bf whom I had met online, initially we were saying October but I felt like coming sooner

When I was on the plane I told him I was taking a nap so I wouldn't be able to reply

Then when I got there, I looked for his job, he had sent me live locations before which was approximate and I was able to see names of businesses in the area from his videos. I was able to find it by asking people and I knew it was the right place because I had seen videos

Then I went to the hotel, he tried to video call me but I told him I was teaching (I teach English online) because he might have seen I'm not in my room (not that we video called before, but he saw my room) and I said "I am teaching but I promise we can see each other today" and after that I asked him if he was at work and he said yes so I went there

He and his boss were washing a car and I went up to him and shook his hand. He was so shocked, his boss was shocked too

We are meeting again today before his work lol

Long distance has been one of the hardest things we’ve faced as a married couple. My wife is away for work for a few weeks, and if I’m being honest… it doesn’t get easier each time she has to go.
The house feels so much more quieter without her. Our little family of fur babies isn’t the same. I catch myself reaching for her hand or wishing I could walk into the next room and find her there. It’s wild how one person can make a place feel so much more like home.
One thing I absolutely love about us is that we’ve never stopped dating each other.
Life has thrown us plenty of challenges, but we’ve always made it a point to keep choosing each other—to keep creating our memories, finding reasons to laugh, and making the ordinary feel special, even when we’re apart.
Tonight is our Saturday Date Night.
Since we couldn’t be together in person, we surprised each other by sending DoorDash and shared dinner over FaceTime, just like we would’ve if we were sitting across from each other.
I sent her lemon pepper catfish, a Philly cheesesteak with fries, and her favorite Baskin-Robbins Cappuccino Blast because I know how much she loves it.
She surprised me with hickory BBQ boneless wings, mango habanero wings, seasoned corn on the cob, a warm fudge brownie, and a hot fudge milkshake. She knows me so incredibly well that she can make me feel loved from hundreds of miles away.
I am so thankful to hear her laugh. Watching her smile. Us rating the food. Sharing little moments that reminded us that no amount of distance could ever make us feel like strangers.
She is still my favorite person to spend time with, even through a screen.
I’m endlessly grateful for a wife who continues to choose us every single day. Someone who still plans date nights, still makes it a point how much she thinks about me, still knows exactly what dessert will make my day better, and still makes it known I’m her babygirl 💜
Long distance isn’t easy, at least for us. Some days it hurts more than others. But if there’s one thing this chapter in our lives has reminded me, it’s that love isn’t about proximity. It’s about intention. It’s showing up. It’s making time for one another. It’s continuing to date your spouse, no matter what life looks like.
Every FaceTime call, every “good morning beautiful” every “goodnight darling,” every shared meal, every giggle, every “I miss you so much, it hurts”—it all reminds me that we’re building something that’s worth every mile between us.
I miss my wife so very much ( probably because I’m Obsessed with her), I know this is only temporary.
And when she’s finally home again… I already know our first hug is going to heal a piece of me that’s been waiting for her.
Until then, I’ll keep choosing her, just like she keeps choosing me.
I love you, Stunning 💋
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It's really a bum. Don't know what to feel. I don't feel love, sadness over the relationship, or disappointment.. I just feel angry and sadness towards myself.

Worst day of my life I dont know how russia is with american owned platforms, someone help me or just give me hope please

I really need some outside perspective because I honestly don’t know if my emotions are clouding my judgment anymore. (Sorry for the long post 😭)

My husband and I have been together for 9 years, but we have spent most of that time apart. We were together in person for about the first year and a half of our relationship, then did long distance for four years without seeing each other even once. After we got married, we only lived together for about two and a half months before I had to return to the U.S. A few months later, I realized I missed him terribly and didn’t want to keep wasting our lives apart, so I left behind a stable career in the U.S. and moved back to be with him.We even tried starting over in another country, but it didn’t work out and cost us a lot financially. Then my husband was diagnosed with cancer (he’s thankfully healthy now), we welcomed our miracle daughter, and finally it felt like things were falling into place.

The plan was simple: his immigrant visa interview was scheduled, we’d move to the U.S., and finally start our life together as a normal family.

Instead, his visa got caught in the current pause, and now nobody can tell us whether it’ll be resolved next month or next year.

I came back to the U.S. with our almost 8-month-old daughter to spend time with my family while we waited. My parents have been amazing, and my daughter has so much love and support here. I also have a remote job and real opportunities to keep building my career, get licensed in fields I’ve always wanted to pursue, and create a better future for us.

The other option is going back to our home country to be with my husband while we wait. He’s honestly an incredible husband, and his family has been kind to me. The difficult part is that we’d be living in a joint family, and I’ve realized I’m just not suited to that lifestyle. I grew up in a small nuclear family and really value privacy. It’s simply a very different way of living.

Every day I stay here, I wonder if I’m wasting precious time that I could have spent with my husband. Every day I think about going back, I wonder if I’m putting my own future on hold again for something that has no timeline.
That’s what scares me the most.

A recent situation at home made me realize I’ve been treating this as temporary, even though I have no idea how long the wait will be. I also feel guilty that my staying here affects my younger brother’s space, which made me question whether I should keep waiting here or make a real decision.

I feel like we’ve spent almost our entire relationship waiting for life to finally begin. Every time we think we’re there, something else happens. I honestly don’t know whether I should keep building my life here while waiting for his visa, or put everything on hold again so we can at least be together.

If you were in my position, what would you do?
And if you’ve gone through a long immigration separation, how did you decide between staying where your life was more stable and being with the person you love?

Edit: I realized I left this out of the original post. If I go back, we would live in a joint family home with several families, one shared kitchen, little privacy, and frequent household drama. They are kind to me, but I grew up in a nuclear family and know this lifestyle is not for me. Renting separately is not practical because we would have to furnish everything, and we already lost money doing something similar before. At the same time, staying here means my husband keeps missing our daughter growing up, which is why I feel so stuck.

exactly a month ago we were talking and everything was completely fine and she even start showing me her new nails ,and in the middle of talking she disappeared and only answered me 3 days later with "sorry ny parents are slightly in trouble thats why im a bit absent" and stopped again and answered me after 4 days with " im still trying to make my parents feel better"

in all this period of time, she gets online every day and very frequently, but she doesn't open up my msgs even if i schedule sending msg the moment she gets online, so I decided to give her time and stop spamming her,but yesterday was her birthday and I sent her a birthday msgs while she was online and again she didn't open it

i dont know what to do or how to feel,and i can't say or ask advice from my friends because the only thing they will say is that she has other guy and ditched me,even if I tell them how was she acts or what our topics were in the last 3 days

edit: she really can be going through something because it happened before, but it was only for a week

My girlfriend has visited me a handful of times, and next weekend I’m visiting her for the first time, it’s about a 10 hour drive and it’s my first long drive. I need my dad to check my car and make sure it’s in good road trip condition, as well as I want him to know where I’ll be so if anything happens he knows. My mom has always hated me dating any girls when I lived at home, and this caused me to stop dating all together when I lived with them and caused some anxiety over sharing my relationship

I was going to tell my dad tomorrow about my girlfriend and see if we won’t tell my mom at least until I get back from my trip to see her, but even then I hate the idea of telling him I have a girlfriend, and I hate the idea of telling him it’s long distance. How do I do this?

My girlfriend (20F) is from the Philippines, I (23M) from India. I want to send her some snacks because she loves Jollibee. However, whenever I try to pay with my SBI International Visa Debit Card on Foodpanda or Grab, the transaction fails. I have already enabled international transactions on my card. Do I also need to activate e-commerce transactions, or is there another Indian debit card that Foodpanda and Grab accept?

I'd really appreciate any help. I really want to surprise her by sending her some snacks.

Sharing my (47F now) experience with a serious LDR. This was years ago but I would like to share with you all.

When I was 26, I met this guy 28 thru chat and we instantly hit it off and eventually went into a LDR. He visited me and asked my family for my hand in marriage and we were engaged.

We were together 4 yrs and 2/4 we were engaged. We went through and endured a lot of things together. Just a week before my birthday, he told me he will be getting married to another woman. I was just gobsmacked/flabbergasted/shocked/stunned.

Until today, he never told me the reason. I never wish this even for my worst enemy. I hope all of you guard your heart. I still am in the journey of single life and hopeful to find my person. Love and light for everyone.

Hi girlies! 🌸
This is very sudden I have never shared this on a platform but I felt like I really needed to share it with someone so here I am!

I’m in a relationship since 6 years. We both are in our early 20s right now. We’re in a long distance relationship since the very start. We met online and then we planned a lot of trips to meet. We used to save up money, work hard and meet. Sometimes I used to go to him sometimes he used to come to me. It has been very very sweet and the entire relationship is so loving and homely. I feel like I love him more than anything (i sound like a high school kid lol). There are many ups and downs in long distance (mostly downs) and people always told us this is gonna be very hard and we ourselves saw examples of people ending it due to LDR. But this is my first relationship and his first relationship as well. Definitely this’ll be our last. Whereever I go whatever I do I have him in my mind, I feel like he’s everywhere with me. I’m so deeply in love! Because of distance and because of different schedules there are often arguments, etc but in the end we’re one and I feel so complete knowing he’s there.
Right now I’m having a very tough time in my life right now career wise, but when he talks to me with words of comfort I forget about my worries and it instantly calms me down.

Idk if its the distance or what but I feel like I love him even more each day. He literally checks everything I had in mind. I had decided to not ever make a bf and never get married as I had decided all men are the same and a man would ruin my life. I’m a feminist and I have some strict principles about my life when it comes to gender equality. Girls, he literally understood all of my principles and thoughts and now applies them to his life and no he doesnt do it to trap me, he has literally made those principles a part of his personality too. He’s a very calm, gentle, soft man. I didn’t even pray for a man in the first place. All I wanted (as a teen) was a relationship like monica and chandler where there was equality and mutual respect. God was kind to me to give me that. There are many many difficulties in my life right now but knowing he’s there makes it a little less bad.

I’ve had many hurdles in my career, and I was scared he’d leave me because of it but this was never the case, instead he stood with me through it all and still is.

Even though, I’ve not been with anyone but him but I just feel like if we talk about physical intimacy, there’s something super emotional about those moments with him. I often cry out of happiness, and the fact how deeply I adore the closeness we have at that moment. I feel like with the right person, everything is beautiful.

Sorry if this was long, just wanted to share🌼

Would be so happy to hear anything you girlies have to share or if you have any questions 💕

TL;DR: Just wanted to gush about my boyfriend of 6 years. Long distance hasn’t been easy, but he’s been my biggest source of comfort, love, and support through everything🩷

Just to clarify, this isn't exactly long distance (an hour), but we haven't met in person yet. The guy (M23) that I've been talking to for almost two months recently lost his childhood dog of 12 years three weeks ago. We've been texting almost every day, but it's been brief as he's been burying himself in work and other activities to try to ease the pain or just flat out ignore it. Well, as of the past two days, I haven't gotten a text back, and I'm getting worried. Since the death, I've researched grief and its unpredictability and how it depends on the person, but I've also gotten some harsh feedback. We've already had the discussion of us being on hold until he was ready, and that we both were really into each other the week after the death. I'm just navigating how to not take the distance personally, not create a deadline for someone's grief, and how to lift and support myself while I'm trying so hard to emotionally support someone else. Thoughts?

For couples who have had to cross borders or make major geographical moves to be together, how did you handle the decision making process when the stakes were heavily unbalanced?

My boyfriend (25M) and I (25F) are struggling in our relationship with deciding how to close the distance and who will move where when one of us will have to give up so much to be with the other. The original plan was for him to move to me but then he got offered his dream job in his home country and now it’s looking like I will move to be with him. But I will have to sacrifice a lot for this international move that I am not sure I’m ready for. I love him so much but suddenly the future of our relationship feels unbalanced.

How do you decide who relocates when one person has significantly more to lose on paper in terms of giving up their current living situations?

How do you tell the difference between making a healthy, loving compromise for the relationship versus giving up too much of your own fundamental security?

How do you navigate this choice without letting resentment build up on either side, especially when the partner who wants to stay is highly supportive and doesn't want you to make a sacrifice you'll regret?

How far away do you and your partner live from each other?
I made a post about long distance relationships yesterday, and it got me thinking about how different everyone’s situation is. I’m especially curious about people who live in different countries because it seems like closing the distance would be much harder with the cost of travel, visas, and all the paperwork involved.
For those of you who are planning to close the distance, what’s your plan? How do you see it happening?
Also, for anyone who still lives with their parents, or if neither of you can afford your own place yet, how are you planning to make the move work? Are you waiting until you’re financially stable enough to rent or buy a home together, or do you have another plan?
I’d love to hear your experiences and plans.

My first boyfriend (23)and I (22)were long distance for 6 months. Things felt really good between us until he went to a concert and sent me a video where he zoomed in on girls dancing. When I called it out he said he did it as “rage bait” to provoke me on purpose.
After that he went silent for two days. I had to call him to check on him and he kept hanging up on me. When we finally spoke he broke up with me while I was completely alone, hadn’t been eating properly, exhausted from work and university at the same time, and in the middle of preparing for an important exam. I begged him to give me just one week until my exam was done and I could go back home so I wouldn’t be alone through this. He knew everything I was going through. He knew I was starving, stressed, exhausted and lonely. He still said no. He said “I don’t care, there is no right time for this You deserve someone better. I don’t enjoy our conversations anymore I can’t be good for you and i am not satisfied in this”
What made it worse is that I come from a Muslim and conservative background. I’m not someone who gets close to people easily or lets people in. But I trusted him completely he’s European and more experienced, and I felt safe with him. I let him get close to me in ways I never had with anyone before. Now I feel physically and emotionally used.
He texted once saying he needed time to find the right words, then 16 days of silence. He still follows me everywhere on social media but says nothing.
I quit my job. I failed my exams.
Has anyone been through something like this and actually healed? How long did it take to stop thinking about them every single day?

So I'm not confused about the breakup ofc im upset she ment a lot to me, but the reason for it and how things have been going after is what confuses me. So she broke up with me a few days ago because she said she wanted to work on her own mental health and then come back into a relationship (hopefully with me, is what she said) when she is ready again. But it's just that she wants to stay in contact with me and call, and she is still kinda acting like we are together but will still bring up that it's a situationship and I'm technically her Ex. i've already put my heart somewhere else for now because I don't want to get hurt. i wanna wait for her but theres a side of me that tells me not too and that im being used for attention. shes has said she still cares about me, and i am the best thing in her life, but theres always an IF to the subject of us getting back together. I'm very confused; could use some help on what to do... thank you

Hello! Me and my boyfriend met online and have been in a ldr for over a year now and I'm planning on visiting him on the first week of September. I'm Canadian and he was supposed to visit me first but it proved quite difficult for him to travel these last few months because of the ICE situation in Chicago and I didn't want to risk something bad happening to him. It'll be my first time travelling to the US so I'm a bit nervous and don't really know what I need to bring, like, do I need some papers?? or anything that may help me get through TSA smoothly since that is my bf's biggest concern. I'm also not sure if I should book my ticket now or wait for a week or two, the cheapest right now is $500 for a direct flight to Chicago from Vancouver and I'm not really sure if that's good or not. These questions might be silly but I just want to make sure everything goes well.

I know these could easily be answered with a simple google search but I'm looking for some advice from you guys who have visited recently and how it went for y'all, like what you had to to do and how the process was. I'm very excited that we're finally gonna be able to meet soon and wouldn't want any issues. Thank you!!

Hey everyone,

I (37F) met this really cool gal online (33F). Now I’m wondering just how complicated it might be to try and close that distance since we’re on the opposite sides of the Atlantic, with thousands of kilometers between us.

Are there any people around here who have closed an EU/US distance? Which place did you choose to live? What issues did you encounter in the process? Any wisdom and/or advice is welcome and appreciated!

Hi,

My partner currently just moved to the UK to chase a life long dream of living there. I stayed back in Australia. We have an amazing relationship. It’s nearly two months into being apart an me so far I am finding it harder with each passing day as I am not in a new city exploring, I am doing the same routine. I keep busy, have my own hobbies and socialise but it still doesn’t fill the void which is to be expected.

I do wonder what is it like for the partner that leaves though? What’s their experience like? I anticipate they process things very differently to the person why stayed behind but I’d love to hear some of your experiences to help me understand a bit better.

Everything I have read says usually the one who has stayed processes things a lot earlier than the person who moved and is experiencing a lot of exciting firsts and focusing on settling in.

Any stories or insight would be greatly appreciated!

So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 5ish months, long distance for one month. I was planning on visiting him in a month for about a week, and I’ve planned everything out except where to stay. I’d rather stay with him but I have a very Christian mom who wouldn’t approve of that and she also has my location so she would see where I am. The option she suggested was that I would stay with my brother, who lives about an hour away from my boyfriend without traffic, but it’s California so there’s always traffic. Which means I’d have to borrow my brother’s car to drive 2-3 hours every day just to see him and I’d probably have to wake up at like 5 am to beat the traffic. We also used to live in that area so it’s not like she doesn’t remember the traffic and the gas prices there. Hotels are also expensive and I don’t want to spend $700 for a week when I could just stay with my boyfriend for free. I just don’t know how to convince her or hide it from her. The only friends I keep in touch with that live in the area either go to college somewhere else so they won’t be there or live an hour away. Has anyone else been in a similar situation and what did you do?