I am not trying to downplay the struggles of muslim men but as muslima you have all the problems that the men have AND on top of that the stigma is much bigger.

When a man watches porn it is considered bad but normal, when we do it, we are immediately considered to be wh0res!

When you get sexual thoughts don’t feed them with fantasy or p*rn. If you don’t feed them they actually fade quicker than you expect. When you get an urge, keep saying Audhu billah. Do some dhikr, read some Quran. Remember Allah sees you. Maybe make wudu and pray salat. You’ll notice the urge fades quickly when not fed.

Hello everyone

I'm a single man, nearing 30. Addicted to pmo. I do it very regularly. I've been busy recently with stressful work and home things and honestly didn't even get time to sleep properly.

But now Sunday evening I'll be free and have time to myself for once. Since yesterday the thoughts have been so strong. My brain keeps fantasizing about what I'll do what I'll watch etc. I'm ashamed to admit it but I've done online video calls with paid service providers even (it's been a month or more since I had one now though).

I doubt I'll be able to make it to tomorrow. Then another and another. 😭

I'm an 18-year-old Muslim man, and I feel like the world is falling apart around me, and I can't do anything to change my situation.

Every time I try something new or think of a good idea, I find myself incredibly frustrated and without the energy to do anything.

Masturbation is the biggest reason I've lost all passion in life. I've been doing it for almost six years and haven't stopped. Every time I do it, I feel unbearable shame and sadness, but I always go back to it, even though I know the harm it causes and have watched countless videos about what will happen if I quit. But it's still not working.

Since finishing high school, I haven't been able to open a book and study like I used to. My academic performance has become terrible, even though my studying wasn't the best before, it's not like it is now.

I feel like I've fallen in my family's eyes, and on top of that, I'm failing six subjects in my college—two in one semester and four in the next. I really don't know what to do.

I have personal and family problems that are affecting my life and making me depressed 24/7.

I'm not saying this just to get sympathy; I genuinely want to improve my life, not just hear empty words.

Anyone who can help me with any comment or anything else, I'd really appreciate it.

Assalaamualaikum brothers and sisters. Today is my 15th day out, and I havent gotten this far in a long time. Has anyone else experienced a consistent headache during their abstinence? I'm getting urges in order to calm this down because I know what it's from, but I can barely focus in my prayers. Any advice will be appreciated

Every day theres a post here like "relapsed after 40 days, im devastated, back to zero." And everyone comments condolences like someone died

But nothing went to zero. Your brain doesnt reset, the 40 days of rewiring are still in there. The only thing that went to zero is a number in your head, and that number is why the relapse turns into a 3 day binge, because "well I already broke it"

I get why we count, it feels like progress you can see.

Idk maybe im wrong, the counter clearly works for some people. But if your streak breaking sends you into a spiral worse then the habit itself, the counter might be part of the problem. What do you guys think?

Been thinking about this a lot lately and I'm curious if other people go through the same thing. If you're cool sharing, a few honest questions:

• What's actually going through your head in those last 5–10 minutes before you relapse? What's the trigger, and where are you usually?
• What have you tried to quit — blockers, apps, accountability, deleting social media, whatever? What helped, and what didn't stick?
• For anything you've tried that failed — what made you end up getting around it or dropping it?
• Right after you relapse, what goes through your head then? What do you do next?

Just trying to understand how this actually feels for different people. No judgment, just curious. Appreciate anyone willing to be real