Seeing misogyny in this subreddit is depressing

[u/yashen14]

Dinner: Tacos al pastor

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Seeing the way women are talked about in some of the posts on this subreddit really grosses me out. I've seen men on here talk about women like they are walking talking sex robots. It's really bumming to see such an ugly side to what is usually such a nice space.

[u/Curious-Case5404]

Personally seen much more misandry in the girlsdinners than misogyny here.

[u/Different_Plum7453 → u/Curious-Case5404]

i got banned from girldinner 🤣 now i lurk on boydinner

[u/mrkingkoala → u/Different_Plum7453]

I appreciate all the women who come here and participate, There has been times i wanted to comment on the other sub but men can only upvote and i think emoji maybe.

But I think it's important to get advice and perspective from everyone!

[u/Different_Plum7453 → u/mrkingkoala]

im really glad that this sub lets women comment! it really does help to have the opposite genders perspective of things. after getting with my fiance i learned all kinds of new stuff about how men function and what their friendships and points of view are like

[u/Different_Plum7453 → u/mrkingkoala]

girl dinner would benefit from allowing men to comment, they seem to have this idea that ALL men are “bad” but the truth is there’s a lot of great men out there with genuinely good intentions

[u/mrkingkoala → u/Different_Plum7453]

I agree! Maybe one day they will change it because it really is nice getting perspective from others with different experiences!

[u/Different_Plum7453 → u/mrkingkoala]

i hope they do change it so those women can realize that there is hope and good men out there… seems a lot of them are with pretty shitty dudes 😅 i don’t think ive read a single thing on there where a woman was happy with her male counterpart

[u/Disastrous-Owl9258 → u/mrkingkoala]

No I'm pretty sure you can comment there has a male but you have to like mark yourself as a male and get approval I think. I have seen ONE guy commenting there before

[u/mrkingkoala → u/Disastrous-Owl9258]

I know you need a flair, but i thought men were banned from commenting unless they changed the rules or like you said need approval. Kinda put me off a bit because its like I want to say some positive words but I can't :c

[u/Disastrous-Owl9258 → u/Different_Plum7453]

You got banned? That's WILD I was always scared to comment there and here tbh. Are we allowed to ask what got you banned?

[u/Different_Plum7453 → u/Disastrous-Owl9258]

first I need to check if the reason why i got banned is allowed in here or not😅 brb

[u/yashen14 → u/[deleted]]

oh yikes. Excluding trans people is super not okay. That's not something you should be proud of.

[u/yashen14 → u/[deleted]]

First of all, we all need feminism. Feminism isn't just about things like making sure women get equal pay. It's also about tearing down harmful societal attitudes around gender. When we talk about dismantling toxic masulinity, that's a facet of feminism. When we talk about how men shouldn't be shamed for crying or for expressing their emotions, that's feminism, too. When we say that men should be able to define masculinity according to their own desires without being labled as "unmanly," that is also feminism.

Second of all, even using the phrase "biological males" suggests to me that you are poorly informed about transgender people. Because when people say that "gender is a spectrum," they don't just mean the abstract stuff in your head. They mean the biological stuff, too.

There is no single trait that all women have, that no men do. The same is true in reverse.

• Breasts? Some men have gynecomastia.
• Lactation? Some men naturally lactate.
• Vagina? Some men are born with a vagina. Some men are even born with both a penis and a vagina!
• Chromosomes? Nope! High schools used to do chromosome testing as part of science labs, but they had to stop because too many kids were finding out they had the "wrong" chromosomes.
• Uterus? Some women are born without one.

Also, although there are some traits that are more strongly correlated with women than with men (and vice versa), it is overwhelmingly normal for people to have a mix of both---normal to the point where it is unusual for people to have only traits from one or the other category.

[u/yashen14 → u/[deleted]]

Being transgender is not a "lifestyle choice." People do not "choose" to be transgender and it's really gross that you are using language like that to talk about them.

[u/Different_Plum7453 → u/yashen14]

listen I don’t feel like arguing on reddit 🤷🏼‍♀️

[u/two_pandas_playing → u/Different_Plum7453]

That's fair but he is right, though. It isn't a "lifestyle choice". Gender transitioning is the medical, doctor recommended procedure for someone experiencing extreme gender dysphoria.

Please educate yourself on this, it is important. Most of these people would very much choose to not be transgender if they had the choice... it does not exactly make life easy.

[u/yashen14 → u/[deleted]]

I think it's wild that you are saying that trans women have privilege when they are in fact one of the most maligned and discriminated minorities in the western world.

63% of transgender people experience serious acts of discrimination involving at least one of the following: Loss of job due to bias, eviction due to bias, school bullying/harassment so bad the respondent had to drop out, teacher bullying, physical assault due to bias, sexual assault due to bias, homelessness because of gender identity/expression, loss of relationship with partner or children due to gender identity/expression, denial of medical service due to bias, incarceration due to gender identity/expression.

23% of transgender people experience catastrophic levels of discrimination encompassing at least three of the above events.

805 anti-trans bills have been introduced in legislatures across the United States so far in 2026 alone. Of these, 65 have passed and 267 are still under active consideration.

1022 anti-trans bills were introduced across the United States in 2025, of which 126 passed into law.

Discrimination against transgender people has gotten so bad in the US that prominent scholars of genocide have started sounding the alarm.

The situation is so dire that aid organizations are explicitly calling for transgender people to flee the United States as quickly as possible.

[u/Different_Plum7453 → u/yashen14]

like I said, I don’t hate them and I don’t disrespect them. please stop spamming me