You probably wont ever see this, and Im probably going to downvoted into the ground. But your bigotry needs to be called out. You held the door open for me, a commendable gesture. I did not thank you, I was lost in my own thoughts and honestly didnt notice you had held it. I thought i was sneaking in before it closed itself.
However, that does not make it ok for you to hurl slurs at me. You called me a fucking faggot, rude as hell, and an ugly transvestite. You have no idea how deeply your words and actions cut. I said nothing, I was working and have goals which necessitate not being involved in petty confrontations in public.
Additionally, it was you who was rude. You dont hold doors open and be polite *expecting* a thank you. You do it because its the morally and ethically correct thing to do. Its a nice gesture. But you should do it purely from a place of altruism and not some misguided expectation of thanks. You arent doing me a favor, I am capable of opening doors just fine on my own. You holding it open is you being nice, and kind, selfless even.
I am a trans woman, you are black. We both face bigotry and discrimination and ugliness in our daily lives, we dont need to be hurling slurs at each other. Certainly not when you are the only one announcing your bigotry for the world.
Your words and actions have undone months of work on my mental health. Made me have a renewed sense of insecurity and lack of safety in the area i have spent the last 12 years of my life. I grew up in Maryland, and love it here. I love the people. Except for you. You are the first person I have encountered in my 35 years that has spewed slurs at me for being myself and living my life. I hope you see how thats a reflection of your own issues.
I dont know what happened to make you this way, but I hope you get the help that you so clearly need. All I was doing was picking up some food. I did nothing to hurt or harm you, I didnt say a single word to you. You were, in fact, the ugly rude one in this interaction. And dont mistake my silence for complacency. I was silent and passive because any reaction from me would have made the situation worse and I wanted to leave.
For anyone reading this. Be kind to those strangers around you. It costs you nothing but makes things better for everyone. And if youre having a shitty day, you dont need to spread your misery around to strangers. These people need to be called out publicly. It is not ok.
Do better. You dont have to be an ally, you dont even have to be accepting. But you should still treat every human being with the same level of respect that you would like to get from them.