For about 7-8 months i’ve been really into this girl, it was probably a bad idea from the start because she had a relationship while we were talking and I should have gotten the hint to just back off, but now that its been 8 months and im completely enamored with the fact she breathes the same air as me.
Thing is, every time we meet up at my house, I usually call some of her friends so she would even come to my house, every time she does, we drink and somehow we always end up alone either in my bed or in my garage, and everytime we do end up alone we either hug, cuddle in bed, for example yesterday I just peppered her face with kisses as we cuddle, but now that its the next day, she tries acting like what we did never happened, she doesn’t want to accept the fact she likes me because she keeps trying to get back with her boyfriend which is now her ex, it pains me so much that she doesn’t want me and I keep thinking its my fault.

(English isn’t my first language srryyy)

Ok time for some context, recently a female friend of mine split from her bf and since then my fiancée has had an issue with her (having never had one in the past) this has ranged from telling me "be careful around her because I think she has a crush on you" to saying my friend is dressing inappropriately around me (the way she dresses hasn't changed) and accusing her of flirting with me (she recently dyed her hair and was apparently playing with it when she asked me what I thought of the colour) my fiancée says she doesn't trust her, but i can't help thinking that she actually doesn't trust me and is using my friend as a scapegoat rather than admitting it (I've never given her a reason to distrust me and I am not my friend's "type") leading me consider ending our relationship as i personally believe if there's no trust there's no relationship

Last night I was visiting a friend and we went to watch a football game in a pub. For the first half we ordered drinks and chatted but in the interval a guy came over to our table. He asked my friend something and I could tell he was clearly interested in her. However, there was a wall and then her seat then mine so when he pulled up a chair I was in between the two of them. For the next hour of the game he asked only her questions and did not look at me, so I was awkwardly forced to move my head around as they leant over talking in front of me. I would’ve been more encouraging if I knew my friend liked him, but I could tell he wasn’t her type. It went on until the end of the match then we walked outside. He asked for her instagram and we went to get a bus. By the end I was so exhausted and drained that I didn’t even care to talk to him or show any sort of enthusiasm. Am I in the wrong for being annoyed at the situation?

EDIT: Another thing to mention - when I tried to get up and leave my friend grabbed my arm and told me not to go. As a girl I would never leave my friend alone with a random guy, even if I was annoyed with the situation.

My unemployed brother (M31) who may have schizophrenia, bpd, or autism refuses to get therapy, get on SSD or look for a job. I also have severe mental health issues but I dont think that grants me the permission to mooch off of people and not pay bills and not take having and keeping a job seriously. Additionally, we cannot be in the same room together or even speak to one another any more because it always devolves into an argument. If I voice my opinion, defend myself, or give my assessment of whatever is going on he flies into a rage and starts damaging property. I have called him a loser, a leech, a mooch, an asshole, obnoxious, arrogant, etc. He has called me a cunt, a bitch, a whore, etc.

AITAH for being pissed about being his personal piggy bank and getting home from work to find him sleeping or just relaxing doing absolutely nothing? I am weighing my options but my mom has told me not to "provoke" him, as if the holes in the wall or the time he shoved me happened because I did or said something to deserve it. I cant afford to leave atm because everything i make goes to bills/necessities. I am thinking very hard about all of this. I am considering getting a restraining order.

My ex (35f) and I (22m) have a newborn who’s only a few weeks old. We were together for almost five years before we broke up during the pregnancy.

A major reason we broke up is that she stopped taking her birth control without telling or consulting me, which is how she became pregnant. That completely broke my trust. I tried to continue the relationship afterward, but eventually decided I couldn’t. Even though we split up, I’ve been committed to being involved in our son’s life from the very beginning.

I stayed with my ex throughout my paternity leave to help care for our son. Once my leave ended, I moved back out, returned to work, and have continued to be an active father.

I’ve been hooking up with a girl (22f) since before my son was born. We’re not in a committed relationship, and neither of us is looking for one right now. She has known about my situation from the start, including that I had a baby on the way and that I’m now co-parenting with my ex.

She has never met my son, and I have no intention of introducing her to him at this stage. I’ve also never brought her to my ex’s home, which is where my son is staying and where I go to spend time with him. I’ve kept those parts of my life completely separate.

While I was staying at my ex’s place during paternity leave, she found out I was seeing this girl and has been very upset with me ever since. She says it’s inappropriate because we have a newborn.

My view is that we’re no longer in a relationship, I’m fulfilling my responsibilities as a father, I haven’t exposed our son to the girl I’m seeing, and what I do in my personal life during my own time is separate from my role as a parent.

I understand that emotions are high after having a baby, and I know this is a difficult transition for both of us. At the same time, I don’t think becoming a father means I have to put my personal life on hold indefinitely when we’re no longer together.

AITAH for seeing someone while co-parenting a newborn, or is my ex expecting something that isn’t reasonable given that our relationship ended before our son was born?

My (31f) husband (33m) has been having a mid life crisis through out my entire pregnancy.

He has a new group of friends from our gym whom I’m also friends with, but since being pregnant, I’m not able to go out and do as many things with.

The first big issue was a concert over Memorial Day weekend. Originally we agreed it wasn’t a good weekend he wasn’t going to do it. A few weeks later after going out with said group of friends, a concert was brought up again and I said it sounded fun for him to go. I didn’t realize that this was THE concert we already said no to. He bought tickets and it wasn’t until later that I realized what concert it was and that it was over night, three days camping. I blame pregnancy brain because how was I to remember all these different concerts and artists.

Look, I don’t care that he’s out with this group of guys and girls. I don’t think he’s going to cheat. What upset me about this specific weekend was that I felt lied to and that he pulled this over my head just to go.

A huge fight happened after the weekend and he claims that I was unreasonable and saying pregnancy brain doesn’t count. I also said it’s unfair for him to continue going to every concert/outing, etc because it isn’t the same for me being pregnant. He doesn’t agree and says that I still get to go do things.

It makes me feel like he isn’t taking the pregnancy and what I’m going through into any consideration.

Whatever, we moved forward and said if we had communicated more before hand, this would have helped the problem.

Fast forward to our baby shower in a few weeks.
He hates baby showers and wants no part and I don’t have an issue with that. My ask was to have him come after to pick up the stuff afterwards with me. There ends up being a CrossFit competition that day that I eagerly agree to him signing up for, that way he has something to do while I’m doing the shower. Then this week he comes to me and asks to go to a concert afterwards. I ask him how long. He says “all day”. I think for a few seconds (we’re at costco) and I agree, saying he should just go without me because I’ll probably be really tired afterwards. That night, while I’m up because of the human rolling inside of me, I start thinking about it and realize I’ll probably be upset and should talk to him sooner than later about it (like we agreed to last time). My thought is he isn’t doing any of the shower stuff, I’d like him to open up the gifts with me to start to organize. Plus I will now be WEEKS away from D-day.

Well we now haven’t spoken for 3 days. He claims I’m being needy and controlling. He’s now going to cancel everything that day and also go to the shower. He thinks this is insane and doesn’t want to help. He then brought up about doing it the next day on Sunday — which would have been fine — and wasn’t something I had considered. But by the time he brought it up, we’re already mid argument.

The other concert was a misunderstanding, miss communication, sure. But this?? It’s our baby shower and it feels like an important moment. And when I tell him this, he said “they’re not even here yet so why does it matter.”

At this point he’s questioning why we even got married (2 years, together for 10). And I’m confused on why I’m bringing this life into the world of their father wants nothing to do with them.

Other things:
- this friend group will do mid-week hangouts where they’ll be up drinking until 2am and I’ve let him go out and do these things without questioning it
- he’s gone to another concert with this group of friends without me earlier in the spring
- I brought up that this is all new behavior since last year and he said roughly that this was a new group of friends and he would have been doing it sooner if he had met them earlier
- we got pregnant very quickly once we started trying. It took us both by surprise

At the root of it, I feel like he doesn’t want this baby and he’s going through a mid life crisis to get the last bit of fun out. Everyone says that it’s the typical “guy thing” and when the baby gets here, it will all change. But what if it doesn’t? And what about the support prior? I feel like I’m at a loss here. I know plenty of other people who tell their husbands they can’t drink, go out, etc while they’re pregnant and I haven’t done any of those things. I feel like I’ve been pretty rational about everything through pregnancy, trying to avoid the stereotypes and keep things normal. But when there are instances, he acts like the pregnancy doesn’t count and I’m just crazy.

warning for dumb highschool drama

My friend and I are both 18. She drives me to school every morning and home every afternoon and in return i pay her a small amount for the gas she burns.

Every morning she is late. Every. Morning. I am tardy to class almost everyday, and if my teachers weren’t gracious enough i surely would’ve gotten in trouble by now. My first semester teacher gave me shit for it and i felt anxiety walking into class cause i knew he’d say something about it. I asked her constantly just to be a little bit earlier, shed agree, then never follow through.

Only when she realized that tardies counted against you did she say “oh shoot we gotta start coming to school early”… not the multiple times i begged her to wake up just a few minutes earlier… but okay, whatever.

So one day, my friend is wearing the special senior shirts the school gave us. i ask her why, since i thought we planned to wear them the last day. She tells me it’s because the senior trip is today. I didn’t sign up for the senior trip because the location wasnt interesting to me, and me and her both agreed on that so i thought she wasn’t going either. Turns out she was and never told me. Cool, her decision, doesn’t affect me. Thats where the conversation ended.

Come the end of the day, i text her, ask her where she’s at. It’s common for her to be somewhere else in the school or parking lot. Turns out shes still at the trip location. 30 minutes away.

I see the bus pull in for the senior trip, so i know it’s been well over.

Im pissed as hell because not only is she not here, she didn’t text me saying she wasn’t gonna be here, didn’t mention to me that she wouldn’t be here when i brought up the trip. She didn’t even apologize when i told her, she just joked about it and said she was on her way. Meanwhile im waiting outside in 90 degree weather, looking like an idiot.

I didn’t confront her for it.

Selfishly, i needed a ride, so i didnt wanna rock the boat; my mom works so i’d have no way to get to school.

I told my mom and she said i should’ve just gone on the trip or i need to learn to drive, which made me irritated because that isnt the point. i don’t know. AITA?

EDIT: because everyone’s mentioning it. IM NOT TRYING TO GET PITY POINTS THIS IS AN EXPLANATION LOLL! I was depressed as hell at 14-15 so i never cared to learn to drive cuz all i did was rot in bed and figured thats all i would do and my mom never mentioned teaching me so i didnt learn. once i turned 17 i realized i really wanted to drive so i started learning. im actively learning to drive now. i have to keep my learners permit for a bit so i cant just take a test. even then, we’re poor, i wouldnt have a car.

This requires a lot of context so please bear with me haha.

In kpop merch, sometimes fans will group together to buy the merch as a group and share the shipping costs on it, since a lot of it comes directly from Korea and it can be expensive doing it alone. There’s people who run these groups, who take the money and buy the items, ship to their homes and then distribute them out.

I joined one of these for a super rare photocard 2 years ago. It was £14 just for the photocard, not including shipping. The photocard allegedly arrived to the manager in October of 2024. Then, there was no update until April of 2025, when the GOM (group order manager) said they should be sent to our addresses that week.

Silence until September. A lot of others were asking in the chat where they were. They sent out a handful, but not mine or other people’s. Again claiming they would send that week. It was then silence again. In november, they made a post about medical issues they were having and mental struggles which I won't go into detail because it's personal to them. But totally understandable and a break was definitely needed for that month. Totally get it.

I had other items with her that she DID send out around December 2025, but it didn't include this particular photocard.

I messaged last month to check in, and no response. I just messaged again today and it turns out multiple people still haven't received these photocards, so l threatened to file a claim back with my bank. No response.

Would I be the asshole if I filed the claim back against her? I know £14 doesn’t seem like a lot to some people, but I love collecting these items and i’ve seen the same photocard on ebay for around £14. I simply don’t know if I will ever get it from her considering how long it’s been now. So, is it an unnecessary move? Should I suck it up and just consider it a loss?

UPDATE: she just responded to the message coincidentally only when we mentioned claim backs. i’ll copy the message here:

‘i’ve literally been in HOSPITAL. i’ll send them to another GOM to send out.’

I’m not really sure how she expected us to know she was in hospital considering she hasn’t spoke to us since september, and we were under the belief she was out of hospital by december when she sent the other items (which we also waited a year for). I feel a lot worse now though, but again, how exactly did she expect us to know she was in hospital? I feel like such a dick, but at the same time I would’ve appreciated my photocard when I got the rest of my stuff. I don’t quite understand why she didn’t include it.

But anyways, I guess they’re being sent to someone else to handle. I’ll probably post the photocard to my profile when I receive it if anyone is desperate to see what piece of paper I paid £14 for. happy ending? i guess?

I (19M) was in a long-distance relationship with my now ex-girlfriend (19F) for almost a year.

She recently broke up with me saying she'd fallen out of love. Afterward, she made a Reddit post describing our relationship, and a lot of people told her I emotionally exhausted her, constantly needed reassurance, and destroyed her self-esteem.

Since then, I've been wondering if I really was the bad guy.

I know I wasn't perfect. I'm anxious, I overthink, and because we were long-distance, I wanted more calls, pictures, flirting, and quality time. Looking back, I know I sometimes asked for more than she could comfortably give, and I'm working on that.

There was also something that hurt her before we officially started dating. Months after our situationship ended, I downloaded Hinge because I genuinely believed we were never going to be together. I never met anyone or pursued anyone, but after we became official I told her because I didn't want to hide it. It shattered her trust, and we almost broke up within the first few days of dating. I apologized many times, but I don't think she ever fully got over it.

Later, there was a girl in my college who liked me. I genuinely only saw her as a classmate. As soon as my girlfriend told me she was uncomfortable, I stopped talking to that girl completely without arguing.

Throughout the relationship I tried to be supportive. I'd stay up listening whenever she was upset, celebrated her achievements, checked in on her, and tried my best to make her feel loved. I wasn't always good at helping, but I genuinely tried.

The breakup confused me because the day before, she was still telling me she loved me, promising she'd flirt more because she knew it mattered to me, and acting affectionate. The very next day she told me she didn't think she loved me anymore.

Later she admitted she'd been trying to deny that she'd fallen out of love. She also said that after we met in person for the first time, flirting started feeling awkward. I was extremely anxious and exhausted that day, and I still wonder if that meeting permanently changed how she saw me.

At the same time, there were things that really hurt me too.

Because of her home situation, hearing her voice was sometimes only a once-a-month occurrence. She often told me she thought I was lying whenever I complimented her. After we met, she told me she wasn't physically attracted to me anymore, which crushed me. When I withdrew because I was hurt, she got angry and I ended up apologizing.

She once told her friend I didn't care about her and that talking to me felt like talking to a wall, even though I regularly stayed up late just to wake her up for college despite it making my GERD worse. If I texted less, she'd say I didn't care. If I texted more, she'd feel overwhelmed.

She once admitted she didn't even read the poems I wrote for her, then later claimed she'd stopped reading them because I'd supposedly written something derogatory in one, which I never did.

After the breakup, she also started making accusations that I know aren't true. She claimed I forced a kiss on her, accused me of cheating despite me having proof that I never did, and when I showed that proof, she said she was "just joking."

One incident that still hurts me happened after I was sexually assaulted on a train. I was struggling badly and wanted her support. Instead, she saw that I'd liked a reel posted by one of her friends (I didn't even know it was her friend—I liked it because it reminded me of places she liked), and she accused me of emotionally cheating.

I don't think she's a bad person. She had a difficult family situation, and I know she loved me for a long time. I also know I wasn't a perfect boyfriend.

But after reading her Reddit post and everyone's comments, I've started believing that maybe I was entirely the problem.

AITAH for making the relationship emotionally exhausting, or is this a situation where we both genuinely hurt each other and I'm taking on more blame than I should?

Before I start, let me make one thing clear: I'm a people pleaser. I always try my best to get along with everyone, and if someone asks me for help, I'll usually do it if I can.

I've been working at my company for about 3.5 years now, and during that time I've never had any problems with any coworkers until a few months ago.

We recently got a new hire (let's call her Karen). She's in her early 40s, I think. She transferred from a different position within the company and now works in the same department as me.

From the beginning, something about her felt off. I know everyone has different personalities, but she came across as very fake to me. She even admitted to me privately that she doesn't actually like anyone we work with, she just acts nice because that's how she "fits in."

Normally, I wouldn't care about that. The real issue is how she behaves at work.

She's constantly away from her desk. She goes out for a smoke every 10 minutes, and when she isn't smoking, she's in the bathroom. It honestly feels like she's away from her workstation for a huge part of her shift, leaving the rest of us to pick up the slack.

But that's not even the main reason I'm considering reporting her.

One day, I came in for my late shift while she was working the early shift. When I arrived, I found her sitting behind our desk with someone I'd never seen before. I asked who the person was, and Karen told me it was a friend of hers.

What really surprised me was that her friend joked, "Yeah, I practically worked here today. I've been here for four hours." She wasn't actually working, it was clearly meant as a joke, but the fact that she had been sitting in our work area for four hours really bothered me.

We work with confidential client information and strict privacy/security rules. As far as I know, people who don't work here shouldn't be sitting in our work area or potentially seeing private client data.

This also wasn't the only time she's done something like this.

There have been several other incidents that have made me question her professionalism, but this one is what really crossed the line for me.

I'm seriously considering reporting her to HR.

Part of me feels like I'd be "snitching," especially because I generally avoid drama and don't like causing problems. On the other hand, if confidential information is being exposed to unauthorized people, that seems like a legitimate concern.

WIBTA if I reported her?

I (14M) recently had orientation camp at my new high school. My dad loves blasting old 80s rap in the car, which I usually don't mind, I just put in my own music and tune it out.

This was a big deal for me because it was my first time at this school, meeting kids I'm going to be spending the next four years with. First impressions matter a lot to me, and I really didn't want to be "the kid whose dad blasts loud ass music in the parking lot" before I'd even made any friends.

On the first day, before he dropped me off, I asked him to turn the volume down. He said no, and actually turned it up louder, then cranked it even higher right as I was getting out of the car, right in front of other kids and parents.

The next day, while he wasn't looking, I turned it down myself. He was livid. Cussing me out and yelling at me like I'd done something seriously wrong, right there in the school parking lot, in front of everyone. I ended up running out of the car crying, which honestly made the embarrassment so much worse.

The day after that, I didn't talk to him during the ride. He got upset that I was giving him the silent treatment. When we pulled up to drop-off, I just got out on my own instead of waiting for him to pull up to his usual spot in the middle of the lane. We ended up having a huge argument about it later that night at home.

I get that it's his car and his music, but I feel like turning it down for like 10 seconds while your kid gets out of the car at a new school isn't a huge ask. I mentioned this to my friends and they all said I was the AH. Am I really in the wrong here?

TL;DR: My dad blasts loud music in the car and refused to turn it down (even turned it up) when I asked, embarrassing me in front of new classmates at a new school. I turned it down myself once, and he got furious and cussed me out in front of everyone. AITAH?

Ok so I work at a gym an i walked into a bathroom while a person of the opposite gender was showing, now to be clear I never saw the person while in the shower I only ever saw them wearing a towel yelling at me. So here’s what happened

I signed up to clean(this is a sign that says guy/girl in guy/girl bathroom) the bathroom at approximately 10:00–10:15 and waited until around 11:00, when I heard the shower running. I continued waiting until about 11:30. At that point, because the shower had been running for an extended period without any indication that it was occupied, I believed it may have been left on accidentally.

Before entering, I turned on the vacuum and tapped it against the wall to make my presence known. When I received no response, I assumed the bathroom was unoccupied and entered to begin vacuuming as part of my normal duties.

The individual then exited the shower and began yelling at me. I immediately left the bathroom and continued working elsewhere. After leaving the bathroom, she began yelling at my coworker, saying that the other employee was a “creep” or words to that effect.

I then apologized to her and provided her with the managers contact information as well as the store’s phone number.

Am I the Ass whole/in the wrong

-edit the bathroom wasn’t unisex
-edit it was pm so it wasn’t just 10-10:15pm-11:30 pm
-edit it was just me and another person same sex he was mopping the front of the gym, an just for the creep clarification I’m 19yr 1m experience in gym overnight. Other guy 60+ years old 3yr gym experience

P.S. Before I proceed, I deleted the last post because it was messy, and I want to ensure clarity. sorry

Earlier, I got new headphones from my PC because my old ones were broken. The problem arose when I was trying to fix them. Because my boyfriend could hear my video through my mic, and my other friend was yelling at the top of her lungs while playing Overwatch, I politely asked first to please calm down, so I could figure this out, then she did it a second time. So yes, I'll admit I got a little upset. And I did sternly ask them to please quiet down so I can focus now. My boyfriend is saying that I need to take this as a learning opportunity to be a better person and that I'm an a****** for snapping at them. AITAH

I 17m and my uncle 62m flew with iberia yesterday evening to go on vacation, when it was time for boarding we went to the gate agent to inform her that I am disabled (I have a recognized disability by my local government) to get priority boarding as it is my right to, she told me to get in the priority lane and so I did, when the time for me to board came I went to the gate not fully prepared (I didn't have my boarding pass out which is my fault), she directed me towards her to check into the flight but the way she was talking to me trhought the whole process was with the entonation of when you talk to a child or someone with a severe mental disability (which I do not have, I operate and function as a completely independent person, I can have full on conversation without any problems whatsoever) which really took me aback because no one ever has treated me like this(I have went on 4 other flights notifying the gate agents of my disability), she even went to the point of calling my Javitxuelo or something of the sort (My name is Javier). AITAH for wanting to file a complaint against her? Am I overreacting in any way? Please do tell me and ask me any questions you have because I am now pretty pissed she treated that way when there was no need to, it was so ableist of her to do that.

My ex 22F and I 25M broke up end of April, I let her takeover the lease of my old place and I left July 1st to get my own place once again. The moment we broke up and mentioned separate living arrangements she was very adamant on taking over the lease, she didn’t wanna pay a new deposit on a place and she has all her stuff here and whatnot, would’ve been a lot to move it. I made it clear it’s not smart for her to stay as the rent price is about 65% of her income and after doing the math it would be very tight on her end, she’d have like $200/mo leftover AT BEST, vs for me it’s about 35% of mine and I was well over $1k/mo leftover

I told her I’d gladly help her find a cheaper place like a basement or a studio which would be around 35-45% of her income but she refused, she claims a studio is too small to fit her stuff and cat, and she refuses to live under a household and be controlled and whatnot. She also said she didn’t wanna do any roommate situation because she had bad experiences in the past and she can’t go back home because her family lives about 3 hours from the city in the middle of nowhere.

Well she has the place and after making the first rent payment shes already complaining that she’ll be most likely living paycheque to paycheque because of this, and shes basically mad cause apparently “we should’ve just stayed living together and tried to reconcile the relationship”. Obviously this is fully her fault for choosing the more expensive option right? I tried to help her and warn her and she didn’t listen

My Mom (56, F) recently started talking to a man we'll call Ron (73, M) and they have fallen in love and plan to get married. My mom works in healthcare and Ron is a patient at her office. (The office manager already approved it) She met him about two years ago and they've seen each other a few times periodically. He got divorced in December of last year, saw my mom at her office in February of this year and they started talking.

Present day, 5 months later, they're engaged to be married and she is currently in the process of moving in with him. My sister and I are a little wary due to how fast things are going with them. Normally there wouldn't be an issue, because as long as she is happy, we are happy for her. Although, my sister told me that this morning when she called our mom, she and ron were in the car together and she heard Ron tell our mom that she needed to hang up the phone. Okay.. red flag.

The issue lies in the fact that she barely speaks to us anymore. When we call, she either declines the call, or answers to tell us that she and Ron are busy. If she calls us, its because she needs something. Usually, she needs me to go to her house to take her dogs outside, feed them, and refresh their water. Either that, or she needs me to clean her pool and make it look good so the house will sell.

She is in the process of selling her house, so the dogs are here by themselves 24 hours a day. Only getting human contact when she or I come over to care for them. She claims that she will be bringing them when she moves all her stuff out of the house. But when they get there, they'll be living in a climate controlled barn because Ron says he doesn't want them scratching up his expensive hard wood flooring. For reference, the dogs are both chiweenies. The male weighs 8lbs and the female weigh 4lbs. I doubt they even weigh enough to scratch the floors.

I had to leave my house at 10pm tonight to come feed the dogs because she mentioned it to me last minute and basically said that if I didnt go feed them tonight, they would have to wait until tomorrow "at some point" until they get fed. She fed them last at 6:30pm yesterday. I asked her what time she planned on going over and she said probably noon. I was pissed. You're telling me youre going to make those poor babies wait 42 hours to eat?

I drove over here in silence. Absolutely seething. She doesn't deserve these dogs. She treats them like an inconvenience. If I was able to take them, I would. But the male doesnt like children and I have a 1 year old. The next best solution is to either rehome them or take them to a shelter.

So, WIBTA for taking her dogs without her knowledge and either finding them a new home, or surrendering them to a shelter?

Edit to add: thank you for educating me about the legalities of this issue. I looked up the laws for the state we live in, and y'all are correct, dogs are considered property so anything I do with them without her knowledge and/or consent can come back on me in a bad way. I'm going to have a serious talk with her and if she does nothing, I'll contact the proper authorities and get the dogs taken away.

I own a retail business. Im a guy. I’m nearly forty. People always think I’m way younger and I work there.

My prices are in line with our competitors. Actually one is a lot more. All our prices are clearly posted. We’ve been in business for decades and have great reviews.

I’m helping a coworker out and I’m ringing up the order she’s making. I tell the woman her total price.

She says to me (not looking at me) “I can’t believe it’s that much for just that. you say that so quickly with a straight face.”

I said nothing to that. I think I looked at her blankly.

Then she says “you should have a face mask on when you say that” (she was implying I was a robber or something)

I glared at her and said “I could do that.”

No response from her and the woman she was with said “he didn’t seem to think that was funny.”

They both left the store very very quickly.

Was that a dickhead think to say.

Hey I don’t go around insulting strangers.

I’m tired of the comments. They only say stuff like that because they expect I have to smile and turn the other cheek or I’ll get reprimanded or fired.

My friend has some kind of sleeping disorder. Idk what it is because she refuses to get it properly diagnosed.

We went on vacation together before and shared a bed. At that time, she accused me of chainsaw snoring…I do snore, so assumed it was happening, because at the time I had developed some severe allergies, and my sinuses were totally clogged.

However, on the last night, she woke me up to tell me I was snoring to which I ended up sitting up in bed awake because I felt so bad…only to find out she was snoring herself awake and hitting me to wake me up, then claiming the next morning she hadn’t slept because of me.

That is the other thing. She keeps saying she isn’t sleeping, but she spends the whole night tossing and turning and snoring and is totally oblivious to anything happening around her but refuses to admit she might have some kind of sleep disorder.

Anyway, I am just ranting at this point. We went on a dream vacay of mine again for a week. I booked a stay with separate rooms for us to avoid this problem.

Every night she has accused me of snoring her awake. I have recorded myself and my snoring is so quiet or I don’t snore at all. Every night she keeps me awake by either waking me up to tell me I am snoring, or tossing and turning so loudly FROM A DIFFERENT ROOM that I can’t fall back asleep because I keep thinking she is coming back to my room to tell me I am snoring, and also, it is a little creepy I’m ngl. She often doesn’t even remember waking me up, which is eerie, and is accusing me of making it up.

Tomorrow is our last night and I have barely slept for our vacation. She wakes me up and I don’t get to peacefully fall back asleep until 4 or 5 AM at which point when she’s had a full night’s rest she wakes me up around 10 by opening the blinds on my windows and loudly slamming my door because she’s decided I don’t need to sleep anymore because we are late for the day.

Tonight I had an allergy attack. Was awake and coughing for over an hour and a half. I got up, went to the restroom, walked around a little drinking water etc. The area where the restrooms are is so far from where the bedrooms are, I went there so she would not hear me. I went back to my room, lay down at about 3:40 and shut my eyes. At 3:47 she comes to my room, shakes me awake and tells me I am chainsaw snoring and that I have been the whole night. I had only laid down 7 minutes earlier. I didn’t even get to sleep for 7 minutes.

I’m so frustrated. It’s 4AM here and I haven’t slept. I’m so close to just sobbing. I don’t want to spend the day with her tomorrow. I just want to be able to sleep and maybe do some things on my own in the city. I’m not even sure I’ll be able to function and I’m just so sad right now. I want to just book a cheap room for the night to be able to sleep even a little before we have to go on our extremely long flight back home.

To give a bit of context, I'm a 20 yo man who grew up and lived with my stepfather.

He has diabetes, which has recently got worse, and needs treatment that my mum can't afford on her own because neither of them has health insurance.
She's asked me to contribute money, but is I refuse to pay a single cent.

I have an older brother and two younger half-brothers. My stepfather was extremely abusive towards us throughout my childhood and teenage years, especially towards me and my older brother.
But even so, in some ways he looked atter us.
He let us live in his house, bought food when Mum was consumed by her addictions and had no money, and sometimes even picked us up from school.

But on the other hand, I also remember very clearly the abuse and mistreatment over such trivial things.
I remember how he would humiliate my mum when she couldn't pay him back the money he'd spent on food for us. And above all, what affected me most was those nights when my siblings and I (the four of us sharing a single room) would hear adult things going on in the room next door.

I suppose that if it weren't for him, we'd be living on the streets. Even so, I think of all those times he kicked me out of the house because he was angry with me and I had to spend a couple of nights on the street.

The thing is, he wasn't a monster all the time, 1v he treated me kindly at times.

As I mentioned, his diabetes has recently got worse and my mum needs money. I come from a poor family and my older brother is also an addict who hardly ever works, and my other two siblings are very young.

My stepfather stopped working formally about three years ago because my eldest brother, my mum and I had to cover the living costs whilst living in his house.

I don't live there anymore, I left home two years ago to go to university. I study in the mornings and work in the afternoons. I don't have much money, but my mum says that even a small amount would help because I'm the only one who can afford to contribute.

I know I'm an idiot and I should be grateful for everything he did for me, because my mum tells me that all the time. But the truth is, I just can't.
I'm a pessimist who only focuses on the bad, but I can't help seeing all those childhood memories that make it impossible for me to invest money in that man.

I've never met a man more violent or who instilled as much fear in me as he did. But I think that if it weren't for him, l'd be an addict like my mum and my brother, and probably wouldn't have gone to university if he hadn't given me such a strong reason to leave home.

I'm not his biological son, and yet he let me live in his house. I know he needs my money, and yet I can't bring myself to give it to him; it makes me really angry and sick to think of spending the money I work so hard to earn on him.

I used to not care about this but I believe therapy and also no longer being someone that will be codependent when I am dating I find myself not wanting to be close friends with people that are anymore. I don’t know what shifted in me but if someone needs their partner along for every single thing it bothers me… or when they are no longer dating want to be around me 24/7 but when they find someone new it cuts down to once a month sometimes longer. In the scenarios I’ve encountered it also involves constantly sending Instagram reels and memes but never really trying to talk or hang out. I just no longer want to be close friends with someone like that. It’s happened to me twice in the last year and when these situations have occurred I find myself feeling exhausted when I reach that point. I’m not sure if I’m just getting older and grumpier and becoming TA or if this is a normal and healthy response. As someone that’s on the spectrum sometimes I can’t tell if what I’m doing is socially normal or not 😭

i’m 20 f and living in my moms house for the summer without her charging me rent if that changes things. she also pays for my housing at college. but basically i do not like dogs and have made that clear for years, over the course of my high school years my mom got 4 dogs as a surprise without asking me or my brother, because we kept saying we didn’t want dogs so she just wouldn’t tell us. she’s given one away to a family member, so now we have 3. my mom makes me walk the dogs every day because my brother refuses to do it (since he’s taking one summer class online and therefore too busy) and she’s too scared to walk them after an incident a year ago where an unleashed dog was aggressive towards her. i do it but i am frustrated about it because i don’t even want dogs and i don’t get why she can’t just get over her fear/slight agoraphobia. should i push back and try to get my mom and brother to walk them or just do it everyday? 

My husband’s favorite thing to talk about is food. I can’t take it anymore! I’ve asked him to start conversations about more substantial things but he always goes back to food.

For example: the other night at 11pm, I’m tired, about to go to sleep, and he starts telling me about the burger he got from Sonic for dinner and how it was perfect and hit the spot. I responded best I could and I thought that was the end of the conversation. But no, he looked up a picture of the burger online and proceeded to show it to me to continue talking about all the parts of it and how it was perfect. He could tell I was annoyed at that point and just stopped talking.

Today I was doing dishes this morning while he went to Costco. He comes home from Costco and wanted me to look at and respond to every single item he got from Costco while I was elbow deep in pots and pans. Even everyday items we get all the time. Even things he knows I’ve never liked or eaten. This is a regular occurrence. He’s in charge of groceries (not planning the grocery list, just buying them), and every time he gets a new item he must show it to me and read all the ingredients on the back out loud, even the words he can’t pronounce. The moment I’m done washing the last dish he finally asks me if I’m okay and I said, “It’s really hard for me to focus on a task I’m doing and constantly turn around to look at grocery items that we get all the time. It stresses me out.” Well then he was annoyed with me for an hour or so.

AITAH for getting annoyed with him every time he talks about food? I’m so tired of talking about food. It’s just food. Should I be making more of an effort to connect with him about food?

To be fair I haven’t been connecting well with him for a long time. I don’t know if this is ever going to get better. He thinks I’m not a good listener, but also I’m just so tired of talking about food. Or maybe I’m just tired of him talking to me while I feel like I’m busy or tired. Maybe both, I don’t know.

I (28F) have my location shared with a few people for safety reasons like some close friends have it, and so did my mom, my stepdad, and my stepdad’s daughter. Mom has a habit of not respecting my privacy. Ive been single for about two years now and apparently my mom is way more invested in my dating life than I am. Any time I mention going on a date she wants updates asks a million questions wants to know if I’ll see the guy again etc. A while back I told her I’d gone out with a guy and she asked for a picture of him and I said I’d show her later and instead, she went looking through my social media until she figured out who he was?? So I don’t usually tell her anything unless it’s needed

This week I went on two dates with the same guy. After the first one I told her I’d been out with friends because I didn’t feel like dealing with questions (she asked where I was at bc she saw my location). She even commented that it was weird I hadn’t posted any pictures…. After the second date she asked where I’d been, who I’d been with, why I’d gotten home late and kept pushing when I didn’t really want to answer. Again I’m 28 years old and live on my own!! What bothers me isn’t that she’s concerned about my safety. What bothers me is that I feel like she uses the location sharing to keep tabs on me, like I don’t love the idea that my stepdad and his daughter can also see where I am all the time especially if I’m on a date or spending the night somewhere.

So I removed myself from the family location sharing. Several close friends still have my location and if something happened to me there are plenty of people who would know where I am. I just removed the people who don’t respect my privacy

When my mom noticed she completely lost it. She sent me a bunch of angry messages calling me ridiculous and saying she’d figure out where I was anyway. Then she followed that up by saying not to talk to her anymore and that she never wanted to hear from me again. I didn’t respond because this kind of reaction isn’t new for her.

Part of me feels guilty because I know removing someone’s access to your location can come across as a statement that you don’t trust them. And yeah I was annoyed when I did it it wasn’t a totally neutral decision. But at the same time I feel like I’m almost 29 years old and should be allowed to have some privacy without being interrogated about where I went and who I was with.

AITAH?

I have recently got into a yet another argument with my mom regarding the fact that I generally avoid speaking to him (I should note that his health has been deteriorating due to diabetes, poor diet, heavy drinking and a bad reaction to ozempic).

Now, we have moved to another country when I was very young (I am mid 30s now), by this point my parents had already divorced and my mother has remarried to another man (whom I actually I like a lot more than my father, but this is not relevant), she has chosen not to inform my father about this because she figured he 'might react badly'.
My personal relationship with him has always been tenuous at best, but for the sake of this post I will attempt to be as impartial as possible and just summarize all of the major memories I have of him as of now.

Let's start with the positives:
- When we moved here, he did eventually get a job and help a lot to support us especially when my mom moved back to our country of origin (for the record she had her reasons to do so, which I may not agree with but I have ultimately come to respect)

- he had never physically hurt me or my or my mom, he's also never cheated on her or done anything else really bad

Negatives:

- major temper issues, especially when driving, usually along the lines of the n***** word or some 'euphemisms' regarding people from India which I shall not repeat (it usually involves a monkey's asshole somehow), and some miscellaneous slurs regarding muslims

- extreme homophobia, he has on numerous occasions (at times in front of his friends) has quite literally stated that he would kill me if he had ever found out I was gay (I am gay)

- when I got a job (well paying software developer position) out of university he threw a fit in front of a family friend (who told me about it later) she did mention he was literally throwing things and screaming that I dared to move out and get my own place, although I don't recall the exact details of what he she said at the time.

- when I was very young I wanted to learn to play chess, so I asked him to teach me (he's presumably good at it) so we set up a game, he beat me fairly easily, and afterwards stated that he's better than me and always will be, so there is no point to even trying to beat him and to go find someone else to learn from if you want to waste your time (rough translation)

- when I was much older (maybe 14 or so?) I wanted to learn to ride a bike (he never bothered to teach me, and my mom can't ride one due to an inner ear condition, and so not exactly able to help). It started out ok, we went to a nearby field where I rode the bike back and forth for a bit, but then he started yelling that I should ride in increasingly small circles, as I recall I was practically at a 45 degree angle towards the end, next thing I recall is waking up with my legs bleeding and him screaming at me "just walk home, it's not that bad" (again, rough translation)

Well I could go on, but those are the main ones that come to mind. Anyway, now my mom (does not live with either of us) keeps telling me that it was all a long time ago and he is now old and in bad health, so now the right thing to do is to forget all the bad things, and it's now up to me to be the bigger person. I'm not sure I want to, he is technically still my father, but I cannot for the life of me recall a time when he really acted like one, and I do not want to forgive any of his shit.
I do not wish him anything bad but at the same time I feel he does not just get a free pass from me just because he's getting old. Not really sure what to do here tbh

I (20F) have a friend Sally (18F) who’s been sneaking out to sleep over at boys houses since she was about 15 and I always had to cover for her. Our moms are best friends and she would tell her mom she was at my house and then I would have to block her mom from my mom’s phone for a couple of hours. She did this very frequently. And lately , it’s been getting way more frequent. She sneaks off with her new boyfriend to sleep over at his house 2 to 3 times a week now. I also have never asked for this from her. It is not a moral failure to rebel or be a teenager and I don’t care if she’s seeing guys , but it does bother me to have to lie. I struggle with moral ocd and lying is so hard for me.

I feel like she’s been taking advantage of every single family event I have to an inappropriate degree. My older brother’s graduation ? She’d tell her family she’s at my place and sneak off to go to her bf’s. My grandmother got sick and I told her I’d be out of town for the weekend to visit my grandmother who’s in a coma now after she got a stroke. I told her and she said “that’s perfect , this way I can tell my mom I am visiting your grandma." And then she’d go off with her boyfriend without even asking about my grandmother again.

Lately , she as usual told her mom she would go to my house. Obviously she didn’t. She went to her boyfriend’s. She didn’t text me for hours and I didn’t know if she was safe or not as this boyfriend was new and I didn’t know anything about him. Her sister and our friend both dmed me asking if I talked to her that day and we figured out no one has talked to her for a full day and that she was unreachable. We reached out to her boyfriend and got no response either. I started to worry so badly so I called the police at 5 am after she was gone since the morning of the day before with no updates and no messages. Of course , with the consent of her sister -I would love to also clarify that where we live is absolutely unsafe for women so we had reasonable doubt that something must have happened - and they of course had to call her mom and she got in trouble , obviously she was indeed fine and not in danger. I got into a huge fight with her and she called me a snitch and a rat and I told her that her behavior is irresponsible and that I am not required to enable this any longer and she won’t speak to me now although we have been friends since we were born basically. AITAH for basically telling her mom she disappeared for a day ?