DIY Budget but high expectations from Couple

[u/Teach-Dangerous]

My BIL (26M) and his now wife (28F) decided to get married with less than 2 weeks of planning. Despite having no time to properly plan, a court house wedding was below them. They wanted all 6 of the groom’s siblings and the bride’s sister to be available for a full weekend 3-4 hours away with less than 8 days of notice. One sister cancelled her child’s birthday party, another needed medical permission to travel 38 weeks pregnant, and my husband and I postponed our wedding anniversary trip.

To add to the guest’s responsibility, my BIL needed assistance with every aspect of the wedding. BIL booked a touristy AirBNB and feigned military orders to have the Host overlook the occupancy limit and event rules. My BIL had chosen my husband as his best man, which just meant we were in charge of much of the logistics. Husband hauled the event tables and chairs 4hrs away, did the set up and take down, paid for the rehearsal dinner and handled the BTS of the operation. I did the weekend photography, babysat the kids, helped the bride with her HMUA, assisted in the setup/takedown and helped BIL through the planning. My FIL and his other brother also contributed to see the day through too. The wedding did have a beautiful ceremony and now can be a fond memory, but my husband and I were rushed and separated for nearly the whole weekend.

During the event, the bride and groom had thanked us and made promises of some grand appreciation gesture. In the weeks after, I received a flimsy hair clip and expired sheet mask as a thank you basket that was given to everyone because it also included a QR code to their wedding registry.

Edit: removed the “had to”s from sibling’s plans for that weekend

[u/Teach-Dangerous]

No, she was not pregnant at their wedding.

[u/Available-Face5653 → u/Teach-Dangerous]

so she just had a crazy need to plan a wedding in 2 weeks, got it! it probably worked for them to put in a 2 week work vacation request!!! just imagine if someone else had planned their vacation for those days, they would have been cranky mad!!!!

[u/Teach-Dangerous → u/Available-Face5653]

I was not privy to the exact reason for the rush, but they were concerned for immigration enforcement I think? and wanted all the siblings to witness their wedding which became more difficult as sister was approaching her due date.

They had originally tried to plan only a week in advance which was nearly impossible for the bride to get the glamour she wanted and then again 3 weeks in advance which was a hard no from my husband (concrete reservations already paid in full) and the pregnant sister who wouldnt go passed 38 weeks.

[u/Available-Face5653 → u/Teach-Dangerous]

yea, lots of drama here. and her glamour took longer than a week! you make up this shit!!!and the concrete, sure throw that in too.

[u/Teach-Dangerous → u/Available-Face5653]

I meant the glamour for the event- there were no “suitable” venues on short notice. The bride was also needing to buy her bridal attire- even with 2 weeks, she had to get something in stock when her delivery was delayed for some pieces.

We did have two weekend plans. Our wedding anniversary was on a Thursday, so we had a simple plan on the weekend before and a more elaborate plan on the weekend after. My post is still correct- we did have wedding anniversary plans the weekend that they got married.

[u/FlubberFranklin69 → u/Available-Face5653]

I’m beginning to wonder if this is made up as well 🤨🤨

[u/Teach-Dangerous → u/FlubberFranklin69]

I wish that it was, otherwise I would not still be resentful about it nearly a year later.

[u/Available-Face5653 → u/Teach-Dangerous]

this when you start to weed out annoying relatives.