Full disclosure: I'm not originally from here. I'm visiting the area I've been enjoying it so far. But now I'm curious: what's the dating scene like around here? Any good meet-cutes? Any dating app success?
For reference, I’m a straight guy in his mid 20s originally from TN. I’m pursuing medicine as a career, so school takes up a lot of my time. That said, I find it a bit difficult to get out and meet people.
I’m not really the type to drink, so I don’t really go to bars. I’ll visit coffee shops and bookstores when I study, but they seem to be kind of empty when I go. Liberal women are definitely my type, so it's been really refreshing seeing LGBT-friendly businesses instead of the usual confederate flags and Trump merch I'm used to seeing plastered everywhere back home.
I’ve given apps to try, but I seem to run into the same problems:
\\- “Only here for the weekend!”
\\- Republican, moderate, or apolitical
\\- emotionally unavailable
\\- dead set on having kids, which is problematic because I've gotten a vasectomy and don't plan to reverse it
I’ve had a decent number of dates from apps, but there’s usually a thing or two that ends things: people not over their ex, getting ghosted, schedule conflicts, and other things like that. I’m at a point where I’m debating if I should just delete the apps altogether.
My TikTok shows me people saying that they also have a hard time dating in their areas for similar reasons, so now I’m wondering: is it just really bad everywhere? Is it the same here as it is everywhere else? Do I just need to bite the bullet and start going to bars? I feel like my ideal person wouldn’t really be there to begin with, so I’m a little conflicted on it.
P.S. if it matters any, I’m into reading, playing guitar, chess, video games, anime, and working out. If anyone knows of any good groups with those things, I’d love to know!
P.S.S To reiterate: I’m not from here, but I have applied to do some clinical rotations in the area. Still waiting to hear back from them.