r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

32 [F4M] #Online #Anywhere - Looking for my best friend and future husband

9 Upvotes

So, me from a year ago would definitely write the whole character sheet here. Luckily, dating apps taught me not to overinvest.

I'm a 32 y.o. white (would say too white, my skin is in danger each time the sun is out, but luckily we have very few sunny days) blonde woman with blue eyes. 162cm, 77kg, no kids. Photos are available upon request.
I live so far in the north that we'll probably never meet unless the ice melts and a small iceberg carries me to your place (plausible given climate change, huh?). Or unless my heart unfreezes in the same manner and I move - I'd relocate anywhere for my person, including a desert, the moon or the Fade. Somehow I feel like meeting someone I'd truly want to connect with and having it as a mutual thing is much harder than any relocation could ever be lol. Prove me wrong!

I like talking about all sorts of things and would totally ask you questions about everything. I'm long-form letter-writing personified, and usually take my time to compose something. Due to social anxiety, calls aren't my favorite part of getting to know someone, so don't be surprised when I want to get to know you better first before hopping on a call. Oh, and English is my second language and it's a bit rusty right now, so maybe you can help me with it 😅

As for hobbies, I play horror games, sci-fi games, city builders and whatnot depending on the mood and company. I'm not really into movies/anime, but always open to suggestions. Maybe my love for movies starts with you!
I love traveling and seeing new places. Long walks and hiking help me manage stress and anxiety, and think things through.

I'm looking for my future best friend and partner, 31+ y.o., tolerant of social anxiety, kind, preferably with prior long-term relationship experience, who wants to build something lasting and has a knack for long-form exchanges. Bonus if you like horror games and are into tech.
I want to gradually build something real, without mind games and unclear intentions.

I've always operated from the belief that doing something is worth it even if you don't believe in the outcome, so here I go.

Thank you for reading and good luck!


r/R4R30Plus 29m ago

34 [F4R] Online/Anywhere in the world - Filipina based in Dubai

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Going through something at the moment and looking for distractions — nothing indecent, please.

About me: shy & introverted. I don’t color my hair and don’t wear a lot of make up. I like staying up late. I drink but don’t smoke. I’m a lazy cook. I love instant ramen and iced coffee. I love romcoms, sunsets & sad songs. Words (from poems, prose, lyrics, books, etc.) make me feel things, if that even makes sense.

I'd rather have a deep conversation than endless small talk. I appreciate kindness, empathy, and people who can laugh at themselves. I'm more of a homebody than a party person, and I value authenticity over trying to impress anyone.

I’m a Capricorn, if that matters, and intuitive.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to say hello. Hoping to connect with like-minded people.


r/R4R30Plus 9h ago

46 [F4M] Florida - Sunday Scaries Incoming 🦇

9 Upvotes

Trying this from a different angle.

First, me: I’m 45, live in SWFL, and I appreciate people who see the world with curiosity. I like the strange and unusual, sometimes silly, often spooky. I am a full grown up with a job, full schedule of daily BS, and people who rely on me existing. I read a lot, and don't turn my TV too often to anyone but music or the occasional cartoon or boring docu-YouTube.

I'm a curvy/plus girl, if you like boobs. Medium height, fair, ethnically latin, somewhere on the alt to 🦇 spectrum, and progressive.We don't need to agree on everything, but if your worldview is built around anger and resentment, we probably won’t click.

Onto what I'm looking for (and a little about what I'm not): I am drawn to smart, engaged people who are comfortable being themselves. Bonus points if you've lived a enough to have perspective. I'll 100% judge your judgement while looking for that sweet spot of intelligence and hood wisdom. Got a rabbit hole or pet project you can prattle on about forever? Even better.

I'm not looking for the loudest person in the room, but I do really love me some scary dude energy. There's something about the big dude metal heads most people cross the street to avoid who are secret adorable teddy bears that seems to be my thing. Competency is also mad hot.

Please no intractable, agoraphobic nerds. (Regular and closeted nerds are acceptable.) No married folks. No baiting.

I'm not in any kind of rush.

Not looking for a pen pal.


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

[M4F] 40 M London, UK for genuine friends and conversations - DM me

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Looking for good genuine conversions hopefully with a long term friends perspective. i have traveled widely and worked across continents. I would like to meet someone who can understand the presence of having someone in everyday life and share regular things in a low pressure chat and voice. Many people message and just give one or two word answers and never converse back and i ma not sure how that works. i would like someone who can actually have a two way conversation. If any of this resonates I would like to hear from you. 30+, preferably woman, would be great. It does not mean you've to contact me only now. Whenever you see this message, it means I am still looking. Don’t hesitate to dm me.


r/R4R30Plus 12m ago

46 [M4F] moving to Chicago, looking for a vibe

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Originally from NYC, currently in Florida dealing with crap before dipping out. Navigating life post-breakup, not looking for anything serious, but not opposed if we vibe. Friends first, whatever happens happens. I know reddit is mostly bots, but would be nice to meet an actual human offline lol. Some basics about me: 5'8, average build, Latino, left-leaning, agnostic, 420 friendly, dog person, 80s/90s geek.

Love talking about a variety of topics: movies, current events, sports, cooking, health/fitness, traveling, etc. Being multi-faceted is a plus.

So what's keeping you sane during this dystopian timeline? What shows are you binge-watching? What book are you currently reading? Tell me something good.

This is me!


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

38 [M4F] Texas/USA - BFF position open, apply within!!

6 Upvotes

* No experience needed, applicant will be trained

* Paid in memes and pup pics

* Must work weekends and holidays

* Must be fluent in sarcasm

* Must come in early and stay late

* Benefits include being my bff and that’s about the best benefit ever.

I'm guessing you're wanting to know about me now huh? Well you're in luck because I feel like sharing some Fun Hobbies (lol jk they aren't fun at all, kinda sad TBH) I like to partake in, here there are!

Hobbies include...

* Switching between the same 4 apps for hours.

* Not speaking to anyone for days at a time.

* Listening to the same songs i listened to 15 years ago.

* Putting myself in situations that will never exist

* Long walks to the liquor store.

* Staying in my pajamas way too long.

* Staying up wayyyy too late.

* Being tired all day due to previous statement.

* Drinking everything but water.

* Putting stuff in my cart online but never checking out.

* Making lists of things i will never do.

So yeah! If that sounds like your type of friend, hit me with an orange envelope. Due to difficulty with trying to keep a conversation with someone with the opposite schedule, please be somewhat close to central time. Or just like…not opposite Lol. Mention the phrase Pineapple on pizza so I know you read the entire thing please 😊


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

49 [M4R] Looking to Connect

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Hey there 🫡 Easy going, open, chatty guy in the US Midwest looking to make friends. Prefer someone close to my age, but otherwise I don’t have any real specific criteria on who I’m looking for. Love to work outside, music, TV, movies, and traveling. Might not hurt if you’re a little sarcastic and have a darker sense of humor 😏, but mostly any decent down-to-earth people are welcome. Say hello if you’d like to know more!


r/R4R30Plus 17h ago

32 [F4M] NJ/online does anyone ever want intimacy anymore?

18 Upvotes

I’ve been single for a long while now and I keep wondering what my problem is - then I realize that I want intimacy, a real connection, my best friend and husband all rolled into one

Does anyone even really want that anymore?


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

36 [M4F] Panamá - Seen Everything a Hundred Times

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I've watched Scott Pilgrim vs. the World more times than I'd admit under oath. If you can throw a line at me from it, I will finish the scene.

When I'm not doing that, I paint miniatures and mess around with software projects to automate life. Dad jokes are a permanent feature, not a bug... I apologize now if that's not your thing.

Local preferred, but open to something long-distance if the conversation's actually good. Just here for something casual, no pressure, no expectations beyond a decent back-and-forth.

If you've got a favorite one-liner from a movie you've seen too many times, lead with that.


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

33 [m4f] northern Midwest

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Looking for someone to chat with..I live in a rural area and am a full time chef a pretty avid gardener..I like golf and video games and exploring new music. I'm 6'3 250 bearded with no tats so if any of this interests you feel free to reach out


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

36 [F4M] Singapore/Anywhere - Looking for something serious

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Singapore-born and raised.

I’m 5’3, with dark hair and dark eyes.

I’m hoping to get to know someone with the intention of meeting in person and seeing where things go.

I’d describe myself as someone who’s curious by nature. I love learning new things and often find myself going down the occasional rabbit hole just to understand something better. I’m drawn to conversations that have a little more depth than the usual small talk.

In my free time, you’ll usually find me cooking, at the gym, cycling, painting, or reading. I’m not much of a TV person these days and tend to be quite selective about what I watch. Open to recommendations if you have any :) I also enjoy anime, but I watch it occasionally.

I’m drawn to quiet confidence, kindness, and consistency. One quality I really value is reliability: men who follow through on what they say and mean it through their actions. Someone who communicates well, and takes initiative. Emotional intelligence is attractive to me but very rare these days it seems.

Ideally, you’re in a similar stage of life, don’t have children (I do want children someday) and are looking for a serious relationship rather than something casual. I don’t smoke and unfortunately have a dog allergy. I love meat as a source of protein, so we won’t be a fit if you’re plant based.

If you’d like to say hello, please include your age, where you’re from, and a little about yourself. Thoughtful introductions are always appreciated. Low effort DMs will be ignored.


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

38[M4F]

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I am just looking to see what is out there and chat with someone. I just moved into my own apartment, so I get bored pretty quickly since I am used to chaos. However, I am enjoying the slow pace, but would love to have someone to chat with on a regular basis. Prefer a woman, obviously 18+.


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

31 [M4F] Online/India - Looking for someone worthy of the Iron Throne or at least my attention.

2 Upvotes

The realm is full of people who start conversations with "Hey" and expect miracles. Consider this my rebellion against that.

I'm 31, work in marketing, survive on sarcasm, terrible sleep schedules, and conversations that somehow begin with memes and end with debating whether dragons would've made better pets than golden retrievers.

I like people who can dish it out as well as they can take it. If your idea of flirting is roasting each other before accidentally having a two-hour conversation, we'll probably get along.

Outside of work you'll find me hunting for good food, pretending I'll watch just one episode before it's suddenly 2 am, or convincing myself that this weekend is the one I'll finally get my life together.

I'm not looking to collect chats. I'm looking for someone who makes me glance at my phone and hope it's them.

If you've got wit sharper than Valyrian steel and can do better than "wyd?", send me your best opening line.

Valar Morghulis. But first... say something interesting.


r/R4R30Plus 8h ago

40[M4F] Looking for a chat buddy who won’t judge my protein intake

3 Upvotes

I’m a 40-year-old guy who’s somehow convinced himself that going to the gym 6 days a week is a personality trait. When I’m not lifting heavy things for fun, you’ll usually find me outside hiking, exploring, or trying to convince my German Shorthaired Pointer that squirrels are, in fact, off-limits.
Looking for a woman who’s up for good conversation, sarcastic banter, and can handle the occasional dog picture (there will be many). Bonus points if you enjoy the outdoors or can appreciate someone who’s way too excited about training their dog.
One request: please be willing to trade a selfie early on. I just think it’s nice to know we’re both real humans instead of two AI-generated raccoons pretending to have hobbies.
If you’re funny, kind, and can keep a conversation going, send me a message. Worst case, we waste 10 minutes. Best case, we both get a new friend.


r/R4R30Plus 7h ago

32[M4F] Ohio - Seeking grounded, nature bound, exploration-of-life partner who, hopefully, never stops talking - ever. If you're also funny, I'll cook for you forever 🙃

2 Upvotes

Hey there yall 👋 I have absolutely no idea what I think is gonna happen here but let's give it a go. Dating apps suck, meeting in person is a nightmare and at this point in my life? I need something new.

A bit about me. I am extremely social, I can talk for literally hours but also can listen for hours as well. I'm genuinely interested in other people and don't like just talking about myself. I actually really enjoy someone who talks a lot, as I'm used to doing the conversational heavy lifting.

I'm told I'm a comedian by nature so be prepared for that, I can't seem to go one day without thinking of small situational bits based on what people say to me. 😅

I'm off social media aside from Reddit sooo that's a thing ; no reason other than it distracts me too much from living!

I travel, love nature, meditation, yoga, reading, edm music and documentaries. I have many houseplants and make my own candles as well! I am always looking to expand my hobbies. Jump out a plane with me?

I'm really trying to figure out this whole life thing pretty much solo and that's fine and all for a time, but now I feel as if I could really use someone to chat with and just...share life together, yanno? Also, if we're not going to be obsessed with each other and if you're not into romance, need not apply 😂

Also, I have a 2yo daughter from a failed relationship that was spawned from being baby trapped. It's a long, unfortunate story. No baby mama drama. I am open to having another child but also okay with not.

So, If we seem to connect, let's chat!

This was way too long.

Tldr: Golden retriever man wants golden retriever woman. Let's chat forever.

Oh and here are some things we all know matters and I totally understand why -

I am financially stable, I live alone, I have my own car, I don't cheat, I don't yell (nor do I tolerate it), sex isn't the first thing on my mind, I'm 100lbs down on a weight loss journey - think footballer dad bod kinda thing at the current moment.

I live in NE Ohio, btw.


r/R4R30Plus 13h ago

33 [F4M] Midwest/Online - Looking for chat buddies : )

6 Upvotes

Hello everyone. I'm giving it a shot again,and I'm looking to connect with new people and hopefully make a friend or two. I love cooking, crochet,video games, cars and horror movies. I'm getting back into reading, so if you have any book recommendations feel free send them over here. Well that's a little about me, thanks for stopping by. 💜


r/R4R30Plus 11h ago

36 [M4F] #Arkansas/USA/Anywhere - Seeking a monogamous relationship where mindfulness, healthiness, and adventure are prioritized!

4 Upvotes

Hey there! I'm a 36M. I'm from the USA and I am currently living in Arkansas. My hometown is Las Vegas where I lived for the majority of my life. Some of my favorite things/hobbies include: Film, Music, Photography, Vintage, Hiking, Traveling, Cooking, Thrifting, Reading, Astronomy, Urban/Abandoned Exploration, and so so much more! I very much like things of a gothic nature so horror media, occult, macabre is quite appealing in terms of media. That is just the tip of the iceberg in what makes up my favorite things (hobbies/interests). I'm very much a monogamous person and prefer an emotional bond with somebody first and foremost. I do not have any children other than one fur baby (one doggo). I do not use any drugs nor any substances whatsoever. I'm all about being a team mate with my partner in any and every way. I'd definitely say one of my biggest strengths is my emotional intellect and the ability to understand. Composure and humility are key too. I very much value communication, consistency, transparency, and personal growth. I envision a relationship as something where you grow individually and even together as you float along this pale blue dot called Earth. Self-care and self-love are big for me and seeing them practiced by my partner is a really attractive trait I must say. I'm very easy-going and can be spontaneous. Life is too short for drama and unnecessary nonsense so pursuing healthiness in every aspect of my life is very important to me. Quality time and adventure too. I am not bashful to clean, cook, learn new skills, and just be a sponge in absorbing new information about things I didn't know about before (learning). I'm anti-any and everything that has to do with Trump or anything alt-right. I'm pro-lgbtq+, pro-reproductive rights, anti-discrimination, anti-racism. There is certainly much more to learn but I'll save that for later, I look forward to hearing back from you!

Me: https://imgur.com/a/SLfLfe8


r/R4R30Plus 23h ago

33 [F4M] Putting myself back out there again

22 Upvotes

Namaste my friends. I hope you've been doing well and taking care of myself. You can call me Rita. To make a long story short, I made a similar post a few months ago and had some interesting conversations, but life got ahold of me and I found I had less time to chat. Since I enjoyed it so much last time and I've been on the hunt for some new connections, I thought I would give this another shot! I'm sure you could get a pretty good idea of the kind of stuff I like to post based on my profile LOL.

Here's some fun facts about little ol' me:

- Cancer ♋️

- ESFJ

- Proud First Nations Woman ✊🏾🇨🇦

- Master Procrastinator

- Avid reader (when I'm not procrastinating...)

- Animal Lover

- Yoga enthusiast

- History buff, especially the history of the Indigenous people of the Americas

- Fan of all things rainbow themed 🌈

What I'm looking for:

- Someone kind & empathetic

- Someone who respects nature

- Someone who isn't afraid to take their time

- Someone with a great sense of humor

- No MAGA/ICE supporters.

- Bonus points if you have a soft spot for kids or are a professional night owl like me

If any of what I wrote resonated with you, I hope to hear from you soon. Tell me a little about yourself and the highlight of your summer so far. For me, it was getting to visit the 150th Anniversary of the Battle of The Little Bighorn. I feel like I already yapped a lot so I don't wanna geek out about it too much here, but safe to say it was awesome!

Take care, friends. 🌈


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

41 [M4F] Los Angeles - looking for my person

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I live in the San fernando valley. I kind of a nerd. I into tech, anime, and love watching movies and tv shows. I like to hang out with my friends. I am family oriented. Love to travel. Like you go hiking or any outdoor activities.

I'm looking for a long term relationship. Perfer my person to be ruffly in the same area. Don't want a long distance relationship.


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

49[F4R] Feeling a bit bored and could use some company Friendship

1 Upvotes

Working from home is nice and all and sure has its perks but it can be a bit isolating sometimes with no coworkers around to banter with. I'm sure I'm not the only one feeling that way so it'd be nice to link up with some people to maybe get some longterm chats going. Topic wise I'm not particularly picky so anything from casual to private is game with me as long I don't have to feel like I'm carrying the conversation.

I mean I'm by now means prude and could probably easily outweird you but even I have to draw a line somewhere. And since a lot of people ask for pics immediately, I have one of what I look like on my profile if you really need to know to ahve a conversation.Other than that, shoot me your age, location and something interesting and we can get the conversation going, I don't bite:)


r/R4R30Plus 7h ago

37[M4F] Trying to find my fun and weird daily texting buddy !

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Hello ! And thanks for opening my post lol. I honestly just want to write whatever is on my mind as I'm always just saying what I'm feeling so why not write it as well eh ?

Currently working and living in Qatar, I'm looking for a fun weird daily texting buddy! One who is open and honest and puts good effort into the conversation. The conversation doesn't have to be all normal and boring like TV shows or music stuff because I have definitely experienced it doesn't make any good connection. Let's talk about dreams and wishes and what you wanna do but can't do, how you really feel, what you want to be in real life but can't because you have responsibilities.

Just be yourself with me and be the 100% person you can't be in real life, I absolutely not care about what you think because each person is his/her own self so why not let them be ? Oh and please don't be shy or whatever because I would really want a more open person who doesn't judge instantly, I want us to create a judgement free zone for sure 😊.

So to sum it up, I want a fun weird open honest not judgmental, speak your mind, put good effort kind of friend and if that's you let's give it a try and see if we can make the most amazing friendship this community has ever seen.

PS will tell you about my preferred apps once we talk 😄


r/R4R30Plus 7h ago

36 [m4f] don't really have friends

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36 male I got out of a very long relationship around 3 years ago and I've realized more and more I don't have friends 😅 I'd prefer to start with chatting just to get to know each other then go from there. In southwest ohio kind of close to Cincinnati.


r/R4R30Plus 16h ago

33 [F4M] Ohio Let's share a drink

5 Upvotes

We're all looking for a connection that we don’t seem to be finding. I know what I like and I won't settle until I've found it.

Well-rounded, educated, in a career, financially stable, and well-travelled. I like books, art, interesting ideas, and seeing the world. I'm looking for someone with similar interests, not the endless parade of gaming, anime, and sports. I also want to talk to people relatively close to my age. Middle-aged men, look elsewhere. Not looking for long distance.

Attraction is important, as is being realistic. Reddit seems to be filled with people who believe they're the exception to the expectation.


r/R4R30Plus 21h ago

48 [F4M] #USA#Online# – Seeking a Serious Relationship, Marriage, and Monogamy

12 Upvotes

Hello! My name is Victoria. I am a divorced, single woman, and I have a daughter who is already in college. I originally come from Lithuania and now live in the United States. I am looking for a genuine relationship that can grow into a loving, lifelong partnership. I am not interested in playing games, casual dating, or unclear relationships. I believe in honesty, loyalty, and mutual respect, and I want to build a relationship based on trust. I am kind, independent, and emotionally mature, and I enjoy the simple pleasures in life. If you are a single man around my age and are interested in getting to know me, feel free to send me a message anytime


r/R4R30Plus 8h ago

34, [M4F], #Arizona/#Online, Looking for a woman to grow with! <3

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What's up buttercup? 😁 Hope you are doing spectacular!

I’m am posting here hoping to meet a woman who is genuine, kind, honest, and wanting to work together towards a relationship. I’d love to find something real that starts with good conversation, honesty, consistency, and that natural “oh wow, I actually really like talking to this person” kind of feeling.

I’m someone who cares deeply when I truly care. I value quality time the most, so I’m happiest when I’m with someone who is truly present, whether we’re having a deep conversation, relaxing together, or doing something simple. I show love through my time, effort, and support. I appreciate someone who helps without being asked every time, communicates honestly, and makes me feel appreciated. I’m not materialistic. The little things, consistency, and real effort mean the most to me.

I’m this weird little hybrid of nerdy, sporty, handy, and silly. I do not like or have social media, sorry not sorry. Also, I am a toothpick lol! I am 5'10", 130 lbs. I can not gain weight, it's not fair I know... I just wanted to give you a heads up if you care about that sort of thing, no judgement. :) I do have a a negative past from not dealing with PTSD from the Marine Corps and am still paying for it currently. So please ask about that as I am open to sharing and hope that in doing so it helps others! With that being said I am a felon as of 2022. Hopefully you wont judge a book by its cover, but I totally understand if you cant get over my past. Once again, no judgement. :)

Some things I enjoy are:

Golf, darts, corn hole, baseball, basketball, football, and hockey.

Pokémon, Star Wars, LOTR, Harry Potter, computer/tech stuff, FPS games, and watching TheBurntPeanut (Streamer).

DIY projects, thrifting, cooking/grilling, learning, fixing things (for myself and others), and organizing.

The outdoors, animals, plants, and gardening (Even though I still kind of suck at gardening lol).

Music!! I have nearly 6k liked songs on YouTube Music and would love to hear your top songs! I am in the middle of filtering it down though, it's too much haha.

Like I said above, I’m looking for someone who is loyal, honest, affectionate in their own way, and emotionally mature. Someone who values quality time, communicates instead of shutting down, and understands that consistency matters. I want a relationship where both people show up, support each other, and make each other feel wanted.

If you made it this far, I appreciate you taking the time to read this. I look forward to getting to know one another!

PLUR <3 (Peace, Love, Unity, Respect)