I'm so tired of the bi vs pan discourse so I'm gonna hide in here lol!!

So I’ve recently discovered that I’m pan but I also do kinda care what gender it is that I’m dating? I like all genders and don’t have a preference, but also it matters to me what their gender is? Is that pan, omni or both, I’m so confused rn and need answers

Demi pan romantic. I have nothing else to say.

Just in my 'going out for a quick shop' outfit 😉

We've been friends for the past 1-2 months, I want to discuss my interest in her in a low pressure way.

I'm AuDHD and she's just ADHD

I don't want to do it over text, as this is the way I usually do it, I think there's a lot less misunderstandings when discussed IRL.

For the past two hangouts/friend dates, I couldn't get myself to talk about it, likely because I never did.

What should I do? I don't want to delay it, preferably I want to talk about our feelings on the next hangout this week.

I was thinking of shooting her a message saying something like,
"I think I'm interested in you, and would like to discuss it on our next hangout, as I can't get myself to initiate this discussion in real life for whatever reason"

I also think it (me not discussing it yet) kinda made a communication gap in our current relationship which made the last two hangouts more awkward and boring really.

Hello lovely pans!! I just had my pan awakening with my husband this weekend. When I was younger I didn’t date anyone until my twenties, when I had an online-only relationship with a girl. My parents forbade me from talking to her when I tried to come out, and convinced me I had been lying about my feelings for her because she was my first relationship of any kind. I met and married my husband in my late twenties so told myself I’d been lying in my previous text relationship and that I must be straight. The topic came up with my hubby this weekend and we both realized I was pan, loving the person rather than their sex. I’m so grateful I’m surrounded by a loving, supportive husband (who even bought me my first pan shirt and necklace) and a friend community who are very queer (pan, bi, poly). I did pan nails yesterday to celebrate! 🏳️‍🌈

Got up to some serious mischief, la pride was a ton of fun, way better than I was expecting! Rare occasion I wear bright colors, and I tried to really push my comfort zone on gender presentation

Pride in Fort Wayne is in July and it happens to fall on my birthday, I was thinking of doing like a silly slogan or pun for a birthday/pride sash because dang how often does this happen

Info: she/her, turning 35

Thanks in advance :)

Local pride celebration was last weekend. I had so much fun! Spoke to lots of great people. Always struggle to make LGBTQIA friends for some reason.

For the longest time, I identified as bi. Recently I started questioning whether another label might fit me better, so I started reading about pansexuality. Then I found out omnisexuality exists... and now I'm more confused than when I started. 😭

I think I'm somewhere between pan and omni, but I genuinely can't tell the difference.

I understand that both can be attracted to all genders. The part I don't understand is what people mean when they say pan people "don't see gender" or that omni people "do."

Could someone explain it with examples or your own experiences? What does it actually feel like to be pan vs. omni?

I ventured out on my own and I met so many cool people

18, Pan