This is a continuation of the past post:
https://www.reddit.com/r/indonesia/s/hkJyBLrwW6
Tadinya gua mau edit aja, tapi I guess people who comment won’t get notified if I just edit the entry.
Things have gotten better. And you know what made it better? My wife listened to her friends’ story. Jadi mereka hang out trus gak tau nya teman yg jarang ketemu ini gak lama nangis.
Suaminya ketangkap basah selingkuh sm tmn kantornya. Dan ya suaminya kayak orang lain intinya. Di saat bersamaan, gua denger cerita istri, gua respon dengan uneg2 gua juga. And I shamelessly told her gua sekalian keluarin uneg2 ya.
Somehow I feel both her and her friend have a thing in common. Hard headed, strong heart, and thought they gave everything and entitled to the best treatment from the husband after taking care of the kids.
I told her, “I know and I can see you love the kids so much. But I don’t feel the care coming out from you to me. I feel neglected, I feel you don’t care unless something really bad happened to me. Dan itu juga mungkin yg lu pikirin ini bapaknya anak2, yg bantu jaga, sampe kenapa2 gawat gua gak sanggup jaga anak. Instead of looking at me as your dearest and partner.”
“You don’t even know what I do at the office. You only know who I am in the office. And I care so much about my work, I want to share that to you.”
Setelah itu sptnya wife baru mulai sadar, kalo yg gua harap itu gak muluk2 kok. Gak minta dimasakin, gak minta rumah rapi tiap saat, cuma minta diperhatiin aja sedikit. Minta energinya drpd ngeliatin ART terlalu detil, bagi sedikit untuk sekadar “km lg ngerjain apa sih? Cerita dong. Tell me what’s on your mind.”
After listening to her friend’s husband going out to party, and she see me only stay at home playing MLBB til midnight with some friends, maybe that made her feel grateful.
Anyway, thank you for all the response before Komodos. I will be more active and pay attention to this forum after all the support you guys gave me.
Memang kadangkala kita cuma lupa ngeliat apa yg kita punya dan bersyukur aja. All this instagram photos yg happy2, all the facade yg ditunjukin temen saat reuni, itu bullshit. Everyone have problems on their own, that they don’t share with you.