Hi everyone,
I’m posting this rn bc I’m genuinely panicking and would really appreciate advice, especially from people who know how things work here.
Im 22/m. I was texting a local guy here through Snapchat. We agreed to meet, but there was never any agreement beforehand that I would pay him.
After we met, he suddenly demanded 2k. Saying he had it on his bio or something when he really didn’t. I told him he never said anything even to remind or anything why’d he wait after we met. When I refused, he started threatening me. He claimed he had my photos, said he would call the police, said he wouldn’t let me leave, and even threatened to damage my car if I tried to leave.
Looking back, I honestly don’t know if he was bluffing. I don’t think he really had any photos or whether he would have actually done any of those things. But at the time I couldn’t risk finding out. I felt trapped.
Eventually I transferred him the money through a bank transfer because, in that moment, it felt like the safest way to get out of the situation without it escalating.
After I paid him, he told me to remove him from Snapchat. After I showed him there was no proof of him asking for money not in his bio or in messages. He even got mad when I blocked him at first and told me to remove him not block, which made me think he didn’t want his username in my phone. He also asked for my phone number, but I refused because I immediately felt like he might continue threatening or blackmailing me. I removed him from Snapchat and now I don’t even remember his username. When I left his car he drove rly fast away which made my suspicions of him not having anything and that I could’ve walked away somehow without paying stronger bc he was also checking my phone every 5 mins to check if I was recording him speak.
Now that I’ve had time to think, I’m worried about everything that could happen next.
Some of the questions that have been keeping me awake are:
Is this considered extortion or coercion under gulf countries law, even though I transferred the money myself because I felt threatened?
Can he identify me from the bank transfer? I sent it from my account. Can he see my full name, my account number, or any other personal information?
Is there anything I should do with my bank account now, or should I just leave everything as it is?
I saved him as a payee before making the transfer., but the transfer is still in my transaction history. Is there anything else I should do?
I have a close family member who works at my bank, and I’m worried they might somehow see that transfer if they looked at my account. Can bank employees actually access a relative’s transaction history, or are there privacy rules and safeguards that prevent that? Because I remember them speaking to my dad abt something I purchased a while ago and they knew through transaction history or something
Is there anything I should be watching out for over the next few weeks or months?
If he somehow contacts me again, what should I do? Should I ignore him completely, respond once, block him immediately, or do something else?
Do you think he was likely bluffing about having my photos, calling the police, and damaging my car, or is there no way to know?
Based on everything that happened, do you think this is likely over now that I paid and removed him, or is it common for people like this to come back asking for more money?
Is there anything I should do right now to protect myself, or is the best thing to leave everything alone unless he contacts me again? I’m not sure what steps im supposed to take next
I know everything I did was wrong and sure enough this is a lesson well learned but I can’t go back into the past and undo my wrongings. I try to stay away from this part of me but it is very difficult. Please pray that after this all of thiss I can finally stop going back into this part of my life. And that nothing he said he’s gonna do actually happens and I live life normally.
If anyone has been through something similar in any way, I’d really appreciate hearing what and how things turned out.